Need advise brothers (situation is bad)

[k2s]

2 minutes ago, Spartan said:

wife lavu aipoindi anta...

 

ok.. good kada ... strong wife better life 

[dgnfiedmn]

2 hours ago, nashpen94 said:

This is a serious issue. You need to do few things from your side.

First thing you need to do is stop jerking off to porn. If you keep fantasizing about porn stars, you will never be able to find your wife attractive and enjoy sex with her. Make a note of how many times you're jerking off to porn and slowly bring it to 0 in a few weeks (very difficult but you have to do it)

Next, talk to your wife about you not enjoying sex compared to before and say you have some ideas about how to make it better. Don't be blunt and say I don't find you attractive, it will make things worse.

Genes play a huge role in how one looks. Not sure how women look in your wife's extended family, but you have to realize that it's not going to be easy for your wife to become the way you want her to be and be realistic. You have a role to play in her losing weight. You can start going to gym along with her, build muscle and inspire her. Go to hiking/walking with her often and inspire/encourage her towards losing weight. You switch to a healthier diet as well and make sure you both stick to it. Just going to gym and eating decent food won't be enough to become slim. There should be a plan, best way to do is to consult a RD and come up with a custom plan for her.

Going to counselling helps depending upon your wife's mentality. Not everyone can be open to visiting counselor and making changes in life.

If you think from your wife's side, she might not have any clue about all of this and just leading a normal life. You just can't fantasize and expect her to become the way you want without working on this and helping her.

The thoughts of cheating is dangerous and not good for you emotionally/mentally. You probably need to see a counselor for this or talk to your close friend who can talk to you regularly and keep you away from these thoughts.

It will take time for things to change. Just don't sit and do nothing and think within yourself.

 

OP this is a good advise. Stop being selfish. Work with her, encourage her and be with her. Unlike other posters I agree with you that sexual life is very important for a marriage to last. However cheating or divorce is not an option you should focus on right now. I go to OTF and its a very intensive workout and I am surprised she is not loosing any weight. Talk to her in person and be very personal and see if you can bring up this issue with her but don't be blunt. May be its a problem that's dealt by a doctor not by a gym or food. Its hard to find a person who loves you in these days. Take care man.

[CH_Desi]

Quantified nutrition(counting each and every calorie that you take in and structure the diet constraining the macros along with workout is the way. Trust me, your wife needs to hire a fitness coach. 

Suggestion: Fittr.com they are a indian company who offer online fitness coaching, they provide structured diet and fitness plans.

Consistency is the key. We assume we are eating less but that is not the case if you count calories in everything. 

[SharkTank]

4 minutes ago, dgnfiedmn said:

OP this is a good advise. Stop being selfish. Work with her, encourage her and be with her. Unlike other posters I agree with you that sexual life is very important for a marriage to last. However cheating or divorce is not an option you should focus on right now. I go to OTF and its a very intensive workout and I am surprised she is not loosing any weight. Talk to her in person and be very personal and see if you can bring up this issue with her but don't be blunt. May be its a problem that's dealt by a doctor not by a gym or food. Its hard to find a person who loves you in these days. Take care man.

he cant mould antunnaduga,its backward mentality antadu 

[JaiTDP]

36 minutes ago, vin421 said:

needi chala backward mentality. depending on others, "moulding" a person lantivi modern society lo undakudadu. nachithe undali, ledante ledu. Anthey kani tanaki nachatledu ani, nannu maaramante, anni vishayalalo kastam and vice versa...

 

 

FUTURE lo accident jarugutademo, so nenu tanatho jagratha undali anevi, useless bro. jarigithe hospital lo and bed meeda padi untam. I am not expecting someone to take care of me. If I can't take care of myself, i will die. Not a big deal. Epudu accident jaruguthademo ani wife tho undatam, old age vasthe pillalu chusukovali ani ane mentality nunchi bayatiki ravali.

 

 

and idi anonymous post. nenemi tana full name, address ikada post cheyatle. just asking for suggestions from senior people because i don't have anyone in personal life who can give me suggestions. Forums anduke untai. Telusukovali brother.

Accident annnadhi just an example he used - simple ga when u r in tough times, u’ll know her true character and if u don’t like that character during the tough times we can argue but the reason u mentioned in this thread is completely BS and highly immatured. 

It’s easy for you to comment on her body and dietary, but girl girl ki there is a lot difference in their harmones where no one can tell exactly What & why her body is behaving like that and girls life is tough man, not that easy - harmonal imbalances, mental cinstability due to that and lot many silly family godavalu (thummina , dhaggina D-i-L meedha padathaaru). 
 

just look from her angle bro instead of this sh1t reasons on the DB.  Laavudhi emundhi Bro, mana mothers Laavu ayyaarani mana fatherS kuda ittey alochisthey - hope no need to fill it. 

[JaiTDP]

27 minutes ago, k2s said:

emaindi ?

Paapa yedchindhi 

[SharkTank]

4 minutes ago, JaiTDP said:

Accident annnadhi just an example he used - simple ga when u r in tough times, u’ll know her true character and if u don’t like that character during the tough times we can argue but the reason u mentioned in this thread is completely BS and highly immatured. 

It’s easy for you to comment on her body and dietary, but girl girl ki there is a lot difference in their harmones where no one can tell exactly What & why her body is behaving like that and girls life is tough man, not that easy - harmonal imbalances, mental cinstability due to that and lot many silly family godavalu (thummina , dhaggina D-i-L meedha padathaaru). 
 

just look from her angle bro instead of this sh1t reasons on the DB.  Laavudhi emundhi Bro, mana mothers Laavu ayyaarani mana fatherS kuda ittey alochisthey - hope no need to fill it. 

