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Have always been thinking of a good life if I work my ass off, and studied hard. Scored well and finally, out of thin air.

This feeling of startups kicked in. Neglected opportunities for whom I thought would be the. Married her, and here I am stuck under a roof for the sake of society to believe in, that we are a happy family.

No one is bothered the least to hear the male agony, and I have to compromise only to make the hands work, eyes watch and get back up immediately to where I was left.

Depressed, could not control myself because of never ending thoughts as to what the ffuck did I do with my life, and at times, praising myself for finding the best ways to ruin my life in the name of marriage.

Neither do I have the capacity to end life, and neither to live it. Just a living beast, who is now full on work and coding the next big thing at least for me.

Fellas,

Don't marry at a younger age. You have studied, worked and give yourselves some time. Go on dates and learn how to talk to girls.

Have some confidence in life.

Or else, you will end up in a path that I have taken to hell, which I would not let even my enemies or people I don't like, to follow along either.

Marriage is hell, if you don't know where you are getting into. Don't do it for the sake of something. Marry one only when you are physically and emotionally attached to, at least have a confidence in.

And don't end up with babies for the sake of someone. Don't ruin the little buds life. Stay safe.

Probably, my last one after giving out what I can. Taking some leave only to find my life that I have probably lost, or perhaps, I did. No interest in anything than driving to places alone, and I am on a path to take off to places where I presume can find peace.

The only wish I have for you, is don't fall in this trap unless you are so desperate to taste the waters and then realize that you should not have been.

That said, not all marriages end up being an experience like this. Only the ones, where your well being gets dominated with someone else's, driven and prioritized by your own intellect. So go for it, if it adds value to you. Not for her, some x or another why.

 

 

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Nenu vinna oka case, married young and has two kids. Eppudu kooda he thinks he missed out on something.  He left his family in India and decided to hit up on girls here in USA. No girls are interested since he is married and the cycle continues. He goes out on trips with friends and tries very hard to make up for what he missed.

On the other hand there are multiple families who decided to enjoy their youth and married late. Due to that, infertility issues, settling late in life and undue stress. They enjoy their youth and have to slog well past their prime due to having kids late. 
 

Anduke e vayasu lo jaragalsindi aa vayasu lo jaragali anedhi 
 

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Reason why girls are married off early in India is because they are a burden to their parents. They find some bakara young boy to marry them off. These unbearable girls make the life of innocent boys a living hell. 

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35 minutes ago, griz said:

Have always been thinking of a good life if I work my ass off, and studied hard. Scored well and finally, out of thin air.

This feeling of startups kicked in. Neglected opportunities for whom I thought would be the. Married her, and here I am stuck under a roof for the sake of society to believe in, that we are a happy family.

No one is bothered the least to hear the male agony, and I have to compromise only to make the hands work, eyes watch and get back up immediately to where I was left.

Depressed, could not control myself because of never ending thoughts as to what the ffuck did I do with my life, and at times, praising myself for finding the best ways to ruin my life in the name of marriage.

Neither do I have the capacity to end life, and neither to live it. Just a living beast, who is now full on work and coding the next big thing at least for me.

Fellas,

Don't marry at a younger age. You have studied, worked and give yourselves some time. Go on dates and learn how to talk to girls.

Have some confidence in life.

Or else, you will end up in a path that I have taken to hell, which I would not let even my enemies or people I don't like, to follow along either.

Marriage is hell, if you don't know where you are getting into. Don't do it for the sake of something. Marry one only when you are physically and emotionally attached to, at least have a confidence in.

And don't end up with babies for the sake of someone. Don't ruin the little buds life. Stay safe.

Probably, my last one after giving out what I can. Taking some leave only to find my life that I have probably lost, or perhaps, I did. No interest in anything than driving to places alone, and I am on a path to take off to places where I presume can find peace.

The only wish I have for you, is don't fall in this trap unless you are so desperate to taste the waters and then realize that you should not have been.

That said, not all marriages end up being an experience like this. Only the ones, where your well being gets dominated with someone else's, driven and prioritized by your own intellect. So go for it, if it adds value to you. Not for her, some x or another why.

 

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First come out of FOMO bro you will have happy life, majority of these kind of things are due to FOMO.

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55 minutes ago, griz said:

Have always been thinking of a good life if I work my ass off, and studied hard. Scored well and finally, out of thin air.

This feeling of startups kicked in. Neglected opportunities for whom I thought would be the. Married her, and here I am stuck under a roof for the sake of society to believe in, that we are a happy family.

No one is bothered the least to hear the male agony, and I have to compromise only to make the hands work, eyes watch and get back up immediately to where I was left.

