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2 minutes ago, Batman_fan said:

Who cares about these. Gen Y prefers cities that like to be innovative. Pittsburgh is one of those cities. 

Yea i like shady side and squirrel hill though

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Mohammed Ashraf
INDIA
AGE: 63
ORIGIN: Hyderabad, India
PITTSBURGH HOME: West End
OCCUPATION: Retired
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A 'CIRCLE OF LOVE'

 
 

When Mohammed Ashraf was 21 and living in India, his mother said to him, “You have to come with me.” His mother took him to meet a young woman. “You have to marry this girl.” she said.

The young man was shocked. He wasn’t prepared for marriage. Yet here he was, being introduced to the woman who would be his life partner. Mohammed looked more closely. The girl had good eyes, good hair, good teeth.

So began Mohammed’s arranged marriage -- a tradition in his South Asian society.

Today, he is 63. The marriage, arranged more than four decades ago, has thrived, despite years in which the couple was separated by more than 8,000 miles. In fact, Mohammed cherishes the relationship as part of a rich tradition that maintains a “circle of love” -- a husband and wife care for each other and their children by assuming specific roles and duties. In doing so, the couple teach the children to love, respect and care for their own families. And so the tradition continues -- now in Pittsburgh’s West End, where Mohammed and his wife have their home.

Mohammed was born and reared in Hyderabad, one of India’s largest cities. He came to the United States in the mid-1990s, traveling to New York City to complete a business deal. Then came bad luck: The business collapsed and Mohammed lost all his money.

In need of a job, he scanned the classified ads of the newspaper India Abroad and saw a notice for a position at a 7-Eleven store in Pittsburgh. Mohammed dialed the telephone number. “Come to Pittsburgh tomorrow,” his future boss told him.

After a 10-hour bus ride, he arrived at the Greyhound station in Downtown. Soon he began a 13-year career as a cashier and then manager of a 7-Eleven in the North Hills.

His wife and seven children remained half a world away in India. He kept loneliness at bay by working long hours. “I didn’t have a lot of time to think about my family,” he says.

Mohammed understood his role as a traditional father: To provide for his wife so she could raise the children. “What is marriage?” he asks. “Not only sex. You take care of her. Most important thing you provide is food. Second, shelter. Third, clothing.”

In June 2008, his wife and youngest son finally were able to join him in Pittsburgh. When he left work to pick them up at the airport, Mohammed shed tears of happiness -- tears that stopped flowing before he reached the terminal. Mohammed would not allow himself to cry in front of his wife.

He retired in 2011. He’s proud that his son, now 27, is committed to helping care for him and his wife as they age. Though Mohammed is careful not to judge others, he is puzzled to see elderly Pittsburghers shopping by themselves, struggling with grocery bags and carts. He wonders, “Where are the sons and daughters?”

Now, Mohammed is improving his English by taking classes at the Greater Pittsburgh Literacy Council and spending time with the woman he married so abruptly more than four decades ago.

“I live for my wife, and my wife lives for me,” he says.

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