desi parents - comparisons

[Quickgun_murugan]

2 hours ago, naaperunenu said:

india lo appatlo (of course ippudu kooda) oorike pakkinti pillala tho comparing...vadi rank chudu, vadi score chudu, vadu adhi, vadu idhi, 

love da lo eamcet time aithey maree ghoram, especially sri chaitainya, narayana batch student parents, weekly monthly test scores ki kooda racha racha...comparing...

 

 , engineering ainaka placements lo kooda packages compare chesina parents kooda unnaru....vaadiki chudu antha vachindi anta...etc etc

 

same jabbu ikkada kooda konni pamilies paakisthunnayi...comparing....evo kumon, best brians lowda lasan ani unnai kada..akkada desi parents always talk mee abbayi ki idhi ela vachindi ..blah blah....

 

maarandi raa arey.....pillalni champakandi..mee mohalu manda..

those parents are failures in life man... they want their children to be successful than them coz they were failures in life...

ee comparisons anni chetta.... mana family system kuda oka reason... 

Indian families ki pillalu aasthulu... that makes them selfish and restricted/obligated in life... thats good but more bad..

[Srimantudu]

1 minute ago, Quickgun_murugan said:

those parents are failures in life man... they want their children to be successful than them coz they were failures in life...

ee comparisons anni chetta.... mana family system kuda oka reason... 

Indian families ki pillalu aasthulu... that makes them selfish and restricted/obligated in life... thats good but more bad..

ela penchalo cheppu good bad kakunda

[Quickgun_murugan]

1 minute ago, Srimantudu said:

ela penchalo cheppu good bad kakunda

Penchadam emundi man... give them opportunity to explore life... adi nerchuko idi nerchuko ani sava 10gakunda... basic education ichi... disciplined life alavatu cheyyali... dont do comparisons... your duty as a parent should be to provide them good ethics (what society feels its good), decent education, disciplined life style... inthakantey em ivvalsina pani ledu.. make it clear that they are going to be on their own as soon as they are 18 or 16 plus... 

as a parent dont get too attached/ dependent on your kid... its selfish... 

lot of Indian parents do this coz they feel children helps them in their old age... 99% wont even care about their parents after they are on their own... 

enno sacrifices / compromises ayyi parents penchithene 99% of the 1970 plus born batch dont even have time to take care of parents... some even fighthing with parents for extra money/property share.. Inka US lo perigina poragallaithe @aathcare

[argadorn]

[Srimantudu]

Just now, argadorn said:

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[uttermost]

16 minutes ago, Quickgun_murugan said:

Penchadam emundi man... give them opportunity to explore life... adi nerchuko idi nerchuko ani sava 10gakunda... basic education ichi... disciplined life alavatu cheyyali... dont do comparisons... your duty as a parent should be to provide them good ethics (what society feels its good), decent education, disciplined life style... inthakantey em ivvalsina pani ledu.. make it clear that they are going to be on their own as soon as they are 18 or 16 plus... 

adhey kadha kastam antunnaru ikkada

life ni explore cheyyatam antey?

parents are not losers. They are just busy with their life. do you think highly successful parents won't pressure their kids to do well at school? There's nothing wrong with pressuring kids. 

'exploring life' can be done when the kids get out of home.

good ethics antava.. impossible to teach that, when you consider society as standard for ethics. confusion lo untaadu kid. appudu nuvvu, ethics ni ruddadam kooda pressuring aey.

Best thing to do to a kid is teach them as many skills as possible. Not leave them to 'explore life'.

