Yem cheyagalanu tirigi na money yela techukonu

[jerry1]

4 minutes ago, IamBhagatSingh said:

Bhayya can you tell me what you did for your parents in the last 10 years. Were you there with them when they need to go to hospital or not well. 

 

what about parents who are healthy , never been to hospital ..in 40's and 50's but supporting elder sibling and his family to get settled by using the one staying in usa. They want their son's to be in usa so that they can earn more money...I am not generalizing all parents, but there are certain families who just talk about properties and earnings....value the people based on properties they acquired

[yemdoing]

5 hours ago, gnr said:

I gave 10lakhs in 2009 to my parents..my dad put that in his  bank account.. prema ga ichaa.. interest vadukomani.. inka 2012 nunchi na property meda rents use cheskuntannaru 12k per month. Ippudu na money naku ivvu antante ninnu penchaam chadivincham.. na daggara yem levu.. nenu yem job cheyatledu .. nenu ivvanu antannaru ma amma, nanna iddaru.. naku inko brother untadu kinda intlo paina ma parents untaru.. bother ki high earning job kaadani na money vallaki ivvalani chudtannaru.. interest vaadukomani isthe naku asalu kuda lekunda chestannaru.. ademi ante memu chanipothe dubbulu petti urulo dinam cheyali kadaa andarni pilavali kada antannaru.. adi nenu na brother sagam sagam pettukuni chese aachaaralu.. danikisam na money mosam chesi vallu lenapudu jarige vatiki ippudu mosam chestaara.. matladithe nenu kastha sampadistaa ani na daggare teskuntam money.. vallu sampadinchina aasthulu anni ma annaya ki.. sontha parents ye ilaa mosam chestante badha ga undi.. yevartho cheppukovali artham avtledu.. ee nammaka droham thattukoleka pothanna..nenu sampadinchindi kuda ma anna family ki  Pettali anukuntam naku artham avtledu.. 

Naku yedina salaha ivvandi na money asalu vache daari unte cheppandi.. nenu vati meda interest valla life long ivadaniki ready ne.. vallaki expenses chuskotaniki kuda ready ne.. kaani naku asalu (10lkahs ) ma parents nunchi yela aina teskogalanaa.. nenu pampinattu bank statements unnayi.

14 years ga nene financial help chestanna okka rupee kuda ma annaya chudadu.. yepudina sambar, pappu, chutney, food aa roju cheskunnadi konchem pedtha untaru vallu parents ki..  (not regular)

Financial ga every month help chestanna kuda nakante ma annaya antene istam ga untannaru anna feel vachindi naku.. nenu last 16 years ga vere country lo untam valla yemo.. 

 

 

 

 

Not sure how your relationship is with your parents... but it sounds like you are being too calculating towards parents without love . And comparing with your brother .

10 lakhs is not a big deal , can you save it again in another 5 years ? then chill dude. aa dabbulu enjoy chesedi pakkinti vallu kaadu ga.  

 

[jerry1]

3 minutes ago, gnr said:

By God's grace my parents are healthy.. no bp, sugar and no health issues.. but got covid whole family and 10days lo manchiga ayyaru without any doctor help.. anni tests chepistane untaru 2 or 3 years ki . And they visited us 3 times in the last 10 years .. memu veltane untam kids kosam India ki frequent ga

same here parents got married in teens....by there 40's we are grown up , married ...kids. No health issues, 

[hydusguy]

2 minutes ago, jerry1 said:

what about parents who are healthy , never been to hospital ..in 40's and 50's but supporting elder sibling and his family to get settled by using the one staying in usa. They want their son's to be in usa so that they can earn more money...I am not generalizing all parents, but there are certain families who just talk about properties and earnings....value the people based on properties they acquired

one bakra should be in usa always in family to safe guard/maintsin status symbol ..property ..financial in india.. for parents/siblings etc

[jerry1]

5 minutes ago, hydusguy said:

one bakra should be in usa always in family to safe guard/maintsin status symbol ..property ..financial in india.. for parents/siblings etc

@gnr is such bakra 

[AndhraneedSCS]

I am in the same situation (Have a Brother in India). But, my brother takes care of my parents whenever needed and so even if my parents give more property to my Brother, I don't care. 

