The_Mentalist Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 On 10/3/2024 at 10:17 AM, FrustratedVuncle said: Amma (Dad staying in India due to work) coming to stay with us for 6months (for the first time) in few weeks. Intha varaku ma parents tho pattumani 1month kuda continuous ga ledu Dear wife. Epudu ma yamma, ma thammudu antu torture pette pellalu tho how to maintain parents in omrika for a smooth 6months time. Amma oka pakka pellam oka pakka, naku enduko yuddam aytademo anipistundi. Atha vaste different story, amma kuthullu mogudi meda padi edustuntaru, vadileste vaalla saavu vallu sastaru. mana parents ante, teda vaste godava peak ki potundi kada... DB peddalu throw some light. best practices. Things to do to make a pleasant stay for parents. Rest In Peace vro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrustratedVuncle Posted October 4 Author Report Share Posted October 4 4 minutes ago, letstalk2024 said: There is no easy way bro…. It’s part and parcel …. As some one said unless they both have genuine love/respect for each other it will always be a trouble … in most case or almost all cases it’s just namesake so no hiding from it Best you can do is lend an ear to your wife and console your mother separately. Don’t get involved directly Just now, The_Mentalist said: Rest In Peace vro me mokal manda bayapettakandi ra ayyaa... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JANASENA Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 5 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said: Here is the action plan: 1. ma ayya tho koncham ikkadi intlo paddatulu cheppi koncham mom mindset cheyista, like no finger pointing at kodalu vantalu and cleanliness. 2. Cooking and cleaning only wife duty. I will help. 3. Help with kids mom duty. 4. mom daily pooja chestundi. so can kill 1hr easily everyday. So poojaki separate arrangements. 5. pandagalaki pabbalki amma ela chepthe ala cheyali intlo. Mostly Pongal is the only big festival thankfully. 6. Mom room lo TV, Daily walk and weekend outings tho busy ga unchuta. Worries : 1. wife compares silly things like, extra care choopiste mom meda, edisi sastadi adento. 2. Pedda trips plan cheste, ma ammani tippakunda me amma vachinapudu pedda trips vestav ani torture mingochu. Sorry to ask you but nee wife pette torture etla bharisthunnav? I've seen 7/10 of your posts on her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thokkalee Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 12 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said: Here is the action plan: 1. ma ayya tho koncham ikkadi intlo paddatulu cheppi koncham mom mindset cheyista, like no finger pointing at kodalu vantalu and cleanliness. 2. Cooking and cleaning only wife duty. I will help. 3. Help with kids mom duty. 4. mom daily pooja chestundi. so can kill 1hr easily everyday. So poojaki separate arrangements. 5. pandagalaki pabbalki amma ela chepthe ala cheyali intlo. Mostly Pongal is the only big festival thankfully. 6. Mom room lo TV, Daily walk and weekend outings tho busy ga unchuta. Worries : 1. wife compares silly things like, extra care choopiste mom meda, edisi sastadi adento. 2. Pedda trips plan cheste, ma ammani tippakunda me amma vachinapudu pedda trips vestav ani torture mingochu. Take her to temples frequently… join her in some yoga class or bhajan group or something if she is interested.. mothers usually like the freedom here (if they get it) and try to do new things, especially as your dad is not here.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post FrustratedVuncle Posted October 4 Author Popular Post Report Share Posted October 4 55 minutes ago, JANASENA said: Sorry to ask you but nee wife pette torture etla bharisthunnav? I've seen 7/10 of your posts on her. Na raatha inthe anukovatame. Not all are lucky as you anna. I only vent in this id, I have another id for normal db activities. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandubabu Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 On 10/3/2024 at 11:17 AM, FrustratedVuncle said: Amma (Dad staying in India due to work) coming to stay with us for 6months (for the first time) in few weeks. Intha varaku ma parents tho pattumani 1month kuda continuous ga ledu Dear wife. Epudu ma yamma, ma thammudu antu torture pette pellalu tho how to maintain parents in omrika for a smooth 6months time. Amma oka pakka pellam oka pakka, naku enduko yuddam aytademo anipistundi. Atha vaste different story, amma kuthullu mogudi meda padi edustuntaru, vadileste vaalla saavu vallu sastaru. mana parents ante, teda vaste godava peak ki potundi kada... DB peddalu throw some light. best practices. Things to do to make a pleasant stay for parents. my idea is just go to India by myself and spend time with parents . and for now , my in laws are banned in my house until my parents come or I go solo to my parents . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrustratedVuncle Posted October 4 Author Report Share Posted October 4 2 minutes ago, Pandubabu said: my idea is just go to India by myself and spend time with parents . and for now , my in laws are banned in my house until my parents come or I go solo to my parents . how you convinced or communicated this to your wife? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
