Be a Househusband man, House wifes are too overrated 🤪

[Rescuer7]

Need a word of advice from this group on my current situation. I am in my early 40s, healthy and happy, never married, single Man, living in US for 15 years plus, US educated and have been working in 13 of those years. Over a period of time, I have invested and made profit from stocks, crypto and other assets, accumulated over 2 million USD so far and add a few more before 50. I live a very simple, not flashy life in a small town, near Chicago suburbs and am proud my savings and investing habit. I have been told by friends that in order to attract female in my life, I have to show off, nice car, expensive clothes and a big house. I don't need any of those. I also believe in give and take - reciprocation in a relationship. Not fair for me to spend my own money on women, and not expecting anything.  The reason I am not interested in India is the same- not going to be a sole sponsor of her immigration status, education, vacation or shopping spree.  After all, we live in 21st century of equality and expecting one person to contribute, is not in line with this. I make all these crystal clear when I talk to a girl.  Some might think I am too straight forward, but I am who I am. What does group think of these thoughts and my situation? Should I change my approach? I am definitely not interested in sharing my hard earned wealth with a stranger in the name of love. I can soften up/polish my words but thoughts will still be the same.

[WigsandThighs]

6 hours ago, Rescuer7 said:

Need a word of advice from this group on my current situation. I am in my early 40s, healthy and happy, never married, single Man, living in US for 15 years plus, US educated and have been working in 13 of those years. Over a period of time, I have invested and made profit from stocks, crypto and other assets, accumulated over 2 million USD so far and add a few more before 50. I live a very simple, not flashy life in a small town, near Chicago suburbs and am proud my savings and investing habit. I have been told by friends that in order to attract female in my life, I have to show off, nice car, expensive clothes and a big house. I don't need any of those. I also believe in give and take - reciprocation in a relationship. Not fair for me to spend my own money on women, and not expecting anything.  The reason I am not interested in India is the same- not going to be a sole sponsor of her immigration status, education, vacation or shopping spree.  After all, we live in 21st century of equality and expecting one person to contribute, is not in line with this. I make all these crystal clear when I talk to a girl.  Some might think I am too straight forward, but I am who I am. What does group think of these thoughts and my situation? Should I change my approach? I am definitely not interested in sharing my hard earned wealth with a stranger in the name of love. I can soften up/polish my words but thoughts will still be the same.

Good job buddy🙌🙌

[Kakynada]

oh ok

[JaiBalayyaaa]

@DummyVariable spotted

[AndhraPickles]

Group admin removed "early 40s, healthy and happy, never married, single Man" from the group.

[Thokkalee]

On 2/20/2024 at 12:06 AM, Rescuer7 said:

Need a word of advice from this group on my current situation. I am in my early 40s, healthy and happy, never married, single Man, living in US for 15 years plus, US educated and have been working in 13 of those years. Over a period of time, I have invested and made profit from stocks, crypto and other assets, accumulated over 2 million USD so far and add a few more before 50. I live a very simple, not flashy life in a small town, near Chicago suburbs and am proud my savings and investing habit. I have been told by friends that in order to attract female in my life, I have to show off, nice car, expensive clothes and a big house. I don't need any of those. I also believe in give and take - reciprocation in a relationship. Not fair for me to spend my own money on women, and not expecting anything.  The reason I am not interested in India is the same- not going to be a sole sponsor of her immigration status, education, vacation or shopping spree.  After all, we live in 21st century of equality and expecting one person to contribute, is not in line with this. I make all these crystal clear when I talk to a girl.  Some might think I am too straight forward, but I am who I am. What does group think of these thoughts and my situation? Should I change my approach? I am definitely not interested in sharing my hard earned wealth with a stranger in the name of love. I can soften up/polish my words but thoughts will still be the same.

[DummyVariable]

On 2/20/2024 at 9:58 PM, JaiBalayyaaa said:

@DummyVariable spotted

@DrBeta lol

[lollilolli2020]

20 minutes ago, DummyVariable said:

@DrBeta lol

ekkada vunnadu ippudu

[pichukgudu]

On 2/20/2024 at 11:36 AM, Rescuer7 said:

Need a word of advice from this group on my current situation. I am in my early 40s, healthy and happy, never married, single Man, living in US for 15 years plus, US educated and have been working in 13 of those years. Over a period of time, I have invested and made profit from stocks, crypto and other assets, accumulated over 2 million USD so far and add a few more before 50. I live a very simple, not flashy life in a small town, near Chicago suburbs and am proud my savings and investing habit. I have been told by friends that in order to attract female in my life, I have to show off, nice car, expensive clothes and a big house. I don't need any of those. I also believe in give and take - reciprocation in a relationship. Not fair for me to spend my own money on women, and not expecting anything.  The reason I am not interested in India is the same- not going to be a sole sponsor of her immigration status, education, vacation or shopping spree.  After all, we live in 21st century of equality and expecting one person to contribute, is not in line with this. I make all these crystal clear when I talk to a girl.  Some might think I am too straight forward, but I am who I am. What does group think of these thoughts and my situation? Should I change my approach? I am definitely not interested in sharing my hard earned wealth with a stranger in the name of love. I can soften up/polish my words but thoughts will still be the same.

If u want to share ur life with someone (Long term relationships) you have to share everything with that person including ur wealth but if u r so particular abt not spending your hard earned money on others .. never get in to any relationship !!

U can definitely buy short term happiness as per your give and take policy ..

[Konebhar6]

On 2/19/2024 at 10:06 PM, Rescuer7 said:

Need a word of advice from this group on my current situation. I am in my early 40s, healthy and happy, never married, single Man, living in US for 15 years plus, US educated and have been working in 13 of those years. Over a period of time, I have invested and made profit from stocks, crypto and other assets, accumulated over 2 million USD so far and add a few more before 50. I live a very simple, not flashy life in a small town, near Chicago suburbs and am proud my savings and investing habit. I have been told by friends that in order to attract female in my life, I have to show off, nice car, expensive clothes and a big house. I don't need any of those. I also believe in give and take - reciprocation in a relationship. Not fair for me to spend my own money on women, and not expecting anything.  The reason I am not interested in India is the same- not going to be a sole sponsor of her immigration status, education, vacation or shopping spree.  After all, we live in 21st century of equality and expecting one person to contribute, is not in line with this. I make all these crystal clear when I talk to a girl.  Some might think I am too straight forward, but I am who I am. What does group think of these thoughts and my situation? Should I change my approach? I am definitely not interested in sharing my hard earned wealth with a stranger in the name of love. I can soften up/polish my words but thoughts will still be the same.

Find a girl who likes you for who you are (qualities, personality) and not what you have (US Status, money). Equal contribution never happens in a marriage. Its a give and take between couple. As long as you are near equilibrium you should be ok.

Grow old together raising kids. Face challenges together. There will be times you feel like you wish you were not married. There will be some beautiful moments. Respect their side of family. Respect their traditions, values. Most cases she will also reciprocate which should make you happy. 

Key is to find the right girl ... When you meet a girl, ask about her, try to find out about her, instead of saying - These are my requirements. Ask her what she likes, what her expectations are out of marriage, future plans, kids, etc. 

Bottomline - Get to know the girl and decide if she is right for you rather than lay down your conditions. 

[JaiBalayyaaa]

9 hours ago, DummyVariable said:

@DrBeta lol

Long time no see