Velaite advice

[suryausa]

2 hours ago, explore said:

have patience, keep calm atleast an year...his situations might change....chudu if he comes back.....if not better to find some one who really loves you...

Year patience ante old ayipotundi papa

[Butterthief]

12 hours ago, Rendu said:

Nenu kuda manishi ne ga bhayya

Estory pls

[HelpMePls]

40 minutes ago, suryausa said:

Installments lo chadivesa.

TS chala love stories climax lo itlage vuntayi. he is in confused situation. Give him some time, one month complete ha avoid chesi chudandi keep yourself busy appudu  iddariki mind correct solution istundi. Athanu aggressive lenappudu time pass ki Hours sollu veskodam waste. Iddariki ishtam vunte athanu mamul ga mom ni chuskuntu meeru situations settle ayyedaka valla parents ki dooram vundochu. Athaniki sister GC sponsor cheyochu kada inka life easy avutundi?  

we both have i-140 approved & waiting for priority dates.  Sister sponsor cheste inko 10 yrs padutundi..inko 3 yrs undagaligi situations permit cheste tanake vastundi. We talked for hours only one day that he confessed..he dont talk/text for more than 20 mins 

[suryausa]

1 hour ago, HelpMePls said:

we both have i-140 approved & waiting for priority dates.  Sister sponsor cheste inko 10 yrs padutundi..inko 3 yrs undagaligi situations permit cheste tanake vastundi. We talked for hours only one day that he confessed..he dont talk/text for more than 20 mins 

Konni rojulu complete avoid chesi chudandi atleast one week 

[jaffatingboy]

22 hours ago, HelpMePls said:

Today at 5:44 PM

Need advice or help me to understand this person.

 

Nenu 3 yrs back oka client ki pani chesedanini ..many indians undevallu and there were many youngsters of my age too..akkada memu agile environment lo work chesevallam so cubes lantivi levu and we used to be 35 ppl sitting around tables working in pair programming environment. Being indian team chala interaction undedi. Most of them were single and it was so common most of them used to eat out every day. we used to have some personal talk about matches as everyone was looking at that time but there was never any personal interaction out of work. No interaction ante literally no interaction..oka whats app group undedi kani adi only late to work ala vaste pettadaniki matrame ..mita valla gurinchi nenu sure ga cheppalekapoyina atleast i never texted or talked to anyone once i was out of office.. it was not intentional but no one talked. Being only ammayi in the team nannu baga edipinchevallu and they used to always talk sarcastically about women to tease me as i used to react to it. Now coming to the point...there used to be one guy named  XYZ who used to sit very next to me and he was the one who used to tease me always and initated every conversation and made me react to it. Enta avvadu anukunna naku mandi react ayyevaraku edipinchevadu and then mitavallu kuda used to join him..I was very sportive so a moment varaku i used to react and become normal.

 

One year passed this way and our project was failure so we understood motham team anta layoff avutundi ani so even before a situation rakamunde nenu job chusukoni vellipoyanu... Later after few weeks andaru lay off ayyaru ani naku telisindi from same person XYZ..that was the first time he called me ever out of work but that was it . 2years nunchi nenu i was busy with my life not in touch with any of the team members.. infact dont know where most of them are too including XYZ.

 

E last 2 yrs lo XYZ texted me thrice 6 months ki oka sari ala with conversations less than 5 mins..just how are u how is work inthe.25 days back XYZ texted me whats app lo unna pic chusi...1st question being pelli ayyinda pic saree lo undi ani ..ledu ani cheppanu and then since we left last company oka 30 mins text cheyadam ade modati sari ..casual talk about work and life ayyindi and  then started talking about life and i told about how frustrated i am meeting guys from matrimony and kind of same story with him and there ended conversation as i was in theater but we kind of talked like friends and not like colleagues.

 

Malla next day he texted me on a saturday and as usual he was teasing me and nenu kuda edo respond ayyanu over all feel good conversation like friends. But before he ended he said eppudu nene text chesanu nuvvu cheyaledu future lo kuda cheyavu so malla nene chesta annadu. Joke ga cheppina koncham serious note lone cheppadu anipinchindi so tuesday just for fun i messaged him from work saying e sari nene 1st conversation initiate chesanu ani ...adi ala continue ayyi on and off work chestu we talked for 2-3 hrs..just very general conversation.

