IL lo oak story chusa. Naa ex pettindha ani doubt !!!

[kk_555]

Bhayya's nenu intake mundhu oka post vesa naa story gurinchi. Naa ex, aame husband etc etc ani. Nenu appudappudu IL follow avutha. Akka oka story chusi naa ex dhi ani doubt vastundhi. Story chusi baadha vesindhi that I might have spoiled her life ani. What should I do ? Below is the story from IL that I think my ex posted:

 

Hi,

I have a serious issue for which I need some opinions.

I have been married for 3 years(Arranged marriage). We thought of having kids after 3 years and when I raised this topic with my husband recently, he said that he is not interested in having kids with me. He says that ours is not a healthy relationship and he is in this marriage for his parents and out of sympathy for me and nothing more. He refuses to have kids and he feels it is not fair for kids when either of the parents is not inclided to do so. This is the reason for his behaviour:

I lied to my husband about my past relationship. Before marriage when the topic of affairs came, I told him that I do not have any relationships. He did not have any and has a mindset where he believes it's OK to love someone but wrong to have physical relationships before marriage. I was still in relationship with my BF when the marriage was getting fixed and did not want to get married to my current husband. But my ex-BF's parents wanted us to wait until my ex's elder brother gets married and my parents were in no mood to wait any longer(They waited for 1 year)

After marriage, my husband came to know about the affair through some other sources. There was no fight but he was upset. At that time, I did one more mistake and told him that I & my ex-BF never got physical. I told him that we just held hands and nothing else happened. But later, he found out with proof about our intimate physical relationship and found out that I was still in contact through emails, chats during our courtship period after engagement and even after marriage. Contact was through mails only. This time he was really upset and he went into depression for couple of months. But he didn't tell anyone about this. Finally, he became normal with occasional mood swings but overall life was really happy and I felt really lucky.

Before marriage itself, he said that we will plan kids 3 years after marriage. But now, he is saying that he does not want to have kids as he lost all love not just on me but on human relations and it is not healthy for a kid to have a father like him. He said I'm open to divorce him but there is no way he will have kids. He says he is married to me just for his parents sake and out of concern for me and nothing else. He says he tried really hard all these years to forget my past and did put up a fake happy face but inside he never forgot what I did to his life. He is saying that if I chose to leave him or tell this to our parents, then I should be prepared to tell the actual reason for it. He says I can do whatever I want in this marriage other than having kids.

I shared this my best friend and she is saying that my husband is taking revenge in this way. She is asking me to give him ultimatum and if he still does not listen, leave him as I have atleast some hope to re-marry and settle. But if I delay for couple of more years, I will have no options.
 

[Butterthief]

6 minutes ago, kk_555 said:

Bhayya's nenu intake mundhu oka post vesa naa story gurinchi. Naa ex, aame husband etc etc ani. Nenu appudappudu IL follow avutha. Akka oka story chusi naa ex dhi ani doubt vastundhi. Story chusi baadha vesindhi that I might have spoiled her life ani. What should I do ? Below is the story from IL that I think my ex posted:

 

Hi,

I have a serious issue for which I need some opinions.

I have been married for 3 years(Arranged marriage). We thought of having kids after 3 years and when I raised this topic with my husband recently, he said that he is not interested in having kids with me. He says that ours is not a healthy relationship and he is in this marriage for his parents and out of sympathy for me and nothing more. He refuses to have kids and he feels it is not fair for kids when either of the parents is not inclided to do so. This is the reason for his behaviour:

I lied to my husband about my past relationship. Before marriage when the topic of affairs came, I told him that I do not have any relationships. He did not have any and has a mindset where he believes it's OK to love someone but wrong to have physical relationships before marriage. I was still in relationship with my BF when the marriage was getting fixed and did not want to get married to my current husband. But my ex-BF's parents wanted us to wait until my ex's elder brother gets married and my parents were in no mood to wait any longer(They waited for 1 year)

After marriage, my husband came to know about the affair through some other sources. There was no fight but he was upset. At that time, I did one more mistake and told him that I & my ex-BF never got physical. I told him that we just held hands and nothing else happened. But later, he found out with proof about our intimate physical relationship and found out that I was still in contact through emails, chats during our courtship period after engagement and even after marriage. Contact was through mails only. This time he was really upset and he went into depression for couple of months. But he didn't tell anyone about this. Finally, he became normal with occasional mood swings but overall life was really happy and I felt really lucky.

