social experiment on height - podugu potlakayas and potti potatoes both come here

[tennisluvr]

I have been seeing some threads here since yesterday about height and some people are telling us about their opinions/experiences etc. I will narrate my experiences here: 

Height is important: There's no denying this, it's very important for men. Now does that mean it's a deal breaker, yes in some cases but not in all cases. Can you do anything about it? No because it's mostly genetic so you can't change your height. 

My experience with Bharatmatrimony and shaadi.com websites: 

I am originally 5'7", I would say I am average for a South Indian of my generation. I personally love tall women, some often taller than me. I have dated and gone out with American women of all heights including one volleyball player who was 6'. However she didn't mind me being shorter than her and I actually loved her being taller than me. However, most responses I have obtained on matrimonial sites are often from women who are 5'4" and shorter and rarely from ones that are 5'5". 

I created a free account on shaadi.com and I am not looking for anyone seriously so I went ahead and did a social experiment. I bumped my height to 5'10" just to see how the responses would be. I had 3 times more matches and responses from women than when I was 5'7". A lot of women who were 5'6" and 5'7" declined my requests when I mentioned my height as 5'7"(although they stated in their profile that they were open to men from 5'7" to 6'3") responded to my requests immediately and some even sent me their phone numbers. 

 

 

[tennisluvr]

So for them height mattered although they said they weren't' necessarily looking for the 3" differential. But it subconsciously affects their choice. All else being equal they would prefer the 5'10" guy over the 5'7". I still have got multiple requests from girls that are 5'2" and 5'3" inspite of the fact that there's a good 8" differential in heights between them and me now. One thing to be noted here is that if a 5'2" to 5'3" girl is above average looking she would always go for the 5'10" guy over the 5'7" guy because even a tall guy won't normally reject a short girl that looks very pretty for being short. So they know that as well. 

The most interesting thing in this social experiment is that girls that are 5'8" to 5'10" also sent me a lot of interest when I mentioned my height as 5'10". They normally would of course not even correspond with a short 5'7" because he's shorter than them but they didn't have a strict requirement about the 3" differential that girls 5'4" to 5'6" cared so much about. Some of the girls who were 5'11" even sent me requests when I mentioned I was 5'10"

Moral of the story: 

If you are anywhere from 5'5" to 5'9" most of your responses will be from girls that are atleast 3" shorter than you. A tiny minority won't care about your height but those are normally women that are more independent in their thoughts and won't put too much importance into what social constructs dictate. 

Guys that are 5'10" to 6, you are GOLDEN. You will get responses from girls that are both 5'8" to 5'2" since they all mostly prefer guys your height. 

Guys > 6' - You won't get as much responses from 5'2" to 5'4" girls but that's good too as you won't want them anyway

Guys < 5'5" - I am  but your choices will be limited. You can however compensate by other aspects of your personality by being very rich, good looking, or having high social status. 

 

The above is based on a social experiment I conducted on two of the most popular matrimonial websites and this isn't speaking for all the people of course. It's only an online experiment. 

 

[VizagRocks]

okay.

What do you think about guys/girls who populate sites like bharat matrimony?

Aren't a lot of relationships formed at work, or through friends?

[tennisluvr]

Just now, VizagRocks said:

okay.

What do you think about guys/girls who populate sites like bharat matrimony?

Aren't a lot of relationships formed at work, or through friends?

Yes bro. Most people that go online looking for a partner are usually socially awkward, I am not saying this reflects the views of all the people. 

 

It's only an online social experiment, I myself am not interested in doing anything with such women myself. 

[rrc_2015]

[allaripidugu]

Just now, VizagRocks said:

okay.

What do you think about guys/girls who populate sites like bharat matrimony?

Aren't a lot of relationships formed at work, or through friends?

Relationships form aythunnay kani appudu form ayye relations just valaki status kosam form cheskuntunnaru,,,,, pelli ki mathram intlo chepina mata vine amay type lo buildup istharu vadu sincere aithe hath istahru lekapothe ta ta by by ankuntaru.

[VizagRocks]

7 minutes ago, allaripidugu said:

Relationships form aythunnay kani appudu form ayye relations just valaki status kosam form cheskuntunnaru,,,,, pelli ki mathram intlo chepina mata vine amay type lo buildup istharu vadu sincere aithe hath istahru lekapothe ta ta by by ankuntaru.

s0rry ba, 18 yrs daatinaaka inka amma naanna maatalu vine vaallani emanaalo naaku telidu. vadiley.

alaanti vaalla gurinchi takkuva maatladithe manchidi.

[mustang302]

[tennisluvr]

9 minutes ago, VizagRocks said:

s0rry ba, 18 yrs daatinaaka inka amma naanna maatalu vine vaallani emanaalo naaku telidu. vadiley.

alaanti vaalla gurinchi takkuva maatladithe manchidi.