 

A roju evening malla he pinged me around 7:30 pm and we ended up texting till 5 am. General conversation went till a point of talking about too personal problems about meeting ppl and getting married. He is a person with great sense of humor and i really enjoyed his teasing in person and also in texting...nannu edipistu ney conversation lo petti he was tryign to make me say that i like him...i know he is teasing ani so enti ippudu nuvvante ishtam ani cheppevaraku vadalava anta vinalani unte chepta ley annanu...sudden ga conversation became serious and he told me he liked me since we were working together...i thought adi kuda fun aey but then he said nenem joke cheyatledu serious gane cheptunnanu annadu...i was shocked & asked why he never told me then and he said every day 9-5 i used to tease you...lunch ki tesukelladaniki ninnu daily try chesevadini...vepareetam ga edipinchanu ..stare kuda chesevadini..u r very pretty couldnt help not staring at u sitting next to u  ani incidents kuda cheppadu where he indirectly expressed his liking or attraction for me..pakkane kuchoni enta edipiste kuda nuvvu telusukolekapoyavu ante i am very surprised annadu...niku teledu anukoledu ishtam ledemo anukunnanu annadu...He used to tease other girls from different projects and edipistu andarini alane undevadu so nenu kuda asalu he likes me ani anukoledu though i was really impressed by his nature ,decency and intelligence but it was just like a colleague anduke after i moved really tana gurinchi alochinchaledu and text kuda cheyaledu.

 

While he said that he also asked nenu eppudaina tana gurinchi alochinchana ani...actually i never did endukante atanu gujarati and tanu chala handsome guy too and i never thought tanaku naku set avutundi ani and also thought kuda nakenduko raledu to like him as such though i definitely had some unknown attraction which i only realized it now after these conversations. E 2-3 times conversations lone i think i knew about him more than working with him and apparently naku alanti preferences unnayo exactly avi tanalo unnayi ani telisindi but idi kuda mundu conversation lone we talked so i dont even know he has these qualities before. Some how nenu ishtam ani cheppagane i responded saying nuvvu munde cheppi unte 2 yrs time waste ayyedi kadu ninnu reject cheyadaniki asalem reason ledu ani cheppanu. He said cheppi waste niku anduke cheppaledu nenu cheppina edi munduku velladam practically impossible ma amma ki leukemia( blood cancer ) and nanna ki Heart problem and depression because of amma situation.. nenu anytime india ki vellipoye situation lo unnanu GC/H1 antu undalenu..ippudu amma stable but then eppudu vellalsi vastundo teledu yearly thrice i am running to india ..na life is very uncertain now thats also very big reason cheppakapovadaniki..nenu na life aey uncertain ga unchukoni ninnu ni struggle in US for last 8 yrs vadilesi GC/H1 , career vadulukoni India ravalani ala expect cheyanu..andulo u used to say u never want to go back to india ..u want to get married buy a home and settle and have stable life ...asalu no chance to work out anduke cheppaledu not to hurt both feelings annadu.

 

 

I am still shocked myself for statements i told him but i did tell him instantly naku e bodi GC/H1 akkarledu nenu nito India ki vachestanu..hindi lo matladachu mi parents ma parents language problem ayite slwly i will try to learn language and also told him that i understand that andarilaga wife to 100% undalevu enno responsibilities unnayi and enno problems lo unnavu ..attention to na chuttu tiragalevu nenu adjust and sacrifices cheyali ..u need a very adjusting and understanding wife and free life alavatayina nenu joint family lo undali which i know and understand but i am happy to make compromises for u ani cheppanu...since i came to US okka sari dream lo kuda india ki vellali anukoledu but then my priorities changed instantly once i knew he likes me.  He said he know me and also what i am saying and also said nenevaite sacrifices cheddam anukuntunnano avi anta easy kadu ani...ma parents kosam nenu cheyadam is different but nuvvu e not so smooth ride loki ravalsina avasaram ledu annadu. He also said na mentality ki valla parents ni baga chusukuntanu ani telisina kuda he said its better we dont pursue this relation.