Before marriage itself, he said that we will plan kids 3 years after marriage. But now, he is saying that he does not want to have kids as he lost all love not just on me but on human relations and it is not healthy for a kid to have a father like him. He said I'm open to divorce him but there is no way he will have kids. He says he is married to me just for his parents sake and out of concern for me and nothing else. He says he tried really hard all these years to forget my past and did put up a fake happy face but inside he never forgot what I did to his life. He is saying that if I chose to leave him or tell this to our parents, then I should be prepared to tell the actual reason for it. He says I can do whatever I want in this marriage other than having kids.

I shared this my best friend and she is saying that my husband is taking revenge in this way. She is asking me to give him ultimatum and if he still does not listen, leave him as I have atleast some hope to re-marry and settle. But if I delay for couple of more years, I will have no options.
 

Tappu kada.....

 

Ayina intha ayyaka nuvvu chesedi emi ledu... just dont get involved in your ex life... leave them.

[Chirupoo]

Kukkalaki humans ki theda lekapoindi ee sex vishyam lo. Ammayilaki antha gnanam undada? If they commit they shud find that similar person who is also open to all these. I feel it's completely her mistake. 

Ide ila aithe mana KVP latest son in law is devudu having sreeja madam with kid. Em choosi Pelli chesukunnado, KVP stardom, properties... Etc for sure. ?

Chi kampu ra nayana em brathukulo... ?

[kk_555]

Just now, Butterthief said:

Tappu kada.....

 

Ayina intha ayyaka nuvvu chesedi emi ledu... just dont get involved in your ex life... leave them.

Matter motham chadivaava bhayya akkada? Pelli ayina kothalo contact lo unde but aame husband ki motham telisaka, valla married life lo godavalu avutunnayi ani telisaka motham cut chesesa. I thought they were OK now. But looks like aame husband aame meedha revenge teesukovadaniki 'NO KIDS' antunnadu anta. Idhi entha varaku fair ? I feel bad that na valla ala life spoil ayyindhi ani.

[Butterthief]

1 minute ago, kk_555 said:

Matter motham chadivaava bhayya akkada? Pelli ayina kothalo contact lo unde but aame husband ki motham telisaka, valla married life lo godavalu avutunnayi ani telisaka motham cut chesesa. I thought they were OK now. But looks like aame husband aame meedha revenge teesukovadaniki 'NO KIDS' antunnadu anta. Idhi entha varaku fair ? I feel bad that na valla ala life spoil ayyindhi ani.

Nenu ade cheppedi... Pelli ayyaka kooda endhuku touch lo unnaru...

 

anyway ippudu peekedemi ledu... Valla vishayam marchipo.. ade best

[idibezwada]

12 minutes ago, kk_555 said:

Bhayya's nenu intake mundhu oka post vesa naa story gurinchi. Naa ex, aame husband etc etc ani. Nenu appudappudu IL follow avutha. Akka oka story chusi naa ex dhi ani doubt vastundhi. Story chusi baadha vesindhi that I might have spoiled her life ani. What should I do ? Below is the story from IL that I think my ex posted:

 

Hi,

I have a serious issue for which I need some opinions.

I have been married for 3 years(Arranged marriage). We thought of having kids after 3 years and when I raised this topic with my husband recently, he said that he is not interested in having kids with me. He says that ours is not a healthy relationship and he is in this marriage for his parents and out of sympathy for me and nothing more. He refuses to have kids and he feels it is not fair for kids when either of the parents is not inclided to do so. This is the reason for his behaviour:

I lied to my husband about my past relationship. Before marriage when the topic of affairs came, I told him that I do not have any relationships. He did not have any and has a mindset where he believes it's OK to love someone but wrong to have physical relationships before marriage. I was still in relationship with my BF when the marriage was getting fixed and did not want to get married to my current husband. But my ex-BF's parents wanted us to wait until my ex's elder brother gets married and my parents were in no mood to wait any longer(They waited for 1 year)

After marriage, my husband came to know about the affair through some other sources. There was no fight but he was upset. At that time, I did one more mistake and told him that I & my ex-BF never got physical. I told him that we just held hands and nothing else happened. But later, he found out with proof about our intimate physical relationship and found out that I was still in contact through emails, chats during our courtship period after engagement and even after marriage. Contact was through mails only. This time he was really upset and he went into depression for couple of months. But he didn't tell anyone about this. Finally, he became normal with occasional mood swings but overall life was really happy and I felt really lucky.