That's a problem of our sheltered upbringing bro. To attract a woman a man needs a lot more than a degree and bank balance. Desi matchmaking process is very outdated, no one cares about the guy's personality in an arranged marriage. Entha aasthi undi, entha length undi, entha salary undi anthey. Rest everything becomes secondary. 

 

The whole system is outdated and not in conjunction with the current society. That's my opinion. Andukey I am 32 and single, and refused to go for a girl I met on some internet website. Everything will happen at the right time provided you are well rounded, that's my opinion. 

[VizagRocks]

2 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

That's a problem of our sheltered upbringing bro. To attract a woman a man needs a lot more than a degree and bank balance. Desi matchmaking process is very outdated, no one cares about the guy's personality in an arranged marriage. Entha aasthi undi, entha length undi, entha salary undi anthey. Rest everything becomes secondary. 

 

The whole system is outdated and not in conjunction with the current society. That's my opinion. Andukey I am 32 and single, and refused to go for a girl I met on some internet website. Everything will happen at the right time provided you are well rounded, that's my opinion. 

absolutely. Even if it doesn't, you don't really lose much. Compared to how much you would lose, if you get stuck with an immature girl as partner.

[GunturGongura]

19 minutes ago, VizagRocks said:

s0rry ba, 18 yrs daatinaaka inka amma naanna maatalu vine vaallani emanaalo naaku telidu. vadiley.

alaanti vaalla gurinchi takkuva maatladithe manchidi.

matalu vini spouses ki narakam chupinchevallu inka unnaru le….

[dakumangalsingh]

Erojullo good lucking manchi attitude personality lantivi evadu chustunnad bhayya all they want is money, status, GC ante Avi vunte pandi aina parvaledu ani anukuntunnar 

[sattipandu]

42 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

So for them height mattered although they said they weren't' necessarily looking for the 3" differential. But it subconsciously affects their choice. All else being equal they would prefer the 5'10" guy over the 5'7". I still have got multiple requests from girls that are 5'2" and 5'3" inspite of the fact that there's a good 8" differential in heights between them and me now. One thing to be noted here is that if a 5'2" to 5'3" girl is above average looking she would always go for the 5'10" guy over the 5'7" guy because even a tall guy won't normally reject a short girl that looks very pretty for being short. So they know that as well. 

The most interesting thing in this social experiment is that girls that are 5'8" to 5'10" also sent me a lot of interest when I mentioned my height as 5'10". They normally would of course not even correspond with a short 5'7" because he's shorter than them but they didn't have a strict requirement about the 3" differential that girls 5'4" to 5'6" cared so much about. Some of the girls who were 5'11" even sent me requests when I mentioned I was 5'10"

Moral of the story: 

If you are anywhere from 5'5" to 5'9" most of your responses will be from girls that are atleast 3" shorter than you. A tiny minority won't care about your height but those are normally women that are more independent in their thoughts and won't put too much importance into what social constructs dictate. 

Guys that are 5'10" to 6, you are GOLDEN. You will get responses from girls that are both 5'8" to 5'2" since they all mostly prefer guys your height. 

Guys > 6' - You won't get as much responses from 5'2" to 5'4" girls but that's good too as you won't want them anyway

Guys < 5'5" - I am  but your choices will be limited. You can however compensate by other aspects of your personality by being very rich, good looking, or having high social status. 

 

The above is based on a social experiment I conducted on two of the most popular matrimonial websites and this isn't speaking for all the people of course. It's only an online experiment. 

 

very correct to the point , I was 176 cm  when my growth spurt stopped when i was 21, i was just lucky enough to grow to 177 cm to fall into 5 feet 10 category , my wife is 168.5 cms.  

at the end relationship matters not pics and looks

 

[suryachakri]

What you said is absolutely true..infact recently I rejected on match as we fought over texts with one of her family members regarding height. I mentioned 5"10 as my height in one of the online matrimonial sites and lot if girls responded, sent requests etc. I always dated tall women like you said ranging from 5"8 and few of them 5"10..all the 5"8 girls I have dated were indian..anyways my real height is 5"9 but just for the heck of it I kept as 5"10 and one beautiful looking girl started a conversation with me and through text I told her I am not 5"10 but 5"9 and she was like only 5"3.5 but as you said girls who are beautiful etc height doesnt matter for guys and 5"3.5 is an good height for telugu girls..anyways she and her sister literally fought that oh my sister like guys who are 5"10 and above and you are 5"9 so we need tot hink..I was like shut the  up..ur sister is first of all short and she expects a tall guy and just for one inch you are talking bull ..for some reason I have seen all girls who are 5"2- 5"5 expect tall guys like 5"11 or 5" 10 the least and for some reason tall girls lile 5"8 or 5"7 etc doesnt really care that much..these potti potatoes girls should know this from the tall girls..

[i_sudigadu]

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