What do you guys do when you are in depression and upset with own family members?

[chotu]

letting go is the key bro, parents and siblings tho strong emotional connection untadhi, we always want everything to be good for them and for us. at the end no matter what the situation is, I feel family are the only one's whom we accept unconditionally.

you being in US, you do not have access to the reality, you just get to know about things from others, video calls, talk to him but you don't see it directly, you might be missing some pieces of information. sorting such differences with family over the phone its not worth, it will only make it worse. talking directly in person makes a lot of difference, physical presence and emotion helps.

just guessing the situation, he does/say something which you don't like, may be you feel something else is good for him and you expect him to behave/live/do differently. that's not gonna happen. Ego takes priority on both sides.

if he his over 21 just give your advice/suggestion and leave it for him to decide and face consequences, never attempt to enquire about that particular situation. let it go and wait to see how things turn out, you will be at peace. continue the casual talk with him regularly, just saying don't ignore or avoid him. 

 

 

[quickgun_murugun]

8 hours ago, yemdoing said:

haha ala kaadu kaka... i do take them seriously . I found it funny that solution is to take medication, I believe other ways try chesaka then try medication. As most common side effect of depression medications is suicidal thoughts. 

 

Yeah 

[quickgun_murugun]

8 hours ago, a_sagittarian said:

Any side effects ?

Long run lo some side effects like feeling light headed , headaches , GERD symptoms 

[Shruti]

10 hours ago, quickgun_murugun said:

Duloxetine 30mg tablets daily 2 teesko for your anxiety and depression 

Prescription kaavali for it 

[quickgun_murugun]

1 hour ago, Shruti said:

Prescription kaavali for it 

Kavali mari free ga evaristharu? 
its easy .. or go to Colorado and do some cannabis bruh 

[naughty15]

I try to Learn something new (programming related).     That makes me concentrate on new stuff. 

[JonSnowUSA]

18 hours ago, halwaraaj said:

@iphone I have had a similar situation with my parents and my sister, 4 months natoh matladaledhu vallu, its heart squeezing to say the least, esp when you are not used to it(you get used to it when it happens again and again), this happened to me like 6 yrs ago, I used to go to work, not able to work, not able to complete my assigned work/commitments, I lost my job too during that time, I was married and we had our first kid just then. 

Horrible situation, my parents and sister knew all this through relatives and some of my best friends(sons/daughters of my dad's friends). I never got an answer/reply or call back from them in those 4 months no matter how many times I called them. 

I said to myself, I(not my emotions) want to be in charge of my life. I put my parents and sibling issue aside, got a new job, rebuilt everything back to normal first(financially, career wise and my family wise), this helped me gain confidence and ability in myself, and to understand what is important in life and what is secondary. I literally and truly did a white board for few months at night to come up with the following. I believe that most people know this by default, but I was so ignorant of my surroundings/things for so long that I had to do whiteboarding for this(loka gnanam teliyakapovadam or whatever it is called).

1. You are important to you(not even your parents/siblings/wife/kids, if you are compromising with yourself, and also not happy with yourself for compromising, but if you are happy with the compromise, all is well).

2. Your parents, wife and kids are the next important, because your parents gave you life, and your wife and kids you made them yours, and you cannot abandon/blackmail or ignore these people for a lower priority item.

3. Your siblings, because they usually are the best guides for you if they have good intentions(since they know you in and out since childhood), but don't usually prefer to keep the best advice for you when it comes to matters of their own life. After all they will have these bullet points in the same order for themselves too, and you fall in (3) for them.

4. Your friends, relatives and neighbors.

Your career and best friends are floaters(they float between 1 and 4 and can take those positions in various incidents/stages in your life)

 

This now is my ultimate sutra for life, and tackle issues in that order, and never ever compromise a higher priority item in order to fix a lower priority item that isn't going well.

I am happy now mentally, emotionally, financially and career wise, keeping everyone close for matters when they need to be close and equally at a distance for matters that they need not be involved in.

Everything will settle down buddy, I dont like posting my life details on a public forum like this, but wanted to give you some positivity and hope for I see you in my situation from earlier.

