Extramarital affairs make some couples happier, says a study

[Paidithalli]

Dealing with infidelity

For many, infidelity is the ultimate red flag in a relationship and a deal breaker. It is a sign that one of the partners is unhappy in the marriage and therefore, is not satisfied. But a recent study on this subject has suggested that extramarital affairs actually make some couples happier. Shocked? Here are all the details of this research. 

02/8The study

Dr Alicia Walker from Missouri State University surveyed more than thousand users of Ashley Madison (online dating service for married people) and asked them a bunch of questions related to their married life and how infidelity impacted their 'life satisfaction' (life satisfaction is an overall assessment of feelings and attitudes about one's life at a particular point in time ranging from negative to positive). 

03/8The shocking finding

Shockingly, seven out of ten participants confessed that having an extramarital affair made them feel more satisfied in their marriage. 

 

 

04/8Which gender is happier?

Delving deeper into this data, the researcher concluded that women felt more satisfied than men while having an extramarital affair. “Findings indicate that while affairs do tend to make respondents happy, a number of factors influence perception of life satisfaction during an affair, including a belief that an outside partner is required to remain in a primary partnership, a desire to remain in the primary partnership, at least biweekly sexual events with the outside partner, a belief that the individual loves their outside partner, and seeking out the partnership due to sexual dissatisfaction within the primary partnership,” stated the research.

05/8After the affair ends…

So, what happens after an extramarital affair ends? Does the cheater feel guilty or continues with his or her normal life? What about 'life satisfaction'? Well, the study indicated that the participants reported a better life satisfaction than before after their affair ended.

 

 

06/8Another finding

The researcher also opined that the people felt happier in their extramarital affair when they cheated only because of sexual dissatisfaction with the primary partner.

07/8Another study

It is not just this research that claims cheating makes some people happier. Another research published in the PubMed journal too suggested that people who had affair outside their marriage and did not disclose about it to their partner tended to be happier. 

08/8Is cheating a solution?

Though the studies suggest that infidelity did help to increase life satisfaction of some married people but it was surely not a healthy solution to resolve the conflicts in your married life. A partner is ultimately duping his or her spouse by engaging in an affair, which only offers temporary relief. The only way one can make the marriage work is by addressing the problem, honestly communicating these to the spouse and working together to solve them.

[Paidithalli]

nannu mingakandi malla... edho fb lo kanipisthe ikkadesa

[kiraak_poradu]

1 minute ago, Paidithalli said:

nannu mingakandi malla... edho fb lo kanipisthe ikkadesa

kanipisthe aah idea leni valla ki kuda ikkada esi idea ivvalana nee uddesham 

@samaja_varagamana lanti vallu kharab avvadanika

[Paidithalli]

1 minute ago, kiraak_poradu said:

kanipisthe aah idea leni valla ki kuda ikkada esi idea ivvalana nee uddesham 

@samaja_varagamana lanti vallu kharab avvadanika

[kevinUsa]

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[ekunadam_enkanna]

In Most Species, Faithfulness Is a Fantasy (appeared on Mar 18, 2008 in NY Times)

 

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You can accuse the disgraced ex-governor Eliot Spitzer of many things in his decision to flout the law by soliciting the services of a pricey prostitute: hypocrisy, egomania, sophomoric impulsiveness and self-indulgence, delusional ineptitude and bone headedness. But one trait decidedly not on display in Mr. Spitzer’s splashy act of whole-life catabolism was originality.

It’s all been done before, every snickering bit of it, and not just by powerful “risk-taking” alpha men who may or may not be enriched for the hormone testosterone. It’s been done by many other creatures, tens of thousands of other species, by male and female representatives of every taxonomic twig on the great tree of life. Sexual promiscuity is rampant throughout nature, and true faithfulness a fond fantasy. Oh, there are plenty of animals in which males and females team up to raise young, as we do, that form “pair bonds” of impressive endurance and apparent mutual affection, spending hours reaffirming their partnership by snuggling together like prairie voles or singing hooty, doo-w0p love songs like gibbons, or dancing goofily like blue-footed boobies.

Yet as biologists have discovered through the application of DNA paternity tests to the offspring of these bonded pairs, social monogamy is very rarely accompanied by sexual, or genetic, monogamy. Assay the kids in a given brood, whether of birds, voles, lesser apes, foxes or any other pair-bonding species, and anywhere from 10 to 70 percent will prove to have been sired by somebody other than the resident male.

As David P. Barash, a professor of psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle, put it with Cole Porter flair: Infants have their infancy; adults, adultery. Dr. Barash, who wrote “The Myth of Monogamy” with his psychiatrist-wife, Judith Eve Lipton, cited a scene from the movie “Heartburn” in which a Nora Ephronesque character complains to her father about her husband’s philanderings and the father quips that if she’d wanted fidelity, she should have married a swan. Fat lot of good that would have done her, Dr. Barash said: we now know that swans can cheat, too. Instead, the heroine might have considered union with Diplozoon paradoxum, a flatworm that lives in gills of freshwater fish. “Males and females meet each other as adolescents, and their bodies literally fuse together, whereupon they remain faithful until death,” Dr. Barash said. “That’s the only species I know of in which there seems to be 100 percent monogamy.” And where the only hearts burned belong to the unlucky host fish.

