Mental health issues

[NYCpal]

8 minutes ago, katie497 said:

Hi,

ee forum regular ga watch chesthuntanu.  ee post ki reason entante naku mee andari support and criticism ( need more of this) kavali. Im unable to get over few thoughts, but before I get to this let me introduce myself.

  exactly 15 months aindi US vachi, got married to a guy 8 years older to me, 1 month lo parents pelli fix chesaru. intial ga antha bagundi, trips, restaurants , konni families tho parties (who pretend to be friends)etc. 12 months aindi and then everything became boring and routine. I know its normal and then naa issues start ayyayi ( mostly with in my brain ) no complaints with my spouse. He is noraml ( chala reserved , friendly but not friendly, controlling but not controlling, may be we should call him more balanced, not outgoing at all, doesnt like talking to new people, prefers staying at home rather than talking to people ), kani naake depression laga start aindi, Back at home I had a few close friends who were there for me always , when ever I felt sad, alone I used to share my thoughts ala oka mini counselling ayyedi, kani nenu ikkadiki move ayyaka everyone got so busy ( may be with their husbands, planning for kids etc) and all of a sudden no body has got time for me. Complaning ani kaadu, they never return my calls , okavela call return chesina 2 mins quick ga matladi pettesthunnaru. Best friends ankunna vallantha casual friedns aipoyaru, US lo I couldnt make lot of friends, ala parties lo kalisthe matladadame thappa tarvata interaction undadu, sare Im overthinking ani anpinchi ( I need to keep myself busy) husband tho fight chesi ,  vallani vellani beg chesi H1 chepinchukunna ( naadi science background India lo, I worked in a pharma company for 1 year or so), java edo kashtapadi , Pr***y help tho job lo join ayya, 7 years exp ani pettesariki chala expectations unnayi naa meeda and as you all guessed I could not meet them and got fired in a month and then I had to come back. Idi ayyaka I lost all my confidence in life, cannot look at my husband in the eye and talk to him, suicidal ( I know please stop judging me ), depressed and decided Im not fit for anything and its better I just stay back at home. Life chala depressing ga anpisthundi , self respect thaggipoindi, nenante evariki ishtam ledu anpisthundi. Relatives chala mandi unnaru, kani evaru matladaru, friends unnaru evaru matladaru. Friends andaru life lo munduki velthunnaru, nenu ikkade stuck aipoya oka idiot laga, Why am I like this anpisthundi, I keep talking to myself, I keep counselling myself( naku telsu ivanni part of life and simple problems  ani, naa kante suffer ayye vallu chala mandi unnarani), I need to stop comparing my life with others

  I have many threads here where people asked for life advice and most of them have been supportive and critical as well, kani nenu ikkade ee story endhku vesthunna ante naaku support vaddu ( support , compassion kosam aithe indus ladies or 7cups.com ki velle danni) I want people to criticize me, tell me that Im a fool, I dont want to sympathize myself anymore, I want to get better. Please advise and help me get strong. I dont care ane attitude inculcate cheskovali, ela? Evaru lekapoina life lo brave ga unda galanu ani 

Explore ur options .pharma background Annav learn some related technologies instead of ***** n job suppport ... spend time in learning and go explore ur local areas ....though u don’t ur own car use public transit  ... volunteer cheyi only to meet different ppl other than those typical desis in parties ....

nothing to  criticize or empathize ur situation .... all u need is some guidance...

 

[LordOfMud]

1 minute ago, samaja_varagamana said:

ochesa chepandi what are your wants 

Good,

ee wife of one's uncle ne tagulukoo..........

[princeofheaven]

12 minutes ago, katie497 said:

Hi,

ee forum regular ga watch chesthuntanu.  ee post ki reason entante naku mee andari support and criticism ( need more of this) kavali. Im unable to get over few thoughts, but before I get to this let me introduce myself.

