dealing

[srdh21]

15 hours ago, liteteesko said:

i and my wife have been married for about 5 years and we are not jelling well. I have anger issues. She has time management issues and other absent minded issues. doc deggariki vellam not very much progress. Usually she is a calm person. We have a kid and we both are working.

Na feeling and impression on her is like she is not well managed/organised person. Nene anni initiation teesukovali like kid doc appointment, bill payments, weekend plans etc. No mundu chupu ata all. but other wise family social life bane handle chestadi. so basically very laid back and na true feeling she is more like consumer ....consume the situation at home as it comes and just react to it. but  proactive ga emi cheyadu including showering love.  this is my opinion and she disagrees to this. Probbaly i am not seeing/feeling her efforts what she claims that she is doing.

matter enti ante idi ila undaga.. godavalu aitunayi.. like late chesina, ediana marchipoina, naku picha kopam vachi thidatanu. i should agree that na maatalu koncham rude ga untayi not demeaning or any bad words. naku enti ante tanu nerchukovali  ani but tanu chesina porapatle malli malli chestadi. like making me wait some while doing shopping .... she repeats and repeats same things again again. I scold her and remind her you are not learning from past situations. She has a reason for everything but result matram unadu.  nenu chala hurting ga matladutanu ani, nenu thitidhte eduru inka recha kodatadi inka finally matter racha racha aitadi.

Nenu chala sarlu cheppanu, nenu koncham thidithe nuvvu enduku malli rechagodatavu koncham ice cheste na kopam taagutadi kada ani. but her response is Nenu emi mother teresa ni kadu.. nuvvu matldate mataldki ee manishi aina paurusham vasatdi ani.

Meeku ilanti sutuations vastunaya.. ela deal chestunaruuu? naku chaala heavy ga undi.. depression vastundi. 

first learn the fact that change has to come first within yourselves.. that is how to control your emotions by shielding it from outside influences

second, stop expecting that others should go by your direction, this is the root of all evil and you can never have happy life with this approach

third,  if you want a planned life, have a short conversation first thing in morning about that days plan or objective, keep reminding her if you want to keep track of things

humans are unprogrammed robots, they have to listen to their brain first, any deviations that you see are not interpreted as wrong in her brain, the only way it to slowly train her with patience

as you both are working, its not easy for women to focus on work life and family life, you have to take the lead in directing  how things move on daily basis

what you are going through is just a chaos that can happen in every family due to both of you working, this does not qualify as a factor for depression, take a chill pill and relax daily by using some form of meditation

when ever you get angry, go out for a walk and breathe (breathe in through nose and breath out through mouth)

try the above for minimum 3-4 times, i am sure things will fall in line, the other advantage is she will also learn to reciprocate by seeing the change in you

[tortoise]

8 minutes ago, srdh21 said:

first learn the fact that change has to come first within yourselves.. that is how to control your emotions by shielding it from outside influences

second, stop expecting that others should go by your direction, this is the root of all evil and you can never have happy life with this approach

third,  if you want a planned life, have a short conversation first thing in morning about that days plan or objective, keep reminding her if you want to keep track of things

humans are unprogrammed robots, they have to listen to their brain first, any deviations that you see are not interpreted as wrong in her brain, the only way it to slowly train her with patience

as you both are working, its not easy for women to focus on work life and family life, you have to take the lead in directing  how things move on daily basis

what you are going through is just a chaos that can happen in every family due to both of you working, this does not qualify as a factor for depression, take a chill pill and relax daily by using some form of meditation

when ever you get angry, go out for a walk and breathe (breathe in through nose and breath out through mouth)

try the above for minimum 3-4 times, i am sure things will fall in line, the other advantage is she will also learn to reciprocate by seeing the change in you

the best explanation 

[BabuBaddam]

