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5 minutes ago, ranku_mogudu said:

repu antu vallu vallu bagokunda nippulu pettey salaha ichesthunnav ga... nippu pettina poga rakunda ammayi manage chesukuntundhi... don't complicate and oodi poga teesukochey salahalu aapu man

 

ante ammayi pelli ayyak kooda chedu tirugulu tiriguthoo manage chesthe  neeku okay antav? nuvvu aa husband situation vasthe appudu telustundhi.

kurchoni neethulu cheppamante bayaludertharu okkodu..

Iddari madhya chedipothe chedipoyindhi, ala dishonset ga husband ni cheat cheyatam kanna vidipovadam better..

pelli mundhu enni veshalu esina parledhu, pelli ayyaka kooda veshalu esevallani support chesthunna nee pragynanam ki salute..

nee ID ranku_mogudu lagane undhi nee telivitetalu kooda

 

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29 minutes ago, Khan_Dada_ said:

ante ammayi pelli ayyak kooda chedu tirugulu tiriguthoo manage chesthe  neeku okay antav? nuvvu aa husband situation vasthe appudu telustundhi.

kurchoni neethulu cheppamante bayaludertharu okkodu..

Iddari madhya chedipothe chedipoyindhi, ala dishonset ga husband ni cheat cheyatam kanna vidipovadam better..

pelli mundhu enni veshalu esina parledhu, pelli ayyaka kooda veshalu esevallani support chesthunna nee pragynanam ki salute..

nee ID ranku_mogudu lagane undhi nee telivitetalu kooda

 

uncle aa pori divorce ayi ne client la join ayte nuv ida oka story eyachu ane ga, why man this kakruthi

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1 hour ago, kranthi111983 said:

Naa cousin gaadi panula valla I'm in a tricky situation. Idhe situation lo meeru unte and Vaadu chese panulu vaadi life & vere valla life spoil ayye chances unte, would you tell to his parents to stop him from doing those things. I talked him out of it but vaadu vinatledhu and now he stopped talking to me. I wish I did not know all these things. Now that I know, emi cheyyalo artham kaavatledhu.

 

Here's the story:

Vaadiki college days lo oka ammayitho love undedhi. Chaala years nadichindhi vyavahaaram. Koncham deep gaane unde relationship ani telusu. They used to work in different city from their homwtown and as usual okari room lo okaru regular ga undadam and rest all the stuff that goes with it jarigevi. But as usual last lo pelli kaaledhu due to cast, parents etc. Finally that girl got married to a NRI. Maa vaadu time pattindhi but recover ayyadu. Since we were close, anni share chese vaadu. Its been 3 years now. Aa ammayi ippudu India lo undhi. Some long vacation anta for marriage etc. 3 years no contact lo unna ammayi ippudu contact chesindhi. First just whatsapp, calls but now they started meeting, hanging out. Vadhu ra ani chebithe vinatledhu. Edho oka sariki edho kalisaru ante adhi kaadhu, iddaru lovers la malli tiragatam start chesaru. Aa pilla edho course ani, adhi ani cheppi maa vaaditho roaming. Nenu tidutunna ani cheppi naatho share cheyyadam maanesadu. Aa ammayi social networks chuste husband tho life baagane undhi, life enjoy chestunnatu untadhi. Vacation pics, couple pics etc, etc. But malla idhi endho artham avvatledhu.

Veedu vinatle kabatti vaadi intlo chebithe vintademo anipistundhi. He will easily get scared by his father and emotionally blackmailed by his mother. Appatlo love marriage workout avvaledhu ante adhe reason. Should I tell everything to his parents ?

Lite teesko swamy..

you and your cousin are behaving like kids.. already breakup ayinaka malli valliddaru kalisi tirigite neekenti badha?

konni rojulu vallu enjoy chesinaka malli aa papa vellipotundi.. mee vaadu set avtaadu

mee vaadu appatiki set avvakapote adi vaadi problem.. you can always advice/suggest your cousin, then it's up to him

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44 minutes ago, Khan_Dada_ said:

ante ammayi pelli ayyak kooda chedu tirugulu tiriguthoo manage chesthe  neeku okay antav? nuvvu aa husband situation vasthe appudu telustundhi.

kurchoni neethulu cheppamante bayaludertharu okkodu..

