My Colleague Is Torn Between Her Morals And Happiness

[Spartan]

Not sure how much it is OK for a married woman to give companionship to a male friend, who is unmarried?

A married woman (my housemate here at my new work place) has just entered into a new relationship with a never married guy of her age through FB.
He was a complete stranger to start with. However, there were plenty of common friends, and other identity to ensure that it is not a not fake IDs.
Even his background shows he is from a well cultured family. But you know, you cant judge someone from their FB.

It was an accidental friendship, where both the woman and men found each other as great companions within few days of chatting.
The man seems desperate, as he lives all alone (no parents, no partner and in his mid 30s) and found her company like water in a desert.
At the same time, my friend too was very lonely as she lives away from her family, and this was her first time international assignment.

She is torn between her morals and happiness, and unable to decide which path to chose.

She joined us only last month, and was crying all nights thinking about her children and husband.
In fact, she had developed health issues like sleeping disorder and gastritis due to this stress. Some times, she even had high BP which made us worried about her then.

Now that she says, she feels OK, because she could divert her mind from constant family stress to something relaxing like chatting with this man.
In fact, I could sense that from her behavior now a days.

On the other hand, from what she shares with me, I sensed that this man is slowly slipping emotionally here.
He could not wait even 30 mins away from chatting, like college lovers he pings her every now and then.
My friend is here on a temporary assignment and she would go home in December for good. She says she would forget about this guy as she would be very busy once she is at home.
But nothing will change in this man's life even after December. So, how come he could stay away from this relationship?
She is really worried about this, and didn't want this to be a problem in her marriage.

I don't think that she is flirting. I don't want her to be the moral custodian at the cost of her own happiness and health either.
She says that she refrains from face time and calls as it might further make her going close with this guy. Therefore she remains only with messenger chats, which makes sense.

At the same time, I am concerned about her future if this continues...
No husband will appreciate this, and will not understand the thin line she is respecting here.
On the other hand, she can not guarantee how this man will behave once she decides to break this after December?

Looks like she has communicated this to him, and asked him to consider her just as a time pass only. But she knows that he treats her more intimately.

As of now, both of them are living in 2 different countries... But after December, they would be back in their home town.

Since she has asked my opinion on this, I think I would be in a better place to opine if you all could share your insights on this, please.

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2 hours ago, Spartan said:

Not sure how much it is OK for a married woman to give companionship to a male friend, who is unmarried?

A married woman (my housemate here at my new work place) has just entered into a new relationship with a never married guy of her age through FB.
He was a complete stranger to start with. However, there were plenty of common friends, and other identity to ensure that it is not a not fake IDs.
Even his background shows he is from a well cultured family. But you know, you cant judge someone from their FB.

It was an accidental friendship, where both the woman and men found each other as great companions within few days of chatting.
The man seems desperate, as he lives all alone (no parents, no partner and in his mid 30s) and found her company like water in a desert.
At the same time, my friend too was very lonely as she lives away from her family, and this was her first time international assignment.

She is torn between her morals and happiness, and unable to decide which path to chose.

She joined us only last month, and was crying all nights thinking about her children and husband.
In fact, she had developed health issues like sleeping disorder and gastritis due to this stress. Some times, she even had high BP which made us worried about her then.

Now that she says, she feels OK, because she could divert her mind from constant family stress to something relaxing like chatting with this man.
In fact, I could sense that from her behavior now a days.

On the other hand, from what she shares with me, I sensed that this man is slowly slipping emotionally here.
He could not wait even 30 mins away from chatting, like college lovers he pings her every now and then.
My friend is here on a temporary assignment and she would go home in December for good. She says she would forget about this guy as she would be very busy once she is at home.
But nothing will change in this man's life even after December. So, how come he could stay away from this relationship?
She is really worried about this, and didn't want this to be a problem in her marriage.

I don't think that she is flirting. I don't want her to be the moral custodian at the cost of her own happiness and health either.
She says that she refrains from face time and calls as it might further make her going close with this guy. Therefore she remains only with messenger chats, which makes sense.

At the same time, I am concerned about her future if this continues...
No husband will appreciate this, and will not understand the thin line she is respecting here.
On the other hand, she can not guarantee how this man will behave once she decides to break this after December?

Looks like she has communicated this to him, and asked him to consider her just as a time pass only. But she knows that he treats her more intimately.

As of now, both of them are living in 2 different countries... But after December, they would be back in their home town.

Since she has asked my opinion on this, I think I would be in a better place to opine if you all could share your insights on this, please.

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