Sadistic Behavior

[Anushri]

3 minutes ago, MagaMaharaju said:

thanaki edhina painful past undha? Have you ever tried to talk?

He will never open up

[Amrita]

8 minutes ago, Anushri said:

It becomes a ugly battle and I do not want my kids to go through legal battle 

Current environment is very healthy for kids ana mi feeling? I am just talking based on your comment and dont know what you are going through.

If i were you nenu aite padani respect cheyani looks mida kuda comment chese husband to undanu. Not just for me but also for my kids. Danikanna godava leni environment lo babu laga penchukunta na kids ni seperate ayipoyi.  Sorry for my comment though !

[MagaMaharaju]

1 minute ago, Anushri said:

He will never open up

tell him that you need counselling and take him to a shrink

[Amrita]

4 minutes ago, MagaMaharaju said:

you should meet xeqtr for a coffee. who knows

[ekunadam_enkanna]

1 minute ago, Anushri said:

He has anger issues...sometimes he shouts on other people...not only me and kids 

If he has anger, but no harm intended, just leave it at that.  In every family, there is one or two uncles who have anger issues. People gave them nick names like 'Rudra', etc. But that uncle cools down a bit later, no harm intended. 

However, if he is angry all the time, it is a diff issue. Here, I recommend a neurologist of a stature like Oliver Sacks, than a sh1tty therapist.

 

[Amrita]

Just now, MagaMaharaju said:

tell him that you need counselling and take him to a shrink

Anta pichollu anukunnava janalu? Ardham kadu ana ni uddesam? Spouse psyche and behavior pasigattalera? Dont underestimate others amma. 

[perugu_vada]

Nuvu kuda sadist laga behavior chesi, give him a taste of it  may be then he will come to senses  mullu ni mullu thone thiyyali ani epudo chepparu peddalu  

[Staysafebro]

Divorce you say..what I read many seasons ago about its impact on kids.

Basically the worst thing you can do for society and your kids is to be a single mother; by largely every metric possible the child comes off worse - salary, crime rate, ability to hold down a job, education level, poverty etc.

70% of runaways, 70% of juvenile delinquents, and 70% of Child murderers, come from single mother homes. Richard E. Redding, “It’s Really About Sex”, Duke Univ. Journal of Gender Law and Policy, Jan.1, 2008

63% of all youth suicides, 70% of all teen pregnancies, 71% of all adolescent chemical/substance abusers, 80% of all prison inmates, and 90% of all homeless and runaway children, came from single mother homes. Bob Ray Sanders, “Hey Y’all, Let’s Fill The Hall (Of Fame), Ft. Worth Star Telegram, Oct.28,2007 Mona Charen, “More Good News Than Bad?”, Washington Times, Mar.16, 2001 (citing Bill Bennett, “The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators: American society at the end of the 20th Century., New York, Broadway Books, 1994)

Children brought up in single mother homes are: 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances, 14 times more likely to commit rape, 20 times more likely to end up in prison, 32 times more likely to run away from home. Chuck Eddy, “The Daddy Shady Show”, Village Voice, Dec. 31, 2002

etc. etc. etc.

You'll find plenty of news articles by Jezebel and the like (who want to push the "you go girl" narrative as heavily as they can because that's basically their only market) trying to say that this isn't the case; but once you dive into some good ol sociology statistics and studies you find out that there really is a huge correlation.

Now, obviously being a single mother itself is not causing this to happen; but the side effects of being a single mother such as children missing out on strong masculine role models, reduced total income, perhaps the effect on their relationships from seeing a dysfunctional relationship as their "default status" and whatever other issues you can think of are the causative factors.

[MagaMaharaju]

Just now, Amrita said:

Anta pichollu anukunnava janalu? Ardham kadu ana ni uddesam? Spouse psyche and behavior pasigattalera? Dont underestimate others amma. 

[Anushri]

 

12 minutes ago, riashli said:

Haha.. attractive leka pothe husband's sadism justified?? 

Everyone’s perspective of beauty is different...some might like girls who are very tall...we never know

i asked the same question to myself from many years....what’s wrong with me ani 

[perugu_vada]

55 minutes ago, riashli said:

Marriage system is bull sh1t n u can't escape 

@riashli Live-in relationships are gud ? 

[MagaMaharaju]

1 minute ago, Anushri said:

P

Everyone’s perspective of beauty is different...some might like girls who are very tall...we never know

i asked the same question to myself from many years....what’s wrong with me ani 

you start practicing meditation. Do some yoga.