  exactly 15 months aindi US vachi, got married to a guy 8 years older to me, 1 month lo parents pelli fix chesaru. intial ga antha bagundi, trips, restaurants , konni families tho parties (who pretend to be friends)etc. 12 months aindi and then everything became boring and routine. I know its normal and then naa issues start ayyayi ( mostly with in my brain ) no complaints with my spouse. He is noraml ( chala reserved , friendly but not friendly, controlling but not controlling, may be we should call him more balanced, not outgoing at all, doesnt like talking to new people, prefers staying at home rather than talking to people ), kani naake depression laga start aindi, Back at home I had a few close friends who were there for me always , when ever I felt sad, alone I used to share my thoughts ala oka mini counselling ayyedi, kani nenu ikkadiki move ayyaka everyone got so busy ( may be with their husbands, planning for kids etc) and all of a sudden no body has got time for me. Complaning ani kaadu, they never return my calls , okavela call return chesina 2 mins quick ga matladi pettesthunnaru. Best friends ankunna vallantha casual friedns aipoyaru, US lo I couldnt make lot of friends, ala parties lo kalisthe matladadame thappa tarvata interaction undadu, sare Im overthinking ani anpinchi ( I need to keep myself busy) husband tho fight chesi ,  vallani vellani beg chesi H1 chepinchukunna ( naadi science background India lo, I worked in a pharma company for 1 year or so), java edo kashtapadi , Pr***y help tho job lo join ayya, 7 years exp ani pettesariki chala expectations unnayi naa meeda and as you all guessed I could not meet them and got fired in a month and then I had to come back. Idi ayyaka I lost all my confidence in life, cannot look at my husband in the eye and talk to him, suicidal ( I know please stop judging me ), depressed and decided Im not fit for anything and its better I just stay back at home. Life chala depressing ga anpisthundi , self respect thaggipoindi, nenante evariki ishtam ledu anpisthundi. Relatives chala mandi unnaru, kani evaru matladaru, friends unnaru evaru matladaru. Friends andaru life lo munduki velthunnaru, nenu ikkade stuck aipoya oka idiot laga, Why am I like this anpisthundi, I keep talking to myself, I keep counselling myself( naku telsu ivanni part of life and simple problems  ani, naa kante suffer ayye vallu chala mandi unnarani), I need to stop comparing my life with others

  I have many threads here where people asked for life advice and most of them have been supportive and critical as well, kani nenu ikkade ee story endhku vesthunna ante naaku support vaddu ( support , compassion kosam aithe indus ladies or 7cups.com ki velle danni) I want people to criticize me, tell me that Im a fool, I dont want to sympathize myself anymore, I want to get better. Please advise and help me get strong. I dont care ane attitude inculcate cheskovali, ela? Evaru lekapoina life lo brave ga unda galanu ani 

first stop this expectation of yours for friends relatives etc. US lo evadi saavu vaadidi no one cares about the other. Some dont care about their siblings also. Nenu MS lo best friends anukoni desam antha tirigina friends ee ippudu max month ki oka call for 5 min.

[Bairagi From Bapatla]

Idhi nijamaina post and nu nijam ayithe.

ee phase mostly andharu face chestharu but different scenarios, univ ayyaka opt lo vachinavadiki job raaka bench meedha undi interview crack cheyaleka self confidence dobbi depression, h1 unnodiki contract untadha poyidha family etc ila enno. So idhem pedha prob kadu flow lo vellipovatame.

okasari pelli ayyi nee life neeku unnaka entha best frnds ayina gantalu matladaru edaina unte nee partner tho share chesuko. If money is not that imp nee background lo jobs vethuko thokkalo java c++ ila it kakunda. Salary takkuva unna job satisfaction untadi. But science field lo job antha easy ga radhu oka 200-300 apply chesthe oka 3-4 interviews vasthai and nu crack chesela undali.

and nee subj related chaduvuko emaina hobbies like crafts ala unte avi chei keep busy with some work... and evng mee partner vachaka anni share chesukoni manchiga matladandi. Ee depression thotakoora pothai.

[tom bhayya]

hotstar or yupp subscription theesukuni serials all languages lo cover chesi husband and in laws ni start

[vizagpower]

15 minutes ago, katie497 said:

Hi,

ee forum regular ga watch chesthuntanu.  ee post ki reason entante naku mee andari support and criticism ( need more of this) kavali. Im unable to get over few thoughts, but before I get to this let me introduce myself.

