Bayam vestundi myan.. Aada ladies stay out...

[praying]

19 minutes ago, ManchamKodi said:

Nijagane Bhavad gita lo unda idhi

I dont know about that, just from pure experience anthe....

[ManchamKodi]

1 minute ago, praying said:

I dont know about that, just from pure experience anthe....

rofl 

[Pillabacha]

6 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

I visited my friend in Austin recently. I eavesdropped wifes coversation, friend's wife and others were bitching and venting about their in-laws like they are the daemons on the earth. Help cheyaru, epudu adi cheyyi ala cheyyi ani savagadatharu, vantalu balevu, asalu adjust avvaru blah blah anii...

Bayataki teskeltam cheyochu but still conflicts are inevitable. I was shocked all aada ladies can't bear their in-laws for few months given they only visit 2 times in their life time. 

Community blufview aa entii 😛

[Konebhar6]

1 hour ago, ManchamKodi said:

tagina taravatha pillow petti husband ni samputhe ? 

Appudu next day aa incident meeda DB lo oka 5-6 threads and routine disco ..

Just for fun .. I don't wish this on anyone .. 

[AndhraPickles]

veellu-vaallu 2 minutes minchi kalavakunda manage cheyyatam lo ney..nee professionalism undi........

..golden rule "ye iddaru ladies ni 2 minutes minchi kalava nivva koodadu...adi attha-kodallu avvani, thodi kodallu avvani, aada paduchulu avvani..."

take care of your parents...

[vegasvegas]

mee mom ki mental peace ivvali anukuntey, dont bring her

[mustang302]

10 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Amma (Dad staying in India due to work) coming to stay with us for 6months (for the first time) in few weeks. 

Intha varaku ma parents tho pattumani 1month kuda continuous ga ledu Dear wife. 

Epudu ma yamma, ma thammudu antu torture pette pellalu tho how to maintain parents in omrika for a smooth 6months time.

Amma oka pakka pellam oka pakka, naku enduko yuddam aytademo anipistundi.

Atha vaste different story, amma kuthullu mogudi meda padi edustuntaru, vadileste vaalla saavu vallu sastaru.

mana parents ante, teda vaste godava peak ki potundi kada... 

DB peddalu throw some light. best practices. Things to do to make a pleasant stay for parents. 

Nuvvu solo trip plan chayyalsina time vachindhi vuncle.

appice trip.

[psycopk]

11 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Amma (Dad staying in India due to work) coming to stay with us for 6months (for the first time) in few weeks. 

Intha varaku ma parents tho pattumani 1month kuda continuous ga ledu Dear wife. 

Epudu ma yamma, ma thammudu antu torture pette pellalu tho how to maintain parents in omrika for a smooth 6months time.

Amma oka pakka pellam oka pakka, naku enduko yuddam aytademo anipistundi.

Atha vaste different story, amma kuthullu mogudi meda padi edustuntaru, vadileste vaalla saavu vallu sastaru.

mana parents ante, teda vaste godava peak ki potundi kada... 

DB peddalu throw some light. best practices. Things to do to make a pleasant stay for parents. 

Okate mata chepu…

maa amma ki respect ematram tagina… mee vallaki naa treatment different ga untadi… inka mee tammudiki ittade naa chetilo ani chepu…

 

you take special care… like explicity asking if she ate and is she comfortable cooking at the new stove.. help with cutting and take her out for movies shopping amd visit new places and make it a memorable one…

 

if ur focused everything else falls in place… if u negelect… you wife will give bad treatment 

[FrustratedVuncle]

19 hours ago, Rabbo said:

Don’t go defensive and try reasoning when wife complains about your mom , she did this, did not do this 

Instead Attack wife parents , keep her busy in that 

Enni chesina ne next 6 months rod , you can’t take wife side or mom side

phone intlo vadilesi, office ki vellu for peace of mind 

 

anna are you sure? valla parents ni attack cheste focused ga intlo unna amma ni nannu torture chese chances unnai kada. What I am thinking is bediristhe bediripoye rakalu kadu USA lo fellalu. Respect tho koodina bayam may work out.

[FrustratedVuncle]

21 hours ago, Peddayana said:

bro, chachav po

Desi moms pass judgement and comments on everything from a small nail to upbringing and life styles as soon as they arrive and struggle starts from there

You can not change that generation man, they have lived in a different era and will feel that you and your wife are not living as 'they desire' 

obviously wife will feel she is right and akkada nundi start iga

ghar ghar ki kahani idi

chesedhi emi ledu, be ready for some explosive action inside home

practice meditation or be focussed on job/learning/gaming something that occupies your mind, lekapothe mental vastundi

 

 

 ma amma usually very lenient kani rude or disrespectful behavior ni egiri thantadi. Wife do loose talk sometimes and looses control when stressed and frustrated with kids. Choodali kompalo kumpati ela untado. 

[FrustratedVuncle]

20 hours ago, Thokkalee said:

Find out if they both watch the same serials.. women bond over serials 😁

Hopefully. Both serials choostaru. IPTV pettistha for more serials power. 

[FrustratedVuncle]

14 hours ago, psycopk said:

Okate mata chepu…

maa amma ki respect ematram tagina… mee vallaki naa treatment different ga untadi… inka mee tammudiki ittade naa chetilo ani chepu…

 

you take special care… like explicity asking if she ate and is she comfortable cooking at the new stove.. help with cutting and take her out for movies shopping amd visit new places and make it a memorable one…

 

if ur focused everything else falls in place… if u negelect… you wife will give bad treatment 

This I can use. Already interest ivvakunda appu 10gi exploiting me. 

[FrustratedVuncle]

14 hours ago, mustang302 said:

Nuvvu solo trip plan chayyalsina time vachindhi vuncle.

appice trip.

appice trip ki poi vachaka kompa cold war zone tayaru avtademo anna.

[letstalk2024]

There is no easy way bro…. It’s part and parcel …. As some one said unless they both have genuine love/respect for each other it will always be a trouble …

in most case or almost all cases it’s just namesake so no hiding from it

Best you can do is lend an ear to your wife and console your mother separately. Don’t get involved directly 

[FrustratedVuncle]

Here is the action plan:

1. ma ayya tho koncham ikkadi intlo paddatulu cheppi koncham mom mindset cheyista, like no finger pointing at kodalu vantalu and cleanliness. 

2. Cooking and cleaning only wife duty. I will help. 

3. Help with kids mom duty.

4. mom daily pooja chestundi. so can kill 1hr easily everyday. So poojaki separate arrangements. 

5. pandagalaki pabbalki amma ela chepthe ala cheyali intlo. Mostly Pongal is the only big festival thankfully. 

6. Mom room lo TV, Daily walk and weekend outings tho busy ga unchuta. 

Worries : 

1. wife compares silly things like, extra care choopiste mom meda, edisi sastadi adento.

2. Pedda trips plan cheste, ma ammani tippakunda me amma vachinapudu pedda trips vestav ani torture mingochu.