Returned to India 3 yrs back (Issue with Parents)

[Android_Halwa]

@problem paisa parmatma kaka…

paisa first, emotions baad mein….

[elev]

Simple bayya before marriage parents will see you as son , naa koduku us laa nanaa kastallu padutundu. After marriage naa kodallu sukapadutundi antanru. They are looking at your wife luxuries but not your hard work. Ghar ghar kii khahani 

[Sucker]

May be intla 2-3 kids kodallu vunte vache headaches yemo ivi. 

 

[reality]

What do you think they are going to do with ‘your money’? Just asking.

[reality]

Mari US credit cards geeki pampinchina money evari account lo pettav?@problem 

Parents account lo ithe safe ani akkada pettava?

[andhra_jp]

9 hours ago, problem said:

hi all, i stayed in usa for 11 years and returned to india 3 yrs back......lyf and job everything is fyn here in india.......nenu e topic enduku vestunna ante chala mandi parents ni vadilesi us lo eppatiki ela untamu, eppatikina india vellipovali ani antaru......andariki naa experience cheptunna.......

first, nenu 2011 lo job pettanu, 2019 ending varuku us lo unnanu......india vachesi 3 yrs ayyindi......job start chesina daggara nunchi savings motham amts india pampinchukunna.......2014 lo purchased a house, where i iinvested 70% amt and father invested 30% amt.........thumb rule enti ante, even mee parents india lo unna, iddaru kalipi invest cheyyakandi, porapatuna parents emina money pedithe in house/apt purchase, vallu motham ownership teesukuntaru, valla ishtam vachinattu chestaru........naaku india vachinaduku eppudu badha padaledu, kani parents tho kalisi enduku untunna ani matram full feel avutunna.....veelu chusukuni nxt 1 yr lo ala vere seperate vellipodamani plan.......60+ vachaka parents nasa, chadastam barinchalemu......arey mana son 11 yrs vere country lo undi, antha sonthanga earn chesukuni settle ayyadu kada, ikkadiki vachaka manam prathi dantlo involve avvakudadu kada ani minimum alochincharu.......they want the information of every minor thing that happens......please note naaku maa parents chala chala close when i was in usa.......ippudu e nasa, chadastam antha peaks lo undi, we are not used to this when we are in us, so india ravali ani evarina anukunte, my sincere advice seperate ga undandi, mana life style antha diff untundi, we cant deal with all the for the small small things with the parents

Second, maa house purchase lo 70% nenu and 30% father pettukunnaru........8 yrs ayyinidi kotha house complete ayyi, mthly oka 40k rent vastadi right now, naaku rents kavali, half and half teesukundamu ika nunchi rents annanu,  mamaulu ga penta cheyyaledu.......illu purchase lo memu money pettaleda, motham needi anukuntunnava, mammalni undanistava ledha intlonchi vellipomantava antaru......antha gola gola, racha chesi, oka 1 yr rents icharu finally......maaku vere income kuda undi, rents ika nunchi half kadhu motham istamu, nuvve teesuko ani final ga 1 yr rents icharu......but iche mundu, gola chesi, godava padi, icharu........

Third, nenu us nunchi india vachetappudu koncham bulk amt valla accts ki pampinchukunna.......andhulo entha money undi adigithe, malli gola gola chesaru.....memu emina tinesamu anukuntunnava, maakemi nee money avasaram ledhu ani enno matalu annaru......emina money shortage anipiste transfer chesestamu ani aravatam..........final ga antha racha, godavatho unna amt antha fd veypinchanu........next, nenu bank acct fd vesinavi online acct kavali ani adigithe malli godava, e sari beebatsanga godava, anni fd vesesamu kada, inka neeku online enduku antaru........again too much racha cheyyatam.......

nenu pina points ekkuavaga financial topics cheppanu.......ika chinna chinnavi chala untayi.......60+ vachaka parents chadastam, nasa peaks lo untadi......manam anni yrs vere country lo undi, india lo settle valla chadastam barinchalemu.......naaku emi anipinchindi ante, nenu motham transparent ga untu, first nunchi money antha save chesukuni, vallaki pampinchanu......naaku income entha vastadi, entha savings ani information share chesukune vadini.....but return ga emina adigithe full godava, igo ki potharu.........especially my dad, ayanaki edhi kuda kids ki chepparu, none of his assets vishayalu.......valla daggari assets vachedi valla tadanantarame, which is fyn, avi valla own assets kabatti, kani naavi adigina full ga godavalu padi, racha chesi, final ga settle chesaru (Except online access of bank accts).......