psycopk Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 1 hour ago, FrustratedVuncle said: This I can use. Already interest ivvakunda appu 10gi exploiting me. nee post chusina prati sari.. F2 movie gurthuku vastadi.. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pakeer_saab Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 On 10/3/2024 at 10:17 AM, FrustratedVuncle said: Amma (Dad staying in India due to work) coming to stay with us for 6months (for the first time) in few weeks. Intha varaku ma parents tho pattumani 1month kuda continuous ga ledu Dear wife. Epudu ma yamma, ma thammudu antu torture pette pellalu tho how to maintain parents in omrika for a smooth 6months time. Amma oka pakka pellam oka pakka, naku enduko yuddam aytademo anipistundi. Atha vaste different story, amma kuthullu mogudi meda padi edustuntaru, vadileste vaalla saavu vallu sastaru. mana parents ante, teda vaste godava peak ki potundi kada... DB peddalu throw some light. best practices. Things to do to make a pleasant stay for parents. you will learn important lesson about life man. life is not our hands ane clarity vastadi your fear is like a kid going to school for first time.. vellaka tappadu learning tappaadu DO NOT REACT at all is the best option this is the final synopsis of life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pakeer_saab Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 1 hour ago, Pandubabu said: my idea is just go to India by myself and spend time with parents . and for now , my in laws are banned in my house until my parents come or I go solo to my parents . that is good way to balance things out parents raani mana intiki atta mamama koda rakodadu. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pakeer_saab Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 On 10/3/2024 at 11:19 AM, FrustratedVuncle said: this back fired in my case, Epudu me parents side teskuntav, your biased ani bitching esalu estaru. Not all aada ladies think and understand. Other suggestions I followed so far. Last time parents few weeks USA lo unnapudu, I asked wife to give front seat to mom in a trip, she gave excuse and refused to give. focus on cooling by allocating time for bumchicks daily.. cool aina body coolga untadi women's frustration/nagging is typical to their urge for S Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrustratedVuncle Posted October 4 Author Report Share Posted October 4 13 minutes ago, pakeer_saab said: focus on cooling by allocating time for bumchicks daily.. cool aina body coolga untadi women's frustration/nagging is typical to their urge for S Oookooo anna kyamedylu. aa chance ee isthe eda postings vesi venting cheskune gathi deniki 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandubabu Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 1 hour ago, FrustratedVuncle said: how you convinced or communicated this to your wife? I just told her I want to spend time with parents ,so let both side parents take turns ani told. MAA in laws visit taravtha calm aipoindhi. so I am planning a trip to India , I said you are welcome to come , but I will stay with my parents Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrustratedVuncle Posted October 4 Author Report Share Posted October 4 16 minutes ago, Pandubabu said: I just told her I want to spend time with parents ,so let both side parents take turns ani told. MAA in laws visit taravtha calm aipoindhi. so I am planning a trip to India , I said you are welcome to come , but I will stay with my parents ante in-laws rakudadhu ante oorkunnara intlo aada ladies? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Konebhar6 Posted October 4 Report Share Posted October 4 3 hours ago, Thokkalee said: Take her to temples frequently… join her in some yoga class or bhajan group or something if she is interested.. mothers usually like the freedom here (if they get it) and try to do new things, especially as your dad is not here.. No one will change when someone asks them to. They change only when they self-realize they have a problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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