how I can deal the situation or am I wrong anywhere And need to change my thinking ?

[Dyud]

Hi Guys,
I am married for 2 years. Me and wife both are working in IT. Honestly 1st year of our marriage went through very rough patch. Had some major issues and mostly because of financial reasons. But we both decided to keep past aside and move ahead with life.
From Last 6-8 months everything is good.
Now coming towards my problem.... We have purchased new home with joint loan on me and wife. However i am the only one paying loan installments and bearing other household expenses as well. After 1st week of each month I left with hardly couple of thousand in my account but the thing is my wife is reluctant to help financially. And considering previous argument I always avoid to ask for any financial aid from her. However I always had to compromise for very small things due to lack of money. Each time.

Now we are expecting a baby. So I decided to talk to my wife about some financial help if required. But my wifes response is - she is keeping her money for her personal safety and I as a father/husband should be able to manage all the expenses as she might or might not be working in future.

Now I just have 2 questions here

1st question - why she would need personal safety without offering any help for her own house. I think it is bit selfish. I did tried to talk to her that she should not feel this kind of insecurity and i will be there for her always. But her response is same.

2nd questions - need suggestions how I can deal the situation or am I wrong anywhere And need to change my thinking ?”

[Silverado]

What your wife do with that money

[Mirage]

3 minutes ago, Silverado said:

What your wife do with that money

Personal safety ki pettukundanta

[LadiesTailor]

4 minutes ago, Dyud said:

Hi Guys,
I am married for 2 years. Me and wife both are working in IT. Honestly 1st year of our marriage went through very rough patch. Had some major issues and mostly because of financial reasons. But we both decided to keep past aside and move ahead with life.
From Last 6-8 months everything is good.
Now coming towards my problem.... We have purchased new home with joint loan on me and wife. However i am the only one paying loan installments and bearing other household expenses as well. After 1st week of each month I left with hardly couple of thousand in my account but the thing is my wife is reluctant to help financially. And considering previous argument I always avoid to ask for any financial aid from her. However I always had to compromise for very small things due to lack of money. Each time.

Now we are expecting a baby. So I decided to talk to my wife about some financial help if required. But my wifes response is - she is keeping her money for her personal safety and I as a father/husband should be able to manage all the expenses as she might or might not be working in future.

Now I just have 2 questions here

1st question - why she would need personal safety without offering any help for her own house. I think it is bit selfish. I did tried to talk to her that she should not feel this kind of insecurity and i will be there for her always. But her response is same.

2nd questions - need suggestions how I can deal the situation or am I wrong anywhere And need to change my thinking ?”

you both need to sit and talk... if both are working expenses will be shared no matter what... i'm surprised to see that she is not ready to share expenses, which means she is not trusting you...

explain about your financial situation and have a join account to start with.. montly each salary lo nunchi share akkada deposit cheyyandi (like 50% from each) this should go towards family expenses and other half is up to you... she can save it for her future...

you should talk and show her how married working people are managing expenses here... or you will bankrupt.

[Silverado]

Just now, LadiesTailor said:

you both need to sit and talk... if both are working expenses will be shared no matter what... i'm surprised to see that she is not ready to share expenses, which means she is not trusting you...

explain about your financial situation and have a join account to start with.. montly each salary lo nunchi share akkada deposit cheyyandi (like 50% from each) this should go towards family expenses and other half is up to you... she can save it for her future...

you should talk and show her how married working people are managing expenses here... or you will bankrupt.

Good info bro

[Silverado]

@Mirage @LadiesTailormanchiiii oka story thread eyochuga

[Mirage]

1 minute ago, LadiesTailor said:

you both need to sit and talk... if both are working expenses will be shared no matter what... i'm surprised to see that she is not ready to share expenses, which means she is not trusting you...

explain about your financial situation and have a join account to start with.. montly each salary lo nunchi share akkada deposit cheyyandi (like 50% from each) this should go towards family expenses and other half is up to you... she can save it for her future...

you should talk and show her how married working people are managing expenses here... or you will bankrupt.

Akada copy paste story 😐

[LadiesTailor]

Just now, Silverado said:

Good info bro

thanks.. pelli ayyaka evvari expenses responsibilities vallaki vuntayu.. we are not living in old generation any more... both will work until retire.. okkalle expenses share chesukovadam is pain..

[JohnSnow]

9 minutes ago, Dyud said:

 

1st question - why she would need personal safety without offering any help for her own house. I think it is bit selfish. I did tried to talk to her that she should not feel this kind of insecurity and i will be there for her always. But her response is same.

2nd questions - need suggestions how I can deal the situation or am I wrong anywhere And need to change my thinking ?”

Its okay. Never rely on your wife or her parents, one day you ll face such comments like "maa vallu konnadhe ga, idhi nenu earn chesindhe ga" etc comments

You are a man and head of the family, so give to your family with what you have..

Dont spend too much on her shopping too citing the same reason, cut down your expenses and run your family buddy on your own salary.

[LadiesTailor]

4 minutes ago, Silverado said:

@Mirage @LadiesTailormanchiiii oka story thread eyochuga

manchi web series choosuko bro.. enduku ee story laa godava

[Silverado]

1 minute ago, JohnSnow said:

Its okay. Never rely on your wife or her parents, one day you ll face such comments like "maa vallu konnadhe ga, idhi nenu earn chesindhe ga" etc comments

You are a man and head of the family, so give to your family with what you have..

Dont spend too much on her shopping too citing the same reason, cut down your expenses and run your family buddy on your own salary.

 

[LadiesTailor]

4 minutes ago, Mirage said:

Akada copy paste story 😐

oops.. nenu nijam anukunna bro... thanks

[Silverado]

Just now, LadiesTailor said:

manchi web series choosuko bro.. enduku ee story laa godava

Nenu choodanu bro too lengthy untunai last I watched was inside edge

[Biskot2]

15 minutes ago, Dyud said:

Hi Guys,
I am married for 2 years. Me and wife both are working in IT. Honestly 1st year of our marriage went through very rough patch. Had some major issues and mostly because of financial reasons. But we both decided to keep past aside and move ahead with life.
From Last 6-8 months everything is good.
Now coming towards my problem.... We have purchased new home with joint loan on me and wife. However i am the only one paying loan installments and bearing other household expenses as well. After 1st week of each month I left with hardly couple of thousand in my account but the thing is my wife is reluctant to help financially. And considering previous argument I always avoid to ask for any financial aid from her. However I always had to compromise for very small things due to lack of money. Each time.

Now we are expecting a baby. So I decided to talk to my wife about some financial help if required. But my wifes response is - she is keeping her money for her personal safety and I as a father/husband should be able to manage all the expenses as she might or might not be working in future.

Now I just have 2 questions here

1st question - why she would need personal safety without offering any help for her own house. I think it is bit selfish. I did tried to talk to her that she should not feel this kind of insecurity and i will be there for her always. But her response is same.

2nd questions - need suggestions how I can deal the situation or am I wrong anywhere And need to change my thinking ?”

itla kalisi undadam kante, vidi povadam better.. samasaram la ledhu, adho room sharing la undhi

[Dyud]

7 minutes ago, Mirage said:

Akada copy paste story 😐

copy paste aina evado papam.. ilane untunnayemo ippudu marriages