There is no “affair proof” marriage

[uttermost]

What an amazing write up. Every MRA asshole, Red Pill fcuker should read this, and reflect on why they don't have partners. hint: Its not because women have legally started "exploiting" relationships.

Its because they don't understand relationships, and how even when fragile trust in a relationship is broken, it is possible to pick up the pieces and make a new one, if only one wants to. 

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/12/18/in-defense-of-adulterers

Decades of administering to adulterers and their anguished spouses have convinced her that we need “a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about infidelity,” one that acknowledges that “the intricacies of love and desire don’t yield to simple categorizations of good and bad, victim and culprit.” Our judgmental attitude toward our transgressions does not make us any less likely to commit them, she argues—“infidelity has a tenacity that marriage can only envy”—and it keeps us from understanding why we transgress. The desire to stray is not evil but human.

[KATTIMAHESH]

[uttermost]

Perel takes a very stern line on what she sees as the excessive sense of entitlement that contemporary couples bring to their relationships. Their outsized expectations of what marriage can and should provide—perpetual excitement, comfort, sexual bliss, intellectual stimulus, and so on—together with their callow, “consumerist” approach to romantic choices, leave them ill-equipped to cope with the inevitable frustrations and longueurs of the long haul. They are too quick to look elsewhere the moment that their “needs aren’t being met,” and too ready to despair the moment that the promise of sexual loyalty is broken. Those who show willingness to forgive infidelity risk being chastised by friends and relatives for their lack of gumption. Women, Perel notes, are under particular pressure these days to leave cheating spouses as a mark of their feminist “self-respect.”

[KATTIMAHESH]

2 minutes ago, uttermost said:

Perel takes a very stern line on what she sees as the excessive sense of entitlement that contemporary couples bring to their relationships. Their outsized expectations of what marriage can and should provide—perpetual excitement, comfort, sexual bliss, intellectual stimulus, and so on—together with their callow, “consumerist” approach to romantic choices, leave them ill-equipped to cope with the inevitable frustrations and longueurs of the long haul. They are too quick to look elsewhere the moment that their “needs aren’t being met,” and too ready to despair the moment that the promise of sexual loyalty is broken. Those who show willingness to forgive infidelity risk being chastised by friends and relatives for their lack of gumption. Women, Perel notes, are under particular pressure these days to leave cheating spouses as a mark of their feminist “self-respect.”

ru a mentally retarded person bro?

[uttermost]

So fcukers, stop putting threads on marriage, women, and stop giving free advices on sexual positions to those who start those threads.

Talking to someone about a relationship, other than the one you are in a relationship with, is totally pointless. And your performance in bed may not save you from a future transgression.

so stop deluding yourself, and live in the present. 

 

[uttermost]

Also petition to afdb_sai to close this db, so you have more conversations with real people, who have real aspirations.

[uttermost]

In her famous essay “Seduction and Betrayal,” she described the terrible wisdom vouchsafed to the betrayed heroine of classic literature: she “is never under the illusion that love or sex confers rights upon human beings. She may of course begin with the hope, and romance would scarcely be possible otherwise; however, the truth hits her sharply, like vision or revelation when the time comes. Affections are not thingsand persons never can become possessions, matters of ownership. The desolate soul knows this immediately and only the trivial pretend that it can be otherwise.”

[Bhai]

3 hours ago, uttermost said:

So fcukers, stop putting threads on marriage, women, and stop giving free advices on sexual positions to those who start those threads.

Talking to someone about a relationship, other than the one you are in a relationship with, is totally pointless. And your performance in bed may not save you from a future transgression.

so stop deluding yourself, and live in the present. 

 

[uttermost]

31 minutes ago, Bhai said:

every month will have atleast a 100 threads on 'women are...', 'how marriage should ..' etc

lol

[BossIzzWell]

6 hours ago, uttermost said:

Also petition to afdb_sai to close this db, so you have more conversations with real people, who have real aspirations.

ante nee laga db lo frustration teerchukokudadha evaru? 

[uttermost]

13 minutes ago, BossIzzWell said:

ante nee laga db lo frustration teerchukokudadha evaru? 

good question. 

enduko reply ichina, malli square 1 nundi conversation start chestharu anipisthundi. thin skin and thick brains.

so yes, they should not be allowed to show their frustration here.

[Bhai]

6 hours ago, uttermost said:

every month will have atleast a 100 threads on 'women are...', 'how marriage should ..' etc

lol

women are...

desi colleagues are...

paki/banglas are ....

Aunties are....

Sambar batch .....

Northies .....

Mallus.....

 

that's how we live man.

[Pitta]

13 hours ago, uttermost said:

So fcukers, stop putting threads on marriage, women, and stop giving free advices on sexual positions to those who start those threads.

Talking to someone about a relationship, other than the one you are in a relationship with, is totally pointless. And your performance in bed may not save you from a future transgression.

so stop deluding yourself, and live in the present. 

 

[Bhai]

16 minutes ago, Pitta said:

[Pitta]

Just now, Bhai said:

em undi akkada