1) thumb rule 1, intha detailed ga enduku cheptunna ante, people who think abt returning back to india, dont stay with ur parents.......seperate ga undandi.....15 days or 1 mth ki okasari kalavandi.......we got used to some life style for long time in usa, a taruvatha kalisi undalemu, no matter how close you are with ur parents........

2) thumb rule 2, if you have plans to settle in usa only, plz plz india okka rupee pampakandi.........rasi pettukondi, pampinavi malla us teppinchukovali ante mamuluga chukkalu kanipinchavu.........parents ki pampiste, malla adigithe racha racha chestaru........dont send money to india if you dont have plans to return to india.......e points naa personal experience tho cheptunna......

 

 

I agree, nenu 2018 loo returned to india for good and staying in bangalore purposefully since my rest of family(mother) , brothers and relatives are in hyderabad for simple reason "Peace Of Mind" and meet them for every occasion but never want to stay close..

 

 

 

 

 

[Pandubabu]

10 hours ago, problem said:

hi all, i stayed in usa for 11 years and returned to india 3 yrs back......lyf and job everything is fyn here in india.......nenu e topic enduku vestunna ante chala mandi parents ni vadilesi us lo eppatiki ela untamu, eppatikina india vellipovali ani antaru......andariki naa experience cheptunna.......

first, nenu 2011 lo job pettanu, 2019 ending varuku us lo unnanu......india vachesi 3 yrs ayyindi......job start chesina daggara nunchi savings motham amts india pampinchukunna.......2014 lo purchased a house, where i iinvested 70% amt and father invested 30% amt.........thumb rule enti ante, even mee parents india lo unna, iddaru kalipi invest cheyyakandi, porapatuna parents emina money pedithe in house/apt purchase, vallu motham ownership teesukuntaru, valla ishtam vachinattu chestaru........naaku india vachinaduku eppudu badha padaledu, kani parents tho kalisi enduku untunna ani matram full feel avutunna.....veelu chusukuni nxt 1 yr lo ala vere seperate vellipodamani plan.......60+ vachaka parents nasa, chadastam barinchalemu......arey mana son 11 yrs vere country lo undi, antha sonthanga earn chesukuni settle ayyadu kada, ikkadiki vachaka manam prathi dantlo involve avvakudadu kada ani minimum alochincharu.......they want the information of every minor thing that happens......please note naaku maa parents chala chala close when i was in usa.......ippudu e nasa, chadastam antha peaks lo undi, we are not used to this when we are in us, so india ravali ani evarina anukunte, my sincere advice seperate ga undandi, mana life style antha diff untundi, we cant deal with all the for the small small things with the parents

Second, maa house purchase lo 70% nenu and 30% father pettukunnaru........8 yrs ayyinidi kotha house complete ayyi, mthly oka 40k rent vastadi right now, naaku rents kavali, half and half teesukundamu ika nunchi rents annanu,  mamaulu ga penta cheyyaledu.......illu purchase lo memu money pettaleda, motham needi anukuntunnava, mammalni undanistava ledha intlonchi vellipomantava antaru......antha gola gola, racha chesi, oka 1 yr rents icharu finally......maaku vere income kuda undi, rents ika nunchi half kadhu motham istamu, nuvve teesuko ani final ga 1 yr rents icharu......but iche mundu, gola chesi, godava padi, icharu........

