Pellam torture

[Sucker]

She was expecting dominance and submission type chex fafam manodu yemo just push and pull and job lo 24*7 prod support mindset. Fafam ra. Just do one thing ivanni chat lo disco pettu as proof and 10 year gc apply chesi jump kottu harassment kindha. Picha light. Vomerica will support you as long as nuv genuine aithe. Just take proof anthe 

[nokia123]

15 hours ago, cameraman said:

Evvado FB lo esadu

 

Hello guys, need some serious advice. I am 30 years old and my wife is 28 years. I was on an F-1 student VISA and I got married to a desi US citizen (born, raised, studied, and worked in India but she got her US citizenship/naturalization through her parents who got it through work three decades ago/30 years ago). She never lived in the US but only came to the US after we got married. The proposal came through my parents. It was an arranged marriage. We are married for almost 2 years now. We have a 6-month-old daughter. I am on my 2-year conditional green card. I have to apply for a 10-year green card next year in June/July. Things are not working out between us. She is too dominating and harassing. She wants me to be at her fingertips. She fights with me every day one way or the other showing me down. She bad-mouths me to her parents and friends. She doesn't respect my parents and she taunts me while I talk to them over the phone. Living every day with this woman is a nightmare. I have gone through trauma and have regretted marrying her multiple times. I am filled with sorrow and grief. She has been mentally harassing me. She doesn't allow me to video call my parents in India and show them their granddaughter. My parents got their B1B2 visa approved but my wife is not allowing my parents to visit us and see their granddaughter for a few months. She wants to take control of everything and everyone. She exhibits the quality of Narcissistic Personality Disorder- NPD (google it). I am a software engineer and make a decent chunk thrice than her and she's from customer support (call center background) but she manages my finances. She gives me a budget of 100$ in debit cards for my expenses. I can't even use my own credit card. Before marriage, I used to send money to my parents for family support but after marriage when she took control of my savings and finances from then she prevented me to send my parents money in India. There is no financial freedom for me. She doesn't even allow me to do investments but stores our money in the credit union. Our sexual life was fine before our daughter was born and now after our daughter is born there is nothing. She has a fetish of being a master and she treats me like a slave on the bed. She even abused, insulted me about my body parts (d*ck size), body shamed me, and humiliated me several times when intimate. She says all these turn her on. I have had enough and have gone beyond the saturation point but still have remained calm in the interest of not destroying my family only for the sake of my 6-month-old daughter. Very hardly convinced her to have a couple of counseling sessions where obviously I couldn't express all these (much more) over the phone. No outcome out of counseling. There are nights when I have wept and have fallen asleep regretting suffering marrying her. Now that we have a daughter, my daughter is my love and my daughter is my life.

My questions

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1. If I file for divorce who will get the custody of our daughter? Will my wife get it? Or will I get it? Or if we both fail then will my daughter go to foster home?

(As a newly become father who is very emotional and sensitive I can not live without my daughter. My daughter is my world to me and my bundle of joy. In my case, if my daughter goes to the foster home then I will forget all the abuses she does and will continue to bear those because I can not lose my daughter). I am scared to think of divorce if there is a slight chance that I would lose my daughter. So please help me out as to what to do. I am completely blank and suffering very badly.

2. If I file for divorce will my 10-year green card (GC) extension be rejected? (GC is the second thing to be after my daughter. I can't bear her torture. Even if my GC is rejected I can go to India and easily find a decent-paying coding job.)

3. Last year we got a home in our name jointly. I had invested all 4 years of my savings as a downpayment. The monthly mortgage is being debited from my checking account (my salary). She has not invested a single dollar in the house. I took complete responsibility for the home buying in both of our names jointly. There is a mortgage debt of 415,000$ at the rate of 6.38% interest on the house. If we get a divorce decree then what will happen to the home? How can we settle/divide the home dispute?

4. Can we live in the same home and file for divorce?

5. She has taken custody of my finances and bank accounts though we are joint owners. How can I have my hard earnings back?

6. Please help me out how I could come out of this trouble. Thanks

Idhemi torture baa

[Konebhar6]

He is the man of the house and needs to act like one. Take finances under control and be firm. Oka saari tiraga padithe (Not violence), she has no option but to patch up or act better. Hez making 3 times more money and have no access to it? Crazee. 

