Why desi girls like potta batta uncles

[betapilli]

41 minutes ago, Peter123 said:

you did not get point, there is no point in settling in life with family, if the things are not right, (like majority desi girls are bound to their roots of getting married cos of society and parents pressure (Not all but for sure mostly), there is no such independence for our desi ladies, if once married like it or not she or he got to be with partner for life, which is totally unfair and plain bs. 

Its better to be single rather than living with this type of adjustment thiking for life, there is no point to do this way, cos at the end you happy or not is all what matters.

 

But no two people are perfect for each other, if you don't compromise and make a marriage work, there is no point in living together. 

[summer27]

1 minute ago, summer27 said:

 

Beauty: Not just Indian women, Indian men also. In terms of beauty most of us are average to below average. Mana mohalaki ee ammayi/abbayi dorakadam eekkuva, mallee inkokaru enduku ani asalu affairs ee try cheyyaru.

Financial independence: We are not rich/consumerisim country kaadu. Male or female divorce teesukunte they have to start life all over again. Dabbulu, savings Anne Malle start cheyyali mid of the life lo.

General Content: Mana culture lo fast gaa pillalani kanestaru. So 40 reach ayyppatiki life mostly set untundi. Nobody got anymore energy left to find new partners, start life at 40 with already school going kids. So to an extent they compromise. Mareeeee unhappy gaa undaru, but a little unhappiness untadi, but that will fade away in 10 yrs by the time you reach 50. 

 

btw, I am looking at all these as +ve points. There is a reason our culture highly promotes family, early kids, early retirements..In our country people who cross 50 tend to get relax with life going to retirement mindset. inkemundi pillalu already engineering, rep mapo udyogam, Pelli inka antha done antaaru..

Ikkadi janaalu, culture lo ayithe 50 taruvata malle 3 marriages, 6 gfs ..

[Peter123]

2 minutes ago, summer27 said:

 

Beauty: Not just Indian women, Indian men also. In terms of beauty most of us are average to below average. Mana mohalaki ee ammayi/abbayi dorakadam eekkuva, mallee inkokaru enduku ani asalu affairs ee try cheyyaru.

Financial independence: We are not rich/consumerisim country kaadu. Male or female divorce teesukunte they have to start life all over again. Dabbulu, savings Anne Malle start cheyyali mid of the life lo.

General Content: Mana culture lo fast gaa pillalani kanestaru. So 40 reach ayyppatiki life mostly set untundi. Nobody got anymore energy left to find new partners, start life at 40 with already school going kids. So to an extent they compromise. Mareeeee unhappy gaa undaru, but a little unhappiness untadi, but that will fade away in 10 yrs by the time you reach 50. 

 

agree with your points bro. 

You have used the term compromise while explaining, 

dabbulu levu ani, andamga lenu ani, fast ga pillalni kanesanu ani, life long compromise avvakodadhu. 

Sare lets take India, ippudu choodu divorces bagane avthunayi, enduku antaav ? they're knowing the fact that if not happy (for whatever reasons), move on anthe, life lo happy ga lekapothey inkedi matter kadu.

Malaika Arora and Arbaz khan together for 19 years, they have a 16 year kid, very unhappy recently, they spoke and quit their reationship. 

Mana system ni blame cheyali, pakkinti aunty and uncle asalu e ammayiki abbayi peli avtada ani wait chesthu untaaru, e pressure kosame kontha mandi venta ventane cheseskuntunaru, . Evadi kosamo manam bali avvalsina avasarm ledu, we only live once. Enjoy anthe

ippudu india kooda change avthundi mastaru divorce cases increasing rapidly and it will even more in the coming years. 

 

[summer27]

3 minutes ago, Peter123 said:

agree with your points bro. 

You have used the term compromise while explaining, 

dabbulu levu ani, andamga lenu ani, fast ga pillalni kanesanu ani, life long compromise avvakodadhu. 

