A typical rant of a married guy

[kevinUsa]

I just had one sexual encounter before marriage… it was the best and worst experience of my life. Best in the sense that I enjoyed each and every minute of the three hours of intercourse, worst in the sense that the girl developed feelings for me and a casual encounter turned into a nightmare with lot of blackmails that she became pregnant.

Fast forward, I am happily married now and it’s a love marriage and I am very faithful to my wife. But, my sex life is ** up. She is just comfortable in missionary. No oral at all. I am feeling very much frustrated with this kind of sex life. On one side, I wanted to explore sex out of my marriage, but on the other I don’t want to break her trust.

My mental state has become too bad these days with these conflicting things in my mind. I remember that encounter before marriage every time I am in mood and get very frustrated that I cannot even go close to 10% of what I did before, in my married life ever.

Anyone sailing in the same boat? I want to understand the perspective of women on what to do in this situation.

[kevinUsa]

Why did you marry her if you aren’t compatible?

Stop coercing her to do oral.

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desitoronto
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2d ago
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We are compatible with other things/priorities in life… I thought things will gradually improve when it comes to sexual compatibility but I don’t see any progress on that front

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grumpy__g
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Sex is very important be to most people. So instead making this about married guys, take responsibility that you choose someone with low libido, married her and are now mad that she won’t change.

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Broken_eggplant
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Then get divorced if you have a depression without being your dick sucked. Like ffs

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WranglerBeautiful745
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dudleyshouse
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For someone that also likes to try new things and explore, I understand where you’re coming from. I created the safe space for my husband and I so that he feels like he can try new things without judgement while we’re intimate. Of course we discussed no go‘s as well, but aside from that every goes.

Have you approached it that way with her? Like for example let her know that it’s not about if she’s is performing oral well (maybe she is nervous because she has no experience in it and afraid to not be good at it?) but rather the experience and to just try something new.

Also, is she also hesitant on you trying new things on her? If so, find out why that is.

Lastly and unfortunately- sometimes partners are just not sexually compatible. As sad as it is, please don’t cheat. It does no good but cost your wife her mental health. Rather leave and move on. Good luck!

[Assam_Bhayya]

manushulaku veedi kukkalaki theda lekunda poyindhi

[Crocodile_Tears]

34 minutes ago, Assam_Bhayya said:

manushulaku veedi kukkalaki theda lekunda poyindhi

Atleast Veedi kukkalanna doggy chesukuntayi, but vaadi wife oppukovatledanegaa baadantha

[FrustratedVuncle]

32 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

I just had one sexual encounter before marriage… it was the best and worst experience of my life. Best in the sense that I enjoyed each and every minute of the three hours of intercourse, worst in the sense that the girl developed feelings for me and a casual encounter turned into a nightmare with lot of blackmails that she became pregnant.

Fast forward, I am happily married now and it’s a love marriage and I am very faithful to my wife. But, my sex life is ** up. She is just comfortable in missionary. No oral at all. I am feeling very much frustrated with this kind of sex life. On one side, I wanted to explore sex out of my marriage, but on the other I don’t want to break her trust.

My mental state has become too bad these days with these conflicting things in my mind. I remember that encounter before marriage every time I am in mood and get very frustrated that I cannot even go close to 10% of what I did before, in my married life ever.

Anyone sailing in the same boat? I want to understand the perspective of women on what to do in this situation.

Meanwhile roju pasthulu untunna husbends.