Third, nenu us nunchi india vachetappudu koncham bulk amt valla accts ki pampinchukunna.......andhulo entha money undi adigithe, malli gola gola chesaru.....memu emina tinesamu anukuntunnava, maakemi nee money avasaram ledhu ani enno matalu annaru......emina money shortage anipiste transfer chesestamu ani aravatam..........final ga antha racha, godavatho unna amt antha fd veypinchanu........next, nenu bank acct fd vesinavi online acct kavali ani adigithe malli godava, e sari beebatsanga godava, anni fd vesesamu kada, inka neeku online enduku antaru........again too much racha cheyyatam.......

nenu pina points ekkuavaga financial topics cheppanu.......ika chinna chinnavi chala untayi.......60+ vachaka parents chadastam, nasa peaks lo untadi......manam anni yrs vere country lo undi, india lo settle valla chadastam barinchalemu.......naaku emi anipinchindi ante, nenu motham transparent ga untu, first nunchi money antha save chesukuni, vallaki pampinchanu......naaku income entha vastadi, entha savings ani information share chesukune vadini.....but return ga emina adigithe full godava, igo ki potharu.........especially my dad, ayanaki edhi kuda kids ki chepparu, none of his assets vishayalu.......valla daggari assets vachedi valla tadanantarame, which is fyn, avi valla own assets kabatti, kani naavi adigina full ga godavalu padi, racha chesi, final ga settle chesaru (Except online access of bank accts).......

1) thumb rule 1, intha detailed ga enduku cheptunna ante, people who think abt returning back to india, dont stay with ur parents.......seperate ga undandi.....15 days or 1 mth ki okasari kalavandi.......we got used to some life style for long time in usa, a taruvatha kalisi undalemu, no matter how close you are with ur parents........

2) thumb rule 2, if you have plans to settle in usa only, plz plz india okka rupee pampakandi.........rasi pettukondi, pampinavi malla us teppinchukovali ante mamuluga chukkalu kanipinchavu.........parents ki pampiste, malla adigithe racha racha chestaru........dont send money to india if you dont have plans to return to india.......e points naa personal experience tho cheptunna......

 

Sorry to hear bro. One thing we should understand is that it is a different generation and its tough to be on the same page .

However,  w.r.t investments , pakkana vallanu choosi vatha pettykuntaru.. pakkodi land india lo appreciate aindhi ,manam kooda pettali ani.. better to keep money with you.

I dont have a single property in india ,one property konte better emo ani thinking this year , but nee post choosaka better  not to buy anipisthondhi

[Aamphat]

11 hours ago, problem said:

hi all, i stayed in usa for 11 years and returned to india 3 yrs back......lyf and job everything is fyn here in india.......nenu e topic enduku vestunna ante chala mandi parents ni vadilesi us lo eppatiki ela untamu, eppatikina india vellipovali ani antaru......andariki naa experience cheptunna.......

first, nenu 2011 lo job pettanu, 2019 ending varuku us lo unnanu......india vachesi 3 yrs ayyindi......job start chesina daggara nunchi savings motham amts india pampinchukunna.......2014 lo purchased a house, where i iinvested 70% amt and father invested 30% amt.........thumb rule enti ante, even mee parents india lo unna, iddaru kalipi invest cheyyakandi, porapatuna parents emina money pedithe in house/apt purchase, vallu motham ownership teesukuntaru, valla ishtam vachinattu chestaru........naaku india vachinaduku eppudu badha padaledu, kani parents tho kalisi enduku untunna ani matram full feel avutunna.....veelu chusukuni nxt 1 yr lo ala vere seperate vellipodamani plan.......60+ vachaka parents nasa, chadastam barinchalemu......arey mana son 11 yrs vere country lo undi, antha sonthanga earn chesukuni settle ayyadu kada, ikkadiki vachaka manam prathi dantlo involve avvakudadu kada ani minimum alochincharu.......they want the information of every minor thing that happens......please note naaku maa parents chala chala close when i was in usa.......ippudu e nasa, chadastam antha peaks lo undi, we are not used to this when we are in us, so india ravali ani evarina anukunte, my sincere advice seperate ga undandi, mana life style antha diff untundi, we cant deal with all the for the small small things with the parents

Second, maa house purchase lo 70% nenu and 30% father pettukunnaru........8 yrs ayyinidi kotha house complete ayyi, mthly oka 40k rent vastadi right now, naaku rents kavali, half and half teesukundamu ika nunchi rents annanu,  mamaulu ga penta cheyyaledu.......illu purchase lo memu money pettaleda, motham needi anukuntunnava, mammalni undanistava ledha intlonchi vellipomantava antaru......antha gola gola, racha chesi, oka 1 yr rents icharu finally......maaku vere income kuda undi, rents ika nunchi half kadhu motham istamu, nuvve teesuko ani final ga 1 yr rents icharu......but iche mundu, gola chesi, godava padi, icharu........