 

Life time anubhavinchali consequences okka 4-5 hrs conversation lo enta pedda decision tesukunnav asalu alochinchatledu nuvvu ani nanne tirigi comment chesadu..After couple of days also when he texted i kind of was serious and told him that i want to marry him. I told him na priorities completely change ayipoyayi for what ever reason and that i dont know if i like him now or from before without realizing but parents chepte kuda eppudu kalalo kuda india ki velladdu anukune nenu nikosam anni vadili vacheyadaniki koncham kuda badha ga ledu ani cheppanu. Infact since that day roju nenu edustune unnanu.

 

He repeatedly says Guj community lo vere vallani accept tondaraga cheyaru...valla amma ki serious ayyi for good vellipovalsi vaste nato evaru india lo matladaru...enta kashtapadi career life establish chesukoni nenu india ki tana valla vachesi kashtalalo irukkopovadam not right..eddariki ishtam undi ani accept chesam adi kuda one weak moment lo so let it be antunnadu. US lo unte its easy for both  but india ki vellipote naku narakam laga untundi around people who dont accept me antunnadu. Asale physically weak and depressed ga unna parents ni bother cheyalenu ninnu pelli chesukovali ante nenu godavapadi edirinchali unna situations ki ala chesi vallani inka hurt cheyalenu antadu. Nannu convince cheyadaniki preyatnistunnadu not to cross line of friendship and not to make it serious relationship. Asalu haayiga unna pranam ni keliki he is making me cry...its not like i m blaming him but i am very sad and unhappy since he told me this. I am now expecting very serious relation and want to marry him. Nene adjust avutanu antunte kuda nake class pikutunnadu in return. Iddaram ikkadato vadileste better friends ga undam inka e conversation ila naduste eddaram chala badha padali antunnadu.  He is kind of stubborn and says please please please lets leave it here. Nenu actually push kuda cheyalekapotunna as valla mother ki cancer...already life threatening situation lo unna valla mother ni edipinchu nakosam ani cheppalenu at the same time i am deeply hurt. now situation is we both cant convince each other but rude ga matalu ayite nenu anannu niku cheppina ardham kada badha ga undi edustunna ani tittesanu kuda..he said he is also sad but then again says attract ayite pelli chesukovalani em ledu manam anta deep ga alochinchaledu kada anta serious relationship lo lemu so ikkadito vadiley iddariki manchidi antadu. Prema vishyam lo enta tvarga cut chesukunte anta takkuva badha ani lectures kuda istunnadu. We text regularly now but then he is not texting like colleague . Some times he cross his line and talk like more than friend and flirt but then again back off ayipoyi cheptunnadu.  Tana behavior naku asalu ardham kavatledu...he is a very intelligent guy and asalu bayata kuda padatledu tana intentions ento...whats app kuda 3 times chesadu interest undi ante last 2 yrs lo we can understand about his self control...nenu ante ishtam annappadinunchi nene most of times conversation start chestunna though he does too sometimes..Nenu digajari eevry time message kottalenu but i love him now but asalu tanaku ishtam undo ledo adi attraction or prema teliyatledu. Ammayini ayyi adukkolenu and nene topic ethi pressurize cheyalenu when he says lets keep it as friendship.

 

i many times thought asalu e person touch lo ki rakunda unte aey badha undedi kadu ani though i again see a happy future if we get married. I also dont understand if he understand i am ready to give up all my dreams and career for him. Enta pedda step nenu veste asalu care cheyatledu enti anipistundi. His statements like we are just attracted and confessed confuses me..attraction ayite future gurinchi alochinchane kudadu like his parents not accepting..poni prema anukundam ante nene adjust avuta antunna avvalevu vaddu friends ga undam ani enduku antunnado teliyatledu..Motham ki ippduu nenu matches chudalenu and cant meet guys as i am serious about him and dont know if he will accept and move forward in this relation. He screwed me up and i dont know if he realize that too...some times nenu serious ga emanna text cheste about working out this relation indirectly he respond after a day and i dont even know how to take it..Every time when he responds to a message after few hours or day i am checking whats app 1000 times being worried if he is mad at me though i know he dont check whatsapp that much like every 20 mins. Asalu is he interested in me ? are these terms attracted , interested and loving different for guys? In this case did he not love me ? if he did not love me why he thought i wont be accepted in his family? I am very much confused and hurt ..i am unable to understnad tana mind set...

