Indian & western marriage system paina Joke

[panipoori]

33 minutes ago, proudtobeandhrite said:

 India is great. It has ancient culture which is great ane mentality vunna society lo brathukuthunnam.  We dont want to talk about anything bad related to India. 

Irony is that we live abroad while making those arguments about how great India is.

 

 

[JohnSnow]

1 hour ago, proudtobeandhrite said:

Still we chose to live in US away from family. 

Yes until we earn paisal and go back there settle after 30s

[JohnSnow]

1 hour ago, proudtobeandhrite said:

US lone depression ekkuvaga kanpinchaduki karanam ikkada vunna reporting system and openness towards coounselling (Pyscologist). 

First of all, india lo physcologist daggaraku velthe pichodu antaaru... So, depression vunna kaani janalu aa problem ni address cheyadaniki psycologist la daggaraku vellaru. 

This basically narrows down to Individualism vs collectivism. Individualistic culture (Like US) lo people are open to acknowledge and talk about problems. They are open to ask help. Its exactly opposite in collective cultures like India.

 

 

US lo pakkanodiki time evadiki undadhu. Neeku emaithe naakenti mentality almost for every neighbors. India lo relatives and friends chalu, psychologist dhaka vellakkarla

[JohnSnow]

51 minutes ago, proudtobeandhrite said:

 India is great. It has ancient culture which is great ane mentality vunna society lo brathukuthunnam.  We dont want to talk about anything bad related to India. 

Irony is that we live abroad while making those arguments about how great India is.

 

 

If not for paisal america is at&t care.. Earn, leave and enjoy is my policy.

[lovemystate]

Arranged marriage is not necessarily bad. But it is not working because people are divided in to tiny castes. Only on paper you are andhra of 9 crore population but when it comes most important things such as marriage pool you are looking at 18 laks or 36 laks which is very small.

Imagine if there were no castes and all 9 crore telugu people are one and understand one language. You can go to a bar, pub or any social event and everyone is part of your 9 crore telugu community. There are healthy and attractive girls in all castes and now suddenly everyone is available to everyone if you are rich or good looking yourself. If you have great idea any rich guy among 9 crores may join hands with you and fund you for profit. Then telugu people dont even need america everything that is needed is right there in AP and TG.

[tennisluvr]

17 minutes ago, lovemystate said:

Arranged marriage is not necessarily bad. But it is not working because people are divided in to tiny castes. Only on paper you are andhra of 9 crore population but when it comes most important things such as marriage pool you are looking at 18 laks or 36 laks which is very small.

Imagine if there were no castes and all 9 crore telugu people are one and understand one language. You can go to a bar, pub or any social event and everyone is part of your 9 crore telugu community. There are healthy and attractive girls in all castes and now suddenly everyone is available to everyone if you are rich or good looking yourself. If you have great idea any rich guy among 9 crores may join hands with you and fund you for profit. Then telugu people dont even need america everything that is needed is right there in AP and TG.

Yeah but blood and breed lo aa royalty undadani antaru gaa evari casette gurinchi vallu

[lovemystate]

16 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

Yeah but blood and breed lo aa royalty undadani antaru gaa evari casette gurinchi vallu

yea adhe problems...vallaki superiority undhani oohinchukuntam ..adhi kanapadaka pothe vere vallani kindhaki laagataniki sketches veyyadam...dheenitho rashtram brashtupattuku poyindhi.

[proudtobeandhrite]

17 hours ago, JohnSnow said:

US lo pakkanodiki time evadiki undadhu. Neeku emaithe naakenti mentality almost for every neighbors. India lo relatives and friends chalu, psychologist dhaka vellakkarla

True to some extent. You see this trend only in cities and among people living in apartments. The people who own their houses mostly have interactions with their neighbors. The intensity of their interaction is even more in rural areas. This trend is similar in India too (Urban vs Rural mentality).  As we are people from different country with customs that are alien to normal american, It is hard for them to come and interact with us. To that matter, being Indian and following Indian culture which values relations, most of us living in US wouldn't talk with our neighbors too. Why cant we take that first step?

