spouse issues - need help

[Android_Halwa]

45 minutes ago, imhott said:

ilane unte inko 3-4 years  batike untana ani doubt

Bratiki vundudu endi vaa, masth active vuntav…kids tho bonding manchiga vuntadi, you are spending more time with the kids inspite of your busy schedule…physically challenging ae but satisfactory ga vundadame kada manaki kavalsindi…

Emi fikar cheyak, your life is absolutely good…everyday fresh cooked meals cheyanika wife, sampainchi petanika pellam…two beautiful growing up kids…you are trying to balance work and personal life. 
 

Get used to the routine and you will stop complaining and start living life kaka…

[Bulls_Rose]

28 minutes ago, imhott said:

when did I say I expect her to do more ani? minimal ga adagatam kuda tappena? what is wrong is expecting her to be invovled with kids more? school or classes lo em nerpistunnary, kids ela untunnaru ani teleedu, is that wrong on my part to expect her be more concerned about kids?

nanny ni hire cheskunte it will be burden on us financially, even in that matter, she only pays for a kid day care, rest mortgage, food, groceries, shopping, anni I have to shell out.

instacart already undi, but for indian groceries i need to step out.

Step out Is the solution.  Wfh both is the big culprit.  Bro, 2 kids managing its journey.... not a scale. You both have separate personal time go out. Ne mind lo undalsidi you are not the only one abdaru ela mange chestunaru ani. 

Until kids are their own follow above steps 

[hydusguy]

19 minutes ago, imhott said:

atleast part-time nanny unte better emo, will see the options

yes .. without trying anything... no point in feeling  sad

[Aquaman]

divorce should be very last thing

[Funkops]

1 hour ago, imhott said:

Ive been stuggling a lot w/ spouse from sometime and seemingly at a dead end now.

We both work remotely full time and have 2 kids. they go to day care and school.

wife's top priority is her job and career. never cares about my, kids, or home. Only thing she does is cooks fresh food daily, which I truly appreciate btw. Rest all things I have to do, from getting kids ready to day care, their breakfast, dropping and picking from school, classes, feeding them dinner (incl. lunch on weekdays). Even in the class whatsapp group all are mom's of kids, I'm the only dad which is weird. She doesnt want to involve in any of kids things, doesnt know the name of kids day care or teachers, never asks them how their day was etc.

even kids got so used to me that they come to me if they are hungry, sleepy or even potty, even if their mom is next to them. Maybe they realized that she is not gonna help them in anyway. We cannot afford to hire a nanny due to our payscales. None of our family members can fly here due to health issues.

When I bring this topic to her, it always starts with an argument and ends with a fight. she never cares to listen and understand as most women do. I feel so overwhelmed with work, kids, house chores and so suffocated. I'm an introvert and have no good friend circle if I want to go out and spend time with them. I have very few good friends who are in other cities, i talk to them sometimes over call. our chex life is poor too. Given so much work at job, home and kids, I am not able to go out for sports or gym that I used to go few years back. I do 30-min workout at home 4-5 times a week which I enjoy.

these days I'm observing lot of mood swings in me, very happy for sometime and then suddenly very sad/angry for no reason. suddenly become so dull and outburst to tears even though I'm not thinking of anything. I should talk to a therapist maybe. This stress is going to kill me someday. getting lot of suicidal thoughts but then thinking of kids makes me not to take any drastic step. I went to my home in India sometime back, kadupu ninda trupti ga annam akkada tinna . she doesnt want to move to hyd for good also.

any help folks to how to manage myself? adagalante ne adola undi, never thought my life will be so much screwed up. is this normal at most households ?

Inka Emi kavali raa bhai.

[Spartan]

Return to office mndatory chesaru ani..

office ki vellipo.