 

Though i know its stupid to post this on a social site..andaru educated guys here  (I do know u all r here for timepass ) but on a serious note evaranna piece of advice istaremo for mental relief ani rasanu...To share with some one i know i dont know  what to as confusion tappa i dont see anything. Pls do not reply with abusive words or pm me. I am here only for advice and do not wish to even add a second post so pls do not torture saying guy pretending as girl and all that... Thnx

 

Ps: Broken english and telugu lo rasindi so that he never can understand this post .

Hello TS 

edhi antha chadivaaaka naku okate aanipinchindhi.....gorre (sheep) eppudu kasayivadine nammuthundhi.. indulo (sheep) evvaro cheppakarledhu anukunta...

ne marriage looks lo right guys dhoraka....may be ippati varuku nuvvu evvariki emotional ga attach avvaka becoz of ur preferances or lifestyle.. (apart from your family ) okadu vachi ne preferences ki and ne lifestyle ki dhegaraga vundesariki nuvvu flat ayyav anthe..dhane love..puvvu aanukuntunnav...being a guy cheppthuna...ammayilu vintaru ante jungle book kathalu cheppe abbayilu chaala mandhi vunnaru.....ee so called abbayi ni pelli chesukunte nuvvu happy ga vundavu..ne family happy ga vundadhu..ne inlaws happy ga vundaru....aasalu evvaru happy ga lenappudu nenu enduku ee pelli chesukunna ane thought vasthundhi at one point ...appudu divorce ivvalevu ..aala ani kalisi vundalevu...you will regret for your decision all thru your life..

[Prabhas_Fan]

9 hours ago, spell_hunter1 said:

2016 eh na bhaiyya?? 

haa bhayya 2016 ye first look

[idibezwada]

1 hour ago, jaffatingboy said:

Hello TS 

edhi antha chadivaaaka naku okate aanipinchindhi.....gorre (sheep) eppudu kasayivadine nammuthundhi.. indulo (sheep) evvaro cheppakarledhu anukunta...

ne marriage looks lo right guys dhoraka....may be ippati varuku nuvvu evvariki emotional ga attach avvaka becoz of ur preferances or lifestyle.. (apart from your family ) okadu vachi ne preferences ki and ne lifestyle ki dhegaraga vundesariki nuvvu flat ayyav anthe..dhane love..puvvu aanukuntunnav...being a guy cheppthuna...ammayilu vintaru ante jungle book kathalu cheppe abbayilu chaala mandhi vunnaru.....ee so called abbayi ni pelli chesukunte nuvvu happy ga vundavu..ne family happy ga vundadhu..ne inlaws happy ga vundaru....aasalu evvaru happy ga lenappudu nenu enduku ee pelli chesukunna ane thought vasthundhi at one point ...appudu divorce ivvalevu ..aala ani kalisi vundalevu...you will regret for your decision all thru your life..

baafa..fafani inta baafa ardaf seskunnav ante nuvve fafaki freak ivaagalav..

[badboy]

15 hours ago, HelpMePls said:

--- we had many formal conversations at work before but then after we parted ways we werent in touch. I might not be 100% sure but he is usually a person who maintains low profile and has no account in any social websites to even contact which is partly reason for me to forget he existed too. I agree to ur point how he controlled and wasnt in touch if he likes a girl for 2 years 

Hello my friend,  for the delayed response. I don't live in the US. Maintaining low profile is something different than getting in touch with the person whom you like. Chinna example: (relevant or not depends upon your state of mind) Maa intlo chinna kukka pilla ni techam, okkasari anukokunda when I was walking naa kallu tagilindi daniki and adhi jarukuntu and muluguthu chala dooram vellindi. Ah kashnam naaku prapamcham okka sari agipoyindi ani anipinchindi. Naaku telisina prema idhey. Preminchina ammayi phone number vundi and matladutundi ani tesili kuda contact cheyakapothey he is not human (sorry, I didnt mean to hurt you or talk bad about him) the reason I am saying this, because naaku yento istam ayyina daniki badha kaligindhi antey nenu okka second kuda tattukolekha poyanu. Thanu preminchina ammayi gurunchi telisi yela 2 years agado guess chestuntey vamoo.

