What do you guys do when you are in depression and upset with own family members?

[covid2021]

@grogu 

[naughty15]

I always do something interesting on ml ai to forget and concentrate on coding 

[JAI_NTR]

ok maidhi..

[Pulkapresident]

On 5/24/2021 at 8:21 PM, iphone said:

feeling low

Don't take it to heart. Sometimes, it is better to stop communicating rather than miscommunication because of long distance. 

[Pulkapresident]

More often it's not your sibling that's the issue, but who they marry that's causing the issue. If one of you was insecure growing up, the differences can become intense depending on the new person added to the family. Don't take what your brother says to heart, time will heal everything. Your brother means well. 

[RENT]

On 5/24/2021 at 11:21 PM, iphone said:

feeling low

happens in every family it’s normal, stay strong !

[Sarvapindi]

depression lo unapudu emi seyakudadh..

[jaathiratnalu]

On 5/25/2021 at 3:12 PM, halwaraaj said:

@iphone I have had a similar situation with my parents and my sister, 4 months natoh matladaledhu vallu, its heart squeezing to say the least, esp when you are not used to it(you get used to it when it happens again and again), this happened to me like 6 yrs ago, I used to go to work, not able to work, not able to complete my assigned work/commitments, I lost my job too during that time, I was married and we had our first kid just then. 

Horrible situation, my parents and sister knew all this through relatives and some of my best friends(sons/daughters of my dad's friends). I never got an answer/reply or call back from them in those 4 months no matter how many times I called them. 

I said to myself, I(not my emotions) want to be in charge of my life. I put my parents and sibling issue aside, got a new job, rebuilt everything back to normal first(financially, career wise and my family wise), this helped me gain confidence and ability in myself, and to understand what is important in life and what is secondary. I literally and truly did a white board for few months at night to come up with the following. I believe that most people know this by default, but I was so ignorant of my surroundings/things for so long that I had to do whiteboarding for this(loka gnanam teliyakapovadam or whatever it is called).

1. You are important to you(not even your parents/siblings/wife/kids, if you are compromising with yourself, and also not happy with yourself for compromising, but if you are happy with the compromise, all is well).

2. Your parents, wife and kids are the next important, because your parents gave you life, and your wife and kids you made them yours, and you cannot abandon/blackmail or ignore these people for a lower priority item.

3. Your siblings, because they usually are the best guides for you if they have good intentions(since they know you in and out since childhood), but don't usually prefer to keep the best advice for you when it comes to matters of their own life. After all they will have these bullet points in the same order for themselves too, and you fall in (3) for them.

4. Your friends, relatives and neighbors.

Your career and best friends are floaters(they float between 1 and 4 and can take those positions in various incidents/stages in your life)

 

This now is my ultimate sutra for life, and tackle issues in that order, and never ever compromise a higher priority item in order to fix a lower priority item that isn't going well.

I am happy now mentally, emotionally, financially and career wise, keeping everyone close for matters when they need to be close and equally at a distance for matters that they need not be involved in.

Everything will settle down buddy, I dont like posting my life details on a public forum like this, but wanted to give you some positivity and hope for I see you in my situation from earlier.

Super cheppvu bro and am following the same when am 20 yrs old onwards

 when i need some money for my college fee and other important things to settle my life no one has helped me including my close relatives and friends and my father did not take much responsibility for me .He was kind of careless guy. 

So i decided on that day ,  If you have money all people will surround you   including your parents and wife If you don't have money  THEY WILL NOT RESPECT YOU OR LEAST NOT CARE ABOUT YOU. Yes this is harsh but its  true.

So try to be love yourself and maintain healthy and earn as much as you can Finally MAINTAIN YOUR RESPOSIBILITY WITH PARENTS,WIFE and YOUR KIDS ..APART FROM THIS NO is with you in your life and am following the same from last few years successfully.

 

 

 

[huma]

On 5/25/2021 at 1:24 PM, iphone said:

US lo living and have problems with my brother in India

regarding a matter i cannot share here doesn’t even have jhaali on me that I am living here all by myself and pundu midaa kaaram chalatham 😭

Don't go to problem. Linearly reduce talking to them. Dont be emotional. Andaru evari jagrattalo vaallu untaru.

[huma]

My parents used to ask money everytime and gave in a hope that I will inherit their property that will cover my expense on them but to my shock they already sold  properties and hide this from me to get more money. Lately I came to know from my uncle that they distributed money among the relatives whom they care a lot and expecting me to send money. I stopped sending money they are defaming me in all family functions, among friends etc. I felt very bad, cried and realised that no one cares you once you are of no use to them. I come to this DB and relax.

[Sputnik]

3 minutes ago, huma said:

My parents used to ask money everytime and gave in a hope that I will inherit their property that will cover my expense on them but to my shock they already sold  properties and hide this from me to get more money. Lately I came to know from my uncle that they distributed money among the relatives whom they care a lot and expecting me to send money. I stopped sending money they are defaming me in all family functions, among friends etc. I felt very bad, cried and realised that no one cares you once you are of no use to them. I come to this DB and relax.

That’s sad. 

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