Can we handle a new born baby only by parents

[JANASENA]

Yes you can handle your kid without any support. We are doing the same without anyone’s support since the time he was born. My parents are old and have some health issues too so they had visa still I didn’t force them to come. They came here and stayed for a month and went back. Initially it would be very tough but later on you’ll get used to it. you have to cook certain foods after pregnancy to your wife. And if possible take WFH for 3 months. I did the same. Baby needs feeding every hour and at the same time mother needs also lot of rest. Ping me if you need anything. FYI it’s our first child. 

[athadu]

Bro! I am a Parent and soon to be parent again!

A couple of things for you to consider..  

You said this is your first one kada. Go for an EXPERIENCED nanny (American aina parledu) for atleast a couple of months. My reasons for this

        - First baby kabati both mom and dad ki kasta overwhelming ga untundi.. baby sleep cycle adjust avadaniki 3 months padutundi.. so you should have the energy to stay through the night.. 

        - Not all, but some women face post-partem depression.. this is the overwhelming feeling that i just described above... nothing to worry about.. but something you should watch out for. atleats for the first 2 months.. till the mom's hormones come back to normal

       - Natural/c there is at least 6 week recovery time for the mother..

It might cost you a few dollars but hiring a nanny, IMO, is the best thing to do. You DO NOT want to deal with any complications ( i am sure there will be none), but just saying though. 

I am sure ikada chala mandi post chesaru that they did all this without anyone's help. Again, as I said earlier, niku avakasam unte and if you can afford GO FOR A NANNY.

Again, you can do this on your own as well, but I wouldn't.

 

 

[LadiesTailor]

11 hours ago, Eswar_Eswar said:

Hi Friends,  wife delivery date is  on end of April  and parent-in laws visa rejected. Parents cant come due to health issues.  

Is it good idea to drop wife at home place India for delivery is good idea or not? If not going to India, how to handle new baby.  

planning to use indian nanny service. but don't know how reliable good in work . please share your thoughts

 

congratulations bro... you can manage without parents its not tough but very exhausting... but a beautiful experience... maaku  parents raledu and managed it... if both of you are working then look for a home nanny or day care after two or three months... 

first three to six months depends on kid nidra vundadu... share your duties... night shift okallu morning inkoakallu...

try to buy curries from outside.. some families will sell curries or chapathis... looks for those options.. mana food preparation lekapote you can spend all the time taking care of kid...

snanam cheyunchadaniki first time evvaranna pedda valla help teesukondi... easy ga alavatu ayupoddi.... 

enjoy your new journey.... and good luck.. 

[TensionNahiLeneka]

11 hours ago, Eswar_Eswar said:

My manager will come give 2 to 3 weeks WFH option and 2 weeks holidays. Its already approved from manager

4-5 weeks is enough anukuntunna. dhairyam to undali bro. nuvve tension padithe ela? you can handle it. good luck to your wife. 

[argadorn]

11 hours ago, Eswar_Eswar said:

My manager will come give 2 to 3 weeks WFH option and 2 weeks holidays. Its already approved from manager

ba telugu lo type cheseyi ...  

 

nanny service chala baga undhi 1000 estahy manchi ga chuskuntaru kondaru try that option

[InSearch]

11 hours ago, Eswar_Eswar said:

Hi Friends,  wife delivery date is  on end of April  and parent-in laws visa rejected. Parents cant come due to health issues.  

Is it good idea to drop wife at home place India for delivery is good idea or not? If not going to India, how to handle new baby.  

planning to use indian nanny service. but don't know how reliable good in work . please share your thoughts

 

1. First go for parental classess.. usually they offer in hospitals itself

2. Please do not listen to many friends or family, they will all confuse you. Just listen to your parents or in-laws

3. Take FMLA leave 

4. Use nanny services

5. As soon as the kid gets his/her OCI card, take them to India and they can stay back for few months

6. It's not rocket science to raise a kid

 

Don't worry and all the best!!!

[tom brady]

Indian nanny dorakkapothe go for american nanny..they will take good care as well, look for one who has good reviews in care.com

Il share one of my scariest experiences in initial days...my wife had 2 epidurals and there can be side effects for it. One evening, after a week of delivery, she had horrible shivers. I got called in evening by in-laws who are panicked as hell, it took 1hr for me in traffic to come home, call 911 and to take to emergency...

