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Same cast vs diff cast marriage..


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45 minutes ago, Nimmakai said:

Pros and cons em untai,  @Scurvy, @Fish, @LadiesTailor ankul , @betapilli aunty, @Rushabhi and other SME's assemble here

vallaki em telusthadii.

depends on the marriage events,

my frnds got married in US, limited ppl from groom side and bride side. 80% of the guests include frnds from either sides so

they are happily married.

inko frnd married thru shaadi.com, both are okay here and there if n buts vunde during marriage in India as of now they are good.

if going arranged route same caste is preferred, konchem traditions, eating habits same vuntayi.

 

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22 minutes ago, Ellen said:

One of my telsina uncles got divorced because of it. After having two kids that too. Love marriage valladi.  This uncle who is vegetarian used to make fun of her because she eats spicy and restricted her from eating nonveg because he can't tolerate the smell. He was kind of a jerk to her in the beginning.  Two years down the line she got frustrated and started rebellion by cooking only non veg food and making fun of his chappidi cooked food . Chala years he used to go to his mother's place to eat food, eventually started living separately. Chala ugly ga kotkunaka they divorced. 

reverse aithe intha problem undakapoyedemo.. he can have it outside when he feels like and don't need to bother the lady.. 

reverse ayyesariki problem aindi. 

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If couple living in India aithe relatives sync up avvadam kashtam

US lo aithe no issues

i think the biggest hit would be social status...if one is rich and other is poor differences baagane untaayi

 

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My parents got married (intercaste) long long ago. They raised me without knowing about caste. I came to know my caste in high school and college, and learned more about castes after coming to AFDB. I don't think that affected my life in any way. 

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54 minutes ago, Ellen said:

It all comes down to whether u eat food that has a face or not. If both eat--> Doesn't matter. Both don't eat -->doesn't matter. But if one eats n other one doesn't then everyday fighting. 

Lol, why does it matter? You eat what you want, you raise your kids how you want. 

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55 minutes ago, Ellen said:

Antha depth ledu le ...eating a anna... This is major complaint I always noticed in intercaste. Difference in food habits between vegetarians and non vegetarian eaters anthe. One of them always compromises. Food is very important no because we eat atleast two times everyday. 

There is no need to compromise, and if they do that's fine too. It all comes down to if you like meat more than you like your wife or not. My husband was mentioning last week that he hasn't had meat in a year, since the lockdown. He says it doesn't bother him much. I never forced him to be a vegetarian. But he just ends up being a vegetarian out of convenience. 

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11 minutes ago, betapilli said:

There is no need to compromise, and if they do that's fine too. It all comes down to if you like meat more than you like your wife or not. My husband was mentioning last week that he hasn't had meat in a year, since the lockdown. He says it doesn't bother him much. He wasn't raised a vegetation, but being a vegetation doesn't bother him. I never forced him to be a vegetarian. But he just ends up being a vegetarian out of convenience. 

You both have similar interests luckily. In your case your husband voluntarily changed his food habits and that's amazing.  Not many of them do the same. One of them has to change unwillingly and I've noticed a lot of people make a big deal about it and compain. A little bit of compassion or understanding could definitely go a long way. Aah compassion unte we need not wonder about anything at all obviously. But that happens only when you are really sure and willing about what you are getting into. We are jumping into something unknown kada, it's better to be prepared for the worst. Ideal situations assume cheskodanki the world is not so ideal

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16 minutes ago, Ellen said:

You both have similar interests luckily. In your case your husband voluntarily changed his food habits and that's amazing.  Not many of them do the same. One of them has to change unwillingly and I've noticed a lot of people make a big deal about it and compain. A little bit of compassion or understanding could definitely go a long way. Aah compassion unte we need not wonder about anything at all obviously. But that happens only when you are really sure and willing about what you are getting into. We are jumping into something unknown kada, it's better to be prepared for the worst. Ideal situations assume cheskodanki the world is not so ideal

My parents didn't fight over it too. My mom became a vegetarian. Like I said, you fight if you think you like meat more than your husband. 

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40 minutes ago, betapilli said:

My parents didn't fight over it too. My mom became a vegetarian. Like I said, you fight if you think you like meat more than your husband. 

perigav.gif.. topic ni side cheyyaniki

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No big conflicts as such, godavalu ochinapudu casette peru tho 10guladkuntar, maa casette goppa ani problem ani same jaathi kadu kabatti e godavalu ani boothulu thittukuntaru 

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