Oka doubt about parents

[riashli]

Almost ikkada andaru out of India unnaru kada, suppose parents ki emaina health issues vaste Ela deal chestaru? Meeru personally Vella leru kada, major health issues unte Ela manage chestaru? Relatives meda depend avutara? 

Enduku adugutunna ante, my father in not keeping well but Mumbai lo untu continuous nenu velli undaleka potunna with them, aa guilt feeling undi that am an irresponsible daughter Ani. Nenu just money pampistunna and monthly once am able to go for a day or two

 This guilt is taking toll on my health too very badly, eppudu em news vinalsi vastundo Ani 

How do u all deal with this fear

[cameraman]

ya, friends, siblings , close relatives 

aduke prathi trip ki expensive gifts tho veltha, ilanti time lo help avutharu ani

[riashli]

5 minutes ago, cameraman said:

ya, friends, siblings , close relatives 

aduke prathi trip ki expensive gifts tho veltha, ilanti time lo help avutharu ani

At some point, u will find everyone selfish 

[Rescuer7]

Bonding entha ekkuva unte antha nastam

Many ppl are escaping the rabbit hole.,

living independently has become a curse

[cameraman]

1 minute ago, riashli said:

At some point, u will find everyone selfish 

true, immediate attention kosam thapadu

dooram unnapudu

 

long term ante, ma nanama ki we hired some local nurse to take care of her 24 hours.

intlo oka portion icham undataniki free ga, also we paid 20k monthly.

in between we used to visit her.

 

[Cosmos]

9 minutes ago, cameraman said:

ya, friends, siblings , close relatives 

aduke prathi trip ki expensive gifts tho veltha, ilanti time lo help avutharu ani

Nenu ilane depend aye ayya .. 

na land and construction lo vunna appartment mingesaru relatives .. na phone 📞 kuda pick cheyaledhu.. tarvata lol 😂 

[baabaa]

16 minutes ago, riashli said:

Almost ikkada andaru out of India unnaru kada, suppose parents ki emaina health issues vaste Ela deal chestaru? Meeru personally Vella leru kada, major health issues unte Ela manage chestaru? Relatives meda depend avutara? 

Enduku adugutunna ante, my father in not keeping well but Mumbai lo untu continuous nenu velli undaleka potunna with them, aa guilt feeling undi that am an irresponsible daughter Ani. Nenu just money pampistunna and monthly once am able to go for a day or two

 This guilt is taking toll on my health too very badly, eppudu em news vinalsi vastundo Ani 

How do u all deal with this fear

Everyone with all kids in US will face this issue. For now parents are managing with friends/family for hospital and doctor visits.

Older generation indians [80-90's lo vachina valu and their parents are even older] have started putting parents in old age homes. Our tamil friends have their parents at

https://www.lifeatziva.com/

 

[nokia123]

24 minutes ago, cameraman said:

ya, friends, siblings , close relatives 

aduke prathi trip ki expensive gifts tho veltha, ilanti time lo help avutharu ani

They will take the gifts and in exchange may do some small favors initially  …but critical times vasthe everyone will give lame excuses or stop picking up calls 

[yemdoing]

29 minutes ago, riashli said:

Almost ikkada andaru out of India unnaru kada, suppose parents ki emaina health issues vaste Ela deal chestaru? Meeru personally Vella leru kada, major health issues unte Ela manage chestaru? Relatives meda depend avutara? 

Enduku adugutunna ante, my father in not keeping well but Mumbai lo untu continuous nenu velli undaleka potunna with them, aa guilt feeling undi that am an irresponsible daughter Ani. Nenu just money pampistunna and monthly once am able to go for a day or two

 This guilt is taking toll on my health too very badly, eppudu em news vinalsi vastundo Ani 

How do u all deal with this fear

frankly speaking that guilt will haunt you for life, Do you have a brother or sister who is with them ? 

[jefferson1]

inni years e vishayam gurinchi alochincha leda?

do you have any sisters/brothers who can take care of them?

 

[yemdoing]

3 minutes ago, nokia123 said:

They will take the gifts and in exchange may do some small favors initially  …but critical times vasthe everyone will give lame excuses or stop picking up calls 

they also have lives kada, dedicating so much time is extremly hard. gifts icchetappudu conditions set cheyyaledu kada .

[JackSeal_Returns]

27 minutes ago, riashli said:

At some point, u will find everyone selfish 

May feel everone is selfish but anyone is not obligated to do free service continuously. 

[Sixers]

Severe health problems unte at home Nurse lanu pettuko bhayya. Valle mandhulu ichi status update istharu. Oka stage daatinataruvaatha entha chesina evaru unna mana control lo undadu. 

[yemdoing]

37 minutes ago, riashli said:

Almost ikkada andaru out of India unnaru kada, suppose parents ki emaina health issues vaste Ela deal chestaru? Meeru personally Vella leru kada, major health issues unte Ela manage chestaru? Relatives meda depend avutara? 

Enduku adugutunna ante, my father in not keeping well but Mumbai lo untu continuous nenu velli undaleka potunna with them, aa guilt feeling undi that am an irresponsible daughter Ani. Nenu just money pampistunna and monthly once am able to go for a day or two

 This guilt is taking toll on my health too very badly, eppudu em news vinalsi vastundo Ani 

How do u all deal with this fear

wait a sec... you live in mumbai and cant spend time with them ? am sure you have tried to work remotely and got denied for it. India FMLA laga yemi leda to take a break from work ? or why not shift them to mumbai with you ?

or you can take a break from work for few months. 

[niladisify]

karra viragakoodadu...paamu chaavali ante yela... you got to let go something in order to achieve something