Oka doubt about parents

[johnydanylee]

Siblings siblings antunnaru...bayata valle somewhat betteru

Siblings and their sposues aithe peaks amma

[riashli]

10 minutes ago, yemdoing said:

frankly speaking that guilt will haunt you for life, Do you have a brother or sister who is with them ? 

 

9 minutes ago, jefferson1 said:

inni years e vishayam gurinchi alochincha leda?

do you have any sisters/brothers who can take care of them?

 

I do have an elder brother in Bangalore, but nana ki anna ki asalu padadu, ee gola padaleka, amma vallu guntur vacharu 4 months back and appati nundi nana bed ridden almost, dr say any time he can have cardiac arrest, he actually is a very tough person to deal with with kuda, very fond of smoking n drinking which my brother is against.. Anna antadu vallu enduku vellalu gnt ki, undani akkade Ani, amma is struggling taking him for checkups every other day, nenu twice vellanu month lo icu admit cheyalsi vachindi. Ee tensions ki nenu admit ayyanu two months back , bp went up to 220/120, now I take 2bp tabs in a day+ anxiety n sleeping meds

[riashli]

10 minutes ago, yemdoing said:

frankly speaking that guilt will haunt you for life, Do you have a brother or sister who is with them ? 

 

9 minutes ago, jefferson1 said:

inni years e vishayam gurinchi alochincha leda?

do you have any sisters/brothers who can take care of them?

 

I do have an elder brother in Bangalore, but nana ki anna ki asalu padadu, ee gola padaleka, amma vallu guntur vacharu 4 months back and appati nundi nana bed ridden almost, dr say any time he can have cardiac arrest, he actually is a very tough person to deal with with kuda, very fond of smoking n drinking which my brother is against.. Anna antadu vallu enduku vellalu gnt ki, undani akkade Ani, amma is struggling taking him for checkups every other day, nenu twice vellanu month lo icu admit cheyalsi vachindi. Ee tensions ki nenu admit ayyanu two months back , bp went up to 220/120, now I take 2bp tabs in a day+ anxiety n sleeping meds

[riashli]

10 minutes ago, yemdoing said:

frankly speaking that guilt will haunt you for life, Do you have a brother or sister who is with them ? 

 

9 minutes ago, jefferson1 said:

inni years e vishayam gurinchi alochincha leda?

do you have any sisters/brothers who can take care of them?

 

I do have an elder brother in Bangalore, but nana ki anna ki asalu padadu, ee gola padaleka, amma vallu guntur vacharu 4 months back and appati nundi nana bed ridden almost, dr say any time he can have cardiac arrest, he actually is a very tough person to deal with with kuda, very fond of smoking n drinking which my brother is against.. Anna antadu vallu enduku vellalu gnt ki, undani akkade Ani, amma is struggling taking him for checkups every other day, nenu twice vellanu month lo icu admit cheyalsi vachindi. Ee tensions ki nenu admit ayyanu two months back , bp went up to 220/120, now I take 2bp tabs in a day+ anxiety n sleeping meds

[riashli]

12 minutes ago, yemdoing said:

wait a sec... you live in mumbai and cant spend time with them ? am sure you have tried to work remotely and got denied for it. India FMLA laga yemi leda to take a break from work ? or why not shift them to mumbai with you ?

or you can take a break from work for few months. 

Work break tisukovadiniki prob ledu but nenu velli gnt lo unte, who will take care of kids n their school, husband etc, father is not in a condition to be shifted anywhere, moreover Vallu raru

[lollilolli2020]

48 minutes ago, riashli said:

Almost ikkada andaru out of India unnaru kada, suppose parents ki emaina health issues vaste Ela deal chestaru? Meeru personally Vella leru kada, major health issues unte Ela manage chestaru? Relatives meda depend avutara? 

Enduku adugutunna ante, my father in not keeping well but Mumbai lo untu continuous nenu velli undaleka potunna with them, aa guilt feeling undi that am an irresponsible daughter Ani. Nenu just money pampistunna and monthly once am able to go for a day or two

 This guilt is taking toll on my health too very badly, eppudu em news vinalsi vastundo Ani 

How do u all deal with this fear

chala tough question. 

may be when time comes I may travel and stay with them and tend to them. currently no necessity. 

[yemdoing]

14 minutes ago, riashli said:

Work break tisukovadiniki prob ledu but nenu velli gnt lo unte, who will take care of kids n their school, husband etc, father is not in a condition to be shifted anywhere, moreover Vallu raru

not trying to be condescending here.. kids and their school is not a life changing moment, we have schools in guntur, yes kids will fall behind in school and thats life . Everybody gets impacted if someone in family is not doing well, you are not denying them education. Admission gola untundhi , agreed . And its hurdle you have to cross.

 

if bringing them to Mumbai is not an option and 

if taking kids and living in guntur is not an option then I have no more suggestions for you. Not judging you but I donno waht else to say. 

 

I have gone through the same situation . in hindsight ila chesi unte bagundedhi anukunna later.

[yemdoing]

11 minutes ago, riashli said:

 

I do have an elder brother in Bangalore, but nana ki anna ki asalu padadu, ee gola padaleka, amma vallu guntur vacharu 4 months back and appati nundi nana bed ridden almost, dr say any time he can have cardiac arrest, he actually is a very tough person to deal with with kuda, very fond of smoking n drinking which my brother is against.. Anna antadu vallu enduku vellalu gnt ki, undani akkade Ani, amma is struggling taking him for checkups every other day, nenu twice vellanu month lo icu admit cheyalsi vachindi. Ee tensions ki nenu admit ayyanu two months back , bp went up to 220/120, now I take 2bp tabs in a day+ anxiety n sleeping meds

ivi anni normal in life.. how we are going to act matters.

[nokia123]

59 minutes ago, riashli said:

Almost ikkada andaru out of India unnaru kada, suppose parents ki emaina health issues vaste Ela deal chestaru? Meeru personally Vella leru kada, major health issues unte Ela manage chestaru? Relatives meda depend avutara? 

Enduku adugutunna ante, my father in not keeping well but Mumbai lo untu continuous nenu velli undaleka potunna with them, aa guilt feeling undi that am an irresponsible daughter Ani. Nenu just money pampistunna and monthly once am able to go for a day or two

 This guilt is taking toll on my health too very badly, eppudu em news vinalsi vastundo Ani 

How do u all deal with this fear

sibling is in home town staying there along with my parents 

he will take care of caring and attention part while I provide financial support 

will go to India on need basis 

[lollilolli2020]

41 minutes ago, jefferson1 said:

inni years e vishayam gurinchi alochincha leda?

do you have any sisters/brothers who can take care of them?

 

why should be their responsibility ? 

I personally feel there is no share here; either give 100% or not. vallu vunnaru kada share chesukovali ante yes may be when your sibling involve in sharing properties. but personally I feel  its my 100% responsibility to take care of them at my maximum capacity. 

[yemdoing]

5 minutes ago, lollilolli2020 said:

why should be their responsibility ? 

I personally feel there is no share here; either give 100% or not. vallu vunnaru kada share chesukovali ante yes may be when your sibling involve in sharing properties. but personally I feel  its my 100% responsibility to take care of them at my maximum capacity. 

true, its everybodies responsbility in ideal world... but sadly doesn't work like that in real life in all families

[SUbba LIngam]

hope your father’s health improves and you find a better solution. all the best.

[lollilolli2020]

28 minutes ago, yemdoing said:

true, its everybodies responsbility in ideal world... but sadly doesn't work like that in real life in all families

avunu bro individual ga neeku clarity vunte chaalu ga.