I can relate to few things to my life. I felt deceived by my own family. I started caring my self, career and keeping myself little far from family drama. Feeling really good now. 

[iphone]

On 5/25/2021 at 12:44 AM, Afdbuser123 said:

Time heals everything. You might have faced bigger challenges in the past and they may seem small/silly now. It will be same this time too. You just need to have some strength to overcome tough situations. Remember that pain is not permanent and you will get out of this eventually.
Nobody has any right to trouble/bully you, even if it is your own brother. If he is bothering you too much, I suggest you to take some strong action. It can be involving your parents or some third person.

praying everything will be normal

[iphone]

On 5/25/2021 at 1:28 AM, Thokkalee said:

Sibling jealousy? Do you have something that your brother  doesn’t ?? There must be something that is bothering him and wants to trouble you... 

no re

[iphone]

On 5/25/2021 at 3:12 PM, halwaraaj said:

@iphone I have had a similar situation with my parents and my sister, 4 months natoh matladaledhu vallu, its heart squeezing to say the least, esp when you are not used to it(you get used to it when it happens again and again), this happened to me like 6 yrs ago, I used to go to work, not able to work, not able to complete my assigned work/commitments, I lost my job too during that time, I was married and we had our first kid just then. 

Horrible situation, my parents and sister knew all this through relatives and some of my best friends(sons/daughters of my dad's friends). I never got an answer/reply or call back from them in those 4 months no matter how many times I called them. 

I said to myself, I(not my emotions) want to be in charge of my life. I put my parents and sibling issue aside, got a new job, rebuilt everything back to normal first(financially, career wise and my family wise), this helped me gain confidence and ability in myself, and to understand what is important in life and what is secondary. I literally and truly did a white board for few months at night to come up with the following. I believe that most people know this by default, but I was so ignorant of my surroundings/things for so long that I had to do whiteboarding for this(loka gnanam teliyakapovadam or whatever it is called).

1. You are important to you(not even your parents/siblings/wife/kids, if you are compromising with yourself, and also not happy with yourself for compromising, but if you are happy with the compromise, all is well).

2. Your parents, wife and kids are the next important, because your parents gave you life, and your wife and kids you made them yours, and you cannot abandon/blackmail or ignore these people for a lower priority item.

3. Your siblings, because they usually are the best guides for you if they have good intentions(since they know you in and out since childhood), but don't usually prefer to keep the best advice for you when it comes to matters of their own life. After all they will have these bullet points in the same order for themselves too, and you fall in (3) for them.

4. Your friends, relatives and neighbors.

Your career and best friends are floaters(they float between 1 and 4 and can take those positions in various incidents/stages in your life)

 

This now is my ultimate sutra for life, and tackle issues in that order, and never ever compromise a higher priority item in order to fix a lower priority item that isn't going well.

I am happy now mentally, emotionally, financially and career wise, keeping everyone close for matters when they need to be close and equally at a distance for matters that they need not be involved in.

Everything will settle down buddy, I dont like posting my life details on a public forum like this, but wanted to give you some positivity and hope for I see you in my situation from earlier.

thnx bhayya i thought I am alone but we are travelling on a similar boat 

[covid2021]

On 5/25/2021 at 12:05 AM, iphone said:

not yet bro no girl friend nothing 

antha ledu bro parents are good with their own money and good health my brother is troubling me big time ( i cannot share the exact reason here)

[covid2021]

areyyyy maaakiii... dorikinav beyyy 

[covid2021]

On 5/25/2021 at 12:24 AM, iphone said:

i pray bro but have no hopes 

a person who is related to you by blood is able to drag you down and mentally torture you 

i cannot even wish him bad luck in all ways i am locked

[covid2021]

On 5/24/2021 at 11:24 PM, iphone said:

US lo living and have problems with my brother in India

regarding a matter i cannot share here doesn’t even have jhaali on me that I am living here all by myself and pundu midaa kaaram chalatham 😭

 nee g la gippud nenu saalutha raaa beyyyy

[covid2021]

On 5/25/2021 at 12:33 AM, iphone said:

similar issue 

i am prepared for the worst but i gotta let it out bro : ( 

@grogu