Its a vent out post. Please excuse me. Long post alert.

[kevinUsa]

Hello All,

 

Its a vent out post. Please excuse me. Long post alert. 

 

Me and my husband - 

Got (arranged) married in the USA in Sep 2021. (My family alone made the entire expense (54000 USD for events together) and his family did not spend a single penny for our wedding) Due to some family issues and interference we

got separated in Mar 2022 and now in the process of divorce. 

 

His parents live in Karnataka. My parents in Tamil Nadu. We both live in USA (Mid west-EST) . His sister live in USA (different state in West Coast). My sister live in (North East) USA. 

 

Few important reasons for the separation; 

 

1) Arguments & Conflicts - More because of his mom and sis. He shared my every personal conversation to them. Kept a ring camera which recorded my all activities with voice. His sis had access to the live camera. He changed certain decisions suddenly without any discussions. Finances were managed and monitored by his family and questioned for every small expenses.

 

2) Finances - His family forced me to pay for expenses which was not discussed with me. His mom also demanded me to pay 50% of all the expenses we do at home ( rent, grocery etc). His mom and sis abused so much through messages in whatsapp. Insisted him to stop the wedding in Aug 2021 (one month before marriage) and send me divorce or file annulment in Oct 2021 (Within one month of marriage) 

 

3) Baby termination - I was stressed for all 4 months (Oct 2021 to Jan 2022) when i was carrying. Doc recommended to abort (PROM) because the baby has no proper growth. I was totally depressed. My mom was sick (AML) and she was in ICU. I was more depressed. I was bleeding for 62 days after abortion. He spoke harsh words and pushed me to a bad situation. 

 

4) His family forced us to do the wedding in US that too with only bride side budget. They did not share a single penny still demanded a lot from us. We did all the rituals how we do in India. Everyone who attended my wedding know this. It was a 4 day event here. They brought 40 people for wedding, 80 people for reception and made us spend so much. 

 

5) More importantly, he physically abused me few times (slap, pushed, twisted my hands, threw me out of the car at 11.30pm) when I was pregnant. And we were out on vacation. I was 3 months at that time. 

 

There are more abuses and ill treatment done to me and my family. I can’t stand it. 

 

So, I spoke with his family about all the above problems in India (Mar 2022) - to his dad, mom and sis. 

Then I came back to US for my work. He got stuck in India due to visa issues. 

We had a family call including both our families. He told me he doesn’t want to live with me. After few days, I also said I dont want to continue with him and got to know he was shocked from my response. He gave me dissolution papers to sign as soon as he came back from India. I said no. I was thrown out of the house. Then he sent me divorce. 

I was ready to stay alone in a different house and start from scratch with him. I spoke about it to him. He even tried to hit me with his car when I went to meet. 

After all this, he or his family were not willing to reconcile. 

As parents, his family was guiding him in a negative direction. 

I literally begged him outside his office and to his dad through whatsapp. 

They made a family decision! 

 

Now in the course of divorce, he is saying he wont give back my tax returns and the payment I made for his credit card (he said he did living expenses for me those 4 months) and not willing to share pregnancy and abortion medical expenses. 

 

I kept most of the wedding gifts like sofa, dining etc in his house and did not bring anything. I got everything new for my house. I stay in the same city as him. I was hoping he will change his mind over the period. But I realized in July 2022 that he won’t change. 

 

Still he is forcing me for airfryer, goddesses picture, kumkum box etc. 

 

Few of my gold jewelry and silver articles are in his parent’s house. After asking many times, they accepted to give these back. Asking my parents to come and collect it. 

My mom is hospitalized and dad is shuttling between home and hospital. She needs to get treated until Dec 2023. His family knows about it and still demanding my parents to pick up my stuff from Bengaluru. 

 

I already took some therapy session to get out of this relationship. I am very much out of it now and exploring the world in a different perspective. 

 

1) Your comments on this about my decision? 

2) What I need to look for in the next relationship? I am not willing to stay single. 

3) I am also afraid to get into a relationship. I am not able to find red flags. 

 

Thanks in advance. Sorry for spamming you with this big post. Excuse me if there are any grammar mistakes. 🙏🏼 

 

I am not sharing the names and pictures because I was threatened by his family for a defamation case. I am not willing to spend for him anymore. 

 

But I know that his defamation case will not go through as I have all proofs which would prove the above statements are true.

[kevinUsa]

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[kevinUsa]

Suggestions/Guidance

 

We are a couple in mid 30s close to pregnancy. My happy go lucky spouse is in one of the MAANG companies since 18 months and I have literally seen the changes in his persona. 

 

We used to take atleast 3 trips a year and watch movies tv and funny videos, cook and go for long walks before. Forget about trips, we don't even have our meals together.  

 

We don't fight over these changes but I have seen sadness in his eyes. He is constantly worried about his job security even after working for 18 hours a day. 

 

I strongly feel he should switch his employer and find something which gives him a worklife balance. He is also worried if quiting a MAANG might spoil his profile which I think isn't really gonna matter .

 

We are very much in love and all I want is his better mental and Physical health .