Before marriage itself, he said that we will plan kids 3 years after marriage. But now, he is saying that he does not want to have kids as he lost all love not just on me but on human relations and it is not healthy for a kid to have a father like him. He said I'm open to divorce him but there is no way he will have kids. He says he is married to me just for his parents sake and out of concern for me and nothing else. He says he tried really hard all these years to forget my past and did put up a fake happy face but inside he never forgot what I did to his life. He is saying that if I chose to leave him or tell this to our parents, then I should be prepared to tell the actual reason for it. He says I can do whatever I want in this marriage other than having kids.

I shared this my best friend and she is saying that my husband is taking revenge in this way. She is asking me to give him ultimatum and if he still does not listen, leave him as I have atleast some hope to re-marry and settle. But if I delay for couple of more years, I will have no options.
 

tell ur ex to slap her friend 1st...mothaniki papam okadi life kudipesaru...anyways its an old story..comeup with a latest one man..i read the same story long bck..

[Chirupoo]

2 minutes ago, kk_555 said:

Matter motham chadivaava bhayya akkada? Pelli ayina kothalo contact lo unde but aame husband ki motham telisaka, valla married life lo godavalu avutunnayi ani telisaka motham cut chesesa. I thought they were OK now. But looks like aame husband aame meedha revenge teesukovadaniki 'NO KIDS' antunnadu anta. Idhi entha varaku fair ? I feel bad that na valla ala life spoil ayyindhi ani.

You are the culprit now. Go and marry her. And give life to her husband.

[bommidailu]

You cannot do anything now bhayya. your involvement , if you are thinking of it , will only complicate things between them.

Not sure if you are married but if not , and if they decide to part ways,   may be u can help her then. I personally think , they will resolve their issues.

 

[TOM_BHAYYA]

5 minutes ago, Chirupoo said:

You are the culprit now. Go and marry her. And give life to her husband.

Lol Haa inkaa

[tom bhayya]

inthaki neeku mee annaki pellillu ayyaya? 

[Cooldude4321]

14 minutes ago, kk_555 said:

Matter motham chadivaava bhayya akkada? Pelli ayina kothalo contact lo unde but aame husband ki motham telisaka, valla married life lo godavalu avutunnayi ani telisaka motham cut chesesa. I thought they were OK now. But looks like aame husband aame meedha revenge teesukovadaniki 'NO KIDS' antunnadu anta. Idhi entha varaku fair ? I feel bad that na valla ala life spoil ayyindhi ani.

revenge aa bonga mothaniki vadi life sanka nakinchesaru kadha. hope the guy gets divorce and will have peaceful rest of his life

[idibezwada]

Babayya TS...the only solution is you marrying her and live happily

[Chirupoo]

1 minute ago, idibezwada said:

Babayya TS...the only solution is you marrying her and live happily

Perfect ?Same I said above.

[Akkumm_Bakkumm]

16 minutes ago, kk_555 said:

Matter motham chadivaava bhayya akkada? Pelli ayina kothalo contact lo unde but aame husband ki motham telisaka, valla married life lo godavalu avutunnayi ani telisaka motham cut chesesa. I thought they were OK now. But looks like aame husband aame meedha revenge teesukovadaniki 'NO KIDS' antunnadu anta. Idhi entha varaku fair ? I feel bad that na valla ala life spoil ayyindhi ani.

Mi burralaki adi revange laga kaka inkela anipistundi lendi. He was fair with her, but she lied and cheated him, this made him lose trust in her. Chese yedava panulu anni chesi eppudu victim card play cheyyadam enduku...??  Ame husband side nundi alochisthe ni Ex ye tana husband life ni screw up and miserable chesindi. Divorce ki ok but real reason cheppi divorce tiskovali antunnadu kani divorce evvanu kids kuda vaddu anatledu kada. Chese tappu antha aa ammai chesi forget my past and lets live happily ante evadiki matram kaladu..!!

[dakumangalsingh]

11 minutes ago, tom bhayya said:

inthaki neeku mee annaki pellillu ayyaya? 

Lol