Sare lets take India, ippudu choodu divorces bagane avthunayi, enduku antaav ? they're knowing the fact that if not happy (for whatever reasons), move on anthe, life lo happy ga lekapothey inkedi matter kadu.

Malaika Arora and Arbaz khan together for 19 years, they have a 16 year kid, very unhappy recently, they spoke and quit their reationship. 

Mana system ni blame cheyali, pakkinti aunty and uncle asalu e ammayiki abbayi peli avtada ani wait chesthu untaaru, e pressure kosame kontha mandi venta ventane cheseskuntunaru, . Evadi kosamo manam bali avvalsina avasarm ledu, we only live once. Enjoy anthe

ippudu india kooda change avthundi mastaru divorce cases increasing rapidly and it will even more in the coming years. 

 

mana vallu kooda, pelli ayyepppudu suitable gaane untrue (mostly, ofcourese there are always exceptions)..but 30 rundi 40 vacheppatiki either of them or both them will have potta, fat, batta, wrinkles, white hair.. inka appudu adjust avutaaru...for next 10 yrs, and once cross 50, they have no time to think about it also, pillala pellillu, udyogalu etc.,

 

But Pelli appudee compromise ayyi chesukunevallu, earlier used to continue to live like that only. But this section of people have changed now. Now they are giving divorce easily compared to past..

[gallikukka]

3 hours ago, Rebel_Uncle said:

Instead of six packs 

A desi mgr gadiki potta batta pellam vunna pattinchukokunda vadi enakala enduku padatharo ardam kadu

they like  to get hypnotized by the jiggling belly 

[Peter123]

9 minutes ago, betapilli said:

But no two people are perfect for each other, if you don't compromise and make a marriage work, there is no point in living together. 

very generalized word (Compromise)

Instance 1

And depends on each individual. compromise ? depends on to what extent, ? pelli ayaka what if there is a point where you came to know that relationship dont work and you need to qquit to be happy ? what d you do ? compromise  and live a fuacked up life until end ? 

Instance 2: 

compromise is fine for things like, boy likes to watch a movie which girl doesnt like, here she can compromise and watch that movie the boy likes, ilanti chinna chinna vatiki anyone can compromise

My point above is on a whole, most desi women do not have too much choice, why are there so many forced marriages even today happening in india ? cos they have no choice, parents have no choice, as they get pressure from society and relatives. so they do these forced marriages. This is very common in India, 

Forced marriage ante: kalu chethulu kattesi marriage cheyadam kadu, you know what i meant

Long story short: or summary in 2 lines:

1. Desi girls do not have too much choice, most arranged marriages are forced marriages (Exceptions are there ofcourse)

2. Once they not happy after marriage, (more chances, cos they dont know each other before marriage, and obviously differences), they do not have a choice, they're bound to this marriage system for life, meaning they're not happy and adjusting just cos of kids, mom dad wont let the divorce happen, indian society do not encourage divorce women, which is pathetic. They see a divorce women as touch me not types. Hope all this changes. 

the same applies to indian men too 

 

[Peter123]

7 minutes ago, summer27 said:

mana vallu kooda, pelli ayyepppudu suitable gaane untrue (mostly, ofcourese there are always exceptions)..but 30 rundi 40 vacheppatiki either of them or both them will have potta, fat, batta, wrinkles, white hair.. inka appudu adjust avutaaru...for next 10 yrs, and once cross 50, they have no time to think about it also, pillala pellillu, udyogalu etc.,

 

But Pelli appudee compromise ayyi chesukunevallu, earlier used to continue to live like that only. But this section of people have changed now. Now they are giving divorce easily compared to past..

to lead a happy life with the right partner is what matters,

Patta botta gurnchi i am not complaining, adi evarikina common, and those are never factors to lead a happy life. 

Mana system lo if wife is unhappy with the marriage (reasons emina undachu), does she call it off or quit ?? May be Not, 

Enduku ? society ki bayatapdi, parents ki bayapadi, friends ki bayapadi, they are adjusting to end of their life. 

