Mental health issues

[TOM_BHAYYA]

2 minutes ago, katie497 said:

Not sure about that. I got to be lot more stronger , thanks anyway

Saint Louis area aithe cheppu.. Nee ontarithanam Nee bhayam Nee pieikithamam

nee amayakathvam

pogottestha

[9ine]

2 minutes ago, katie497 said:

Not sure about that. I got to be lot more stronger , thanks anyway

ladies eno baa..tega think chestaaru..play games..stop thinking about others and think about your family.. learn something you dont know.. java nerchuko...malli job ki apply cheyyi..lots of friends got fired from their fitst job...keep trying..stop complaining..

[chittimallu2]

57 minutes ago, katie497 said:

Best friends ankunna vallantha casual friedns aipoyaru,

same here... maybe its time we realise that we have grown into more of an adult now... if I remember now when I was growing up maa ayya ki peddha friends leru, his life was work, kids and everything around it... I think its that phase of life where everyone gets busy with their families

[katie497]

43 minutes ago, Bairagi From Bapatla said:

Idhi nijamaina post and nu nijam ayithe.

ee phase mostly andharu face chestharu but different scenarios, univ ayyaka opt lo vachinavadiki job raaka bench meedha undi interview crack cheyaleka self confidence dobbi depression, h1 unnodiki contract untadha poyidha family etc ila enno. So idhem pedha prob kadu flow lo vellipovatame.

okasari pelli ayyi nee life neeku unnaka entha best frnds ayina gantalu matladaru edaina unte nee partner tho share chesuko. If money is not that imp nee background lo jobs vethuko thokkalo java c++ ila it kakunda. Salary takkuva unna job satisfaction untadi. But science field lo job antha easy ga radhu oka 200-300 apply chesthe oka 3-4 interviews vasthai and nu crack chesela undali.

and nee subj related chaduvuko emaina hobbies like crafts ala unte avi chei keep busy with some work... and evng mee partner vachaka anni share chesukoni manchiga matladandi. Ee depression thotakoora pothai.

thank you, already ade process lo unna, options explore chesthunna, set avadam ledu anthe, matter of time ani telsu, asalu ann itelsu kani ee pichi mind ila undi. 

[dakumangalsingh]

53 minutes ago, katie497 said:

Hi,

ee forum regular ga watch chesthuntanu.  ee post ki reason entante naku mee andari support and criticism ( need more of this) kavali. Im unable to get over few thoughts, but before I get to this let me introduce myself.

  exactly 15 months aindi US vachi, got married to a guy 8 years older to me, 1 month lo parents pelli fix chesaru. intial ga antha bagundi, trips, restaurants , konni families tho parties (who pretend to be friends)etc. 12 months aindi and then everything became boring and routine. I know its normal and then naa issues start ayyayi ( mostly with in my brain ) no complaints with my spouse. He is noraml ( chala reserved , friendly but not friendly, controlling but not controlling, may be we should call him more balanced, not outgoing at all, doesnt like talking to new people, prefers staying at home rather than talking to people ), kani naake depression laga start aindi, Back at home I had a few close friends who were there for me always , when ever I felt sad, alone I used to share my thoughts ala oka mini counselling ayyedi, kani nenu ikkadiki move ayyaka everyone got so busy ( may be with their husbands, planning for kids etc) and all of a sudden no body has got time for me. Complaning ani kaadu, they never return my calls , okavela call return chesina 2 mins quick ga matladi pettesthunnaru. Best friends ankunna vallantha casual friedns aipoyaru, US lo I couldnt make lot of friends, ala parties lo kalisthe matladadame thappa tarvata interaction undadu, sare Im overthinking ani anpinchi ( I need to keep myself busy) husband tho fight chesi ,  vallani vellani beg chesi H1 chepinchukunna ( naadi science background India lo, I worked in a pharma company for 1 year or so), java edo kashtapadi , Pr***y help tho job lo join ayya, 7 years exp ani pettesariki chala expectations unnayi naa meeda and as you all guessed I could not meet them and got fired in a month and then I had to come back. Idi ayyaka I lost all my confidence in life, cannot look at my husband in the eye and talk to him, suicidal ( I know please stop judging me ), depressed and decided Im not fit for anything and its better I just stay back at home. Life chala depressing ga anpisthundi , self respect thaggipoindi, nenante evariki ishtam ledu anpisthundi. Relatives chala mandi unnaru, kani evaru matladaru, friends unnaru evaru matladaru. Friends andaru life lo munduki velthunnaru, nenu ikkade stuck aipoya oka idiot laga, Why am I like this anpisthundi, I keep talking to myself, I keep counselling myself( naku telsu ivanni part of life and simple problems  ani, naa kante suffer ayye vallu chala mandi unnarani), I need to stop comparing my life with others

