is divorce new normal ... ?

[Nine0183093fourFIVE]

2 hours ago, tyrion123 said:

why so many divorce posts in Indian Expats ...?

Not normal many people going to Hyderabad Wala restaurant in Dallas and very happy 

[Konebhar6]

3 hours ago, tyrion123 said:

why so many divorce posts in Indian Expats ...?

To get more traffic ... They know its a hot topic and every one will post on it .. so Script writers come up with some masala twist ... 

[kittaya]

5 hours ago, CaptainMaverick said:

have two kids as soon as you get married instead of waiting. a lot of couples are waiting for many reasons. Sometimes it's wife's choice, sometime it's the guy's choice. Don't make the mistake of waiting. 

Have kids, keep her busy.

Don't spoil the kids life .. when you are ready please be ready ... 

If the mother's fcks you .. you cannot escape .. 

[JaiBalayyaaa]

5 hours ago, CaptainMaverick said:

toxicity will be diluted because having kids changes priorities. 

Having kids is one of the MAIN things people do to get married.

Think of what made our parents marriages work!! They got married & many had kids within 9 months. Then 2nd edition...then busy with kids...it's a circle of life.

 

Venkatiki intlo godavalu ayite, have kids anni set avtaayi ani nammammalu cheppetollu...ala undi ee comment. Marandayya koncham anna

[Barney_Stinson]

Having kids make it worse

[tyrion123]

9 hours ago, Barney_Stinson said:

Having kids make it worse

yes

 

there are many couples who got separated after 8 years of marriage with 2 kids of 7 and 2 years age ...

etu pothundo samajam samja vaa gamana

[Joker_007]

On 5/18/2024 at 9:53 PM, psycontr said:

Kids future will lock you to the relationship, but what if spouse is toxic ? Going for kids asap after marriage is also a mistake.

Motherhood overrides this kaka most of the time.. It is very rare that the acquired skills override the natural instincts..  so  I support @CaptainMaverick  comment. 

[johnydanylee]

Be single

Die single 

 

[RSUCHOU]

On 5/18/2024 at 10:02 PM, CaptainMaverick said:

toxicity will be diluted because having kids changes priorities. 

Having kids is one of the MAIN things people do to get married.

Think of what made our parents marriages work!! They got married & many had kids within 9 months. Then 2nd edition...then busy with kids...it's a circle of life.

 

What made parent's marriage work is the dependence of the wife on the husband financially. A lot of the women from that generation suffered and did not speak up. The one good thing globalization brought in is to remove that barrier. But, on the flip side, it has thrown adjustment out of the window. A lot of the people that I know are searching for that elusive perfect compatibility and give up on adjusting and accepting spouse's idiosyncrasies. Kids are not a factor once they decide to divorce.

[CaptainMaverick]

4 minutes ago, RSUCHOU said:

What made parent's marriage work is the dependence of the wife on the husband financially. A lot of the women from that generation suffered and did not speak up. The one good thing globalization brought in is to remove that barrier. But, on the flip side, it has thrown adjustment out of the window. A lot of the people that I know are searching for that elusive perfect compatibility and give up on adjusting and accepting spouse's idiosyncrasies. Kids are not a factor once they decide to divorce.

Suffering okka women ke undaa?? Men ki leda?!! 

marriage ante odudodukulu sahajam. 

 

[RSUCHOU]

54 minutes ago, CaptainMaverick said:

Suffering okka women ke undaa?? Men ki leda?!! 

marriage ante odudodukulu sahajam. 

 

In that generation, women suffered more because of imbalance in the power equation. Odidudukulu definite ga common gane untayi. But, why no one wants to adjust annadaniki oka reason is the shift in the power balance ani naa uddesam.

[yemdoing]

On 5/18/2024 at 2:16 PM, Konebhar6 said:

To get more traffic ... They know its a hot topic and every one will post on it .. so Script writers come up with some masala twist ... 

ok but why ? zuckuu paisal isthada writers or mods ki ?

[quest]

On 5/18/2024 at 12:26 PM, Aquaman said:

kids kanna mundu... edhuaru issues resolve chesukunte better...counselling lanitivi thesukoni... divorce should be verrrry verry last option 

idi immature adive? pelli ayyindaa bro?

[quest]

On 5/18/2024 at 12:20 PM, CaptainMaverick said:

have two kids as soon as you get married instead of waiting. a lot of couples are waiting for many reasons. Sometimes it's wife's choice, sometime it's the guy's choice. Don't make the mistake of waiting. 

Have kids, keep her busy.

a very good advice bro. I used to say this... pelli ayyaka wife tho godavalu kontha serious avutunnayi anagaane go for a kid ani.. tarawata malli konchem atu itu unnaka 3 years gap lekunda 2nd kid.. marriage saved

[quest]

41 minutes ago, RSUCHOU said:

In that generation, women suffered more because of imbalance in the power equation. Odidudukulu definite ga common gane untayi. But, why no one wants to adjust annadaniki oka reason is the shift in the power balance ani naa uddesam.

100% true and power imbalance is must to keep the relationship

or 

men are never meant to form a family.. we are polygamous by nature