If you ask any western country people, the same above question, you know the answer "Yes" 

 

even in US some 80 years back mana lanti system ye undedi, arranged marriages, pelli choopulu, atta maamalu etc. But since 40 years or so this dating concept came here, if they like then they go for marriage. If they dont like the relationship they quit. Simple 

Manaki ilanti dating concept ravali,

 

[betapilli]

47 minutes ago, Peter123 said:

very generalized word (Compromise)

Instance 1

And depends on each individual. compromise ? depends on to what extent, ? pelli ayaka what if there is a point where you came to know that relationship dont work and you need to qquit to be happy ? what d you do ? compromise  and live a fuacked up life until end ? 

Instance 2: 

compromise is fine for things like, boy likes to watch a movie which girl doesnt like, here she can compromise and watch that movie the boy likes, ilanti chinna chinna vatiki anyone can compromise

My point above is on a whole, most desi women do not have too much choice, why are there so many forced marriages even today happening in india ? cos they have no choice, parents have no choice, as they get pressure from society and relatives. so they do these forced marriages. This is very common in India, 

Forced marriage ante: kalu chethulu kattesi marriage cheyadam kadu, you know what i meant

Long story short: or summary in 2 lines:

1. Desi girls do not have too much choice, most arranged marriages are forced marriages (Exceptions are there ofcourse)

2. Once they not happy after marriage, (more chances, cos they dont know each other before marriage, and obviously differences), they do not have a choice, they're bound to this marriage system for life, meaning they're not happy and adjusting just cos of kids, mom dad wont let the divorce happen, indian society do not encourage divorce women, which is pathetic. They see a divorce women as touch me not types. Hope all this changes. 

the same applies to indian men too 

 

Right, the problem however is, if you're having a trouble in a relationship, the go to should not be to break up or get a divorce. The go to should be to talk things out, and work on your relationship rather than giving up on each other. Two people can always find a reason to separate, but they should be together even if they find a single reason to be together, that's why marriage means more than just a relationship. 

[betapilli]

43 minutes ago, Peter123 said:

to lead a happy life with the right partner is what matters,

Patta botta gurnchi i am not complaining, adi evarikina common, and those are never factors to lead a happy life. 

Mana system lo if wife is unhappy with the marriage (reasons emina undachu), does she call it off or quit ?? May be Not, 

Enduku ? society ki bayatapdi, parents ki bayapadi, friends ki bayapadi, they are adjusting to end of their life. 

If you ask any western country people, the same above question, you know the answer "Yes" 

 

even in US some 80 years back mana lanti system ye undedi, arranged marriages, pelli choopulu, atta maamalu etc. But since 40 years or so this dating concept came here, if they like then they go for marriage. If they dont like the relationship they quit. Simple 

Manaki ilanti dating concept ravali,

 

If a woman is unhappy in her relationship, she should talk about what she is unhappy, try to make things right rather than separating with her husband. That has always been the thing to do. 

[Peter123]

23 minutes ago, betapilli said:

Right, the problem however is, if you're having a trouble in a relationship, the go to should not be to break up or get a divorce. The go to should be to talk things out, and work on your relationship rather than giving up on each other. Two people can always find a reason to separate, but they should be together even if they find a single reason to be together, that's why marriage means more than just a relationship. 

define your trouble ? the term again varies, 

what would you do, if there is no understand between couples, and they keep fighting every day - this is trouble right ?

In India half of the lower and middle class families men drink everyday and beat their wives ? is this trouble ? what would the wives have to do ? talk and be happy, and then the same thing husband repeats drink and beat wife . 

The women have no choice here. They can't just come out of it, cos of so many reasons (Society, parents, kids)

In western countries, if this scenarios happens, women would be like, GTFO lol. 

Same thing with higher class couples, lot of the rich men has affairs, even the house lady knows about it, what would she know after knowing her husband affair ? She keeps calm, cry and thats all about it. You know why she has no choice, why no choice cos of parents pressure, society pressure, Fuak it. Women need to live their life. If they find trouble, get the heck out of it.