[uttermost]

17 minutes ago, Quickgun_murugan said:

Penchadam emundi man... give them opportunity to explore life... adi nerchuko idi nerchuko ani sava 10gakunda... basic education ichi... disciplined life alavatu cheyyali... dont do comparisons... your duty as a parent should be to provide them good ethics (what society feels its good), decent education, disciplined life style... inthakantey em ivvalsina pani ledu.. make it clear that they are going to be on their own as soon as they are 18 or 16 plus... 

as a parent dont get too attached/ dependent on your kid... its selfish... 

lot of Indian parents do this coz they feel children helps them in their old age... 99% wont even care about their parents after they are on their own... 

enno sacrifices / compromises ayyi parents penchithene 99% of the 1970 plus born batch dont even have time to take care of parents... some even fighthing with parents for extra money/property share.. Inka US lo perigina poragallaithe @aathcare

society lo emundhi ethics? US lo better ethics unnayi anaku, pls. 

[cyndrilla]

3 hours ago, naaperunenu said:

india lo appatlo (of course ippudu kooda) oorike pakkinti pillala tho comparing...vadi rank chudu, vadi score chudu, vadu adhi, vadu idhi, 

love da lo eamcet time aithey maree ghoram, especially sri chaitainya, narayana batch student parents, weekly monthly test scores ki kooda racha racha...comparing...

 

 , engineering ainaka placements lo kooda packages compare chesina parents kooda unnaru....vaadiki chudu antha vachindi anta...etc etc

 

same jabbu ikkada kooda konni pamilies paakisthunnayi...comparing....evo kumon, best brians lowda lasan ani unnai kada..akkada desi parents always talk mee abbayi ki idhi ela vachindi ..blah blah....

 

maarandi raa arey.....pillalni champakandi..mee mohalu manda..

appudu pillalu kuda parents ni compare cheyyali..ne age CBN ipudu CM aindu ani, Chiranjeevi nagarjuna pedda heroes ainaru ani

[argadorn]

Just now, cyndrilla said:

appudu pillalu kuda parents ni compare cheyyali..ne age CBN ipudu CM aindu ani, Chiranjeevi nagarjuna pedda heroes ainaru ani

pocket money cut ....

[Quickgun_murugan]

58 minutes ago, uttermost said:

society lo emundhi ethics? US lo better ethics unnayi anaku, pls. 

Humans have designed certain rules for a safe living in the society... US aina India ayina .. ethics are same..

[uttermost]

1 minute ago, Quickgun_murugan said:

Humans have designed certain rules for a safe living in the society... US aina India ayina .. ethics are same..

I don't think you understand what ethics are. what you are saying is civil manners.

[Quickgun_murugan]

1 hour ago, uttermost said:

adhey kadha kastam antunnaru ikkada

life ni explore cheyyatam antey?

parents are not losers. They are just busy with their life. do you think highly successful parents won't pressure their kids to do well at school? There's nothing wrong with pressuring kids. 

'exploring life' can be done when the kids get out of home.

good ethics antava.. impossible to teach that, when you consider society as standard for ethics. confusion lo untaadu kid. appudu nuvvu, ethics ni ruddadam kooda pressuring aey.

Best thing to do to a kid is teach them as many skills as possible. Not leave them to 'explore life'.

skills nerpatam lo thappu ledu.. man.. adi evadu anatley... just compare chesi.. aa family vallu kid ni atu pamputunnaru memu pamputham ani aadi interests ki addu padutunnaru.. topic adi.. nothing else..

[Quickgun_murugan]

Just now, uttermost said:

I don't think you understand what ethics are. what you are saying is civil manners.

there is a fine line between both... 

[uttermost]

3 minutes ago, Quickgun_murugan said:

skills nerpatam lo thappu ledu.. man.. adi evadu anatley... just compare chesi.. aa family vallu kid ni atu pamputunnaru memu pamputham ani aadi interests ki addu padutunnaru.. topic adi.. nothing else..

already cheppam. that parents do this because they are anxious. Not because they are losers.

parenting is an incredibly hard job. edho basic education ippinchi. allow them to explore life is a very bad idea anedhi chepthunna.

[uttermost]

3 minutes ago, Quickgun_murugan said:

there is a fine line between both... 

No. They are not even related.

ethics, morals are something a person develops for himself. parents teaching their personal ethics to the kids is putting pressure on them to conform.

civil manners are something kids kids pick up in interaction with society and something the parents can teach.