His mind wont accept whatever we said .From his writings it is clear he needs new woman for sex and he wants to get rid of his wife.Intentions are clear

[dgnfiedmn]

5 minutes ago, SharkTank said:

he cant mould antunnaduga,its backward mentality antadu 

I disagree with him. If this issue is impacting him so much that he posts on a forum, he should have the balls and decency to bring this up with her in a kind way. I am sure if she loves him she will want to look good for him. This is not backward thinking. Girls here like to look good for guys just like we try to look good for girls.

[bombay99]

FWB ninu vadileste em chestav bro nuvu seperate ayaka  Think more about your  Kids feature. 

[Kurrodu1]

3 hours ago, vin421 said:

konni years kritham maa wife ni kalisa. appatlo kodiga boddhuga undedi but bagundedi and baga gym ki velledi but ipudu chala laavuga tayaraindi. nenemo entha tinna laavu avanu. body type anhta. public loki velthe ibbandiga untundi, tanu laavuga and nenu sannamga. sarle idi vadileddam.

main problem vachi sexual life. naaku sannam ga or average ga unde ammailu istam. maa wife tho sex interest poindi. ipudu life bore kodutundi. apudapudu istam leni sex, adi kuda tanu adigithene. tanu bayatiki velinapudu nenu porn chusukuntu, hands use chestunta. atleast 4 to 5 times a week. 

naa life ok for now. no issues anywhere.

bayatiki poyi evarina manchi ammaini chusukundamanipistundi. kaani tanani cheat cheyalanipinchatledu. inka life inthena anipistundi? please advise brothers. ilanti situation lo evarina unnara? emina solution unda?

wife gym ki veltundi. kaani results sunna. i think tanu chala less exercise chestundi but ade ekkuvanukundemo. oh and rojantha tintune untundi, she eats good diet though.

ilaane life aipotundemo. i really really need a change.

please serious advises only. thanks in advance!

 

Update 1: naaku oka FWB ammayi undedi, ipudu kuda touch lo untundi. vere state lo untundi. maa iddariki marriages ayipoyaka, memu light teesukunnam but alanti figure kavali anipistundi. her figure is like ananya paandey. FWB restart cheyalani undi tanatho but i don't know tanu emantundo. Also feeling bad to cheat. BUT don't want to waste life. inko 10-15 years lo, sex elanu enjoy cheyalenu. so age unnapude enjoy cheyali kada..........

 

update 2: KONTHA MANDI BACHAS SHOULD STAY FROM COMMENTING AND SUGGESTING. THIS IS FOR GROWN UPS ONLY.

baa wife tho discuss chesava how you are feeling ani?

Chex body shape ni batti undadhu baa... cooperation and involvement ni batti untundi.

neku emi istamo or wife ki emistamo matladi choodu.

[chicchara]

first videos chudatam aapu. its a bad influence on mind. avey expectations wife meedha petkotam is not fair for her. imagine if she says the same thing...can you take it?

work with her... be with her in gym...make her activities priorities...take up the man role of managing everything.. it re inculcates your love life. stop watchin the x-videos and dont fantasize

[tokkalogola]

3 hours ago, vin421 said:

konni years kritham maa wife ni kalisa. appatlo kodiga boddhuga undedi but bagundedi and baga gym ki velledi but ipudu chala laavuga tayaraindi. nenemo entha tinna laavu avanu. body type anhta. public loki velthe ibbandiga untundi, tanu laavuga and nenu sannamga. sarle idi vadileddam.

 

 

main problem vachi sexual life. naaku sannam ga or average ga unde ammailu istam. maa wife tho sex interest poindi. ipudu life bore kodutundi. apudapudu istam leni sex, adi kuda tanu adigithene. tanu bayatiki velinapudu nenu porn chusukuntu, hands use chestunta. atleast 4 to 5 times a week. 

 

 

naa life ok for now. no issues anywhere.

bayatiki poyi evarina manchi ammaini chusukundamanipistundi. kaani tanani cheat cheyalanipinchatledu. inka life inthena anipistundi? please advise brothers. ilanti situation lo evarina unnara? emina solution unda?

wife gym ki veltundi. kaani results sunna. i think tanu chala less exercise chestundi but ade ekkuvanukundemo. oh and rojantha tintune untundi, she eats good diet though.

ilaane life aipotundemo. i really really need a change.

please serious advises only. thanks in advance!

 

Update 1: naaku oka FWB ammayi undedi, ipudu kuda touch lo untundi. vere state lo untundi. maa iddariki marriages ayipoyaka, memu light teesukunnam but alanti figure kavali anipistundi. her figure is like ananya paandey. FWB restart cheyalani undi tanatho but i don't know tanu emantundo. Also feeling bad to cheat. BUT don't want to waste life. inko 10-15 years lo, sex elanu enjoy cheyalenu. so age unnapude enjoy cheyali kada..........

 

update 2: KONTHA MANDI BACHAS SHOULD STAY FROM COMMENTING AND SUGGESTING. THIS IS FOR GROWN UPS ONLY.

 

 

 

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[kathanayaka]

2 minutes ago, tokkalogola said:

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oka pani cheyyi ra..address istadu velli watch man udyogam cheyyi. ye ooru ra needi

forums antene anonymous. jafda ga

[SharkTank]

14 minutes ago, bombay99 said:

FWB ninu vadileste em chestav bro nuvu seperate ayaka  Think more about your  Kids feature. 

FWB ? 

 

[JaiTDP]

3 minutes ago, tokkalogola said:

real pics post cheyi nammutam

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