Not trying to scare you but there can be situations like this and you need to anticipate these as well and always be around your phoen. 

[kasi]

12 hours ago, Eswar_Eswar said:

Hi Friends,  wife delivery date is  on end of April  and parent-in laws visa rejected. Parents cant come due to health issues.  

Is it good idea to drop wife at home place India for delivery is good idea or not? If not going to India, how to handle new baby.  

planning to use indian nanny service. but don't know how reliable good in work . please share your thoughts

 

picha lite basu......100% manage cheyochu we did

ikkada hospitals classes untay, how to take care of the baby vatiki enroll avu 

house iythea asalu no issues..........update your manager, sleepless nite untay....but US lo 100% manage cheyochu 

 

buy everything that is needed, youtube chala resources untay.......frnds unataru kada

 

memu iythea ma kid ni US lo val laga  kitchen sink lo bath cheyichea vallam first lo 

 

[Rajugadu]

8 minutes ago, kasi said:

picha lite basu......100% manage cheyochu we did

ikkada hospitals classes untay, how to take care of the baby vatiki enroll avu 

house iythea asalu no issues..........update your manager, sleepless nite untay....but US lo 100% manage cheyochu 

 

buy everything that is needed, youtube chala resources untay.......frnds unataru kada

 

memu iythea ma kid ni US lo val laga  kitchen sink lo bath cheyichea vallam first lo 

 

Uncles chala mandi unnare...

ee thread lo answers avvagane malli youth ids lo vasthara meeru🤣🤣

[Maryadaramanna]

Congrats Bro...had been through this. 

My suggestion is you can manage if your wife is a home maker. However, first month will be very very tough. Infact 1st 2 weeks will be toughest. 

so, make sure you have elderly guidance atleast for 2 months. Inlaws visa malli apply chei; usually they are rejecting visiting visas for all, just for money. 2nd time maa family lo chaala mandiki vachindi.so, better apply again. 

Don't think to send your wife anywhere as she needs your support at all times.  

[pillirevanth]

Congratulations my friend.

Most of the members in this thread nailed down so many issues. 

Nanny service atleast oka 1 week delivery mundu nundi start chey, konchem money karchu  aina you both will be in sync.

Get the free breast pump from the below website with cooler pack. It will save lot of time for your wife and you can feed the baby by allowing your wife to rest.

https://tinyurl.com/ybyzbzx6

Cooking ni outsource chesav ante 60% of the headache avoid cheyochu.. if you don't find any one, try to make a deal with neighbors by paying them.

Focus on prenatal exercises and have chiropractor sessions which boost the chances of normal delivery. Remember 1st delivery C section or normal delivery aa andedi chala important for next pregnancies and lot of other benefits too. So try hard for normal delivery as for as you can..

Good luck..

[k2s]

12 hours ago, Eswar_Eswar said:

Hi Friends,  wife delivery date is  on end of April  and parent-in laws visa rejected. Parents cant come due to health issues.  

Is it good idea to drop wife at home place India for delivery is good idea or not? If not going to India, how to handle new baby.  

planning to use indian nanny service. but don't know how reliable good in work . please share your thoughts

 

Ikkada vallu just parents will take care of new born. 

[solman]

12 hours ago, Eswar_Eswar said:

Hi Friends,  wife delivery date is  on end of April  and parent-in laws visa rejected. Parents cant come due to health issues.  

Is it good idea to drop wife at home place India for delivery is good idea or not? If not going to India, how to handle new baby.  

planning to use indian nanny service. but don't know how reliable good in work . please share your thoughts

 

inko sari pampu visa ki mee in-laws ni

[Kalam_Youtheman]

13 hours ago, Eswar_Eswar said:

Hi Friends,  wife delivery date is  on end of April  and parent-in laws visa rejected. Parents cant come due to health issues.  

Is it good idea to drop wife at home place India for delivery is good idea or not? If not going to India, how to handle new baby.  

planning to use indian nanny service. but don't know how reliable good in work . please share your thoughts

 

good. 

[Kalam_Youtheman]

13 hours ago, JohnBertucci said:

Here i have seen many couples where husbands dont even change diaper for the baby, so change the mindset from typical indian men to caring  and sharing work.

dont change kaaadhu aa yedhavaaali raaadhu how to change it....pedhaa brahma vidya kaaadhu kuda

 

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