13 minutes ago, srdh21 said:

first learn the fact that change has to come first within yourselves.. that is how to control your emotions by shielding it from outside influences

second, stop expecting that others should go by your direction, this is the root of all evil and you can never have happy life with this approach

third,  if you want a planned life, have a short conversation first thing in morning about that days plan or objective, keep reminding her if you want to keep track of things

humans are unprogrammed robots, they have to listen to their brain first, any deviations that you see are not interpreted as wrong in her brain, the only way it to slowly train her with patience

as you both are working, its not easy for women to focus on work life and family life, you have to take the lead in directing  how things move on daily basis

what you are going through is just a chaos that can happen in every family due to both of you working, this does not qualify as a factor for depression, take a chill pill and relax daily by using some form of meditation

when ever you get angry, go out for a walk and breathe (breathe in through nose and breath out through mouth)

try the above for minimum 3-4 times, i am sure things will fall in line, the other advantage is she will also learn to reciprocate by seeing the change in you

uncle are you married?

[LadiesTailor]

idhi chana couples lo vunde poblem ee.. control your anger.. take vacations regularly... okkasari wife ki nachina place and thanaki nachinattu plan chey.. next neeku nachinattu.. slow ga anne ave set avuthayu... 

[TOM_BHAYYA]

Dealing wife is an art.. be an artist antunna. @samaja_varagamana Anna

[alooparata]

3 minutes ago, TOM_BHAYYA said:

Dealing wife is an art.. be an artist antunna. @samaja_varagamana Anna

edho okati cheppatam, pakkanodi meeda thoyyatam..too dangerous persona 

[TOM_BHAYYA]

2 minutes ago, alooparata said:

edho okati cheppatam, pakkanodi meeda thoyyatam..too dangerous persona 

Samaja Anna ilaaantivi konni lachhal cheppadu bro

[vizagpower]

16 hours ago, TOM_BHAYYA said:

Enti ee pellainolla kastalu

@samaja_varagamana Anna mana bachelors jeevithaaale bindaaas

orinee eshalo tommy

[Android_Halwa]

8 hours ago, Heroin said:

I'm not pseudo feminist

oh then you must be a feminist...a true and real feminist..!!!! 

Makes sense...absolutely makes sense by the way you assume things...Phew..!

vimalakka...padmakka..lachamakka..brinda karat..barkkha dutt...now, oka heroine..!

[timmy]

once pellaithe nuvvu valla control lo undatame  nee control lo edhi undadhu ani @samaja_varagamana cheppamannadu 

[samaja_varagamana]

14 minutes ago, timmy said:

once pellaithe nuvvu valla control lo undatame  nee control lo edhi undadhu ani @samaja_varagamana cheppamannadu 

lol gif...........chepana idhi cheppey unta le

[samaja_varagamana]

1 hour ago, TOM_BHAYYA said:

Dealing wife is an art.. be an artist antunna. @samaja_varagamana Anna

6 pathvrthalu cinema lo artist ah guru garu

[Bandar_laddu]

2 minutes ago, samaja_varagamana said:

6 pathvrthalu cinema lo artist ah guru garu

Ochesadu ra annaya correct thread ki... Ipdu solve cheytame alasyam..

 

[samaja_varagamana]

1 minute ago, Bandar_laddu said:

Ochesadu ra annaya correct thread ki... Ipdu solve cheytame alasyam..

 

lol bandar baa navvesaa apice lo gattiga 

[samaja_varagamana]

17 hours ago, samaja_varagamana said:

Baa  to. Say this neeku chadastham ekva undi prob mee wife lo kadu neelo unatu undi....thanu chill undi undani....antha serious ga life theskoni em peeekestharu 

Nen chusina live case ma dad jill jill jiga antadu ma mummy ma dad ni agam patisthadi but they are good going couple

Jara comedy angle add chesko baaa life lo....enjoy the roller coaster ride

Naku oka relation lo italane unde

 

5 minutes ago, Bandar_laddu said:

Ochesadu ra annaya correct thread ki... Ipdu solve cheytame alasyam..

 

already ichesa karchulaki