Best friends changed

[suribabulavangams]

Nijame bro

[Tryad]

2 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

This is bound to happen with time. Everyone is busy with their life. City became so big that its a big hassel for people to come for a meet at a common place. Add traffic on top of that, kids who have grown up and may be sick or need to drop them to classes, etc. 

They may be sharing details about property to let everyone know they are doing good in life. May be proud of their achievements and want to share that with everyone. Kinda asking friends for validation. However, If you meet or talk to them regularly, these things wont come up. Group lo there are always 2-3 ppl like this. If someone brings up a topic like this in the group, ask them to take the bill  .. inta sampadinchav bill kattu kaka ani or ask them to throw a party later. or a simple fun statement like "Paisal tappitee em matladatleeduraa meeru ... baaga balisipoyinaaru". 

 

that's why I never meet friends from college, even if I was practically living with them until I graduated. the friendship ended the moment I took the flight out of India. Not a single person from college knows where I'm and what I do. Its even harder now coz I changed my name that better reflects my personality, and keeps the Indian part away from me.

 

[ranku_mogudu]

4 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

This is bound to happen with time. Everyone is busy with their life. City became so big that its a big hassel for people to come for a meet at a common place. Add traffic on top of that, kids who have grown up and may be sick or need to drop them to classes, etc. 

They may be sharing details about property to let everyone know they are doing good in life. May be proud of their achievements and want to share that with everyone. Kinda asking friends for validation. However, If you meet or talk to them regularly, these things wont come up. Group lo there are always 2-3 ppl like this. If someone brings up a topic like this in the group, ask them to take the bill  .. inta sampadinchav bill kattu kaka ani or ask them to throw a party later. or a simple fun statement like "Paisal tappitee em matladatleeduraa meeru ... baaga balisipoyinaaru". 

 

Exaclty bro... best way to cut those topics.. and appudu Bill kooda baari ga chesaka ee dialogue kodithey set aipodhi

[Konebhar6]

I have learnt over time that its not possible to meet whole group in every India visit. I let the group know and we pick up options that suit everyone and meet. Usually less than 50% of group show up. Since I am on my own schedule, I ask them (my best/close friends who have'nt shown up) on what day suits them and meet up. During meet, I usually ask them how they are doing, kids, etc. Sometimes they talk about properties, etc but its mostly to show they are doing well and not to show off. If I meet a 2nd time, these things never come up.

Also we all are still in touch via WhatsApp. 

[Tryad]

1 minute ago, ranku_mogudu said:

Exaclty bro... best way to cut those topics.. and appudu Bill kooda baari ga chesaka ee dialogue kodithey set aipodhi

going to lunches with friends from teenage, you haven't met in a decade is actually awkward.

[Konebhar6]

4 minutes ago, Tryad said:

that's why I never meet friends from college, even if I was practically living with them until I graduated. the friendship ended the moment I took the flight out of India. Not a single person from college knows where I'm and what I do. Its even harder now coz I changed my name that better reflects my personality, and keeps the Indian part away from me.

 

There are some people in my groups who vanished completely. No idea where they are. Your response here gives me insight into what may have happened. Thanks for sharing.

I have always been in touch with my friends - school, college and office. I usually meet them. At least my best friends. During our meet, we call our other best friends who are in other parts of world and it goes on for 2-3 hrs.

[Tryad]

2 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

I have learnt over time that its not possible to meet whole group in every India visit. I let the group know and we pick up options that suit everyone and meet. Usually less than 50% of group show up. Since I am on my own schedule, I ask them (my best/close friends who have'nt shown up) on what day suits them and meet up. During meet, I usually ask them how they are doing, kids, etc. Sometimes they talk about properties, etc but its mostly to show they are doing well and not to show off. If I meet a 2nd time, these things never come up.

