Cheated by parents

[budgetpadbhanabam]

10 hours ago, siva604 said:

My story:

Born 84 Dec

Went to med school in 2001 

Finished in 2008

worked here and there and finished residency and fellowship in 2019.

Got married in 2017

No kids

Family:

Dad - Govt employee, left job in 2007 when he was some 52 year old 

Siblings-2  [akka chelli]. 

Mom- home maker

What i did:

Supported family since 2009

Got sisters married in 2008 and 2012

Cleared all family debts 

Bought an apt in Hyd for parents as they did not have a house 

Things happened in recent India trip:

My brother in law did not answer my phone stating that i insulted him . labeled me as arrogant one despite helping them with some 2.5 lakhs hospital bill.

My elder  sister: blamed me - Stating that i am a changed person after marriage etc. 

My elder sister and BIL: never called for lunch meet or anything. 

Younger sister: No issues.

Parents: Not so appreciative of apartment i bought. They wanted a house in 5 cent land in home town[ Which costs a fortune and i cant afford it at this time. It slows down my investment process.

Analysis:

Life is a mess anyway. 

People will never stop teaching you.

Important thing:

Constants and things we can control  in life: Career and money 

Rest: Go with the tide

 

 

 

almost same boat as long as they think you give them a lot of imp in life they will try to play this game ahain and again. i did understand this hardway the moment i stopped giving them imp in life things got better i dont have any exp ectations from them and i decided to think  i lost the money in gambling. thats it i am free and happy now

[huma]

On 6/9/2020 at 11:18 AM, budgetpadbhanabam said:

Guys i have seen stories in this db on people want to abandon parents at old age and etc. But i want to share my life and how i got cheated by my own parents. I hope this will never happen to anyone in this world since parents are like god to us and our role model and our strength but i am just an unfortunate guy being cheated by my own parents. I will try to write this whenever i got time and i believe this will be a lesson for newbies came to USA or people who just started their career in USA.

 

Evarito naina lechipoyara

[AndhraPickles]

Med school ki vellina neeke inni kastaalu unte......24×7 db lo chache ana-paisa gaallu vaalla kastaalu evaritho cheppukovali bro.....mods tho naaaa...

[krishnaaa]

On 6/8/2020 at 8:18 PM, budgetpadbhanabam said:

Guys i have seen stories in this db on people want to abandon parents at old age and etc. But i want to share my life and how i got cheated by my own parents. I hope this will never happen to anyone in this world since parents are like god to us and our role model and our strength but i am just an unfortunate guy being cheated by my own parents. I will try to write this whenever i got time and i believe this will be a lesson for newbies came to USA or people who just started their career in USA.

 

Concentrate on your family....have a kid.

What you experienced.... has happened to a lot of people.

You are not alone

[allushirish]

On 6/8/2020 at 9:13 PM, budgetpadbhanabam said:

I agree with some one who says they dont want all the story may be  i was just feeling bad thinking about what all things happend since chldhood and want to share the whole story. But instead of sharing all this info i will ask some questions.

1. What will you do when your father say he has a debt but never reveal amount but keep on asking money every day?

2.  What if you have lot of wishes like you want to buy a nice car and enjoy life in US but you cant because your father have lot of debt

3.  What will you do when you found out that your father doesn't have any debt instead he is taking money and keeping it a disaster money,  lost 90% of it by lending it to others for interest? and giving it your sibling and you are sacrificing all your family and kids wishes whereas your sibling and bor in law is having luxury with your money?

4. how do you feel if you goto india after 5 yrs and your parents say you dont have any say on properties they bought with your money and they can give it to your siblings who never helped your father.

5 how do you feel all hardworking money from past 10yrs is gone just like that?

6. how do you feel siblings doesn't show any affection only interested in money you send and things you get from US

7. how do you feel when your sibling will ask you for a foreign vacation trip showing a pic of your long weekend vacation?

8. how does it feel having 2 kids and insgle earning and have to cope up with all H1H issues and on top of family torture and deteriorating health?

9. how does it feel all sacrifices you made or your parents, your kids , your spouse your health was not even a matter for your parents except your money.

 

Are you my fan ? If you are my fan, you won’t think about your parents 

[allushirish]

On 3/22/2022 at 11:54 AM, Picheshwar said:

finally emaindi??

He became my fan and forgot parents 

[problem]

Parents ni chudatam basic responsibility, but ala ani manam chese savings money motham parents ki Pampatam ledga valla name meedha properties konatam Kani cheyyakudadhu......vice versa is also correct, parents valla properties kuda last varuku children ki ivvakudadhu

[soodhilodharam]

5 minutes ago, problem said:

Parents ni chudatam basic responsibility, but ala ani manam chese savings money motham parents ki Pampatam ledga valla name meedha properties konatam Kani cheyyakudadhu......vice versa is also correct, parents valla properties kuda last varuku children ki ivvakudadhu

[babu_bangaram]

47 minutes ago, problem said:

Parents ni chudatam basic responsibility, but ala ani manam chese savings money motham parents ki Pampatam ledga valla name meedha properties konatam Kani cheyyakudadhu......vice versa is also correct, parents valla properties kuda last varuku children ki ivvakudadhu

Absolutely correct !! if they are buying a property with your money it should be in your name

 

[siva604]

7 hours ago, AndhraPickles said:

Med school ki vellina neeke inni kastaalu unte......24×7 db lo chache ana-paisa gaallu vaalla kastaalu evaritho cheppukovali bro.....mods tho naaaa...

Lol😂 Kastalu em levu dude.. I am just telling change is inevitable .. Keep going with flow ani.. I also dont believe in using big words like cheating etc.. One has to be vigilant about their finances after certain point. boundaries are very important in life. 

[AndhraPickles]

Just now, siva604 said:

Lol😂 Kastalu em levu dude.. I am just telling change is inevitable .. Keep going with flow ani.. 

Keep going bro...just joked...all the best...

[siva604]

Just now, AndhraPickles said:

Keep going bro...just joked...all the best...

😆

[nvssr]

@budgetpadbhanabambro in similar boat now had same experience when I went to india in Dec last year. stopped talking to everyone now. 2 years back kada. how are you feeling now?

[pakeer_saab]

On 6/9/2020 at 4:12 PM, babu_bangaram said:

Bhayyaa .... Cheated is very hard to say for Parents .......
But I can feel what you are going through .....

My case is similar ..... my parents think I am well settled and happy here so they gave all of the property what they earned to my sisters .....as they are in india ....
whatever i invested they bought in my name ..... so no issues .... but all their property they just gave it to my sisters and they did not even ask me .....I am the youngest .....
so i cant question because that is their property at the same time i feel bad because i should have been consulted .....I would not have said NO .....

but anyways for me no profit no loss so I am just forget and move on ......
eee post choosi rayasindi anipinchindi .............rasesenu ...so bhaaram digipoyindi ......

 

India vellipo, get your share and then come back again

on serious note, you could tell your kids that you started with zero

[pakeer_saab]

36 minutes ago, nvssr said:

@budgetpadbhanabambro in similar boat now had same experience when I went to india in Dec last year. stopped talking to everyone now. 2 years back kada. how are you feeling now?

nuvvu matladaka pote they dont lose anything, infact they know it before hand that you may not talk once you find out, NRI's are not missed at all, they look for kids who can see and take care of them physically not telephonically

anduke all these stories, money is a very imporant part of ones life, you need to be aware upfront if you are donating or saving