Pillagallu ila swatimuthyam la untee, everyone will take advantage.  

[nenu_meeku_telusa]

We want her story antunna db ladies

[samprok]

15 hours ago, cameraman said:

Evvado FB lo esadu

 

Hello guys, need some serious advice. I am 30 years old and my wife is 28 years. I was on an F-1 student VISA and I got married to a desi US citizen (born, raised, studied, and worked in India but she got her US citizenship/naturalization through her parents who got it through work three decades ago/30 years ago). She never lived in the US but only came to the US after we got married. The proposal came through my parents. It was an arranged marriage. We are married for almost 2 years now. We have a 6-month-old daughter. I am on my 2-year conditional green card. I have to apply for a 10-year green card next year in June/July. Things are not working out between us. She is too dominating and harassing. She wants me to be at her fingertips. She fights with me every day one way or the other showing me down. She bad-mouths me to her parents and friends. She doesn't respect my parents and she taunts me while I talk to them over the phone. Living every day with this woman is a nightmare. I have gone through trauma and have regretted marrying her multiple times. I am filled with sorrow and grief. She has been mentally harassing me. She doesn't allow me to video call my parents in India and show them their granddaughter. My parents got their B1B2 visa approved but my wife is not allowing my parents to visit us and see their granddaughter for a few months. She wants to take control of everything and everyone. She exhibits the quality of Narcissistic Personality Disorder- NPD (google it). I am a software engineer and make a decent chunk thrice than her and she's from customer support (call center background) but she manages my finances. She gives me a budget of 100$ in debit cards for my expenses. I can't even use my own credit card. Before marriage, I used to send money to my parents for family support but after marriage when she took control of my savings and finances from then she prevented me to send my parents money in India. There is no financial freedom for me. She doesn't even allow me to do investments but stores our money in the credit union. Our sexual life was fine before our daughter was born and now after our daughter is born there is nothing. She has a fetish of being a master and she treats me like a slave on the bed. She even abused, insulted me about my body parts (d*ck size), body shamed me, and humiliated me several times when intimate. She says all these turn her on. I have had enough and have gone beyond the saturation point but still have remained calm in the interest of not destroying my family only for the sake of my 6-month-old daughter. Very hardly convinced her to have a couple of counseling sessions where obviously I couldn't express all these (much more) over the phone. No outcome out of counseling. There are nights when I have wept and have fallen asleep regretting suffering marrying her. Now that we have a daughter, my daughter is my love and my daughter is my life.

My questions

-------------

1. If I file for divorce who will get the custody of our daughter? Will my wife get it? Or will I get it? Or if we both fail then will my daughter go to foster home?

(As a newly become father who is very emotional and sensitive I can not live without my daughter. My daughter is my world to me and my bundle of joy. In my case, if my daughter goes to the foster home then I will forget all the abuses she does and will continue to bear those because I can not lose my daughter). I am scared to think of divorce if there is a slight chance that I would lose my daughter. So please help me out as to what to do. I am completely blank and suffering very badly.

2. If I file for divorce will my 10-year green card (GC) extension be rejected? (GC is the second thing to be after my daughter. I can't bear her torture. Even if my GC is rejected I can go to India and easily find a decent-paying coding job.)

3. Last year we got a home in our name jointly. I had invested all 4 years of my savings as a downpayment. The monthly mortgage is being debited from my checking account (my salary). She has not invested a single dollar in the house. I took complete responsibility for the home buying in both of our names jointly. There is a mortgage debt of 415,000$ at the rate of 6.38% interest on the house. If we get a divorce decree then what will happen to the home? How can we settle/divide the home dispute?

4. Can we live in the same home and file for divorce?

5. She has taken custody of my finances and bank accounts though we are joint owners. How can I have my hard earnings back?

6. Please help me out how I could come out of this trouble. Thanks

This is almost not a true story. if it's true to the T, answer these?

1. mee avida chachipote neeku ok na?
2. mee avida vere vaaditho affair pettukunte neeku ok na?
3. Nuv nijamga ne submission type aa in real life? 
4. What are you afraid of most other than losing your daughter?

