Magajathi Animuthyal : Phases of USA life

[athili_duvva_combo]

8 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Immediate family relationship thappa others gone

Enni yrs ayndi myan nuvvu USA vachi

Yeah. Inkonni years ki immediate family members tho kuda pothadi touch and everyone appears like strangers to you. 

[reality]

9 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Frequent visits are hard after kids myan.

Its just in your mind…. State of mind dictates your acts. Whatever I said earlier was with personal experience.

[FrustratedVuncle]

15 minutes ago, athili_duvva_combo said:

Yeah. Inkonni years ki immediate family members tho kuda pothadi touch and everyone appears like strangers to you. 

True. Few years lo airport ki kuda evaru raru. Mana kids ki India lo andaru strangers ee. 

[FrustratedVuncle]

22 minutes ago, desperatetogoUSA said:

Pullalu kadu first atha ki madda pettali mana frustrated vuncle

Me families lo manchi manchi kattubatlu anukunta vro. Me sister ki marriage aynda?

[FrustratedVuncle]

11 minutes ago, reality said:

Its just in your mind…. State of mind dictates your acts. Whatever I said earlier was with personal experience.

 

10 hours ago, reality said:

Don’t worry man… there is nothing like giving up… you can manage things remotely and visit your parents frequently. Try to give them comfort even if you are far away. Staying with them makes them happy anedhi oka myth. You can take good care of them even if you are away and visit frequently.

How often you go to India sodhara? Of course calls and caring chestam, so far no complains from India. 

Covid time lo ayyaki oka surgery cheyalsi vachindi. pichakayal pack. vellalekapoya. Felt so dejected. 3yrs ayndi India poi, epudu edoka restriction. Penchali frequency.

[sarfaroshi]

12 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Mana magajathi animuthyalu USA ki vachaka elanti phases of life experience chestaru? 

Masters Phase: Masters cheskuntu, assignments, part time jobs, CPTs, aaada ladies ni impress cheyadaniki vaalla projects assignments lo fingering, Vantalu, Mandu parties, Pubs lo chillara vesalu etc.

New Job Phase: Kottaga job vachi, Financial ga koncham freedom vachi, Ika manalni evarra apedi anna feeling. Trips, Cricket, istam vachinatlu car lo tirugudu.

Girl Searching Phase : Evaraina foris chance istaremo ani try cheyatam. Or Tella tolu unna non-desi s chance istaremo ani vethukudu, dorikithe enjoy chesudu. Taravata Matrimonial sites lo, telisonllu sambandalu vethukuthu aa vache rejections chooskoni edvatam.

Pellaina Kothalo Phase : Kothaga pellai ika full meals, trips and colorful life ani anukovatam. Cut cheste reality nakko poooch. 

Kids Diaper phase : aaa edupulu endo, aa diaper la gola endo, aa appointments, day care pick up drops endo na royya.

House buying phase : Andaru koni 10g tunnaru happy ga enjoy chestunnaru new homes lo ani, intlo aada ladies gola, peer comparisons ekkuvai edoka illu konukkovatam. 

Confusion Phase : Kids ni ikkada penchala leda India ki move aypovala? Paisal entha save chesam asalu future ki saripotaya. Parents ni vadili ennallu undali ani tega alochinchestam but ikkadde untam mostly ekkadiki pomu.

Regret Phase : Parents age perigi vallu travel cheyaleni paristhithi. valla health bagoledu or some bad news vini India vellaleni paristhitulu. Thu denemma em jeevitham ra idhi, pellam, pillalu mata vinaru, parents ni daggarundi chooskolem avasarama ee omeerrica life 10geyalsindi kids puttagane ani oka feeling.

Give up Phase : Entha chinchukunna life mana chethilo ledu flow lo follow aipovatame.

Inka ekkuva phase lu undochu.

Nenu prastutam confusion phase la unna. Meru face chesina phases enti? Prastutam ee stage lo unnaru?

 

[reality]

10 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

 

How often you go to India sodhara? Of course calls and caring chestam, so far no complains from India. 

Covid time lo ayyaki oka surgery cheyalsi vachindi. pichakayal pack. vellalekapoya. Felt so dejected. 3yrs ayndi India poi, epudu edoka restriction. Penchali frequency.

Frequency around 8 months… minimum 30- 40 days spend chestha… last time 3.5 months unna…

I understand the situation you faced during Covid… of course pack avuddi…

[andhra_jp]

10 hours ago, Galactus said:

Once you buy house, it mostly implies that you made your decision (in your mind atleast) that you will stay in us, bayataki sollu cheptharu chala mandi like confusion undi, parents this and parents that ani, all trash talk anta

if people really care about taking care of parents they would go back in an instant and thats the truth,

rest all is bullshit that people say to make themselves feel good that they did not abandon their parents

truth is harsh

 

 

 

Bhayya,

 

Illu purchase chesi india ki vellina vallu kuppalu vunnaru and then trying to sell house from India as well alanti cases kuda chadivaanu...

Life loo yenta mental gaa prepare ayinaa situations are not in our control and we never know whats destined for us..

 

[FrustratedVuncle]

12 minutes ago, reality said:

Frequency around 8 months… minimum 30- 40 days spend chestha… last time 3.5 months unna…

I understand the situation you faced during Covid… of course pack avuddi…

Family tho veltava? Good for you that 8months ki going. 

[reality]

52 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Family tho veltava? Good for you that 8months ki going. 

Yes… parents feel even more happy when they see grand children too.

[desperatetogoUSA]

1 hour ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Me families lo manchi manchi kattubatlu anukunta vro. Me sister ki marriage aynda?

Ma family muchata Enduku le bro, I never bring my family things to public like you. First go and satisfy your mother in law old fooku and to your question I am only son 

[FrustratedVuncle]

16 minutes ago, desperatetogoUSA said:

Ma family muchata Enduku le bro, I never bring my family things to public like you. First go and satisfy your mother in law old fooku and to your question I am only son 

Arerey ego hurt ainattu unde.  Oorkey noru pareskokudadhu bro.

Glad you are only son to Dear mom. 

[FrustratedVuncle]

45 minutes ago, reality said:

Yes… parents feel even more happy when they see grand children too.

True. Family tho 8months ki India trip ante mamul patience and planning kadu needi. 

[desperatetogoUSA]

28 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Arerey ego hurt ainattu unde.  Oorkey noru pareskokudadhu bro.

Glad you are only son to Dear mom. 

Thanks Anna, first ne athani lefi legi ** 

[FrustratedVuncle]

2 minutes ago, desperatetogoUSA said:

Thanks Anna, first ne athani lefi legi ** 

Sorry sodhara. Ne family kattu batlu andaru patincharuga. You continue with your traditions. Papam ne family aada ladies.