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[pottipotato]

nenu chepthunna kadha.. I've been witness to these kind of harassments of women since I was a kid.

I know the kind of bullshit stories guys can spin about women. especially when a few guys get together and it can get really ugly.

all such guys who do this are scum of this earth.

ninnu evaru ee db lo anale, endukante u are openly projecting urself as a foul mouthed guy. manaki enduku penta ani anale

[ILOVEGIRLS]

1 minute ago, BeautyQueen said:

Bro naku complete story teledhu but dont use abusive langugae aganist women anywhere. Men are not thoppulu if u scold a woman Papam taguluddi if u dont like a girl leave her alone and mind ur work .. I think some people are abusing women here I kindly rwquest not to do that 

Berry berry berry

[ILOVEGIRLS]

2 minutes ago, pottipotato said:

nenu chepthunna kadha.. I've been witness to these kind of harassments of women since I was a kid.

I know the kind of bullshit stories guys can spin about women. especially when a few guys get together and it can get really ugly.

all such guys who do this are scum of this earth.

ninnu evaru ee db lo anale, endukante u are openly projecting urself as a foul mouthed guy. manaki enduku penta ani anale

Thats true. Vediki oka talent vundhi adentante siggu lekapovadam.

Ninma delete chesthe eroju inko id tho malli sigulekunda ravadam vedike chellindhi great.

[BeautyQueen]

3 minutes ago, DannyArcher said:

list of todo's :

1. FB live lo vachi link chey andari 

2. OPT extension copy 

3. 2018-19  w2 

4. SSN last 4 digits 

5. linkedin, facebook id ... 

will verify and let you know ... 

1) FB account deleted for good

2) OPT/H1 B category dhati ekkadoo unna I dont want to reveal its too personal

3) My w2 personal macha cant post here

4) 👅

5) linkedin - beautyqueen u will find my profile

[pottipotato]

1 minute ago, BeautyQueen said:

Bro naku complete story teledhu but dont use abusive langugae aganist women anywhere. Men are not thoppulu if u scold a woman Papam taguluddi if u dont like a girl leave her alone and mind ur work .. I think some people are abusing women here I kindly rwquest not to do that 

women are not special. sare na. women are people, just like men. u fight, and u forget and move on. I won't think twice about abusing a woman just like I would abuse a man for the same reason.

but I will never troll a man or woman. 

what is happening here (not just here, but online in general) is harassment of women. They justify it by pointing to other women they didn't harass. as if this particular one deserved it.

get into the details of why she deserved it. The reason would be worse than for a middle school fight between two kids. These people have not evolved. and they are now grown up. Its disgusting.

I've seen such people in my teens. and I'm now in my late thirties, and still see these people in my age group. I thought our generation would be better compared to the uncles who did this when I was younger.

[DannyArcher]

2 minutes ago, BeautyQueen said:

1) FB account deleted for good

2) OPT/H1 B category dhati ekkadoo unna I dont want to reveal its too personal

3) My w2 personal macha cant post here

4) 👅

5) linkedin - beautyqueen u will find my profile

oho atna ... 

[pottipotato]

u don't get to tell girls how to behave and what to do. simple concept that Indians and conservative minded westerners don't seem to get.

[ILOVEGIRLS]

when I write about feminism and men’s violence against women, I often receive supportive comments. While some of the praise is earned, much of it gives me a lot of credit for doing very little.

When women write about those same topics, it’s a different story. We men threaten women bloggers and writers with rape and murder. We call women “man-haters,” verbally abuse them, hack into their email accounts and stalk them. We alter photos of women, putting cuts and bruises on their faces. Then we excuse ourselves, saying we were “just joking–can’t you feminists take a joke?”

Racists harass people online; so do homophobes. Most people agree this is harassment. But my gender’s online harassment of women seems to go unquestioned, even defended, in most circles. Yet men’s online abuse of women has been well-documented by women such as Laurie Penney, Jennifer Pozner, Emily May and many other women.

“The sad part is that it works,” says feminist blogger Soraya Chemaly. “I have spoken to many, many women writers who ‘tone down’ their voices or stop writing entirely as a result of threats. … I mean, who wants to wake up in the morning to ‘Stupid, cunt’ or ‘I’ll go from house to house shooting women like you.’”

“The death threat was pretty scary,” says HollaBack! cofounder Emily May. “And there have been several rape threats. But it’s mostly ‘I want to rape you’ or ‘Somebody should rape you.’ Most are not physical threats–they’re more about how ugly I am, how nobody would bother raping me because I’m so fat and hideous. Once, after reading all these posts, I just sat in my living room and bawled like a 12-year-old.”

Jennifer Pozner agrees. “Very rarely have I gotten negative feedback that doesn’t include either a rape threat or calling me ugly and fat. Or sometimes they tell me I’m hot, but they hate what I’m saying– they’d rather watch me on TV with the mute on.” Pozner’s threats have not been limited to online: One man left a letter at her door saying he’d “find you and your mom and rape you both.”