 

I am sure my situation would be relatable. Please pour in your guidance

 

Thank you ❤️

[Saloly]

15 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

Suggestions/Guidance

 

We are a couple in mid 30s close to pregnancy. My happy go lucky spouse is in one of the MAANG companies since 18 months and I have literally seen the changes in his persona. 

 

We used to take atleast 3 trips a year and watch movies tv and funny videos, cook and go for long walks before. Forget about trips, we don't even have our meals together.  

 

We don't fight over these changes but I have seen sadness in his eyes. He is constantly worried about his job security even after working for 18 hours a day. 

 

I strongly feel he should switch his employer and find something which gives him a worklife balance. He is also worried if quiting a MAANG might spoil his profile which I think isn't really gonna matter .

 

We are very much in love and all I want is his better mental and Physical health .

 

I am sure my situation would be relatable. Please pour in your guidance

 

Thank you ❤️

Idi ite matram....dabbunolla kastam story

[aakathaai789]

23 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

Hello All,

 

Its a vent out post. Please excuse me. Long post alert. 

 

Me and my husband - 

Got (arranged) married in the USA in Sep 2021. (My family alone made the entire expense (54000 USD for events together) and his family did not spend a single penny for our wedding) Due to some family issues and interference we

got separated in Mar 2022 and now in the process of divorce. 

 

His parents live in Karnataka. My parents in Tamil Nadu. We both live in USA (Mid west-EST) . His sister live in USA (different state in West Coast). My sister live in (North East) USA. 

 

Few important reasons for the separation; 

 

1) Arguments & Conflicts - More because of his mom and sis. He shared my every personal conversation to them. Kept a ring camera which recorded my all activities with voice. His sis had access to the live camera. He changed certain decisions suddenly without any discussions. Finances were managed and monitored by his family and questioned for every small expenses.

 

2) Finances - His family forced me to pay for expenses which was not discussed with me. His mom also demanded me to pay 50% of all the expenses we do at home ( rent, grocery etc). His mom and sis abused so much through messages in whatsapp. Insisted him to stop the wedding in Aug 2021 (one month before marriage) and send me divorce or file annulment in Oct 2021 (Within one month of marriage) 

 

3) Baby termination - I was stressed for all 4 months (Oct 2021 to Jan 2022) when i was carrying. Doc recommended to abort (PROM) because the baby has no proper growth. I was totally depressed. My mom was sick (AML) and she was in ICU. I was more depressed. I was bleeding for 62 days after abortion. He spoke harsh words and pushed me to a bad situation. 

 

4) His family forced us to do the wedding in US that too with only bride side budget. They did not share a single penny still demanded a lot from us. We did all the rituals how we do in India. Everyone who attended my wedding know this. It was a 4 day event here. They brought 40 people for wedding, 80 people for reception and made us spend so much. 

 

5) More importantly, he physically abused me few times (slap, pushed, twisted my hands, threw me out of the car at 11.30pm) when I was pregnant. And we were out on vacation. I was 3 months at that time. 

 

There are more abuses and ill treatment done to me and my family. I can’t stand it. 

 

So, I spoke with his family about all the above problems in India (Mar 2022) - to his dad, mom and sis. 

Then I came back to US for my work. He got stuck in India due to visa issues. 

We had a family call including both our families. He told me he doesn’t want to live with me. After few days, I also said I dont want to continue with him and got to know he was shocked from my response. He gave me dissolution papers to sign as soon as he came back from India. I said no. I was thrown out of the house. Then he sent me divorce. 

I was ready to stay alone in a different house and start from scratch with him. I spoke about it to him. He even tried to hit me with his car when I went to meet. 

After all this, he or his family were not willing to reconcile. 

As parents, his family was guiding him in a negative direction. 

I literally begged him outside his office and to his dad through whatsapp. 

They made a family decision! 

 

Now in the course of divorce, he is saying he wont give back my tax returns and the payment I made for his credit card (he said he did living expenses for me those 4 months) and not willing to share pregnancy and abortion medical expenses. 

 

I kept most of the wedding gifts like sofa, dining etc in his house and did not bring anything. I got everything new for my house. I stay in the same city as him. I was hoping he will change his mind over the period. But I realized in July 2022 that he won’t change. 

 

Still he is forcing me for airfryer, goddesses picture, kumkum box etc. 

 

Few of my gold jewelry and silver articles are in his parent’s house. After asking many times, they accepted to give these back. Asking my parents to come and collect it. 

My mom is hospitalized and dad is shuttling between home and hospital. She needs to get treated until Dec 2023. His family knows about it and still demanding my parents to pick up my stuff from Bengaluru. 

 

I already took some therapy session to get out of this relationship. I am very much out of it now and exploring the world in a different perspective. 

 

1) Your comments on this about my decision? 

2) What I need to look for in the next relationship? I am not willing to stay single. 

3) I am also afraid to get into a relationship. I am not able to find red flags. 

 

Thanks in advance. Sorry for spamming you with this big post. Excuse me if there are any grammar mistakes. 🙏🏼 

 

I am not sharing the names and pictures because I was threatened by his family for a defamation case. I am not willing to spend for him anymore. 

