Wife Money management issue

[krishnaaa]

57 minutes ago, BommaliNinnodhala said:

Don't Stress 

How?

If you send money and property is in their name, they will use it to their advantage and stress you out.

You will end up with high BP and diabetes.

That's why it's very important to take steps beforehand if you don't want to stress.

[fake_Bezawada]

On 6/5/2023 at 8:13 PM, psycopk said:

Oka expectations set cheyi.. ilu ante nuvvu enta ichana saripodu.. oka number chepu.. aa number reach avagane stop cheyali ani chepu.. kadu kudadu annadi anuko.. osey mental nedi kani daniki peti dobinchukunta antunav.. repu adi anta mee anna algestadu.. house nee peru meda padaleti nenu contribute chesta ani chepu.. 

 

second.. ikada oka investment or bigger house koneyi.. downpayments and ipudu unan interest rates dula terupodi idsariki

 

Third and best.. tana salary max contribute to 401k and stock options if any..nee financial plans kuda clear ga discuss cheyi… ledu ante india lone tana leru mea oka apt koneyi.. dani payments ani tanane handle cheya manu.. parents house is not urs.. but this is urs ani chepu

 

aaina vinakapote.. mee atha mama latho oka sitting veyi

atta mama ki ayna siggundali isthe teesesukotaniki 

alludu eduru adigithe tappu 

kooturu daggara paisal mingatam endo pelli ayaka kooda 

sare ivvachu ammayi parents kooda mana parents laagane but beyond the limits pothe she's on the edge of loosing her own marriage life 

and aaame parents kooda kakkurthi padakunda alluditho discuss chesi inta chaalu andi ante he'll also be happy 

[AllamTea23]

On 6/8/2023 at 2:51 PM, fake_Bezawada said:

atta mama ki ayna siggundali isthe teesesukotaniki 

alludu eduru adigithe tappu 

kooturu daggara paisal mingatam endo pelli ayaka kooda 

sare ivvachu ammayi parents kooda mana parents laagane but beyond the limits pothe she's on the edge of loosing her own marriage life 

and aaame parents kooda kakkurthi padakunda alluditho discuss chesi inta chaalu andi ante he'll also be happy 

VERY common trend...atta mama taking money from daughters and the logic they give is --they also spent money on daughters education) B.TECH CHADIVINCHAMU) so they will take money...almost all girls parents are used to money...

If ur wife has done MS and then U married her...Forget abt even asking her abt finances...My friend wife did MS in CS from Texas ..she send money to her parenets like 80 %% o their salary and they bought apartment in her name

[AllamTea23]

LTT

[fake_Bezawada]

18 hours ago, AllamTea23 said:

VERY common trend...atta mama taking money from daughters and the logic they give is --they also spent money on daughters education) B.TECH CHADIVINCHAMU) so they will take money...almost all girls parents are used to money...

If ur wife has done MS and then U married her...Forget abt even asking her abt finances...My friend wife did MS in CS from Texas ..she send money to her parenets like 80 %% o their salary and they bought apartment in her name

it's good kada buying apartment on her name 

[VAAMPlRE]

1 hour ago, fake_Bezawada said:

it's good kada buying apartment on her name 

MG ra 

[RaphaelChou]

Try to understand her perspective and the reasons behind her actions. It might also be helpful to seek advice from a financial advisor or counselor who can provide guidance on managing these complexities.
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[Kakynada]

ok

[Dhed]

Best thing is get mortgage or car loan under her name and let them pay 

[CanadianMalodu]

On 5/24/2023 at 12:34 PM, Mesthri said:

Married 1 year ago. Wife ki H4 EAD meda recently job vachindi.

Job ragane wife tone changed. Behaving independently.

Separate bank account teskunnam wife ki. Thana money thane handle chestha antundi.

Wife wants to give half salary to parents as they are building new home and have some loans related to their old business.

Valla big brother works in IT with good salary.

Not sure if I have to agree to her financial decisions. 

Married working couple how are you maintaining financials together?

Mundhu post nup agreement sign cheyinchokondi. Kallu netthiki ekki kapuram lo nippulu kuristhe, teda aithe meeku boghule migulthayi. 

No relationship is equal. Don't even entertain that idea. Women marry for security and  Men marry for 🍒 and baby making. This is intrinsic wiring of our brain. But social conditioning changes things by equating social and financial status to dictate lives. This made me fall into either dominant ina relationship or a bit submissive in a relationship. In between are compromises with frequent spats. 

If you want to fall into the first category, you start to assert your dominance as head of the house holds. This doesn't mean shouting or beating her sort of things. Make your voice heard with logic and speak with no uncertainty. Because her EAD is tied to you H1B, this is your best bet. Do what's best in your family's and kids interest not her family's 

 

[AndhraPickles]

Urgent ga....mee wife garitho...inko house an house loan teesuko...lekapothey inka chala plan chesthaaaru....or lure her to buy gold for herself.....