Maa friend gaani unique situation. Please HELP

[kk_555]

Couple of days back mandhu sitting lo 1 year back pelli ayina naa close buddy gaadu open up ayyadu.

Aadidhi arranged marriage. Vellu city lo untaru and ammayidhi vallu vella home town. A hometown lone aa ammayi perigindhi & maa friend gaani most of the relatives aa town lone untaru.

Pelli taruvatha telisindhi aa ammayi ki iddaru BF's unde and one was long term serious relationship. Second daantlo limits kuuda daatesaru ani cheppi edchesaadu. Veedi family orthodox and veedu kuuda same. No bad habits, no relationships etc and relatives circle lo baa settle ayyaru, emi blackmarks levu ani peru undhi. Somehow, ishtamo kashtamo he has come to accept the reality and digest his wife's past but now one thing is bothering him.

Vella relatives lo chaala mandhi ki veedi wife past gurinchi telusu ani veediki telsindhi. veedi wife and aa ex-BF Kalisi tirigevaru, vere state lo job chese tappudu kalisi holidays, kalisi unnaru ani vallallo rumors(Idhi fact ani veediki telusu. She accepted). Andulo kondaru relatives ante vellaki padadhu like jealousy, prestige etc.. Plus aa ammayi gaani ex-BF vella baabayi valla galli lone undedhi. They too know ani eedi gatti doubt. Plus maa odiki vaadi mardhalu meedha crush undedhi. But pelli workout kaaledhu as both family's have some issues. But aa mardhalu veedi wife college(Different dept but same batch) She too knows. Ippudu aa baabayi valla koduku & his wife, ee mardalu & her husband vella city or daggarlo undedhi. They keep insisting to meet him anta.

Ippudu, maa vaadu asal valla hometown ki velladaniki or aa relatives ni kalavadaniki ishta padatledhu. He thinks everyone will laugh at his back, think of him as bakra. Inka relatives pina kopam penchukunnadu that telisi kuuda kavalane ee sambandham antakattarani.

Veedini ee thoughts nunchi bayataki techedhi ela. One side, vaadi wife past & physical relationship truth(Pics dorikayanta maa vadiki), inko side ee relatives/prestige gola, inko end ivanni mingesi, lopala unchukoni parents ki cheppakunda bayatiki happy la act chesi suffer aye gola. He is dying from inside bhayya.

Veedu one of my best buddy from college. I really want to help him in some way or other. How ?

[maximummax]

divorce... is the best option.

 

pelliki mundu enquiry enduku cheyaledu?

[Lukewalker]

option 1: Ask him to get divorce and move on 

option 2: if he and his wife are happy, forget about the past, fu*k relatives and their opinions and be happy in life

ila manasu lo baadha pettukuni suffer ayyi, anavasaram ga thana health paaducheskuni last ki em migaladhu. 

oka chinna suggestion bro(for ur frend): past is past, and relatives mana gurinchi maha ayite oka 1 year matladukuntaru. mana life lo dheniki importance ivvali, dheniki ivvakudadhu ani maname decide avvali. No one can help you other than you!

[idibezwada]

divorce is the best option...but how did he come to know about her past relation?

[Naistam]

 Whatever happend cannot be changed now. Past is past bro ammayi ippudu tinanga vuntey challu Relatives antava picha lite tesukomanu 

[fact_of_the_matter]

1: ippudu aa ammai mee friend tho bane unte, they can continue the marriage..

2:  inka veshalu vestunte or velliddhariki antha sync ledhu anukunte divorce better

3: Relatives picha lite..valla gallilo unde ammayini mee frnd pelli chesukuntunte anni telisi feedback ivvani relatives picha kuntla lanjakodukulu valla gurinchi pattinchukodam kuda waste..

4: Get a transfer and move onto other city if possible onsite..

[kk_555]

Divorce option kaadhu bhayya: Cheppa gaa, he thinks too much about his family & prestige ani. Valla parents health antha baaledhu. He will never divorce annadu.

Inka aa couple happy ga unnaraa ante, edho philosophical ga cheptunnadu. "...Accident ayyaka poyina daani gurinchi badha padakunda unna dantlo happy vethukunatte unnaanu but if I will always think this marriage is the biggest mistake I did and wish I could undo..." anta.

Cheppalante veedi current situation maa cousin ammayi laa undhi. Her husband is psycho. But she continues for the sake of her kids and parents.

[Rao_Garu]

You cannot change past ....enni em chesina past is past ippudu athani wife loyal ga unda leda anedi important athanni past marchipoyi happy ga unda manu...damn those relatives...you are not living for others..

[kk_555]

3 minutes ago, fact_of_the_matter said:

1: ippudu aa ammai mee friend tho bane unte, they can continue the marriage..