Depressed, could not control myself because of never ending thoughts as to what the ffuck did I do with my life, and at times, praising myself for finding the best ways to ruin my life in the name of marriage.

Neither do I have the capacity to end life, and neither to live it. Just a living beast, who is now full on work and coding the next big thing at least for me.

Fellas,

Don't marry at a younger age. You have studied, worked and give yourselves some time. Go on dates and learn how to talk to girls.

Have some confidence in life.

Or else, you will end up in a path that I have taken to hell, which I would not let even my enemies or people I don't like, to follow along either.

Marriage is hell, if you don't know where you are getting into. Don't do it for the sake of something. Marry one only when you are physically and emotionally attached to, at least have a confidence in.

And don't end up with babies for the sake of someone. Don't ruin the little buds life. Stay safe.

Probably, my last one after giving out what I can. Taking some leave only to find my life that I have probably lost, or perhaps, I did. No interest in anything than driving to places alone, and I am on a path to take off to places where I presume can find peace.

The only wish I have for you, is don't fall in this trap unless you are so desperate to taste the waters and then realize that you should not have been.

That said, not all marriages end up being an experience like this. Only the ones, where your well being gets dominated with someone else's, driven and prioritized by your own intellect. So go for it, if it adds value to you. Not for her, some x or another why.

 

 

what’s considered young for marriage according to you? 

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1 hour ago, Rushabhi said:

Nenu vinna oka case, married young and has two kids. Eppudu kooda he thinks he missed out on something.  He left his family in India and decided to hit up on girls here in USA. No girls are interested since he is married and the cycle continues. He goes out on trips with friends and tries very hard to make up for what he missed.

On the other hand there are multiple families who decided to enjoy their youth and married late. Due to that, infertility issues, settling late in life and undue stress. They enjoy their youth and have to slog well past their prime due to having kids late. 
 

Anduke e vayasu lo jaragalsindi aa vayasu lo jaragali anedhi 
 

ee paatha chinthakaya maatalu vine enno jeevithalu nashanan avtunnayi. ikanaina ivi follow avvatam aapithe better for humanity.

 

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1 hour ago, DummyVariable said:

Reason why girls are married off early in India is because they are a burden to their parents. They find some bakara young boy to marry them off. These unbearable girls make the life of innocent boys a living hell. 

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2 hours ago, griz said:

Have always been thinking of a good life if I work my ass off, and studied hard. Scored well and finally, out of thin air.

This feeling of startups kicked in. Neglected opportunities for whom I thought would be the. Married her, and here I am stuck under a roof for the sake of society to believe in, that we are a happy family.

No one is bothered the least to hear the male agony, and I have to compromise only to make the hands work, eyes watch and get back up immediately to where I was left.

Depressed, could not control myself because of never ending thoughts as to what the ffuck did I do with my life, and at times, praising myself for finding the best ways to ruin my life in the name of marriage.

Neither do I have the capacity to end life, and neither to live it. Just a living beast, who is now full on work and coding the next big thing at least for me.

Fellas,

Don't marry at a younger age. You have studied, worked and give yourselves some time. Go on dates and learn how to talk to girls.

Have some confidence in life.

Or else, you will end up in a path that I have taken to hell, which I would not let even my enemies or people I don't like, to follow along either.

Marriage is hell, if you don't know where you are getting into. Don't do it for the sake of something. Marry one only when you are physically and emotionally attached to, at least have a confidence in.

And don't end up with babies for the sake of someone. Don't ruin the little buds life. Stay safe.

Probably, my last one after giving out what I can. Taking some leave only to find my life that I have probably lost, or perhaps, I did. No interest in anything than driving to places alone, and I am on a path to take off to places where I presume can find peace.

The only wish I have for you, is don't fall in this trap unless you are so desperate to taste the waters and then realize that you should not have been.

That said, not all marriages end up being an experience like this. Only the ones, where your well being gets dominated with someone else's, driven and prioritized by your own intellect. So go for it, if it adds value to you. Not for her, some x or another why.

 

 

IELTS score entha bro?, baa raasav Introduction, Body Paragraphs and Conclusion.

 

 

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I know couple of friends who married at 29(girls) but delayed kids to have some space..now they are 32-34 range and having issues conceiving. Our generation ppl think Personal space, own time etc etc but delaying kids after certain age is not at all good! My friends are regretting now and looking for IVF/adopt options

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Mana DB lo lo ney IVF vi Chava posts paddayi ….

I know few mutual friends who are craving for kids ..in 32+ age …

so don’t delay kids guys …try to marry early and have kids 

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