Also we all are still in touch via WhatsApp. 

sounds like a normal business meeting. good.

the question is, does it enrich your life in some way, reliving all those memories from childhood ani.

the moment I see someone from my childhood, I remember the crap I did with them. and I feel ashamed of myself. but I know they won't be. I know they'll be happy to see me. But it puts me in some sort of a depression to see people from my past.

[pavanjagan]

13 minutes ago, Tryad said:

India also there are plenty of people who won't discuss their investments or properties at the drop of a hat.

but they have expensive hobbies like traveling (and never on a train) and move only around with people from their class. and seriously believing that roads should be further widened, and more flyovers built, and support their stupid team in IPL.

unfortunately its not that easy to escape this, unless you make a conscious effort.

 

You are correct 

[Tryad]

1 minute ago, Konebhar6 said:

There are some people in my groups who vanished completely. No idea where they are. Your response here gives me insight into what may have happened. Thanks for sharing.

I have always been in touch with my friends - school, college and office. I usually meet them. At least my best friends. During our meet, we call our other best friends who are in other parts of world and it goes on for 2-3 hrs.

wow. 2-3hrs.

[Tryad]

especially the way I treated a particular muslim friend of mine still bothers me. He's also disappeared off the face of earth since. He's the only guy I want to meet from my childhood and know how he's doing.

rest typical rich uppercaste fcuks. who cares. you see copies of them every street you look at in India.

[praying]

8 minutes ago, Tryad said:

going to lunches with friends from teenage, you haven't met in a decade is actually awkward.

Dont try to put everyone into the same basket, if you are overseas how it that awkward to meet tour old friends?

neeku evo erceptiins unnai ani andarni ala unda mange tengasu kada

[Konebhar6]

3 minutes ago, Tryad said:

sounds like a normal business meeting. good.

the question is, does it enrich your life in some way, reliving all those memories from childhood ani.

the moment I see someone from my childhood, I remember the crap I did with them. and I feel ashamed of myself. but I know they won't be. I know they'll be happy to see me. But it puts me in some sort of a depression to see people from my past.

Its not a business meeting. We see personal growth in each other, how they have flourished, home situation (wife/divorced/kids/parents/etc), get a general idea on life in hyderabad, work situation in hyderabad, cherish memories, etc.

Its fascinating to see how everyone's personalities have flourished. These are not the same people. They have grown (good or bad .. its another topic) ... 

We dont use these meets to talk about the bad memories. We usually avoid these people (or they never show up) or the reasons are not big enough to remember and brought up in these group meets.

[Tryad]

1 minute ago, praying said:

Dont try to put everyone into the same basket, if you are overseas how it that awkward to meet tour old friends?

neeku evo erceptiins unnai ani andarni ala unda mange tengasu kada

naaku telisi your 'friends' are the people you are currently with.

I expect people to have grown up since their teenage years, and it means the person you are meeting after a decade is no longer your friend, but a complete stranger who just looks like your friend from a past history, when you were a completely different person.

I can't imagine what the conversions will be like.

 

[Konebhar6]

17 minutes ago, Tryad said:

going to lunches with friends from teenage, you haven't met in a decade is actually awkward.

Not really. Atleast not for me nor my friends. We all look forward for that and most people with favorable schedule make it and enjoy

[Konebhar6]

2 minutes ago, Tryad said:

naaku telisi your 'friends' are the people you are currently with.

I expect people to have grown up since their teenage years, and it means the person you are meeting after a decade is no longer your friend, but a complete stranger who just looks like your friend from a past history, when you were a completely different person.

I can't imagine what the conversions will be like.

 

You are correct about people not being same but the basic traits remain. Is'nt it fun to learn more about a friend and their journey to how they are doing now? 

If you stay in touch with them regularly (like talk 2-3 times a year), their personalities wont shock you.

A few years back I went back to the school (after 10+yrs) where i finished my 10th. I wished our telugu teacher and told her who I was. She remembered the name (coz we were 1st class to graduate 10th from that school) and after i talked to her for 10 mins she recognized and said i know who you are. She said she remembered based on my traits, way of talking, mannerisms, etc.