2:  inka veshalu vestunte or velliddhariki antha sync ledhu anukunte divorce better

3: Relatives picha lite..valla gallilo unde ammayini mee frnd pelli chesukuntunte anni telisi feedback ivvani relatives picha kuntla lanjakodukulu valla gurinchi pattinchukodam kuda waste..

relatives gallilo undindhi aa ammayi family kaadhu. Ammayi valla ex-BF family. But veedi baabai & ex family know each other well. And aa gallilo kuuda aa ex gaadiki affair undani telsu. Some know its with this girl and some don't. Ivanni maa vaadu imagining or nijam ga intha detailed ga kanukunnada naaku koncham doubt.

4: Get a transfer and move onto other city if possible onsite..

 

[BUDDY]

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[LivingLegend]

ikkada point mee frnd wife mee frnd tho bane untunda leda ani kaadu .... he is not able to digest his wife past, he is just trying to pretend.....in that case better take divorce and be free from all this mental torture..... f*** relatives.... don't care about what others think.....okka maatalo cheppalante andarini vadili para 10gi mee vadi life chuskomanu

[Biskot]

divorce... is not solution.

present important. pilla ippudu loyal and happy untey adhey chalu and me friend past is past ani lite tiskovali.

divorce vall chala mandhi suffer aytharu. 

 

breaking things is easy but patching up hard.

 

[chalkpiece]

27 minutes ago, kk_555 said:

Couple of days back mandhu sitting lo 1 year back pelli ayina naa close buddy gaadu open up ayyadu.

Aadidhi arranged marriage. Vellu city lo untaru and ammayidhi vallu vella home town. A hometown lone aa ammayi perigindhi & maa friend gaani most of the relatives aa town lone untaru.

Pelli taruvatha telisindhi aa ammayi ki iddaru BF's unde and one was long term serious relationship. Second daantlo limits kuuda daatesaru ani cheppi edchesaadu. Veedi family orthodox and veedu kuuda same. No bad habits, no relationships etc and relatives circle lo baa settle ayyaru, emi blackmarks levu ani peru undhi. Somehow, ishtamo kashtamo he has come to accept the reality and digest his wife's past but now one thing is bothering him.

Vella relatives lo chaala mandhi ki veedi wife past gurinchi telusu ani veediki telsindhi. veedi wife and aa ex-BF Kalisi tirigevaru, vere state lo job chese tappudu kalisi holidays, kalisi unnaru ani vallallo rumors(Idhi fact ani veediki telusu. She accepted). Andulo kondaru relatives ante vellaki padadhu like jealousy, prestige etc.. Plus aa ammayi gaani ex-BF vella baabayi valla galli lone undedhi. They too know ani eedi gatti doubt. Plus maa odiki vaadi mardhalu meedha crush undedhi. But pelli workout kaaledhu as both family's have some issues. But aa mardhalu veedi wife college(Different dept but same batch) She too knows. Ippudu aa baabayi valla koduku & his wife, ee mardalu & her husband vella city or daggarlo undedhi. They keep insisting to meet him anta.

Ippudu, maa vaadu asal valla hometown ki velladaniki or aa relatives ni kalavadaniki ishta padatledhu. He thinks everyone will laugh at his back, think of him as bakra. Inka relatives pina kopam penchukunnadu that telisi kuuda kavalane ee sambandham antakattarani.

Veedini ee thoughts nunchi bayataki techedhi ela. One side, vaadi wife past & physical relationship truth(Pics dorikayanta maa vadiki), inko side ee relatives/prestige gola, inko end ivanni mingesi, lopala unchukoni parents ki cheppakunda bayatiki happy la act chesi suffer aye gola. He is dying from inside bhayya.

Veedu one of my best buddy from college. I really want to help him in some way or other. How ?

idedo mee friend story la ledu... nee story la undi.... it's ok to have relationships man.... 

[maximummax]

7 minutes ago, kk_555 said:

Divorce option kaadhu bhayya: Cheppa gaa, he thinks too much about his family & prestige ani. Valla parents health antha baaledhu. He will never divorce annadu.

Inka aa couple happy ga unnaraa ante, edho philosophical ga cheptunnadu. "...Accident ayyaka poyina daani gurinchi badha padakunda unna dantlo happy vethukunatte unnaanu but if I will always think this marriage is the biggest mistake I did and wish I could undo..." anta.

Cheppalante veedi current situation maa cousin ammayi laa undhi. Her husband is psycho. But she continues for the sake of her kids and parents.

 

if your friend wants to live with a women who cheated/lied/betrayed him... you/we cannot do much..its in his hand to be happy or not.. 

present/future is in his hands... there is no magical band you can wave in front of him

[Shailu_Naidu]

settle with that girl only, what is guarantee that other girl will be good girl ?