Yedo andaru cinemalu chusi padipothunnaru gani, for me it's is a pure and divine feeling than one cannot live peacefully without seeing or talking to their loved ones.

15 hours ago, HelpMePls said:

-- I didn't like him because he teased me ..he teased in prev project every day during which i didnt even think about him to like him now..neither liked because of looks nor because he said he likes me.. there were many guys who proposed me about  whom i didnt even think about...i liked him as he is a guy who meets my expectations and has set priorities..basically know clearly what he wants and has vision for life ...i could see a direction in future to trust him and walk with him..its not a just emotional decision 

I completely understand. But my friend you are missing the point here. You mentioned that he met your expectations and had priorities. Just saying, can you guarantee that those expectations will not change forever and what if his priorities change in future? (you can ask me, antey arranged marriage lo change avvava ani.) but akkada two families will come together if there is any problem. it is not same in your case my friend. basically know clearly what he wants and has vision for life  - anta clarity vunna vadu why did he approach you and said that he likes when there is not even a slightest possibility that he can marry you? i could see a direction in future to trust him and walk with him..its not a just emotional decision  -  to say this, the way you think is not clear. Whoever says against to what you were thinking you will not like it. you may not say it loud but a small hesitation will be in your mind. You think you can share a future with him but that is as per your current situation. Circumstances change and people change and emotions change so your future with him will also change. 

15 hours ago, HelpMePls said:

--- Agree to this..oka abbayini match laga kalistene i think 2 weeks after meeting and talkin too but i did really take a decision in split second which im surprised too.

I don't know the time frame here which you realised that you too surprised about that decision. Same thing will happen again and again. There will be a time where you will realise that you took wrong decision. All our friends here are trying to say this to you. so that you will not get hurt when the decision making power is out of your hands. 

15 hours ago, HelpMePls said:

--I did discuss with my pinni the same day and all she said was a abbayi pelli chesukunta ani cheppinappudu alochinchina ardham undi emundi ikkada discussion ki ..dont wait and waste time ani cheppindi..she didn't entertain me to even complete. My parents would agree as he is from same caste though not telugu and from same community asalu ma side problem ledu and undadu except that my parents might resist  due to his situations that life would be hard for me..but i agree to what u said and understand where u r coming from..thnx

Chudu pedha vallu yenta clarity tho vunnaro. Did you ever thought that from where they might get that clarity about life that much? Life Experience my friend. (need not to be a personal one) mee parents oppukuntundi kuda kevalam nuvvu badha padakudha dhu aney. Just ask them. Mee relatives yenni matalu antaro mee parents ni and they can't happily attend any family functions if your life is in problem after getting marriaged to that guy.  

Regarding caste and other stuff, I don't give a  about it. Inta chaduvu chadivi inka castlu kakarikayalu yento. (just fyi, nenu inter caste marriage chesukunna, naadi love marriage kadhu arranged. I have seen her after 4 months after engagement. engagement ki kuda nenu India lo lenu, I was in UK. my dad took care of it)

15 hours ago, HelpMePls said:

-- i should say thnx..nothing to get offended..i should be in ground reality and accept 

Okka matta chepta ikkada. Needhi love kadhu ani naa feeling. It's just a feeling more than attraction and neeku life bore ga vundi ippudu and you need some diversion. So I think, nuvvu idhi choose cheysukunnav anipistundi. Being lonely is a gift which we can only enjoy before marriage. I lived 6 years in London and enjoyed every moment of it because I am alone and use to roam nook and corner of UK when free. 

[idibezwada]

threadlo eassy writing confitasan nadustunatundi..Sai vancle sagam db space ee thread ee tini10gi untadi...

[idibezwada]

34 minutes ago, badboy said:

Hello my friend,  for the delayed response. I don't live in the US. Maintaining low profile is something different than getting in touch with the person whom you like. Chinna example: (relevant or not depends upon your state of mind) Maa intlo chinna kukka pilla ni techam, okkasari anukokunda when I was walking naa kallu tagilindi daniki and adhi jarukuntu and muluguthu chala dooram vellindi. Ah kashnam naaku prapamcham okka sari agipoyindi ani anipinchindi. Naaku telisina prema idhey. Preminchina ammayi phone number vundi and matladutundi ani tesili kuda contact cheyakapothey he is not human (sorry, I didnt mean to hurt you or talk bad about him) the reason I am saying this, because naaku yento istam ayyina daniki badha kaligindhi antey nenu okka second kuda tattukolekha poyanu. Thanu preminchina ammayi gurunchi telisi yela 2 years agado guess chestuntey vamoo.

