Spartan Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 My cousin sister is on the verge of divorce with her husband of 15 years. They have been together for aeons and were considered the perfect couple by many. So our family is shocked that they are getting a divorce and i am very close to my sister so I am particularly affected. The issue is she says she has never been happy. My BIL is a great guy, provides for the family, loves her, treats her well but is not the romantic kind of person and never has been. He is also controlling in terms of how they conduct their life and handles all their finances. My BIL is a businessman and is very successful so I believe his assertiveness comes from that. My BIL is also a little traditional compared to my sister and she has always hated this.She says there is no spark in the marriage. They also dont have kids due to 'unexplained infertility'. They have done several tests and been to several doctors over the years and have found no solutions. However this not an issue for them. Her main issue in the marriage is his controlling behaviour, his unromantic self and no spark in the marriage. They tried counselling but nothing has changed. She has now started an affair with another guy and wants to move on with him. She says she has found real love and has experienced 'the spark' for the first time. The guy is married and he wants to leave his wife. He doesnt seem reliable to me and I am worried my sister is going down the wrong path. I want the best for my sister but also think she should work on her marriage since my BIL is a great guy but at the same time if she says she has never been happy then that makes me sad for her. She deserves to be happy and excited. Have you or anyone you knew left a marriage for an affair ? Did the affair ever become an happily ever after ? If there is no spark in a marriage how does one fix it or get it back ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
solman Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 oppice lo emi work leda.. malli aa indus ki vellava endhi 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spartan Posted March 22, 2019 Author Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 Just now, solman said: oppice lo emi work leda.. malli aa indus ki vellava endhi Friday noon kada.. NFDB not working anduke..went to IL.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GucciGang Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 y divorce keep hubby for money and bf for love problem solved 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rapchik Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 There is a Subhashitam in Sanskrit “Kamaturanam na bhayam na lajja” meaning: One who is blinded by lust has neither fear nor shame. The fact is that when lust overtakes, beastly instincts enter by force and one loses control over his own senses and mind. It is such lustful beasts who commit gruesome deeds which even they admit after the event that it is heinous. About 3 to 4 decades ago though there were cases of crime against women the numbers were not as high as we are seeing in recent times; the reason could be the moral fear. The person who would lose control on the senses and his mind had the moral fear as the road block. He would think if he committed such a crime his sister,mother, wife or even daughter would face the same situation. Morally he would think the act was not right for him who is sure of revulsion. This moral fear was the reason for the person who was to commit a crime to retract and think of its consequences. Thanks to the rationalist this opportunity has been dismantled. In their enthusiasm to curb superstition the rationalists they have ripped the subtle fabric of morality. Since now the moral fear is not to be seen let us at least project the fear of law to stop the crime against women. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
solman Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 5 minutes ago, Spartan said: Friday noon kada.. NFDB not working anduke..went to IL.. down aaa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spartan Posted March 22, 2019 Author Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 Just now, solman said: down aaa yeah..pakka thread undi ga..dani gurinche. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
solman Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 2 minutes ago, Spartan said: yeah..pakka thread undi ga..dani gurinche. emo sudala Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LazyRohit Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 Lovedalodi ameki leni doola emeki endi unless she is the heroine of above film🤣 15 yrs ante age 40+ vuntadi aunty di inka enduku musali aunty take divorce and endo spark antandiga tagalada manu Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paidithalli Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 Nfdb is working now ... thanks for letting us know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOM_BHAYYA Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 Dheeni mogudini aadi pellanni okasari kalavamanu.. vaallakemaina spark osthe it’s win-win situation 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spartan Posted March 22, 2019 Author Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 3 minutes ago, Paidithalli said: Nfdb is working now ... thanks for letting us know nothing interesting today in free view board.. chat room lo undemo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tacobell fan Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 7 minutes ago, TOM_BHAYYA said: Dheeni mogudini aadi pellanni okasari kalavamanu.. vaallakemaina spark osthe it’s win-win situation @Odale and @Quickgun_murugan vadalali ga allu kalavali ante Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peddayana Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 what an idiot , divorce teesukovatam tappu kadu ila affair ante tappu , that guy is probably better off with out her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
psycopk Posted March 22, 2019 Report Share Posted March 22, 2019 1 hour ago, Spartan said: My cousin sister is on the verge of divorce with her husband of 15 years. They have been together for aeons and were considered the perfect couple by many. So our family is shocked that they are getting a divorce and i am very close to my sister so I am particularly affected. The issue is she says she has never been happy. My BIL is a great guy, provides for the family, loves her, treats her well but is not the romantic kind of person and never has been. He is also controlling in terms of how they conduct their life and handles all their finances. My BIL is a businessman and is very successful so I believe his assertiveness comes from that. My BIL is also a little traditional compared to my sister and she has always hated this.She says there is no spark in the marriage. They also dont have kids due to 'unexplained infertility'. They have done several tests and been to several doctors over the years and have found no solutions. However this not an issue for them. Her main issue in the marriage is his controlling behaviour, his unromantic self and no spark in the marriage. They tried counselling but nothing has changed. She has now started an affair with another guy and wants to move on with him. She says she has found real love and has experienced 'the spark' for the first time. The guy is married and he wants to leave his wife. He doesnt seem reliable to me and I am worried my sister is going down the wrong path. I want the best for my sister but also think she should work on her marriage since my BIL is a great guy but at the same time if she says she has never been happy then that makes me sad for her. She deserves to be happy and excited. Have you or anyone you knew left a marriage for an affair ? Did the affair ever become an happily ever after ? If there is no spark in a marriage how does one fix it or get it back ? aadu divorce ivadu... deniki spark oka couple of months lo poidi... ee eassy rase papa spark ela untada ani idi kuda oka iddarini tagulukutnadi... end of the story 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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