Iddari madhya chedipothe chedipoyindhi, ala dishonset ga husband ni cheat cheyatam kanna vidipovadam better..

pelli mundhu enni veshalu esina parledhu, pelli ayyaka kooda veshalu esevallani support chesthunna nee pragynanam ki salute..

nee ID ranku_mogudu lagane undhi nee telivitetalu kooda

 

1)Husband Honest ani appudey certify elaga ichesav?- This is the first thing where people just directly jump into conclusions.

2)T.S Lovers laaga chatta pattal vesukuni tiruguthunnaru annadu kaani  ahum uhum avvvaledhu. Chatta pattal tho ney manam direct ga Thenginchukuntunnaru daily ani fix aipotham. leni ideas raani uhalu vallaki istham.

3) Social networking sites lo pics chusi valla marital life ni anchana veyyadam antha foolish mindset untey nuvvu prashatham ga undav evarini prashantham ga undanivvav .e.g.,
oka ammayi thana FB lo abbayi bujala meedha chethulu vesi digindhi antey vallu lovers.. M.S chesaru kabatti naaku telisinantha varaku valla madhyana pani ayipoyi untundhi ani salaha ichedhi ilanti valley.

 

4) "Aa pilla edho course ani, adhi ani cheppi maa vaaditho roaming. Nenu tidutunna ani cheppi naatho share cheyyadam maanesadu. " ee point key vallu resolt lo rooms book chesukuni untaru ani T.S and vaadiki meeru vantah paadadam bagundhi. May be her intlo they are not letting her go out as she is after a long time or may be due to past issue restriction valla inka insecurity teesukosthey any human will try to break from that cage.

 

 

Now coming to the impact of your solution dear Khan Dada.

1) Tell her husband that she is meeting her ex lover , the possible outcomes are
   a) You have ignited the 'Suspicion  Spark' without conforming with complete facts and facets. This park will not die as of now and will eventually lead to divorce. In the intermittent time while this process goes, his life is screwed and her life is screwed, not for their actions as they didn't surface of natural suspicion  but you have altered  and ignited it.

  b:) If she is not a faithful wife/ sex urged girl, she will continue the same no matter how impacted her life would be. So you have not giving a solution,instead giving her a freedom and encouraging him towards leading the same life post divorce. Instead, if the T.S. keeps calm and ignore, the best possible outcome is that their marital life will be survived atleast. This may not be a issue for people who are living here, but possible outbreak of the Divorce  story will eventually jeopardize the girl's family and impact if she has any siblings. Relatives will constantly pick them and eventually they would suffer ailments due to the pressure which one solution to tell her husband would ripple out.

 

 

Finally, the conclusion is " I don't give uchitha salahalu just for fun in DB. I think of all the possible outcomes with the stories of lives of the people I have seen and lived with".When you said 
" Iddari madhya chedipothe chedipoyindhi, ala dishonset ga husband ni cheat cheyatam kanna vidipovadam better.."  ikkada chedipothey chedipoyindhi annav chusava, akkadey nuvvu misguide chesi oka janta ni , daniki link ayyi unna enno  jeevithalani nasanam chesesav..And you have not saved the guy in anyway.

 

Key thing here is, Marital relationship is not simple as they live, love and have chexx and get children. The impact of one mistake can impact lives of many.

 

ID ni batti character ni anchana veyyadam manesi nuvvu nee stories raasuko.

 

And No marriage no tension just reflects incapability of handling relationships.

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17 minutes ago, yomama said:

uncle aa pori divorce ayi ne client la join ayte nuv ida oka story eyachu ane ga, why man this kakruthi

Adhey nenu bhi thought @3$%.

Chexx kathalu vesukuney vallu solutions isthey ilaney untundhi

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4 minutes ago, ranku_mogudu said:

1)Husband Honest ani appudey certify elaga ichesav?- This is the first thing where people just directly jump into conclusions.