Take responsibilities for your actions and don't expect a thing from anyone.

Circumstances marchadam kashtam but manam maradam easy.

Pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice

[MagaMaharaju]

5 minutes ago, Anushri said:

P

Everyone’s perspective of beauty is different...some might like girls who are very tall...we never know

i asked the same question to myself from many years....what’s wrong with me ani 

nothing is wrong with you. If you can't respect yourself and think you are ugly why do even bother what the other person thinks.

Fix yourself first before you try to fix your spouse.

[E111]

5 minutes ago, Staysafebro said:

Divorce you say..what I read many seasons ago about its impact on kids.

Basically the worst thing you can do for society and your kids is to be a single mother; by largely every metric possible the child comes off worse - salary, crime rate, ability to hold down a job, education level, poverty etc.

70% of runaways, 70% of juvenile delinquents, and 70% of Child murderers, come from single mother homes. Richard E. Redding, “It’s Really About Sex”, Duke Univ. Journal of Gender Law and Policy, Jan.1, 2008

63% of all youth suicides, 70% of all teen pregnancies, 71% of all adolescent chemical/substance abusers, 80% of all prison inmates, and 90% of all homeless and runaway children, came from single mother homes. Bob Ray Sanders, “Hey Y’all, Let’s Fill The Hall (Of Fame), Ft. Worth Star Telegram, Oct.28,2007 Mona Charen, “More Good News Than Bad?”, Washington Times, Mar.16, 2001 (citing Bill Bennett, “The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators: American society at the end of the 20th Century., New York, Broadway Books, 1994)

Children brought up in single mother homes are: 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances, 14 times more likely to commit rape, 20 times more likely to end up in prison, 32 times more likely to run away from home. Chuck Eddy, “The Daddy Shady Show”, Village Voice, Dec. 31, 2002

etc. etc. etc.

You'll find plenty of news articles by Jezebel and the like (who want to push the "you go girl" narrative as heavily as they can because that's basically their only market) trying to say that this isn't the case; but once you dive into some good ol sociology statistics and studies you find out that there really is a huge correlation.

Now, obviously being a single mother itself is not causing this to happen; but the side effects of being a single mother such as children missing out on strong masculine role models, reduced total income, perhaps the effect on their relationships from seeing a dysfunctional relationship as their "default status" and whatever other issues you can think of are the causative factors.

@DrBeta explain this

[Anushri]

2 minutes ago, Amrita said:

Anta pichollu anukunnava janalu? Ardham kadu ana ni uddesam? Spouse psyche and behavior pasigattalera? Dont underestimate others amma. 

 

3 minutes ago, Staysafebro said:

Divorce you say..what a read many seasons ago about its impact on kids.

Basically the worst thing you can do for society and your kids is to be a single mother; by largely every metric possible the child comes off worse - salary, crime rate, ability to hold down a job, education level, poverty etc.

70% of runaways, 70% of juvenile delinquents, and 70% of Child murderers, come from single mother homes. Richard E. Redding, “It’s Really About Sex”, Duke Univ. Journal of Gender Law and Policy, Jan.1, 2008

63% of all youth suicides, 70% of all teen pregnancies, 71% of all adolescent chemical/substance abusers, 80% of all prison inmates, and 90% of all homeless and runaway children, came from single mother homes. Bob Ray Sanders, “Hey Y’all, Let’s Fill The Hall (Of Fame), Ft. Worth Star Telegram, Oct.28,2007 Mona Charen, “More Good News Than Bad?”, Washington Times, Mar.16, 2001 (citing Bill Bennett, “The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators: American society at the end of the 20th Century., New York, Broadway Books, 1994)

Children brought up in single mother homes are: 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances, 14 times more likely to commit rape, 20 times more likely to end up in prison, 32 times more likely to run away from home. Chuck Eddy, “The Daddy Shady Show”, Village Voice, Dec. 31, 2002

etc. etc. etc.

You'll find plenty of news articles by Jezebel and the like (who want to push the "you go girl" narrative as heavily as they can because that's basically their only market) trying to say that this isn't the case; but once you dive into some good ol sociology statistics and studies you find out that there really is a huge correlation.

Now, obviously being a single mother itself is not causing this to happen; but the side effects of being a single mother such as children missing out on strong masculine role models, reduced total income, perhaps the effect on their relationships from seeing a dysfunctional relationship as their "default status" and whatever other issues you can think of are the causative factors.

I do not agree with you because we have seen many kids who are very successful bought up by single mother...it’s about how we parent the kids not about some male role model