Third, nenu us nunchi india vachetappudu koncham bulk amt valla accts ki pampinchukunna.......andhulo entha money undi adigithe, malli gola gola chesaru.....memu emina tinesamu anukuntunnava, maakemi nee money avasaram ledhu ani enno matalu annaru......emina money shortage anipiste transfer chesestamu ani aravatam..........final ga antha racha, godavatho unna amt antha fd veypinchanu........next, nenu bank acct fd vesinavi online acct kavali ani adigithe malli godava, e sari beebatsanga godava, anni fd vesesamu kada, inka neeku online enduku antaru........again too much racha cheyyatam.......

nenu pina points ekkuavaga financial topics cheppanu.......ika chinna chinnavi chala untayi.......60+ vachaka parents chadastam, nasa peaks lo untadi......manam anni yrs vere country lo undi, india lo settle valla chadastam barinchalemu.......naaku emi anipinchindi ante, nenu motham transparent ga untu, first nunchi money antha save chesukuni, vallaki pampinchanu......naaku income entha vastadi, entha savings ani information share chesukune vadini.....but return ga emina adigithe full godava, igo ki potharu.........especially my dad, ayanaki edhi kuda kids ki chepparu, none of his assets vishayalu.......valla daggari assets vachedi valla tadanantarame, which is fyn, avi valla own assets kabatti, kani naavi adigina full ga godavalu padi, racha chesi, final ga settle chesaru (Except online access of bank accts).......

1) thumb rule 1, intha detailed ga enduku cheptunna ante, people who think abt returning back to india, dont stay with ur parents.......seperate ga undandi.....15 days or 1 mth ki okasari kalavandi.......we got used to some life style for long time in usa, a taruvatha kalisi undalemu, no matter how close you are with ur parents........

2) thumb rule 2, if you have plans to settle in usa only, plz plz india okka rupee pampakandi.........rasi pettukondi, pampinavi malla us teppinchukovali ante mamuluga chukkalu kanipinchavu.........parents ki pampiste, malla adigithe racha racha chestaru........dont send money to india if you dont have plans to return to india.......e points naa personal experience tho cheptunna......

 

bro nuvve kadha appatlo oka .5 million loans and cc geekesi vellipoyav

[chef]

11 minutes ago, Aamphat said:

bro nuvve kadha appatlo oka .5 million loans and cc geekesi vellipoyav

😇

[reality]

47 minutes ago, Aamphat said:

bro nuvve kadha appatlo oka .5 million loans and cc geekesi vellipoyav

 

2 hours ago, reality said:

Mari US credit cards geeki pampinchina money evari account lo pettav?@problem 

Parents account lo ithe safe ani akkada pettava?

 

[hydusguy]

12 hours ago, problem said:

hi all, i stayed in usa for 11 years and returned to india 3 yrs back......lyf and job everything is fyn here in india.......nenu e topic enduku vestunna ante chala mandi parents ni vadilesi us lo eppatiki ela untamu, eppatikina india vellipovali ani antaru......andariki naa experience cheptunna.......

first, nenu 2011 lo job pettanu, 2019 ending varuku us lo unnanu......india vachesi 3 yrs ayyindi......job start chesina daggara nunchi savings motham amts india pampinchukunna.......2014 lo purchased a house, where i iinvested 70% amt and father invested 30% amt.........thumb rule enti ante, even mee parents india lo unna, iddaru kalipi invest cheyyakandi, porapatuna parents emina money pedithe in house/apt purchase, vallu motham ownership teesukuntaru, valla ishtam vachinattu chestaru........naaku india vachinaduku eppudu badha padaledu, kani parents tho kalisi enduku untunna ani matram full feel avutunna.....veelu chusukuni nxt 1 yr lo ala vere seperate vellipodamani plan.......60+ vachaka parents nasa, chadastam barinchalemu......arey mana son 11 yrs vere country lo undi, antha sonthanga earn chesukuni settle ayyadu kada, ikkadiki vachaka manam prathi dantlo involve avvakudadu kada ani minimum alochincharu.......they want the information of every minor thing that happens......please note naaku maa parents chala chala close when i was in usa.......ippudu e nasa, chadastam antha peaks lo undi, we are not used to this when we are in us, so india ravali ani evarina anukunte, my sincere advice seperate ga undandi, mana life style antha diff untundi, we cant deal with all the for the small small things with the parents