2)T.S Lovers laaga chatta pattal vesukuni tiruguthunnaru annadu kaani  ahum uhum avvvaledhu. Chatta pattal tho ney manam direct ga Thenginchukuntunnaru daily ani fix aipotham. leni ideas raani uhalu vallaki istham.

3) Social networking sites lo pics chusi valla marital life ni anchana veyyadam antha foolish mindset untey nuvvu prashatham ga undav evarini prashantham ga undanivvav .e.g.,
oka ammayi thana FB lo abbayi bujala meedha chethulu vesi digindhi antey vallu lovers.. M.S chesaru kabatti naaku telisinantha varaku valla madhyana pani ayipoyi untundhi ani salaha ichedhi ilanti valley.

 

4) "Aa pilla edho course ani, adhi ani cheppi maa vaaditho roaming. Nenu tidutunna ani cheppi naatho share cheyyadam maanesadu. " ee point key vallu resolt lo rooms book chesukuni untaru ani T.S and vaadiki meeru vantah paadadam bagundhi. May be her intlo they are not letting her go out as she is after a long time or may be due to past issue restriction valla inka insecurity teesukosthey any human will try to break from that cage.

 

 

Now coming to the impact of your solution dear Khan Dada.

1) Tell her husband that she is meeting her ex lover , the possible outcomes are
   a) You have ignited the 'Suspicion  Spark' without conforming with complete facts and facets. This park will not die as of now and will eventually lead to divorce. In the intermittent time while this process goes, his life is screwed and her life is screwed, not for their actions as they didn't surface of natural suspicion  but you have altered  and ignited it.

  b:) If she is not a faithful wife/ sex urged girl, she will continue the same no matter how impacted her life would be. So you have not giving a solution,instead giving her a freedom and encouraging him towards leading the same life post divorce. Instead, if the T.S. keeps calm and ignore, the best possible outcome is that their marital life will be survived atleast. This may not be a issue for people who are living here, but possible outbreak of the Divorce  story will eventually jeopardize the girl's family and impact if she has any siblings. Relatives will constantly pick them and eventually they would suffer ailments due to the pressure which one solution to tell her husband would ripple out.

 

 

Finally, the conclusion is " I don't give uchitha salahalu just for fun in DB. I think of all the possible outcomes with the stories of lives of the people I have seen and lived with".When you said 
" Iddari madhya chedipothe chedipoyindhi, ala dishonset ga husband ni cheat cheyatam kanna vidipovadam better.."  ikkada chedipothey chedipoyindhi annav chusava, akkadey nuvvu misguide chesi oka janta ni , daniki link ayyi unna enno  jeevithalani nasanam chesesav..And you have not saved the guy in anyway.

 

Key thing here is, Marital relationship is not simple as they live, love and have chexx and get children. The impact of one mistake can impact lives of many.

 

ID ni batti character ni anchana veyyadam manesi nuvvu nee stories raasuko.

 

And No marriage no tension just reflects incapability of handling relationships.

well said, kani nuv chepinattu rational ga think chesetollu sex fanatsies rayaleru bro, they tend to go to extremes. Khan dada wants that athi and many in db want that db. Evidently from those replies here, andaru husband husband ani koskuntunaru kani, divorce anedi enta worst phase for two families o ardam avatle, TS ki cousin parents mida love undi papam, thats why he posted here the issue. 

E db janala uchita salahalu follow avte aa families lo suicides aye chances kuda unay, because mana society lo caste ki paruvu ki importance ichinantha deniki ivaru konni families.

I highly suggest to try that letter game, ammayiki clear ga instructions ivvali see this is the issue and these are the problems, manchiga tour avagotti us ki vellipo and stop the contact with him ani pedte ayioye. But they can still be friends, as a 3rd person vallu friends ga kuda undakudadu ani aite you cant judge. E story inkola tiragochu , as in husband nri sadist ayundi, aa gal lover ni miss ayi vidi degarki vachi inka feelings unte divorce ichi marriage cheskovali ane opinion kuda undachu , so dont jump to conculusions

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7 minutes ago, ranku_mogudu said:

Adhey nenu bhi thought @3$%.