  I have many threads here where people asked for life advice and most of them have been supportive and critical as well, kani nenu ikkade ee story endhku vesthunna ante naaku support vaddu ( support , compassion kosam aithe indus ladies or 7cups.com ki velle danni) I want people to criticize me, tell me that Im a fool, I dont want to sympathize myself anymore, I want to get better. Please advise and help me get strong. I dont care ane attitude inculcate cheskovali, ela? Evaru lekapoina life lo brave ga unda galanu ani 

Adi Db lo esinav kada inka chaalu ppl judgement ki inka depression loki pothav.

if you drive or have a license, there are lots of things to do. you can volunteer red cross ( ante pharma background ani cheptunna)

local library ki velli volunteer opportunities kanukoo, emanna groups vunte meet avvu.

neeku frnds leru ane problem deni gurinchhi desi frnds leru ani or asalu frnds leru ani haa

meet up groups vuntayyi photography groups,hiking groups, software developers group ani or music guitar groups ani try to make friends with them.

but what I am not able to understand is if there is no problem with u r hubby why did u post u guys have 8 yrs gaps and all. i am not able to understand whats there to do with you being depressed and your hubby is older to you. same age group vunte emanna theda ostundaa ani adagaku depends on the individual

[dakumangalsingh]

46 minutes ago, idibezwada said:

mee andariki pothu vastai emo...maa GG akkaki vaste podu..malli malli vastuntadi..they will send cabs and beg her to join

amrita is GG emo ani naa doubt

[cyndrilla]

You are on the right track..Explore options and find a job..

Job unte life disciplined untadhi..empty mind is devil's workshop annattu alaane untadhi..

It's just a phase and you are not alone..

It's completely ok to feel that way..be positive..meditate, work out...

Be busy

[katie497]

31 minutes ago, samaja_varagamana said:

If u r not mod and if its not fake post 

Simple ga cheptha vinuuu

1)You r basically missing india 15 months ke neeku ee feel osthe .

2) Imagine u r life is like a train .....mundu nundi undey valu parents husband friends etc etc ....everyone gets down in one station or the other last station varaku nuvve velthav.so decide what u eventually need in life deeniki chala time padthadi take that time.

3)Sympathy odhu antunav ante u r already a winner.....andaru nee frnds ey anuko diff race lang valani kuda see diff ppls life.........db ki osthu undu anthe

Not a mod ( Mod ante?), definitely fake kaadu, pichekkindi ani fake cheyalsina pani emundi.  and thank you for your words.  winner kaadu le, chala dooram undi

[katie497]

20 minutes ago, erragulabi said:

I think you are taking life very seriously.  Nee friends e kadu andari friends ala ne untaru. Ppl get married and they get busy with their new life and kids. Job interest lekunte get busy gardening, cooking, exploring new stuff. You are perfectly alright no worries.

manalni evarina sarigga treat cheyatleru ante , adi entha badha ga untado telsa, america lo ochaka telsindi, mana status ki janalu entha viluva istharo, successful aithene matladanki interest chupistharu lekapothe mokam kuda chudaru antha fake crap undi ikada

[vizagpower]

11 minutes ago, TOM_BHAYYA said:

Saint Louis area aithe cheppu.. Nee ontarithanam Nee bhayam Nee pieikithamam

nee amayakathvam

pogottestha

pilava kunda 10stava ???? drohi

[vizagpower]

Just now, kasi said:

 

try sleeping around with people........that might help you

anta harsh language vaddule baiaya

 

[katie497]

12 minutes ago, Quickgun_murugan said:

Atleast thats a sound advise... 

Agreed... stay away from this DB for such stuff ...

Yes I think its a mistake posting these issues here

[kasi]

Just now, vizagpower said:

anta harsh language vaddule baiaya

 

anthea basu....meeru suggest chesthea...machi......adhea memu chesthea harsh antaru 

[vizagpower]

37 minutes ago, samaja_varagamana said:

If u r not mod and if its not fake post 

Simple ga cheptha vinuuu

1)You r basically missing india 15 months ke neeku ee feel osthe .

2) Imagine u r life is like a train .....mundu nundi undey valu parents husband friends etc etc ....everyone gets down in one station or the other last station varaku nuvve velthav.so decide what u eventually need in life deeniki chala time padthadi take that time.

3)Sympathy odhu antunav ante u r already a winner.....andaru nee frnds ey anuko diff race lang valani kuda see diff ppls life.........db ki osthu undu anthe

baa india lo TC kinda workdaa ??

[Bathai_Babji]

Just now, katie497 said:

Yes I think its a mistake posting these issues here

abbah Dosa bhale teragesavey ....