Yes, Its agreeable that the intensity/frequency for the need to go to psychologist might be low due to family support system in India. But most of the time, understand that, being engineers working for large corporations, we are only exposed urban population in US.  I , first highhandedly know my colleagues (friends too) who has family relationships like us.

Family and friends are not subject matter experts to deal with ones psychological issues. The narratives like "India lo relatives and friends chalu, psychologist dhaka vellakkarla" which discourages people to acknowledge and get help for the issues, doesn't help India.

 

17 hours ago, JohnSnow said:

If not for paisal america is at&t care.. Earn, leave and enjoy is my policy.

Yep, for the time being we are choosing family over paisal. Doesn't it look hypocritical? 

Obviously, not all cultures are all good or all bad. But, the argument that is built on comparing bads of one culture to goods of another culture, to prove a point that Indian culture is great, is flawed.

[JohnSnow]

Just now, proudtobeandhrite said:

True to some extent. You see this trend only in cities and among people living in apartments. The people who own their houses mostly have interactions with their neighbors. The intensity of their interaction is even more in rural areas. This trend is similar in India too (Urban vs Rural mentality).  As we are people from different country with customs that are alien to normal american, It is hard for them to come and interact with us. To that matter, being Indian and following Indian culture which values relations, most of us living in US wouldn't talk with our neighbors too. Why cant we take that first step?

Yes, Its agreeable that the intensity/frequency for the need to go to psychologist might be low due to family support system in India. But most of the time, understand that, being engineers working for large corporations, we are only exposed urban population in US.  I , first highhandedly know my colleagues (friends too) who has family relationships like us.

Family and friends are not subject matter experts to deal with ones psychological issues. The narratives like "India lo relatives and friends chalu, psychologist dhaka vellakkarla" which discourages people to acknowledge and get help for the issues, doesn't help India.

 

Yep, for the time being we are choosing family over paisal. Doesn't it look hypocritical? 

Obviously, not all cultures are all good or all bad. But, the argument that is built on comparing bads of one culture to goods of another culture, to prove a point that Indian culture is great, is flawed.

You are not hypocrite if you are running after money and exploring other countries when you are young  and leave once you are self sufficient.

You are hypocrite if you completely settle in one country and comment on another. 

[proudtobeandhrite]

7 minutes ago, JohnSnow said:

You are not hypocrite if you are running after money and exploring other countries when you are young  and leave once you are self sufficient.

You are hypocrite if you completely settle in one country and comment on another. 

Hypocrisy - the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform.

[JohnSnow]

11 minutes ago, proudtobeandhrite said:

Hypocrisy - the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform.

Okay so? Nakenti ee country tho, i am identifying myself as an indian, and i am not speaking bad about my country right? so your text book meaning is irrelevant in this context

[tennisluvr]

1 hour ago, JohnSnow said:

You are not hypocrite if you are running after money and exploring other countries when you are young  and leave once you are self sufficient.

You are hypocrite if you completely settle in one country and comment on another. 

You are absolute hypocrite if you are "running" after money and exploring other countries while gloating about how inferior their cultures are when compared to your own. However, you an "extremist" if you are even oblivious of that hypocrisy. You seem to be an extremist not just a hypocrite

[tennisluvr]

53 minutes ago, proudtobeandhrite said:

Hypocrisy - the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform.

Not just claiming to have moral standards when they have none, but also claiming to have "superior" moral standards when they lack the basic etiquette to even try to understand their own hypocrisy

[tennisluvr]

39 minutes ago, JohnSnow said:

Okay so? Nakenti ee country tho, i am identifying myself as an indian, and i am not speaking bad about my country right? so your text book meaning is irrelevant in this context

Then why are you running after money here, you should be running after money where you believe there are superior moral standards

[JohnSnow]

4 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

Then why are you running after money here, you should be running after money where you believe there are superior moral standards

Enti nee baadha man. Ikkada vasthunnai vaccha, ikkada kakapothe vere chotaki veltha until i am self sufficient back there anthe. nee permission gatra theesukoni ravala endhi?