Chexx kathalu vesukuney vallu solutions isthey ilaney untundhi

@3$% bayalu bayalu ani bithar stories ela vastay man, ila andaru peaceful ga love, kapuralu cheskunte? aaa janala pusle ni pattukunadu khan dada @3$%

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2 hours ago, kranthi111983 said:

Naa cousin gaadi panula valla I'm in a tricky situation. Idhe situation lo meeru unte and Vaadu chese panulu vaadi life & vere valla life spoil ayye chances unte, would you tell to his parents to stop him from doing those things. I talked him out of it but vaadu vinatledhu and now he stopped talking to me. I wish I did not know all these things. Now that I know, emi cheyyalo artham kaavatledhu.

 

Here's the story:

Vaadiki college days lo oka ammayitho love undedhi. Chaala years nadichindhi vyavahaaram. Koncham deep gaane unde relationship ani telusu. They used to work in different city from their homwtown and as usual okari room lo okaru regular ga undadam and rest all the stuff that goes with it jarigevi. But as usual last lo pelli kaaledhu due to cast, parents etc. Finally that girl got married to a NRI. Maa vaadu time pattindhi but recover ayyadu. Since we were close, anni share chese vaadu. Its been 3 years now. Aa ammayi ippudu India lo undhi. Some long vacation anta for marriage etc. 3 years no contact lo unna ammayi ippudu contact chesindhi. First just whatsapp, calls but now they started meeting, hanging out. Vadhu ra ani chebithe vinatledhu. Edho oka sariki edho kalisaru ante adhi kaadhu, iddaru lovers la malli tiragatam start chesaru. Aa pilla edho course ani, adhi ani cheppi maa vaaditho roaming. Nenu tidutunna ani cheppi naatho share cheyyadam maanesadu. Aa ammayi social networks chuste husband tho life baagane undhi, life enjoy chestunnatu untadhi. Vacation pics, couple pics etc, etc. But malla idhi endho artham avvatledhu.

Veedu vinatle kabatti vaadi intlo chebithe vintademo anipistundhi. He will easily get scared by his father and emotionally blackmailed by his mother. Appatlo love marriage workout avvaledhu ante adhe reason. Should I tell everything to his parents ?

ee story lo yedava...mee cousin lapaki mogudu.....mogudu munda iythea, pellam oorlo kanipinchea valandariki langa ethichupisthundhi 

so lite thesko....kudirthea 3sm chey 

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2 minutes ago, kasi said:

ee story lo yedava...mee cousin lapaki mogudu.....mogudu munda iythea, pellam oorlo kanipinchea valandariki langa ethichupisthundhi 

so lite thesko....kudirthea 3sm chey 

@3$% amsterdam kadu adi india@3$%

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Just now, yomama said:

@3$% amsterdam kadu adi india@3$%

bhayyoo u underestimating bharathmaatha very badly..ippudu hyd lonea swapinglu, couple bumchik party luuu...abbo abbooooo chala avuthunay lea 

thokkalo 3chum emundhi seppu 

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1 hour ago, Android_Halwa said:

evariki...evari gurinchi...evariki chepthav...denigurinchi chepthavu...most importantly enduku chepthav...anthakante important, nuvvu evarivi bhai chepanika ?

a pendli aina pilla..evo patha gnapakalu...tirugutaru..timepass chesukuntaru...sachinatu wapas vellipotadi...idi end story.

when you know the end story, malli inkoka climax vesi story ni chedadobbudu endi vaya ?

poradu timepass chestundu...pilla husharu pilla..3 months tirugutaru...

tarvata evari daari valladi..dukan bandh..intha simple climax la..nuv vachi..valla amma ayya ki cheppi..complicate chesi..intlalla lollillu..enduku vaya ? avasarama cheppu ?

idichey vallani..thita dige varaku tirugutaru...diginanka evadi daari vallu susukuntaru...

kali peeli velu petti gelakadam enduku...

naku telsi ee TS ki jeaulous anukunta bhayya..ediki 3yrs tharuvatha GF kuda enta padthundhi naku em ledhu ani @3$%

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