Yedo andaru cinemalu chusi padipothunnaru gani, for me it's is a pure and divine feeling than one cannot live peacefully without seeing or talking to their loved ones.

I completely understand. But my friend you are missing the point here. You mentioned that he met your expectations and had priorities. Just saying, can you guarantee that those expectations will not change forever and what if his priorities change in future? (you can ask me, antey arranged marriage lo change avvava ani.) but akkada two families will come together if there is any problem. it is not same in your case my friend. basically know clearly what he wants and has vision for life  - anta clarity vunna vadu why did he approach you and said that he likes when there is not even a slightest possibility that he can marry you? i could see a direction in future to trust him and walk with him..its not a just emotional decision  -  to say this, the way you think is not clear. Whoever says against to what you were thinking you will not like it. you may not say it loud but a small hesitation will be in your mind. You think you can share a future with him but that is as per your current situation. Circumstances change and people change and emotions change so your future with him will also change. 

I don't know the time frame here which you realised that you too surprised about that decision. Same thing will happen again and again. There will be a time where you will realise that you took wrong decision. All our friends here are trying to say this to you. so that you will not get hurt when the decision making power is out of your hands. 

Chudu pedha vallu yenta clarity tho vunnaro. Did you ever thought that from where they might get that clarity about life that much? Life Experience my friend. (need not to be a personal one) mee parents oppukuntundi kuda kevalam nuvvu badha padakudha dhu aney. Just ask them. Mee relatives yenni matalu antaro mee parents ni and they can't happily attend any family functions if your life is in problem after getting marriaged to that guy.  

Regarding caste and other stuff, I don't give a  about it. Inta chaduvu chadivi inka castlu kakarikayalu yento. (just fyi, nenu inter caste marriage chesukunna, naadi love marriage kadhu arranged. I have seen her after 4 months after engagement. engagement ki kuda nenu India lo lenu, I was in UK. my dad took care of it)

Okka matta chepta ikkada. Needhi love kadhu ani naa feeling. It's just a feeling more than attraction and neeku life bore ga vundi ippudu and you need some diversion. So I think, nuvvu idhi choose cheysukunnav anipistundi. Being lonely is a gift which we can only enjoy before marriage. I lived 6 years in London and enjoyed every moment of it because I am alone and use to roam nook and corner of UK when free. 

kastapadav baa..

[explore]

17 hours ago, suryausa said:

Year patience ante old ayipotundi papa

haha year e kada......everything will be clear...taruvatha lifelong happy ga undocchu papa....

[suryausa]

57 minutes ago, explore said:

haha year e kada......everything will be clear...taruvatha lifelong happy ga undocchu papa....

Year sarigga vanni ignore cheste papa ki next year vadu venakapadatadu emeki vadu nachadu. Human psychology endante ignore chese vallu nachutaru venakapade vallani ignore cheyadam. 

[explore]

26 minutes ago, suryausa said:

Year sarigga vanni ignore cheste papa ki next year vadu venakapadatadu emeki vadu nachadu. Human psychology endante ignore chese vallu nachutaru venakapade vallani ignore cheyadam. 

I'm not saying to ignore him.... be strong, casual, like friend to him.....if he opens up his feelings again then its good for papa....if not look for another.....

[suryausa]

31 minutes ago, explore said:

I'm not saying to ignore him.... be strong, casual, like friend to him.....if he opens up his feelings again then its good for papa....if not look for another.....

+1

[GunturGongura]

On April 21, 2016 at 1:49 PM, dolby said:

clarity lenoditho life eppudu kashtame................ilanti situation lu life lo chala sarlu vasthay........if he is fickle minded like this then nee sacrifices anni waste.........

life lo konni passing clouds vasthuntay.............idi okati anuko...............

philosophy ekkuvaithe sorry.................but be practical.........................

+11111.........1