Chemaly adds, “The point of the harassment, like harassment on the street, is to make the public sphere seem dangerous and to portray women as provoking a violent response through their actions.”

Pozner agrees. “It’s about the policing of women … using threats to keep us silent.”

Richard Rogers and Vanessa Thorpe called for a stop to such harassment in the Guardian two years ago. But most men have remained silent, as we do with many forms of our gender’s violence against women. Many of us blame the victim, suggesting things women can do differently to ameliorate the problem. We tell women to grow a thicker skin, not to “feed the trolls” and not to assume all men feel that way. Or we ride in on a white horse to “save” the poor damsels by insulting the insulters or threatening violence against those who are threatening violence. This makes us feel better, but often does little to help the women being attacked or stop the violence from happening.

When men are harassed online, it’s often because they are speaking out against rape culture. Comedian Jamie Kilstein reports receiving a few combative emails after questioning God’s existence or challenging Glenn Beck–but he received “thousands” after challenging rape culture . “There is a cost for betraying one’s privilege … [although] nowhere near the costs borne by the marginalized,” says Don Bell of the National Organization for Men Against Sexism:

Men could be silenced by the fear of being labeled as emasculated (weak), not linked to women sexually (gay), or dominated. …Men should be challenged to face their fears and risks because it is the right thing to do. Allying with women in support of feminist values–becoming pro-feminist–makes for better men and a better world.

Men’s online abuse results in women hesitating to write, stopping writing altogether and fearing for their physical safety. Many women have told me that such abuse doesn’t just happen when women are writing about feminism, it happens to them all the time. Amy Davis Roth blogged about atheism and was subjected to daily harassment as a result. Roth described a “typical day” as “Wake up. Make coffee. Block hateful messages on Twitter or other social media … Make art.” Sarah Sentilles was disparaged and ridiculed when writing about theology, attacked for being “childish,” her words called “chatter” despite her two doctorates.

In the early 90s, Rush Limbaugh popularized the term “feminazi.” Across the country, we men opened our mouths to laugh, and closed our ears to feminist wisdom. In the name of “humor,” male comics and pundits call women names and threaten them with violence–the rest of us don’t challenge it, but further attack those who do. When we apologize, it’s a fake apology, like comedian Daniel Tosh’s.

Ironically, when women call men out on our harassment, they are harassed even more. I wrote a Ms. blog about Tosh last year and it drew some criticism but mostly praise. But when feminist blogger Cristy Cardinal wrote about it she was threatened with rape and murder and her email and Twitter accounts were hacked.

Yet, most men care deeply about the women and girls in our lives. It pains us to hear that you stop yourselves from writing online, walking outside or wearing certain clothing because of the harassment and violence our gender heaps upon you. We’d rather it never happened to you, so we often pretend it doesn’t. We move from denial to anger at you for bringing it up, then from anger to bargaining–we question the statistics you cite, or distract with anecdotes of women who abuse men. We sometimes go through the whole Kubler-Ross cycle of death and dying before we’re ready to move to “acceptance.”

But some men do not seem to care about anyone but themselves. These men seem to take glee in making anonymous online threats, sometimes as part of a political movement that refuses to acknowledge men’s violence against women as an epidemic. Instead, they see men as the real victims–of feminism. Their self-appointed victim status gives them the right to call women names, threaten and intimidate at will.

For me as a man, the “acceptance” stage involves really listening to what women’s lives are actually like. It means getting sick to my stomach when I hear my friend Cristy Cardinal has been threatened, or admitting that I benefit from male privilege even if I don’t harass women online myself. It means that when I laughed at Bill Maher calling Sarah Palin stupid or a bitch, I made writing and life that much harder for Soraya Chemaly.

The “acceptance” stage also means I’m ready to do something positive. It’s not enough for me to simply not harass women myself–if I don’t raise my voice when I see this, I’m letting the Limbaughs be the lone voices of my gender. So I’m proud to be part of a growing movement of men who are listening to women, learning from women, becoming active bystanders and “aspiring allies.”

Clearly there’s no one “right” way to intervene, but I’ve already heard several suggestions. Men, we can’t remain silent any longer. Let us:

1. Listen to women’s experience of online abuse and threats by men. Let us read articles about it – the ones linked here are a good place to start. Instead of suggesting solutions, we can take in how hurtful the comments are.

2. Reach out to the target of the abuse. Ask her what she’d like to you do, if anything.

3. Write, “I think you’re right,” in Comments sections of articles, Facebook postings etc. of feminist women.  Whether or not they’ve been harassed or attacked, agree with them and do so publicly.

4. When men harass women online, speak up. We can say something like, “As a man, your harassing comment offends me,” in the Comments sections.  Say how it hurts you rather than speaking on behalf of the target.

5. Name the specific silencing tactic being used: name-calling, focusing on a woman’s appearance instead of her argument, etc.

6. Use humor. We can post something like, “Dude, put down your club–your caveman is showing!” Search online for feminist comedians of all genders who have done entire routines on this.

7. Watch for “professional trolls” from the “Men’s Rights” or “Father’s Rights” groups. They will often use terms such as “misandry” and refer to the feminist movement as anti-male or the domestic violence movement as an “industry.”