Even the “oldest profession” that figured so prominently in Mr. Spitzer’s demise is old news. Nonhuman beings have been shown to pay for sex, too. Reporting in the journal Animal Behaviour, researchers from Adam Mickiewicz University and the University of South Bohemia described transactions among great grey shrikes, elegant raptor like birds with silver capes, white bellies and black tails that, like 90 percent of bird species, form pair bonds to breed. A male shrike provisions his mate with so-called nuptial gifts: rodents, lizards, small birds or large insects that he impales on sticks. But when the male shrike hankers after extracurricular sex, he will offer a would-be mistress an even bigger kebab than the ones he gives to his wife — for the richer the offering, the researchers found, the greater the chance that the female will agree to a fly-by-night fling.

 

In another recent report from the lubricious annals of Animal Behaviour entitled “Payment for sex in a macaque mating market,” Michael D. Gumert of Hiram College described his two-year study of a group of longtailed macaques that live near the Rimba ecotourist lodge in the Tanjung Puting National Park of Indonesia. Dr. Gumert determined that male macaques pay for sex with that all-important, multipurpose primate currency, grooming. He saw that, whereas females groomed males and other females for social and political reasons — to affirm a friendship or make nice to a dominant — and mothers groomed their young to soothe and clean them, when an adult male spent time picking parasites from an adult female’s hide, he expected compensation in the form of copulation, or at the very least a close genital inspection. About 89 percent of the male-grooming-female episodes observed, Dr. Gumert said in an interview from Singapore, where he is on the faculty of Nanyang Technological University, “were directed toward sexually active females” with whom the males had a chance of mating.

 

Significantly, males adjust their grooming behavior in a distinctly economic fashion, paying a higher or lower price depending on the availability and quality of the merchandise and competition from other buyers. “What led me to think of grooming as a form of payment was seeing how it changed across different market conditions,” Dr. Gumert said. “When there were fewer females around, the male would groom longer, and when there were lots of females, the grooming times went down.” Males also groomed females of high rank considerably longer than they did low-status females with nary a diamond to their page.

Commonplace though adultery may be, and as avidly as animals engage in it when given the opportunity, nobody seems to approve of it in others, and humans are hardly the only species that will rise up in outrage against wantonness real or perceived. Most female baboons have lost half an ear here, a swatch of pelt there, to the jealous fury of their much larger and toothier mates. Among scarab beetles, males and females generally pair up to start a family, jointly gathering dung and rolling and patting it into the rich brood balls in which the female deposits her fertilized eggs. The male may on occasion try to attract an extra female or two — but he does so at his peril. In one experiment with postmatrimonial scarabs, the female beetle was kept tethered in the vicinity of her mate, who quickly seized the opportunity to pheromonally broadcast for fresh faces. Upon being released from bondage, the female dashed over and knocked the male flat on his back. “She’d roll him right into the ball of dung,” Dr. Barash said, “which seemed altogether appropriate.”

In the case of the territorial red-backed salamander, males and females alike are inclined to zealous partner policing and will punish partners they believe to have strayed: with threat displays, mouth nips and throat bites, and most coldblooded of all, a withdrawal of affection, a refusal to engage. Be warned, you big lounge lizard: it could happen to you.

 

 

[DrBeta]

Dharmaartha kaama mokshamulandu e sati neevu veediporadu ani induke antaranukuta.

[caesar]

Endhi ee article intha pedha ga undhi....summary endhi....Bhaaru and Sooorryyyaaa ney gaa..ayithey okk

[hawk]

48 minutes ago, caesar said:

Endhi ee article intha pedha ga undhi....summary endhi....Bhaaru and Sooorryyyaaa ney gaa..ayithey okk

Nope. Brahmini and Driver Kondal Reddy.....

[reality]

1 hour ago, hawk said:

Nope. Brahmini and Driver Kondal Reddy.....

[caesar]

1 hour ago, hawk said:

Nope. Brahmini and Driver Kondal Reddy.....

Neninka Ijayamma @ sooriiidu anukunnaallley

[r2d2]

[Quickgun_murugan]

10 hours ago, DrBeta said:

Dharmaartha kaama mokshamulandu e sati neevu veediporadu ani induke antaranukuta.

That’s all to keep the guy stuck to the lady... but it is good in someways 

[kiraak_poradu]

1 minute ago, Quickgun_murugan said:

That’s all to keep the guy stuck to the lady... but it is good in someways 

oho

[BostonBullodu]

eh desham lo teesina study eh desham meeda chesina study I asking??