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How to make life memorable when you know life going to end less than 5 years?


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3 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

I have a friend who has a similar family patterm ... Both parents died of heart disease in their 40s. Northie .. Goes on a vacation 2-3 times a year. Usually weekly vacations to some places with in US, nearby countries, Europe, etc ... Planned his investments .. etc .. 

I sleep 3 hours to enjoy this rest of life 😀🙏

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eat healthy

sleep good

plan financials practically

spend time with kids/wife/parents, close friends

record videos of having good family times

kids ki life ni vallaki ardam ayye la explain chei

make them mentally strong or atleast make them bold enough

hope for the best and prepare for the worst

do not think too much, live as if there is no tomoro

celebrate small things

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1 hour ago, abulu said:

I sleep 3 hours to enjoy this rest of life 😀🙏

ila chesthe aa 3 or 4 years kuda kashtame bro, aina night wife and kids padukoni unte nuv melkoni em chesthav 

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Jatakam tappu kakapovachu.. but you can change it with your good deeds. Life Lo intha mundu ga edi teliyadu bro.. niku telisindi ante adi pakka correct kadu

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5 hours ago, Barney_Stinson said:

may be he has sleep issues 

I agree..

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10 hours ago, abulu said:

Don't ask where abouts .. we believe in jatakams alot

And it's said multiple times my life span is short and most likely below 5 years and already seen signs of body and can relate.

Question kids are small how to make memories together in next 3 to 4 years. Suggestions welcome.

 

 

sad day GIF Sorry to hear that abulu!! Somehow life is not fair to all, hope you live longer, better start gofund early.

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9 hours ago, abulu said:

Bro i respect your words and wisdom.

I know what kind of health issues I am facing and the span is matching even with jathakam.

So I don't mind if death comes tonight and take me away. 

But I want to make some memories with family and with kids adhe ela antuna.

One way I am lucky atleast I know how soon my life is ending unlike sleep deaths. 

So just asking open suggestions how to make my presence as memorize for my little kids. Nothing much 

I  have seen - such patterns break after a few generations.. not sure if that is a curse and it will vanish after effecting some generations.

Think positive side of this (it appears that you already made up your mind )- uncertainty aithey ledhu. full clarity vacchesindhi ..about limited time. People are worried about earning a lot as they die hungry and poor without unlimited earnings. You are not in this rat race anymore. Leave good memories for kids by interacting with them as much as you can. Spot the gaps and weakness of your kin and work on it.  As other DB members suggested invest money for your kids to meet their ends (be it education, day to day expenses, shelter).  You don't need memories for yourself as you are not going check after you leave this world. Anni cheyalevu..do it as much as you can.. picking priorities first 

By any chance, if the curse gets void..rinse and repeat the above till you die. 

 

 

 

 

 

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11 hours ago, JANASENA said:

Denemma jeevitham ee thread choosthunte edupu vastondi endi

@abulu bro I will pray for you. 

Sorry I don't mean to show case for sympathy and all I know I am counting my days and anytime this body will switch off and lost connection with world & specially loved ones. Just not have enough time to do many things. Wish I see my kids graduated wish I see their marriage wish I see my grand kids wish I see they grew up before all these. I don't even know how their faces look like in next 10 years. Wish what I said so far is a dream and I am going to live longer. 😀!!

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3 minutes ago, abulu said:

Sorry I don't mean to show case for sympathy and all I know I am counting my days and anytime this body will switch off and lost connection with world & specially loved ones. Just not have enough time to do many things. Wish I see my kids graduated wish I see their marriage wish I see my grand kids wish I see they grew up before all these. I don't even know how their faces look like in next 10 years. Wish what I said so far is a dream and I am going to live longer. 😀!!

An important thing you should do -> Get your wife even more closer to your kids. Make sure their bond is great. Let her start doing things that you normally do .. This way kids your wife gets used to the life and covers the void .. 

Make your wife & kids independent. Very important. 

Whatever thoughts you have or want to convey to kids, they cannot understand now. Make some recordings. Share with your wife and ask her to share with kids at certain ages, like when they graduate, have their 16th birthday, or get married. This message will be special to them; they feel you are with them. 

Enjoy your life too .. If you have sleep apnea or sleep problems, consult a doctor and get an oxygen Tank and it will help you sleep better. It take a little time to get used to, but its worth it.

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21 hours ago, abulu said:

Don't ask where abouts .. we believe in jatakams alot

And it's said multiple times my life span is short and most likely below 5 years and already seen signs of body and can relate.

Question kids are small how to make memories together in next 3 to 4 years. Suggestions welcome.

 

 

buy insurance 

- health insurance for all family including parents

- life insurance for yourself

- write down a doc for each of family member , documenting major suggestions in their life. like education, savings, investments, friendships , divorce , family values etc

- move all investments into snp500 for worry free 

- make sure mortgage is part of trust or something for smooth transition

- make sure there is a plan for home for your family

 

now stop worrying about future- LIVE IN THE MOMENT

 

list out your current interests and excitements

bucket it into chunks of 3 months, start experiencing things by quarter

use apps like https://app.diewithzerobook.com/ to help discover interests and plan them 

 

live to experience live 

 

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