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15 minutes ago, eleven11 said:

Thank you for criticizing me , bullying me and hating me.  

a big thank you for all the supportive comments as well. 

 

@riashli thank you for all the support you showed

Nee problem real aa? Ayithe do not really bother about your husband right now. Sometimes the first one or two years is tough. You both are strangers still. So it is a little hard. First year lo nannu maa husband chalane criticize chesevadu. Idhi ila cheyyatam ledhu ala ledhu ani.I used to cry too. Naa valla ayinantha maarchukoni migathavi I cannot change ani gattiga cheppa. Sometimes it is about setting the expectations.Ginjukunna arichina I turn a deaf ear for things I cannot change. Nee case lo cannot change career ayithe turn a deaf ear to his criticisms. 

 Also men cannot get cues like women do. Most of them are quite simple beings. You have to talk and talk. Let them know what you want. Nuvvu indifferent untunnadu ante are you telling him what you are expecting? Try that and see. Also lower your expectations about married life. Not all men are made equal. Some are romantic and some have no sense of romance at all. Different flavors. Cinema lo unnatlu undadhu eppudu.

Third 2 months lo java nerchukovali ante konchem kashtam. Look for full time jobs locally and see which technology is looking for entry level and learn it. All the best. Also friends or husband's friends evaranna laaga galaremo choodu 

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35 minutes ago, Rushabhi said:

Nee problem real aa? Ayithe do not really bother about your husband right now. Sometimes the first one or two years is tough. You both are strangers still. So it is a little hard. First year lo nannu maa husband chalane criticize chesevadu. Idhi ila cheyyatam ledhu ala ledhu ani.I used to cry too. Naa valla ayinantha maarchukoni migathavi I cannot change ani gattiga cheppa. Sometimes it is about setting the expectations.Ginjukunna arichina I turn a deaf ear for things I cannot change. Nee case lo cannot change career ayithe turn a deaf ear to his criticisms. 

 Also men cannot get cues like women do. Most of them are quite simple beings. You have to talk and talk. Let them know what you want. Nuvvu indifferent untunnadu ante are you telling him what you are expecting? Try that and see. Also lower your expectations about married life. Not all men are made equal. Some are romantic and some have no sense of romance at all. Different flavors. Cinema lo unnatlu undadhu eppudu.

Third 2 months lo java nerchukovali ante konchem kashtam. Look for full time jobs locally and see which technology is looking for entry level and learn it. All the best. Also friends or husband's friends evaranna laaga galaremo choodu 

ivanni cheptunnav, first and foremost by saying such thing but by doing so, do you really think you are helping or encouraging or empowering ?

This person vachi oka issue chepindi, chepagane ala ela decide avutaru ? she might be committing som efundamentla mistakes..eeme side ae mistake vundochu kada....

dukh bhari kahani lokam la evadu chepina, vallaki anukulanga vundetatte cheptaru kani mana mistake entha vunna kuda cheparu...ie case vishayam lo kuda anthe...motham blame antha husband vaipu ae vundi kani wife side ae matram kuda mistake ledu anta...

remember, rendu chetulu kalisthe ne chapatlu.

 

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itlanti panikimalina advices ichi you guys are not helping but further deteriorating this newbie's jeevitham barbaad chestunaru...

campus selection job vachina kuda vadilesukuni vachindi ikadiki....enduku vadilesinaru ani adagandi ?

dollar dreams...! 

Did anyone force her to get married ani adagandi...

Putting up a victim face does not mean that she is really a victim..

@eleven11 sudu kaka, nee manchike...early years of marriage la kirkiri panchati vuntadi...nuvedo high hopes petukuni vachinatu vunnav...lanka antha kompa, lamba chauda car..full paisal, america la digina ante evanki vinedi ledu anatu vunnav....desi galla facebook selfies venukala enno daridralu vunnayi, avi kanipiyavu..

this is the phase where you are facing the world, reality endo ardam avutunna phase...kastha ghatu ga ne vuntadi...but nee manchike..

going against your husband or standing up on your own kakunda. why cant you think of setting your marriage straight ? 

 

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2 minutes ago, Android_Halwa said:

ivanni cheptunnav, first and foremost by saying such thing but by doing so, do you really think you are helping or encouraging or empowering ?

This person vachi oka issue chepindi, chepagane ala ela decide avutaru ? she might be committing som efundamentla mistakes..eeme side ae mistake vundochu kada....

dukh bhari kahani lokam la evadu chepina, vallaki anukulanga vundetatte cheptaru kani mana mistake entha vunna kuda cheparu...ie case vishayam lo kuda anthe...motham blame antha husband vaipu ae vundi kani wife side ae matram kuda mistake ledu anta...

remember, rendu chetulu kalisthe ne chapatlu.

 

Adhe ga cheppa. Thana tappu naaku teleedhu thana post batti answer chesa. Indifferent ga untunnadu ante neeku kavalsindi ento adugu ani cheppa. I am answering from a point of view where both are new to each other and the indifference criticisms are initial hiccups in every marriage. Akkada ammayini tittaledhu abbayini tittaledhu 

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@eleven11

EAD vunna...vuntado peekutado telvadu..anavasaramina kotlatalu petukuni, EAD tarvata, 2019 tarvata work chese option lekapothey inka worst situation lo vuntav.....

Go with an average...ipudu dukan teristhe, nuv sadivi , EAD apply chesi, adi vachi, jeetham ekkke varaku 6 months...ante mid 2019 esuko...atarvata niku entha time vundi...h1b evarana sponsor chestara...EAD peeki dobbithe situation endi...

avann idisey.,..mee ayina ki 2019 varaku vunatu vundi h1b...extension emana kirkiri aithe endi katha ?

possibilities endi...anavasaramaina women empowerment chusi rechipothe, neeke talkaya noppi ekuvaitadi...jara susuko,a agey peeche dekho...

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Just now, Veeraveera said:

TS needs this chedagottudu. 

Vuuuu....inka continue...nee flow bagundhi

ie range ecnouragement saal...

inko kompa kolleru avudu khayam...

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1 hour ago, eleven11 said:

Thank you for criticizing me , bullying me and hating me.  

a big thank you for all the supportive comments as well. 

 

@riashli thank you for all the support you showed

@eleven11

Sent an PM. Check and see if it makes sense. If it does, just respond. Good luck.

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