 

When I gave up my responsibility of taking care of elderly parents (by being there physically), I should atleast take care of things financially whenever possible. 

 

Nee 10 Lakhs evaro road na poyevallaki ichava? mee parents kee kada. 

 

My suggestion is to take care of any other additional financial needs for your parents.

[gnr]

2 hours ago, AndhraneedSCS said:

I am in the same situation (Have a Brother in India). But, my brother takes care of my parents whenever needed and so even if my parents give more property to my Brother, I don't care. 

 

When I gave up my responsibility of taking care of elderly parents (by being there physically), I should atleast take care of things financially whenever possible. 

 

Nee 10 Lakhs evaro road na poyevallaki ichava? mee parents kee kada. 

 

My suggestion is to take care of any other additional financial needs for your parents.

Alaa anukune inni years mosapoyaa brother naa vaalle kadaa ma parents ye kadaa ani .. bayatavallu kaadu kadaa ani.. nelaa nelaa pette bangaru baathu manasu okasari ga champesaru brother money adagagane

[Iriswest]

11 hours ago, gnr said:

I gave 10lakhs in 2009 to my parents..my dad put that in his  bank account.. prema ga ichaa.. interest vadukomani.. inka 2012 nunchi na property meda rents use cheskuntannaru 12k per month. Ippudu na money naku ivvu antante ninnu penchaam chadivincham.. na daggara yem levu.. nenu yem job cheyatledu .. nenu ivvanu antannaru ma amma, nanna iddaru.. naku inko brother untadu kinda intlo paina ma parents untaru.. bother ki high earning job kaadani na money vallaki ivvalani chudtannaru.. interest vaadukomani isthe naku asalu kuda lekunda chestannaru.. ademi ante memu chanipothe dubbulu petti urulo dinam cheyali kadaa andarni pilavali kada antannaru.. adi nenu na brother sagam sagam pettukuni chese aachaaralu.. danikisam na money mosam chesi vallu lenapudu jarige vatiki ippudu mosam chestaara.. matladithe nenu kastha sampadistaa ani na daggare teskuntam money.. vallu sampadinchina aasthulu anni ma annaya ki.. sontha parents ye ilaa mosam chestante badha ga undi.. yevartho cheppukovali artham avtledu.. ee nammaka droham thattukoleka pothanna..nenu sampadinchindi kuda ma anna family ki  Pettali anukuntam naku artham avtledu.. 

Naku yedina salaha ivvandi na money asalu vache daari unte cheppandi.. nenu vati meda interest valla life long ivadaniki ready ne.. vallaki expenses chuskotaniki kuda ready ne.. kaani naku asalu (10lkahs ) ma parents nunchi yela aina teskogalanaa.. nenu pampinattu bank statements unnayi.

14 years ga nene financial help chestanna okka rupee kuda ma annaya chudadu.. yepudina sambar, pappu, chutney, food aa roju cheskunnadi konchem pedtha untaru vallu parents ki..  (not regular)

Financial ga every month help chestanna kuda nakante ma annaya antene istam ga untannaru anna feel vachindi naku.. nenu last 16 years ga vere country lo untam valla yemo.. 

 

 

 

 

Em matladutunnav bro? Ma in laws ki covid time lo just hospital bills ke 8 lakhs ainai. And we support both our parents financially. Parents daggara dabbulu karchupettadaniki aalochinchoddu please. Oka manchi car konicchanu anuko parents ki. Anthe

[SaradaChinnodu]

@gnr bro I had similar experience in my life and the numbers are much bigger than this..(around 1.5 cr) Almost same setting for 10-12 years. Na experience lo nundi oka Rendu Akula gynanam istha teesko...