8. Send supportive emails, letters, candygrams, etc. to feminist women. Thank them for the good work they are doing–not just when they are targets of online harassment, but all the time. “If you see someone doing good work, you can be sure they’re being told they’re fat and ugly,” says Emily May. “Nice emails counterbalance the noise.”

9. Flag Facebook posts (or pages) when they’re abusive. If it’s a comment, click on the X to hide the post.  You then have the option to flag it as abusive.

10.  If the perpetrator isn’t an individual but a company, boycott the company. Write negative reviews of it on “Yelp” or other review sites, or  suggest policy or legislative changes.  (See the Ecological Model for Social Change for the philosophy behind this. )

What else would women like men to do? What would you like us not to do? I’d love to hear your responses in the comments section.

[BeautyQueen]

5 minutes ago, pottipotato said:

nenu chepthunna kadha.. I've been witness to these kind of harassments of women since I was a kid.

I know the kind of bullshit stories guys can spin about women. especially when a few guys get together and it can get really ugly.

all such guys who do this are scum of this earth.

ninnu evaru ee db lo anale, endukante u are openly projecting urself as a foul mouthed guy. manaki enduku penta ani anale

Recent ga jarigina disha case nunchi chala varaku women ki respect perigindhi .. naku gf undi wheh she goes thru some waves mentally and take on me I dont scold her or argue I will let her say whatever she wants to say endhukante vallaki periods frustration inka chala umattyi and vallaki prathi okati pain and too much patience avasaram more than men. Manaki alanti pains and eqsy going untadhi mostly so if they behave weird whats wrong?? Take it and leave they will be fine.. scolding a woman is not good!!

[BeautyQueen]

4 minutes ago, pottipotato said:

women are not special. sare na. women are people, just like men. u fight, and u forget and move on. I won't think twice about abusing a woman just like I would abuse a man for the same reason.

but I will never troll a man or woman. 

what is happening here (not just here, but online in general) is harassment of women. They justify it by pointing to other women they didn't harass. as if this particular one deserved it.

get into the details of why she deserved it. The reason would be worse than for a middle school fight between two kids. These people have not evolved. and they are now grown up. Its disgusting.

I've seen such people in my teens. and I'm now in my late thirties, and still see these people in my age group. I thought our generation would be better compared to the uncles who did this when I was younger.

Okay whatever it is. There is always a smooth way to handle things men or women. If its women we must be careful you cannot aimply say i will call her something they are special bhayya. We plant a seed in 1 min.. they bear the seed for painful 9 months theh are very special!!!

[pottipotato]

1 minute ago, BeautyQueen said:

Recent ga jarigina disha case nunchi chala varaku women ki respect perigindhi .. naku gf undi wheh she goes thru some waves mentally and take on me I dont scold her or argue I will let her say whatever she wants to say endhukante vallaki periods frustration inka chala umattyi and vallaki prathi okati pain and too much patience avasaram more than men. Manaki alanti pains and eqsy going untadhi mostly so if they behave weird whats wrong?? Take it and leave they will be fine.. scolding a woman is not good!!

chethha cheppaku.

 

[pottipotato]

Just now, BeautyQueen said:

Okay whatever it is. There is always a smooth way to handle things men or women. If its women we must be careful you cannot aimply say i will call her something they are special bhayya. We plant a seed in 1 min.. they bear the seed for painful 9 months theh are very special!!!

I don't care. I dont see women as special. I never will. women can chose abortion if it is so painful. we can grow babies in tubes now.

[BeautyQueen]

7 minutes ago, pottipotato said:

chethha cheppaku.

 

Mingey chetha na ko 

[BeautyQueen]

5 minutes ago, pottipotato said:

I don't care. I dont see women as special. I never will. women can chose abortion if it is so painful. we can grow babies in tubes now.

👉🏼✊🏼 Cheskoo

[pottipotato]

8 minutes ago, BeautyQueen said:

Recent ga jarigina disha case nunchi chala varaku women ki respect perigindhi .. naku gf undi wheh she goes thru some waves mentally and take on me I dont scold her or argue I will let her say whatever she wants to say endhukante vallaki periods frustration inka chala umattyi and vallaki prathi okati pain and too much patience avasaram more than men. Manaki alanti pains and eqsy going untadhi mostly so if they behave weird whats wrong?? Take it and leave they will be fine.. scolding a woman is not good!!

women ki respect peragatam endhi ra babu. ur post itself is full of nonsense about women.

the issue is, men still think they can control how women thinks, speaks, reacts etc. u are talking about her mood swings, as if the system that is created by men should never be allowed to be demolished by a woman.

but it should be.. if the women have better ways of running it. it will be eventually. because most men are dumb.

men use their physical strength to intimidate and silence women, literally and ideologically. such men form groups to harass women when she crosses that line, such harassment targeted and quite provocative to make the woman look like the deranged person.

none of what u post address this basic psychology of men to always be the ones in control. fcuk men first. women are fine for the most part.