 

But I know that his defamation case will not go through as I have all proofs which would prove the above statements are true.

Nuv thagulkora elli daanni kaadu daani husband ni

[realIty_langa]

10 minutes ago, aakathaai789 said:

Nuv thagulkora elli daanni kaadu daani husband ni

Bro mana Balayya malli blockbuster kottadu 
 

 

[Kakynada]

 

[Katti_Ramdas]

Babu side kadha kooda vinali kada

[sarfaroshi]

Psyco na kodukulu

[AverageDesiGuy]

Wow, what a shame. Her a attorney and sue his ass.

[secundrabadi]

8 hours ago, kevinUsa said:

Hello All,

 

Its a vent out post. Please excuse me. Long post alert. 

 

Me and my husband - 

Got (arranged) married in the USA in Sep 2021. (My family alone made the entire expense (54000 USD for events together) and his family did not spend a single penny for our wedding) Due to some family issues and interference we

got separated in Mar 2022 and now in the process of divorce. 

 

His parents live in Karnataka. My parents in Tamil Nadu. We both live in USA (Mid west-EST) . His sister live in USA (different state in West Coast). My sister live in (North East) USA. 

 

Few important reasons for the separation; 

 

1) Arguments & Conflicts - More because of his mom and sis. He shared my every personal conversation to them. Kept a ring camera which recorded my all activities with voice. His sis had access to the live camera. He changed certain decisions suddenly without any discussions. Finances were managed and monitored by his family and questioned for every small expenses.

 

2) Finances - His family forced me to pay for expenses which was not discussed with me. His mom also demanded me to pay 50% of all the expenses we do at home ( rent, grocery etc). His mom and sis abused so much through messages in whatsapp. Insisted him to stop the wedding in Aug 2021 (one month before marriage) and send me divorce or file annulment in Oct 2021 (Within one month of marriage) 

 

3) Baby termination - I was stressed for all 4 months (Oct 2021 to Jan 2022) when i was carrying. Doc recommended to abort (PROM) because the baby has no proper growth. I was totally depressed. My mom was sick (AML) and she was in ICU. I was more depressed. I was bleeding for 62 days after abortion. He spoke harsh words and pushed me to a bad situation. 

 

4) His family forced us to do the wedding in US that too with only bride side budget. They did not share a single penny still demanded a lot from us. We did all the rituals how we do in India. Everyone who attended my wedding know this. It was a 4 day event here. They brought 40 people for wedding, 80 people for reception and made us spend so much. 

 

5) More importantly, he physically abused me few times (slap, pushed, twisted my hands, threw me out of the car at 11.30pm) when I was pregnant. And we were out on vacation. I was 3 months at that time. 

 

There are more abuses and ill treatment done to me and my family. I can’t stand it. 

 

So, I spoke with his family about all the above problems in India (Mar 2022) - to his dad, mom and sis. 

Then I came back to US for my work. He got stuck in India due to visa issues. 

We had a family call including both our families. He told me he doesn’t want to live with me. After few days, I also said I dont want to continue with him and got to know he was shocked from my response. He gave me dissolution papers to sign as soon as he came back from India. I said no. I was thrown out of the house. Then he sent me divorce. 

I was ready to stay alone in a different house and start from scratch with him. I spoke about it to him. He even tried to hit me with his car when I went to meet. 

After all this, he or his family were not willing to reconcile. 

As parents, his family was guiding him in a negative direction. 

I literally begged him outside his office and to his dad through whatsapp. 

They made a family decision! 

 

Now in the course of divorce, he is saying he wont give back my tax returns and the payment I made for his credit card (he said he did living expenses for me those 4 months) and not willing to share pregnancy and abortion medical expenses. 

 

I kept most of the wedding gifts like sofa, dining etc in his house and did not bring anything. I got everything new for my house. I stay in the same city as him. I was hoping he will change his mind over the period. But I realized in July 2022 that he won’t change. 

 

Still he is forcing me for airfryer, goddesses picture, kumkum box etc. 

 

Few of my gold jewelry and silver articles are in his parent’s house. After asking many times, they accepted to give these back. Asking my parents to come and collect it. 

My mom is hospitalized and dad is shuttling between home and hospital. She needs to get treated until Dec 2023. His family knows about it and still demanding my parents to pick up my stuff from Bengaluru. 

 

I already took some therapy session to get out of this relationship. I am very much out of it now and exploring the world in a different perspective. 

 

1) Your comments on this about my decision? 

2) What I need to look for in the next relationship? I am not willing to stay single. 

3) I am also afraid to get into a relationship. I am not able to find red flags. 

 

Thanks in advance. Sorry for spamming you with this big post. Excuse me if there are any grammar mistakes. 🙏🏼 

 

I am not sharing the names and pictures because I was threatened by his family for a defamation case. I am not willing to spend for him anymore. 

 

But I know that his defamation case will not go through as I have all proofs which would prove the above statements are true.

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[secundrabadi]

Parents maata vinali kaani Pelli ayyaka koncham thelivi vaadali abbayi kuda 

[MiryalgudaMaruthiRao]

matter in 1 line please