Is this a red flag?

March 31, 2023

I’m Indian male, seeing this Chinese girl I really like for a while (not exclusive yet or using labels). I’m personally agnostic to the interracial aspect of our relationship, but in the past she’s expressed concern about possible pushback from her parents (upper class, back in China) regarding this.

Yesterday, I probed her more on this, she tells me how back home Indians are perceived as ‘not clean’ and ‘using words more than actions’. I didn’t bother too much, because I didn’t think these stereotypes necessarily affected her family’s worldview.
the kicker: later at night, at various points *in bed* she whispered how her parents would be ‘so happy if I were Chinese or American’.

Perhaps I already know the answer as I ask this, but is this a massive red flag? I really like her, and it would break my heart to have to let this go because of a mismatch in ethnicities, which neither of us had any control over to begin with.

Would especially appreciate responses from guys/girls who’ve been in a similar situation, where you were concerned your ethnicity would be perceived negatively by your partner’s family. Did it work out for you eventually?

tc: 350

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