 

[Peter123]

27 minutes ago, betapilli said:

If a woman is unhappy in her relationship, she should talk about what she is unhappy, try to make things right rather than separating with her husband. That has always been the thing to do. 

Again you're talking about small things, which anyone can adjust or compromise, thats fine. 

I am talking about troubled relationships in a bigger picture. Are women strong enough to talk to husband and if it didnt work, just walk the fuk out ? Obviusly No, they're adjusting and feels no choice, they feel its their karma and live with that husband for life. lol even tho he/she is unhappy. 

Hope you got it, I am not talking about small issues, only talking about troubled relationships like fight every day, drunk husband beating wife, or problematic wife/husband etc etc. 

[betapilli]

2 minutes ago, Peter123 said:

Again you're talking about small things, which anyone can adjust or compromise, thats fine. 

I am talking about troubled relationships in a bigger picture. Are women strong enough to talk to husband and if it didnt work, just walk the fuk out ? Obviusly No, they're adjusting and feels no choice, they feel its their karma and live with that husband for life. lol even tho he/she is unhappy. 

Hope you got it, I am not talking about small issues, only talking about troubled relationships like fight every day, drunk husband beating wife, or problematic wife/husband etc etc. 

Okay, there are abusive relationships in America where the girl stays in the relationship because she is too docile. There are women in abusive relationships in India who are strong enough to move out. It's not white or black. 

[Peter123]

20 minutes ago, betapilli said:

Okay, there are abusive relationships in America where the girl stays in the relationship because she is too docile. There are women in abusive relationships in India who are strong enough to move out. It's not white or black. 

the reason i am comparing here between desi ladies and western ladies, is about adjustments. The whole converstaion started from desi girls to american or any white  may be you missed earlier posts in this thread. 

Ofcourse we have to compare, do you even know the divorce rate in US is more than 50%. You should know this by now, not sure how long you have been here. 

now what number does India have in terms of divorce ? less than 10%, ? not sure ? atleast its getting better, girls in india are smart enough to move out if it marriage dont work. 

 

 

[betapilli]

6 minutes ago, Peter123 said:

the reason i am comparing here between desi ladies and western ladies, is about adjustments. The whole converstaion started from desi girls to american or any white  may be you missed earlier posts in this thread. 

Ofcourse we have to compare, do you even know the divorce rate in US is more than 50%. You should know this by now, not sure how long you have been here. 

now what number does India have in terms of divorce ? less than 10%, ? not sure ? atleast its getting better, girls in india are smart enough to move out if it marriage dont work. 

 

 

What I want trying to say is that, it's not a bad thing that the divorce rates in India is so low. Are you saying that the 50% divorce rates in America are all because of abusive relationships? No, because most people get divorced for stupid reasons without working on their relationships. It's a good thing, that it's not like that in India. 

[soodhilodaaram]

3 hours ago, summer27 said:

 

Beauty: Not just Indian women, Indian men also. In terms of beauty most of us are average to below average. Mana mohalaki ee ammayi/abbayi dorakadam eekkuva, mallee inkokaru enduku ani asalu affairs ee try cheyyaru.

Financial independence: We are not rich/consumerisim country kaadu. Male or female divorce teesukunte they have to start life all over again. Dabbulu, savings Anne Malle start cheyyali mid of the life lo.

General Content: Mana culture lo fast gaa pillalani kanestaru. So 40 reach ayyppatiki life mostly set untundi. Nobody got anymore energy left to find new partners, start life at 40 with already school going kids. So to an extent they compromise. Mareeeee unhappy gaa undaru, but a little unhappiness untadi, but that will fade away in 10 yrs by the time you reach 50. 

 

well said, responsibilities takeover most of the life between 40-50, most lose their parents too during this time frame

ee timeframe lo best friends koda busy aipotaaru, spouse also gets busy with kids priorities,  that is why spiritual element is strongly needed during this phase to avoid mid life crisis and mistakes

ee time lo divorce and relationship issues lo padite it will be double whammy