Whats important for mid 30 family man

[Puttik]

49 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

All sections doing avg. How are you doing prends?

I seriously need to improve 1. Family & Relationships. 
Etu potundo jeevitham aradam kavatle. 

Sorry to ask but when last time you had intimacy?

[lollilolli2020]

25 minutes ago, Chittoorodu said:

Perfect list.

An important thing to consider for better mental health is not being pressured by external factors - Relatives, Neighbors and others.

My suggestion for bettering with 1, is not to plan all your events around other families.

I have a checklist that I follow -
Children's museum 1x every quarter
State/Nat'l parks 1x per quarter
Long drive 2x~3x per year
Beach 3x per year
Zoo 1x~2x per year

Other seasonal things are bonus

faarin trips leva uncle ??

me time antu neeku em ketayichaleda ??

[Chittoorodu]

7 minutes ago, lollilolli2020 said:

faarin trips leva uncle ??

me time antu neeku em ketayichaleda ??

Bro - Toddlers and preschoolers unnaru. Not worth it especially the time difference will eat the fun.

Also - for me time, do mostly long walks with podcasts and XBOX on weekend nights.

Me and wife also have a US time, 30min walks after lunch, Edhaina kotha dine-out place once a while or movies when the kids are at daycare/preschool.

[Chittoorodu]

46 minutes ago, Chittoorodu said:

Perfect list.

An important thing to consider for better mental health is not being pressured by external factors - Relatives, Neighbors and others.

My suggestion for bettering with 1, is not to plan all your events around other families.

I have a checklist that I follow -
Children's museum 1x every quarter
State/Nat'l parks 1x per quarter
Long drive 2x~3x per year
Beach 3x per year
Zoo 1x~2x per year

Other seasonal things are bonus

Also - Good list if you are frugal too. Most of these don't cost much other than time & energy.

[FrustratedVuncle]

45 minutes ago, Puttik said:

Sorry to ask but when last time you had intimacy?

[phatposts]

kaasta workout, konta kala poshana, kaastanta peace of mind, boledanta nidra - deeni kosam edi ante adi chesi savandi

[FrustratedVuncle]

4 minutes ago, phatposts said:

kaasta workout, konta kala poshana, kaastanta peace of mind, boledanta nidra - deeni kosam edi ante adi chesi savandi

em kala poshana anna. Monna annual check up ki pothe, full cholesterol and liver vachindi koncham jagratha ani warned doctor. 

Jan 1st ki kuda trupthiga tagalekapoina, biryani kuda tinaledu na royya. 

[phatposts]

1 minute ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

em kala poshana anna. Monna annual check up ki pothe, full cholesterol and liver vachindi koncham jagratha ani warned doctor. 

Jan 1st ki kuda trupthiga tagalekapoina, biryani kuda tinaledu na royya. 

anduke "konta" anna. kala poshana ante taagudu, biryani maatramena?

neeku kick ichevi inka emi leva?

[UmmNagarjuna]

list lanni magallaki fun antha addallaki na.. annitlo equal rights kada... family woman list kuda eyyi susi pedatam 

[Puttik]

46 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

I can understand your frustrated posts now 

[niladisify]

all points just pass. point no 5 failed

[lollilolli2020]

1 hour ago, Chittoorodu said:

Bro - Toddlers and preschoolers unnaru. Not worth it especially the time difference will eat the fun.

Also - for me time, do mostly long walks with podcasts and XBOX on weekend nights.

Me and wife also have a US time, 30min walks after lunch, Edhaina kotha dine-out place once a while or movies when the kids are at daycare/preschool.

 

@Jatka Bandi @Konebhar6 enno ideas ichcharu kaani ee idea iyyaledu eppudu. 

[Galactus]

3 hours ago, Chittoorodu said:

Perfect list.

An important thing to consider for better mental health is not being pressured by external factors - Relatives, Neighbors and others.

My suggestion for bettering with 1, is not to plan all your events around other families.

I have a checklist that I follow -
Children's museum 1x every quarter
State/Nat'l parks 1x per quarter
Long drive 2x~3x per year
Beach 3x per year
Zoo 1x~2x per year

Other seasonal things are bonus

checklists are difficult to follow for me

family loves parks and beaches so we spend time mostly going to them

[Konebhar6]

1 hour ago, lollilolli2020 said:

 

@Jatka Bandi @Konebhar6 enno ideas ichcharu kaani ee idea iyyaledu eppudu. 

Watching TV shows or movies together regularly also works. 

I cook once or twice along with my wife and kids. It's fun, and kids learn too. 

My wife cooks, or I cook some comfort food when I go out with kids, or she goes out with kids. It's kind of a surprise. It keeps everyone happy.

We play board games (Clue, Sequence, Connect 4, Uno) usually during get-togethers. Year-End party is usually at my home with gifts sharing (white elephant gift exchange) and lots of fun games. 

We plan hiking + good food + chai at least 4-5 times during summer. Usually friends + family. We demand other families to get food that they make good.  

Make life fun. Its easy. Relationships improve.

[Konebhar6]

4 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

At 35, with a wife and two young kids, your priorities should focus on family well-being, financial stability, health, and personal growth. Here’s a breakdown:

1. Family & Relationships

• Spend quality time with your wife and kids—childhood goes by fast.
• Strengthen your marriage through communication and shared experiences.
• Teach your kids values, discipline, and emotional intelligence.
• Plan for family experiences like vacations, outdoor activities, and bonding time.

2. Financial Stability & Security

• Income & Career Growth: Ensure steady career progression or business stability.
• Emergency Fund: Have 6–12 months of living expenses saved.
• Life Insurance: Secure adequate coverage for your family's future.
• Health Insurance: Ensure comprehensive coverage for the family.
• Retirement Planning: Max out contributions to 401(k)/IRA or other retirement plans.
• Kids' Education: Start a 529 plan or similar investment for college funds.
• Debt Management: Pay off high-interest debts and avoid unnecessary loans.

3. Health & Well-being

• Maintain a healthy lifestyle (exercise, diet, sleep).
• Get regular health checkups for yourself and family.
• Manage stress effectively—balance work, family, and personal time.
• Foster mental well-being (mindfulness, hobbies, social interactions).

4. Home & Stability

• Ensure a safe, comfortable home for the family.
• If renting, consider homeownership if it aligns with your financial plan.
• Childproof your home for safety, especially with a toddler.

5. Personal Growth & Fulfillment

• Keep learning—career skills, parenting, and financial literacy.
• Pursue personal hobbies and maintain friendships.
• Be a role model—show your kids values like discipline, kindness, and hard work.
• Plan for the future with long-term goals (career, investments, personal aspirations).

 

1 (Family & Relationships) and 5 (Career) are most important. If these are good, 2, 3 (to some extent), 4 are automatically good. Add a bit of exercise and moderate eating, 3 (Health) is completely taken care.

More importantly, let go of ego in relationships and make an effort. In most cases it should work. If not, talk face-to-face, understand each others perspectives, priorities and come to a conclusion and a decision. Remember - Everyone deserves a chance to be happy. Decisions need to be TAKEN, not MADE.