Pitta Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 16 hours ago, Daaarling said: Every girl should try to select (Although it is not in our hands) a person as husband who value your thoughts, dreams and aspiration. One important factor that every husband must understand to be able to have a harmonious family life is about spheres of influence for the couple. Men usually have the propensity for controlling, but this should be used only outside the house. He may be controlling in his work, on his hobbies, etc. but at home, he should let the wife control things. The wife should be given the freedom to organize the house the way she likes, and even to tell the husband how he should eat and dress. The house is her kshetra, the place where she can manipulate matter and execute her activities, it's her sphere of influence. The function of the husband in this sphere is more to be attentive to the needs of the wife and the house and to provide what is needed. If this is observed, the family can flourish. If otherwise, the husband wants to control things at home, there will be conflict. How a man would few if his wife would try to control him at his work for example? Another point about this is that in Vedic culture a man is just a guest in his house. The house belongs to the wife and children and he just stays there for part of his life, fulfilling his duties and preparing to accept the renounced order of life later on, when his family responsibilities are concluded. It may be hard to have to follow rules about what to dress, where to sit, where to sleep, how to use the toilet, etc. in his own house, but a man that follows that gains not only peace of mind at home but also have a chance of developing detachment that will lead him to higher spheres of spiritual advancement. Men that are too anxious to dominate and control just remain in this material world and get female bodies in their next life, where he may have a husband just like the one he is in this life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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perugu_vada Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 @Dippindots bore annavu, idhigo interesting topic, if u have not replied yet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dippindots Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 31 minutes ago, perugu_vada said: @Dippindots bore annavu, idhigo interesting topic, if u have not replied yet Evaru evarni control cheyyodhu home ante home. One should always look forward to be home. whether it is wife, husband, kids or pets 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amrita Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 19 hours ago, Daaarling said: Every girl should try to select (Although it is not in our hands) a person as husband who value your thoughts, dreams and aspiration. One important factor that every husband must understand to be able to have a harmonious family life is about spheres of influence for the couple. Men usually have the propensity for controlling, but this should be used only outside the house. He may be controlling in his work, on his hobbies, etc. but at home, he should let the wife control things. The wife should be given the freedom to organize the house the way she likes, and even to tell the husband how he should eat and dress. The house is her kshetra, the place where she can manipulate matter and execute her activities, it's her sphere of influence. The function of the husband in this sphere is more to be attentive to the needs of the wife and the house and to provide what is needed. If this is observed, the family can flourish. If otherwise, the husband wants to control things at home, there will be conflict. How a man would few if his wife would try to control him at his work for example? Another point about this is that in Vedic culture a man is just a guest in his house. The house belongs to the wife and children and he just stays there for part of his life, fulfilling his duties and preparing to accept the renounced order of life later on, when his family responsibilities are concluded. It may be hard to have to follow rules about what to dress, where to sit, where to sleep, how to use the toilet, etc. in his own house, but a man that follows that gains not only peace of mind at home but also have a chance of developing detachment that will lead him to higher spheres of spiritual advancement. Men that are too anxious to dominate and control just remain in this material world and get female bodies in their next life, where he may have a husband just like the one he is in this life. Hmm .. gitla real ga work ayitayi anukunte inka anthe . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amrita Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 Just now, Dippindots said: Evaru evarni control cheyyodhu home ante home. One should always look forward to be home. whether it is wife, husband, kids or pets Agreed. Idealism equal rights anukunte inka life aey undadu . Gender aey gurthu undakudadu Asalu . Gender topic is not needed in every aspect that kills relationship. Our family member like parents , siblings oka manishi laga chuste obviously the couple will be happy . 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
afacc123 Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 18 hours ago, meri_zindagi said: manchi abbayilu is a myth Manchi ammayi? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meri_zindagi Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 25 minutes ago, afacc123 said: Manchi ammayi? ammayi ante ne manchi ammayi... em qn asalu idi... already dummy ki cheppa kada Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
galiraju Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 2 minutes ago, meri_zindagi said: ammayi ante ne manchi ammayi... em qn asalu idi... already dummy ki cheppa kada Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
covid1990 Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 9 minutes ago, meri_zindagi said: ammayi ante ne manchi ammayi... em qn asalu idi... already dummy ki cheppa kada 6 minutes ago, galiraju said: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quickgun_murugun Posted September 21, 2020 Report Share Posted September 21, 2020 20 hours ago, Spartan said: Every girl should try to select (Although it is not in our hands) a person as husband who value your thoughts, dreams and aspiration. how does she know..without spending enough time.. time spend chesi kanukunde anukno....pelli kosam acting chese vadi undochu ga... appudu em chestaru..? dani badalu...dorkinodi to ardham cheskuntu...vadiki kuda ardham ayettu jeevitam gadipeyochu ga.. Ee feminist movement candidates ki antha understanding capabilities undavu... valla kantey oorlo high school education kuda leni ammayilu chala opikaga and responsible ga family lives ni munduki naduputunnaru... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thokkalee Posted September 22, 2020 Report Share Posted September 22, 2020 A clueless woman is a happy woman. A clueless man is a happy man. If your spouse is such, you will be happy as long as you treat them with respect and love. Talk whatever you want about male dominance or feminism.. you must respect your spouse.. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chay Posted September 22, 2020 Report Share Posted September 22, 2020 22 hours ago, Daaarling said: Every girl should try to select (Although it is not in our hands) a person as husband who value your thoughts, dreams and aspiration. One important factor that every husband must understand to be able to have a harmonious family life is about spheres of influence for the couple. Men usually have the propensity for controlling, but this should be used only outside the house. He may be controlling in his work, on his hobbies, etc. but at home, he should let the wife control things. The wife should be given the freedom to organize the house the way she likes, and even to tell the husband how he should eat and dress. The house is her kshetra, the place where she can manipulate matter and execute her activities, it's her sphere of influence. The function of the husband in this sphere is more to be attentive to the needs of the wife and the house and to provide what is needed. If this is observed, the family can flourish. If otherwise, the husband wants to control things at home, there will be conflict. How a man would few if his wife would try to control him at his work for example? Another point about this is that in Vedic culture a man is just a guest in his house. The house belongs to the wife and children and he just stays there for part of his life, fulfilling his duties and preparing to accept the renounced order of life later on, when his family responsibilities are concluded. It may be hard to have to follow rules about what to dress, where to sit, where to sleep, how to use the toilet, etc. in his own house, but a man that follows that gains not only peace of mind at home but also have a chance of developing detachment that will lead him to higher spheres of spiritual advancement. Men that are too anxious to dominate and control just remain in this material world and get female bodies in their next life, where he may have a husband just like the one he is in this life. for suppose as it is ga ila chesi detach aiyi spiritual ga podam ante.. naaku poddunne hug ivvaledu nenu call chesthe ethaledu bday gurtupettukoledu antu saava dobbutaru.. point entante.. ela unna kuda peace of mind undadhu men ki.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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