5. what are the things you like most in your wife?

6. How is her family financially, politically?

7. Does she have any siblings?

[kiran1012]

31 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

He is the man of the house and needs to act like one. Take finances under control and be firm. Oka saari tiraga padithe (Not violence), she has no option but to patch up or act better. Hez making 3 times more money and have no access to it? Crazee. 

Pillagallu ila swatimuthyam la untee, everyone will take advantage.  

She being US citizen,  GC sponsor chesthundi kadha baga pamper/ athi garabham chesi submissive ga undi untadu..

He treated her like queen giving all control to her, she may have felt good, took advantage of it and treated him like slave..

Now even if he confronts her for any thing, in her perception he is changed man after getting GC.

Overall he set wrong expectations in his initial days of marriage life.

[Konebhar6]

5 minutes ago, kiran1012 said:

She being US citizen,  GC sponsor chesthundi kadha baga pamper/ athi garabham chesi untadu..

He treated her like queen giving all control to her, she may have felt good, took advantage of it and treated him like slave..

Now even if he confronts her for any thing, in her perception he is changed man after getting GC.

Overall he set wrong expectations in his initial days of marriage life.

Quiet possible. GC sponsorship lo life paducheskuntunnadu. Getting away via Divorce should be his priority. He has to think about himself first before putting anyone else (even his kid)...

[samprok]

29 minutes ago, kiran1012 said:

She being US citizen,  GC sponsor chesthundi kadha baga pamper/ athi garabham chesi submissive ga undi untadu..

He treated her like queen giving all control to her, she may have felt good, took advantage of it and treated him like slave..

Now even if he confronts her for any thing, in her perception he is changed man after getting GC.

Overall he set wrong expectations in his initial days of marriage life.

 

21 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

Quiet possible. GC sponsorship lo life paducheskuntunnadu. Getting away via Divorce should be his priority. He has to think about himself first before putting anyone else (even his kid)...

 

He may very well be overreacting to the whole thing. Problems are everywhere, cannot run from everything. Let him answer my questions and will see if we can help him.

[Sanjiv]

On 7/3/2023 at 1:13 PM, samprok said:

He may very well be overreacting to the whole thing. Problems are everywhere, cannot run from everything. Let him answer my questions and will see if we can help him.

How would he know to answer your questions here? He posted his issues on FB. Someone copycatted it here.

[cameraman]

4 hours ago, kiran1012 said:

She being US citizen,  GC sponsor chesthundi kadha baga pamper/ athi garabham chesi submissive ga undi untadu..

He treated her like queen giving all control to her, she may have felt good, took advantage of it and treated him like slave..

Now even if he confronts her for any thing, in her perception he is changed man after getting GC.

Overall he set wrong expectations in his initial days of marriage life.

baga catch chesav.. me too thinking same

pelli kothalo.. cho sweet ga undi prathi daniki pamper chesthe.. sanka nakipistharu

[Thokkalee]

4 hours ago, Konebhar6 said:

He is the man of the house and needs to act like one. Take finances under control and be firm. Oka saari tiraga padithe (Not violence), she has no option but to patch up or act better. Hez making 3 times more money and have no access to it? Crazee. 

Pillagallu ila swatimuthyam la untee, everyone will take advantage.  

Something doesn’t seem right in his story.. no credit cards anta, $100 debit card for pocket money anta… sounds so silly… how is this level of surrendering possible in just 2 years of marriage?? 

I have a feeling that there is a lot more to this story.. he can easily take control of his finances.. just create a new account and have the salary deposited to the new account.. he can also apply for a new credit card, who can stop him.. 

