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As most know here, I'm just married a lil over an year(arranged )
Lot of ups and downs I have faced in this one year more because of me staying in different city due to studies and inlaws manipulating DH.

Both PILs are not educated and are highly orthodox type but still I had told clearly before marriage that I'm not totally traditional and yet I value traditions just I don't follow blindly or believe in superstitions.
My DH was okay and promised that i can be myself after marriage too.
My FIL n MIL had demanded lot of things after marriage and I stepped my foot down and told them no more demands will be fulfilled by my parents.
This caused lot of huge dramas and abuses from FIL to my father n all. My DH was silent and even if he tried to support me, his father would shut him up and say to stay away from "elderly people discussions about marriage customs".


Fast forward to one year, with DH being puppet in his parents hands and their continuous harassing my father that we didn't follow traditions and how we insulted them by not giving gifts on festivals and all...I couldn't take it anymore and talked with my husband clearly to stop his father but my husband told me not to involve him or talk about these to him as it's between both sets of parents.

I was shattered that my DH would not even stand by my side. But I decided to fight alone so I have talked directly to FIL to stop harassing my father. Soon things heated up between us and we had huge arguments. As a final decision, I told him that I will file dowry harassment case on them and put them behind bars for causing mental torture to me and my parents.

Now pils stopped asking/ demanding things and stopped totally talking to me or my parents. Even DH stopped talking to me and my family.

I stay in PG accomodation in different city and only way of contact is via phone calls/social media.

How do I save marriage from failing? Have I destroyed my marriage by my own hands?
How do I explain to my husband that demanding things from girls parents in the name of tradition is not right?
I still love him because he is not a bad guy. He is just too much influenced by his parents.

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16 minutes ago, rapchik said:

As most know here, I'm just married a lil over an year(arranged )
Lot of ups and downs I have faced in this one year more because of me staying in different city due to studies and inlaws manipulating DH.

Both PILs are not educated and are highly orthodox type but still I had told clearly before marriage that I'm not totally traditional and yet I value traditions just I don't follow blindly or believe in superstitions.
My DH was okay and promised that i can be myself after marriage too.
My FIL n MIL had demanded lot of things after marriage and I stepped my foot down and told them no more demands will be fulfilled by my parents.
This caused lot of huge dramas and abuses from FIL to my father n all. My DH was silent and even if he tried to support me, his father would shut him up and say to stay away from "elderly people discussions about marriage customs".


Fast forward to one year, with DH being puppet in his parents hands and their continuous harassing my father that we didn't follow traditions and how we insulted them by not giving gifts on festivals and all...I couldn't take it anymore and talked with my husband clearly to stop his father but my husband told me not to involve him or talk about these to him as it's between both sets of parents.

I was shattered that my DH would not even stand by my side. But I decided to fight alone so I have talked directly to FIL to stop harassing my father. Soon things heated up between us and we had huge arguments. As a final decision, I told him that I will file dowry harassment case on them and put them behind bars for causing mental torture to me and my parents.

Now pils stopped asking/ demanding things and stopped totally talking to me or my parents. Even DH stopped talking to me and my family.

I stay in PG accomodation in different city and only way of contact is via phone calls/social media.

How do I save marriage from failing? Have I destroyed my marriage by my own hands?
How do I explain to my husband that demanding things from girls parents in the name of tradition is not right?
I still love him because he is not a bad guy. He is just too much influenced by his parents.

Naatho maatladu direct ga .. friendly ga undave.. endhuku mana samsaaaranni ilaa online lo pedathav.. weekend ki PG place ki ostha aada sardhukupodam

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10 minutes ago, TOM_BHAYYA said:

Naatho maatladu direct ga .. friendly ga undave.. endhuku mana samsaaaranni ilaa online lo pedathav.. weekend ki PG place ki ostha aada sardhukupodam

PG address telsa neeku ...correct ga chepu...chudu chepaleka poyav..neeku prema ledhu anteh ..nuvu anthe  hhhhhhhhh.gif?1344628027

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37 minutes ago, rapchik said:

As most know here, I'm just married a lil over an year(arranged )
Lot of ups and downs I have faced in this one year more because of me staying in different city due to studies and inlaws manipulating DH.

Both PILs are not educated and are highly orthodox type but still I had told clearly before marriage that I'm not totally traditional and yet I value traditions just I don't follow blindly or believe in superstitions.
My DH was okay and promised that i can be myself after marriage too.
My FIL n MIL had demanded lot of things after marriage and I stepped my foot down and told them no more demands will be fulfilled by my parents.
This caused lot of huge dramas and abuses from FIL to my father n all. My DH was silent and even if he tried to support me, his father would shut him up and say to stay away from "elderly people discussions about marriage customs".


Fast forward to one year, with DH being puppet in his parents hands and their continuous harassing my father that we didn't follow traditions and how we insulted them by not giving gifts on festivals and all...I couldn't take it anymore and talked with my husband clearly to stop his father but my husband told me not to involve him or talk about these to him as it's between both sets of parents.

I was shattered that my DH would not even stand by my side. But I decided to fight alone so I have talked directly to FIL to stop harassing my father. Soon things heated up between us and we had huge arguments. As a final decision, I told him that I will file dowry harassment case on them and put them behind bars for causing mental torture to me and my parents.

Now pils stopped asking/ demanding things and stopped totally talking to me or my parents. Even DH stopped talking to me and my family.

I stay in PG accomodation in different city and only way of contact is via phone calls/social media.

How do I save marriage from failing? Have I destroyed my marriage by my own hands?
How do I explain to my husband that demanding things from girls parents in the name of tradition is not right?
I still love him because he is not a bad guy. He is just too much influenced by his parents.

move on fafa.... there is a long line list of bachelors who want to get married.. 

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42 minutes ago, rapchik said:

As most know here, I'm just married a lil over an year(arranged )
Lot of ups and downs I have faced in this one year more because of me staying in different city due to studies and inlaws manipulating DH.

Both PILs are not educated and are highly orthodox type but still I had told clearly before marriage that I'm not totally traditional and yet I value traditions just I don't follow blindly or believe in superstitions.
My DH was okay and promised that i can be myself after marriage too.
My FIL n MIL had demanded lot of things after marriage and I stepped my foot down and told them no more demands will be fulfilled by my parents.
This caused lot of huge dramas and abuses from FIL to my father n all. My DH was silent and even if he tried to support me, his father would shut him up and say to stay away from "elderly people discussions about marriage customs".


Fast forward to one year, with DH being puppet in his parents hands and their continuous harassing my father that we didn't follow traditions and how we insulted them by not giving gifts on festivals and all...I couldn't take it anymore and talked with my husband clearly to stop his father but my husband told me not to involve him or talk about these to him as it's between both sets of parents.

I was shattered that my DH would not even stand by my side. But I decided to fight alone so I have talked directly to FIL to stop harassing my father. Soon things heated up between us and we had huge arguments. As a final decision, I told him that I will file dowry harassment case on them and put them behind bars for causing mental torture to me and my parents.

Now pils stopped asking/ demanding things and stopped totally talking to me or my parents. Even DH stopped talking to me and my family.

I stay in PG accomodation in different city and only way of contact is via phone calls/social media.

How do I save marriage from failing? Have I destroyed my marriage by my own hands?
How do I explain to my husband that demanding things from girls parents in the name of tradition is not right?
I still love him because he is not a bad guy. He is just too much influenced by his parents.

Women empowerment.

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