Second, maa house purchase lo 70% nenu and 30% father pettukunnaru........8 yrs ayyinidi kotha house complete ayyi, mthly oka 40k rent vastadi right now, naaku rents kavali, half and half teesukundamu ika nunchi rents annanu,  mamaulu ga penta cheyyaledu.......illu purchase lo memu money pettaleda, motham needi anukuntunnava, mammalni undanistava ledha intlonchi vellipomantava antaru......antha gola gola, racha chesi, oka 1 yr rents icharu finally......maaku vere income kuda undi, rents ika nunchi half kadhu motham istamu, nuvve teesuko ani final ga 1 yr rents icharu......but iche mundu, gola chesi, godava padi, icharu........

Third, nenu us nunchi india vachetappudu koncham bulk amt valla accts ki pampinchukunna.......andhulo entha money undi adigithe, malli gola gola chesaru.....memu emina tinesamu anukuntunnava, maakemi nee money avasaram ledhu ani enno matalu annaru......emina money shortage anipiste transfer chesestamu ani aravatam..........final ga antha racha, godavatho unna amt antha fd veypinchanu........next, nenu bank acct fd vesinavi online acct kavali ani adigithe malli godava, e sari beebatsanga godava, anni fd vesesamu kada, inka neeku online enduku antaru........again too much racha cheyyatam.......

nenu pina points ekkuavaga financial topics cheppanu.......ika chinna chinnavi chala untayi.......60+ vachaka parents chadastam, nasa peaks lo untadi......manam anni yrs vere country lo undi, india lo settle valla chadastam barinchalemu.......naaku emi anipinchindi ante, nenu motham transparent ga untu, first nunchi money antha save chesukuni, vallaki pampinchanu......naaku income entha vastadi, entha savings ani information share chesukune vadini.....but return ga emina adigithe full godava, igo ki potharu.........especially my dad, ayanaki edhi kuda kids ki chepparu, none of his assets vishayalu.......valla daggari assets vachedi valla tadanantarame, which is fyn, avi valla own assets kabatti, kani naavi adigina full ga godavalu padi, racha chesi, final ga settle chesaru (Except online access of bank accts).......

1) thumb rule 1, intha detailed ga enduku cheptunna ante, people who think abt returning back to india, dont stay with ur parents.......seperate ga undandi.....15 days or 1 mth ki okasari kalavandi.......we got used to some life style for long time in usa, a taruvatha kalisi undalemu, no matter how close you are with ur parents........

2) thumb rule 2, if you have plans to settle in usa only, plz plz india okka rupee pampakandi.........rasi pettukondi, pampinavi malla us teppinchukovali ante mamuluga chukkalu kanipinchavu.........parents ki pampiste, malla adigithe racha racha chestaru........dont send money to india if you dont have plans to return to india.......e points naa personal experience tho cheptunna......

 

apudu common accounts undodu..

india money velte apatiki ravu.. most of the parents r not transparent..

 

[johnydanylee]

 

[RachaRambob]

18 hours ago, hch said:

So you are generalizing based on a single incident and painting a picture that all parents are money minded? Just bcoz your parents are materialistic doesn't mean every one in the world are

You should know where to draw the line whether it's your parents, siblings or your partner

TS point is exactly the same,  For some people, living with your parents and drawing lines is not so easy as they get older and when they have nothing much to do (hobbies etc.) at home, then they interfere in your decision making and money matters too much and hence affects your peace of mind..

[BommaliNinnodhala]

@ramudu latest — TS ki tips ivvu man

[BommaliNinnodhala]

18 hours ago, Peddayana said:

he was probably offended by something someone did and threw a tantrum mostly, ilantivi chala choosanu bhayyo nenu...

Nuvu peddayana vi kada — chaaaaala ne chusii untaaaavuuu —