Firstly, Parents always try to side and sympathize with the son who is staying close with them and the son will also dramatize the situation to his advantage ---idhi fix.....nuvu deenni tala kindaluka tappasu chesina marchalevuuu (Adem ante...vadu abroad lo banne sampadisthunnadu papam veede ela brathukuthado emo antaru...reality choosthey vadi out of control behavior ni enable chesthu untaru)

Secondly, as someone already said..its time to move on. Adjust to the reality, leave the money to them and move on for your own good. AA money teeskovalanna alochanalani champeyi...lekapothey ee never ending drama lo nuvvu pothav....

Thirdly, dont even try to reason with your parents or brother....nee manashanti sanka naaki pothadi...they will always find ways to justify their actions..

To summarize, forget about the money and move on.....

 

P.S. Don't hate your parents. Its not worth the attempt. If you can't stand the ongoing situation, pls stay away and do your thing..

 

[Vaampire]

U have 3 options

1) fight for ur money. Its lengthy process, ur friends, relatives will judge(even though ur on right side). U will loose mental peace. Antha fight chesina neeku money rakapovachu.

2) forget about ur money and cut ur connections with ur family. 
 

3) forget about ur money, stay as if nothing as happened and dont ever send money to parents. 
 

in all the 3 cases, nee peru meedha properties untey hand over chesuko. Rent annav antey home undi anukunta. Talk to tenants and ask them to transfer it to u.

 

 

if i were u, i will pick option 2 or 3…

option not worth it

[KothaKurrodu]

4 hours ago, SaradaChinnodu said:

@gnr bro I had similar experience in my life and the numbers are much bigger than this..(around 1.5 cr) Almost same setting for 10-12 years. Na experience lo nundi oka Rendu Akula gynanam istha teesko...

Firstly, Parents always try to side and sympathize with the son who is staying close with them and the son will also dramatize the situation to his advantage ---idhi fix.....nuvu deenni tala kindaluka tappasu chesina marchalevuuu (Adem ante...vadu abroad lo banne sampadisthunnadu papam veede ela brathukuthado emo antaru...reality choosthey vadi out of control behavior ni enable chesthu untaru)

Secondly, as someone already said..its time to move on. Adjust to the reality, leave the money to them and move on for your own good. AA money teeskovalanna alochanalani champeyi...lekapothey ee never ending drama lo nuvvu pothav....

Thirdly, dont even try to reason with your parents or brother....nee manashanti sanka naaki pothadi...they will always find ways to justify their actions..

To summarize, forget about the money and move on.....

 

P.S. Don't hate your parents. Its not worth the attempt. If you can't stand the ongoing situation, pls stay away and do your thing..

 

I follow same aakulu

[bavagaru]

16 hours ago, gnr said:

Badha ga undi brother sontha valle money daggara mosam chestante.. na whole life is a lie anipistandi.. 

Parents Robinhood laantollu Unna kids deggara nundi teesukoni leni vaallaki istaaru. As time passes they develop hatred on children who settled abraod and love who are close to them. Emaina aithe vaallega chusedi 

[jerry1]

50 minutes ago, bavagaru said:

Parents Robinhood laantollu Unna kids deggara nundi teesukoni leni vaallaki istaaru. As time passes they develop hatred on children who settled abraod and love who are close to them. Emaina aithe vaallega chusedi 

Undadam veru , unay ankuni bramapadadam veru. Inko twist they only expect from male kid malla female kid ki life long pedta untaru, male kids pedtu undalani expect chesta untaru .. female kid better position unna

[Pavanonline]

18 hours ago, csrcsr said:

Endi anna ee threads 2009 lone 10lakhs I have ante baane migilinchav it's ok anna parents ke kada , bayata odu kadu kada chill bro be careful from.now on

Month ki oka sari parents/relatives thread and depression thread quota untadi.

[bavagaru]

3 hours ago, jerry1 said:

Undadam veru , unay ankuni bramapadadam veru. Inko twist they only expect from male kid malla female kid ki life long pedta untaru, male kids pedtu undalani expect chesta untaru .. female kid better position unna

That's correct. Magadiki e kashtaalu tappavu.Andukani ekkuva maatladakudadu plus nee income reveal cheyakudadu, nee achievements cheppa kudadu.