Wife Money management issue

[riashli]

3 minutes ago, allbakara said:

You too tell that you will be sending half of your salary to your parents every month

Yes.. He shld also be taking good care of his parents.. 

[psycopk]

On 5/24/2023 at 9:34 AM, Mesthri said:

Married 1 year ago. Wife ki H4 EAD meda recently job vachindi.

Job ragane wife tone changed. Behaving independently.

Separate bank account teskunnam wife ki. Thana money thane handle chestha antundi.

Wife wants to give half salary to parents as they are building new home and have some loans related to their old business.

Valla big brother works in IT with good salary.

Not sure if I have to agree to her financial decisions. 

Married working couple how are you maintaining financials together?

Oka expectations set cheyi.. ilu ante nuvvu enta ichana saripodu.. oka number chepu.. aa number reach avagane stop cheyali ani chepu.. kadu kudadu annadi anuko.. osey mental nedi kani daniki peti dobinchukunta antunav.. repu adi anta mee anna algestadu.. house nee peru meda padaleti nenu contribute chesta ani chepu.. 

 

second.. ikada oka investment or bigger house koneyi.. downpayments and ipudu unan interest rates dula terupodi idsariki

 

Third and best.. tana salary max contribute to 401k and stock options if any..nee financial plans kuda clear ga discuss cheyi… ledu ante india lone tana leru mea oka apt koneyi.. dani payments ani tanane handle cheya manu.. parents house is not urs.. but this is urs ani chepu

 

aaina vinakapote.. mee atha mama latho oka sitting veyi

[TexasBoy]

11 minutes ago, riashli said:

Parents ki money pampite tappenti? Forget whatever her brother earns, tanani penchinanduku parents ni chuskokudada? Secret ga pampatledu kada

Your husband sends 50% of his salary to his parents right away and feed you and kids with remianing 50% . Will you accept ?

[Naaperushiva]

At the end of the day parents ki help cheyyatam lo thappu ledhu baa..thana earn chesthunna money kaabatti she can do what ever she wants to( again only 50% pamputhunnaru annaru kaabatti no issues)...Same nuvvu adey cheyyi appudu thanu question chesthe then problem otherwise no issue.

innellu parents saakaaru so okkasari earning chesinappudu vallaki return gaa help cheyyali ani prathi kid ki vuntundhi gaa baa..

[gudboy]

5 minutes ago, riashli said:

U seem to be egoistic 

oh when husband sends money all of a sudden he becomes irresponsible and not thinking about his wife and children's future..and if wife sends money and husband asks he become egoist instantly..

 

nice amma

[mustang302]

7 minutes ago, allbakara said:

You too tell that you will be sending half of your salary to your parents every month

Then starts the fight.. tv9 , tv5, Abn lo news scroll.

[TexasBoy]

5 minutes ago, riashli said:

Husband ki cheppe pampistundi kada. Women should have financial independence

Financial independence is fine but arrogance and dumbness doesn't work

[riashli]

1 minute ago, TexasBoy said:

Your husband sends 50% of his salary to his parents right away and feed you and kids with remianing 50% . Will you accept ?

He pays only rent, i take care of rest of expenses, be it bills, traveling, eating out, groceries. I never ask him what happens to his salary. Evaru kharchu pedite enti

[TexasBoy]

4 minutes ago, Naaperushiva said:

At the end of the day parents ki help cheyyatam lo thappu ledhu baa..thana earn chesthunna money kaabatti she can do what ever she wants to( again only 50% pamputhunnaru annaru kaabatti no issues)...Same nuvvu adey cheyyi appudu thanu question chesthe then problem otherwise no issue.

innellu parents saakaaru so okkasari earning chesinappudu vallaki return gaa help cheyyali ani prathi kid ki vuntundhi gaa baa..

Husband doing same thing wife complaining always no

[Telugodura456]

6 minutes ago, riashli said:

Husband ki cheppe pampistundi kada. Women should have financial independence

Your understanding of financial independence is incorrect. Financial independence ante ability to make a living on their own if they have to separate. that she already has because she has a job.

But when you are in a marriage - your first responsibility is to your  own family. I will criticize husband also if he is sending money to help make his parents richer (like house building gatra). sending money for maintenance and health is ok.

[Naaperushiva]

Just now, TexasBoy said:

Husband doing same thing wife complaining always no

chesthe problem baa appudu nuvvu kooda pampaku antey sari...simple

otherwise no issues gaa

[riashli]

2 minutes ago, TexasBoy said:

Financial independence is fine but arrogance and dumbness doesn't work

Ikkada dumbness ekkada undi, arrogance Ani atanu assume chestunnadu that job ragane tone change ayyindi Ani.. ame ki arrogance unte money cheppi pampadu kada.. if he is not comfortable he shld discuss the same with her.. ikkada cheppi use emundi 

[gudboy]

On 5/24/2023 at 11:34 AM, Mesthri said:

Married 1 year ago. Wife ki H4 EAD meda recently job vachindi.

Job ragane wife tone changed. Behaving independently.

Separate bank account teskunnam wife ki. Thana money thane handle chestha antundi.

Wife wants to give half salary to parents as they are building new home and have some loans related to their old business.

Valla big brother works in IT with good salary.

Not sure if I have to agree to her financial decisions. 

Married working couple how are you maintaining financials together?

dude you need to sort it out ASAP leda neeku baand baja bharaat aa future lo 

if she want to send money then set terms that she will need to share 50% of household expenses and then do whatever she want with her money and same goes to you..

 

[Naaperushiva]

1 minute ago, gudboy said:

dude you need to sort it out ASAP leda neeku baand baja bharaat aa future lo 

if she want to send money then set terms that she will need to share 50% of household expenses and then do whatever she want with her money and same goes to you..

 

100% agreed baa

[Telugodura456]

She can spend on herself with money. No issues but sending it for parents house building is same as husband sending it for pakkinti family welfare because he is freidns with them.