[PrabhasUngulum]

u resign and become mr. pellam.. chimple

[allbakara]

Few yrs laaginchi kids independent ayyaka divorce, if you don’t like here move back to bharathadesam

[imhott]

34 minutes ago, Android_Halwa said:

Bratiki vundudu endi vaa, masth active vuntav…kids tho bonding manchiga vuntadi, you are spending more time with the kids inspite of your busy schedule…physically challenging ae but satisfactory ga vundadame kada manaki kavalsindi…

Emi fikar cheyak, your life is absolutely good…everyday fresh cooked meals cheyanika wife, sampainchi petanika pellam…two beautiful growing up kids…you are trying to balance work and personal life. 
 

Get used to the routine and you will stop complaining and start living life kaka…

This is an ideal situation but yes I trust it should get better

[imhott]

30 minutes ago, Bulls_Rose said:

Step out Is the solution.  Wfh both is the big culprit.  Bro, 2 kids managing its journey.... not a scale. You both have separate personal time go out. Ne mind lo undalsidi you are not the only one abdaru ela mange chestunaru ani. 

Until kids are their own follow above steps 

Agree

[DallasKarreBaluGadu]

1 hour ago, imhott said:

Ive been stuggling a lot w/ spouse from sometime and seemingly at a dead end now.

We both work remotely full time and have 2 kids. they go to day care and school.

wife's top priority is her job and career. never cares about my, kids, or home. Only thing she does is cooks fresh food daily, which I truly appreciate btw. Rest all things I have to do, from getting kids ready to day care, their breakfast, dropping and picking from school, classes, feeding them dinner (incl. lunch on weekdays). Even in the class whatsapp group all are mom's of kids, I'm the only dad which is weird. She doesnt want to involve in any of kids things, doesnt know the name of kids day care or teachers, never asks them how their day was etc.

even kids got so used to me that they come to me if they are hungry, sleepy or even potty, even if their mom is next to them. Maybe they realized that she is not gonna help them in anyway. We cannot afford to hire a nanny due to our payscales. None of our family members can fly here due to health issues.

When I bring this topic to her, it always starts with an argument and ends with a fight. she never cares to listen and understand as most women do. I feel so overwhelmed with work, kids, house chores and so suffocated. I'm an introvert and have no good friend circle if I want to go out and spend time with them. I have very few good friends who are in other cities, i talk to them sometimes over call. our chex life is poor too. Given so much work at job, home and kids, I am not able to go out for sports or gym that I used to go few years back. I do 30-min workout at home 4-5 times a week which I enjoy.

these days I'm observing lot of mood swings in me, very happy for sometime and then suddenly very sad/angry for no reason. suddenly become so dull and outburst to tears even though I'm not thinking of anything. I should talk to a therapist maybe. This stress is going to kill me someday. getting lot of suicidal thoughts but then thinking of kids makes me not to take any drastic step. I went to my home in India sometime back, kadupu ninda trupti ga annam akkada tinna . she doesnt want to move to hyd for good also.

any help folks to how to manage myself? adagalante ne adola undi, never thought my life will be so much screwed up. is this normal at most households ?

100 pages thread cc @DallasKarreBaluGandu

[DallasKarreBaluGadu]

1 hour ago, DallasKarreBaluGandu said:

andhrallla laga brathimiladam endiraa pellam ni

gattiga 10galli ledante divorce ichii 10galli cc @DallasKarreBaluGadu

Lefi lefi Denghude 

[DallasKarreBaluGadu]

1 hour ago, DallasKarreBaluGandu said:

nuvvu pelli ainna modalltlo cheyalisina pani ippudu chesthe ellaa

pelllam ni beauty parlor and jobs pampina vallaku nee laga kastam tappadu

nannu em anakuu divorce ichiii 10gu anna keep ni maintain chesukoku appudu telustadhi nee pellaniki buddi

cc @DallasKarreBaluGadu 

Divorce, then start dating medical girls 

[imhott]

28 minutes ago, Spartan said:

Return to office mndatory chesaru ani..

office ki vellipo.

Alteast few days a week vellali, but as she doesn't drive I can spend only 5 hours at work and get back to pick up my ki.

[pandugadu999]

she want divorce..