[raccharambola]

20 hours ago, cameraman said:

Evvado FB lo esadu

 

Hello guys, need some serious advice. I am 30 years old and my wife is 28 years. I was on an F-1 student VISA and I got married to a desi US citizen (born, raised, studied, and worked in India but she got her US citizenship/naturalization through her parents who got it through work three decades ago/30 years ago). She never lived in the US but only came to the US after we got married. The proposal came through my parents. It was an arranged marriage. We are married for almost 2 years now. We have a 6-month-old daughter. I am on my 2-year conditional green card. I have to apply for a 10-year green card next year in June/July. Things are not working out between us. She is too dominating and harassing. She wants me to be at her fingertips. She fights with me every day one way or the other showing me down. She bad-mouths me to her parents and friends. She doesn't respect my parents and she taunts me while I talk to them over the phone. Living every day with this woman is a nightmare. I have gone through trauma and have regretted marrying her multiple times. I am filled with sorrow and grief. She has been mentally harassing me. She doesn't allow me to video call my parents in India and show them their granddaughter. My parents got their B1B2 visa approved but my wife is not allowing my parents to visit us and see their granddaughter for a few months. She wants to take control of everything and everyone. She exhibits the quality of Narcissistic Personality Disorder- NPD (google it). I am a software engineer and make a decent chunk thrice than her and she's from customer support (call center background) but she manages my finances. She gives me a budget of 100$ in debit cards for my expenses. I can't even use my own credit card. Before marriage, I used to send money to my parents for family support but after marriage when she took control of my savings and finances from then she prevented me to send my parents money in India. There is no financial freedom for me. She doesn't even allow me to do investments but stores our money in the credit union. Our sexual life was fine before our daughter was born and now after our daughter is born there is nothing. She has a fetish of being a master and she treats me like a slave on the bed. She even abused, insulted me about my body parts (d*ck size), body shamed me, and humiliated me several times when intimate. She says all these turn her on. I have had enough and have gone beyond the saturation point but still have remained calm in the interest of not destroying my family only for the sake of my 6-month-old daughter. Very hardly convinced her to have a couple of counseling sessions where obviously I couldn't express all these (much more) over the phone. No outcome out of counseling. There are nights when I have wept and have fallen asleep regretting suffering marrying her. Now that we have a daughter, my daughter is my love and my daughter is my life.

My questions

-------------

1. If I file for divorce who will get the custody of our daughter? Will my wife get it? Or will I get it? Or if we both fail then will my daughter go to foster home?

(As a newly become father who is very emotional and sensitive I can not live without my daughter. My daughter is my world to me and my bundle of joy. In my case, if my daughter goes to the foster home then I will forget all the abuses she does and will continue to bear those because I can not lose my daughter). I am scared to think of divorce if there is a slight chance that I would lose my daughter. So please help me out as to what to do. I am completely blank and suffering very badly.

2. If I file for divorce will my 10-year green card (GC) extension be rejected? (GC is the second thing to be after my daughter. I can't bear her torture. Even if my GC is rejected I can go to India and easily find a decent-paying coding job.)

3. Last year we got a home in our name jointly. I had invested all 4 years of my savings as a downpayment. The monthly mortgage is being debited from my checking account (my salary). She has not invested a single dollar in the house. I took complete responsibility for the home buying in both of our names jointly. There is a mortgage debt of 415,000$ at the rate of 6.38% interest on the house. If we get a divorce decree then what will happen to the home? How can we settle/divide the home dispute?

4. Can we live in the same home and file for divorce?

5. She has taken custody of my finances and bank accounts though we are joint owners. How can I have my hard earnings back?

6. Please help me out how I could come out of this trouble. Thanks

prati intlo idi common, koncham ikkada dose ekkuvaidi ....but its same to same for everybody

[Sanjiv]

1 hour ago, Thokkalee said:

Something doesn’t seem right in his story.. no credit cards anta, $100 debit card for pocket money anta… sounds so silly… how is this level of surrendering possible in just 2 years of marriage?? 

I have a feeling that there is a lot more to this story.. he can easily take control of his finances.. just create a new account and have the salary deposited to the new account.. he can also apply for a new credit card, who can stop him.. 

It's a FAKE story for seeking attention

[Konebhar6]

4 hours ago, raccharambola said:

prati intlo idi common, koncham ikkada dose ekkuvaidi ....but its same to same for everybody

I don't agree. 

Usually most Telugu homes, Finances are handled by Men. Women have more decision making power w.r.t home and men surrender to drama/nagging/etc. "Antegaa antegaa" to a certain extent. But not finances.

[samprok]

On 7/3/2023 at 3:27 PM, Sanjiv said:

How would he know to answer your questions here? He posted his issues on FB

choosukoledu bayya, anavasaramga antha type chesaa