  exactly 15 months aindi US vachi, got married to a guy 8 years older to me, 1 month lo parents pelli fix chesaru. intial ga antha bagundi, trips, restaurants , konni families tho parties (who pretend to be friends)etc. 12 months aindi and then everything became boring and routine. I know its normal and then naa issues start ayyayi ( mostly with in my brain ) no complaints with my spouse. He is noraml ( chala reserved , friendly but not friendly, controlling but not controlling, may be we should call him more balanced, not outgoing at all, doesnt like talking to new people, prefers staying at home rather than talking to people ), kani naake depression laga start aindi, Back at home I had a few close friends who were there for me always , when ever I felt sad, alone I used to share my thoughts ala oka mini counselling ayyedi, kani nenu ikkadiki move ayyaka everyone got so busy ( may be with their husbands, planning for kids etc) and all of a sudden no body has got time for me. Complaning ani kaadu, they never return my calls , okavela call return chesina 2 mins quick ga matladi pettesthunnaru. Best friends ankunna vallantha casual friedns aipoyaru, US lo I couldnt make lot of friends, ala parties lo kalisthe matladadame thappa tarvata interaction undadu, sare Im overthinking ani anpinchi ( I need to keep myself busy) husband tho fight chesi ,  vallani vellani beg chesi H1 chepinchukunna ( naadi science background India lo, I worked in a pharma company for 1 year or so), java edo kashtapadi , Pr***y help tho job lo join ayya, 7 years exp ani pettesariki chala expectations unnayi naa meeda and as you all guessed I could not meet them and got fired in a month and then I had to come back. Idi ayyaka I lost all my confidence in life, cannot look at my husband in the eye and talk to him, suicidal ( I know please stop judging me ), depressed and decided Im not fit for anything and its better I just stay back at home. Life chala depressing ga anpisthundi , self respect thaggipoindi, nenante evariki ishtam ledu anpisthundi. Relatives chala mandi unnaru, kani evaru matladaru, friends unnaru evaru matladaru. Friends andaru life lo munduki velthunnaru, nenu ikkade stuck aipoya oka idiot laga, Why am I like this anpisthundi, I keep talking to myself, I keep counselling myself( naku telsu ivanni part of life and simple problems  ani, naa kante suffer ayye vallu chala mandi unnarani), I need to stop comparing my life with others

  I have many threads here where people asked for life advice and most of them have been supportive and critical as well, kani nenu ikkade ee story endhku vesthunna ante naaku support vaddu ( support , compassion kosam aithe indus ladies or 7cups.com ki velle danni) I want people to criticize me, tell me that Im a fool, I dont want to sympathize myself anymore, I want to get better. Please advise and help me get strong. I dont care ane attitude inculcate cheskovali, ela? Evaru lekapoina life lo brave ga unda galanu ani 

have chex mex daily 

[Gains]

Just now, princeofheaven said:

first stop this expectation of yours for friends relatives etc. US lo evadi saavu vaadidi no one cares about the other. Some dont care about their siblings also. Nenu MS lo best friends anukoni desam antha tirigina friends ee ippudu max month ki oka call for 5 min.

[idibezwada]

2 minutes ago, Amrita said:

Your problems are very common. Everyone faces them. Job pote husband ni face cheyalekapovadam is little immatured. Ikkada andariki jobs potayi vastayi. Just keep ur chin up. You are just overthinking. Have some activity , go to gym or pursue a hobby to keep yourself busy..anni set ayipotai.

mee andariki pothu vastai emo...maa GG akkaki vaste podu..malli malli vastuntadi..they will send cabs and beg her to join

[LordOfMud]

4 minutes ago, Amrita said:

Your problems are very common. Everyone faces them. Job pote husband ni face cheyalekapovadam is little immatured. Ikkada andariki jobs potayi vastayi. Just keep ur chin up. You are just overthinking. Have some activity , go to gym or pursue a hobby to keep yourself busy.  Basically jsut husband to time spend cheyalanna focus lekunda have a world for yourself too...anni set ayipotai.

34 posts in >4yrs......

[Amrita]

1 minute ago, idibezwada said:

mee andariki pothu vastai emo...maa GG akkaki vaste podu..malli malli vastuntadi..they will send cabs and beg her to join

[Sreeven]

Just now, vizagpower said:

have chex mex daily 

Husband thone na? papam husband roju entha cheyagadu..vadiki kuda work tensions vuntai kada..yantram sarigga pani cheyaliga

[Detriotlions]

2 minutes ago, idibezwada said:

mee andariki pothu vastai emo...maa GG akkaki vaste podu..malli malli vastuntadi..they will send cabs and beg her to join

malli GG enduku vachinda baa

 

[idibezwada]

nenu gatha 3 hrs nunchi prathi 15 minski okasari maa annaki call chestuna...laddulodhi cut chestunnadu kani oka msg pettatla call back cheyatla..

[TOM_BHAYYA]

6 minutes ago, idibezwada said:

idevado nalane unnadu..

Bro .. okasari mee wifie phone browser lo a ani kotti chudu.. andhraftiends suggesfions ochindhante inka nuvv confirm aipodhuv

[TOM_BHAYYA]

Just now, idibezwada said:

nenu gatha 3 hrs nunchi prathi 15 minski okasari maa annaki call chestuna...laddulodhi cut chestunnadu kani oka msg pettatla call back cheyatla..

Eesaari.. eppudqnna kalusthe oka 5k  no 10k no appu theesko bro.. odhhanna chesthuntadu