my friend want to move to india and his wife not interested

[ranku_mogudu]

Uh!! Yeah that is not easy and it takes lot of persistence and rational explanations that cater to both our interests! So first thing you need to lure her onto those things that she definitely feels “How Lucky they are” when she hears. You also need to show her the high packages currently in India that are humongous compared to silicon valley minus the comparative cost of living which is Ludacris. Also before taking this decision you should have invested well in Hyderabad/ vizag/ home town vice versa so that she can see themselves in a high end community which is a change of perspective rather than her old apartment/ home where she lived and visits while being guest. Nostalgia bokka boshanam ani anukovachu kaani assurance undadhu women ki! If you show her a 3-4 bhk in Gachibowli, tellapur area or a villa , it excites her more and sets mood in right mindset for persuasion. Luckily for me , my parents or mil both were unable to adjust in states and they preferred us visiting rather than they visiting us. This leaves them with no stones to unturn which is an added advantage to you. 
 

few things not to do and screw your self happiness

1) be rigid in your pov and rub it on her. This will not make any progress

2) threaten that you will make your move irrespective whether she is working or not. This only hurts her confidence and trust on you as you are indirectly implying you don’t trust she can think rationally 

3) Discuss this with your parents or her parents without her initiating the conversation herself. This pushes her to imagine if this is a move that her curb her being independent.

 

Must do to win her :

1)trips to India and meet friends who are living luxurious and friends who meet. She can see the difference and can herself calculate the category she would be if she moves in onboard now.

2) do not have this discussion or idea with any of your immediate relatives. They are fit for nothing and same stale old minded who think their kids abroad are having luxuries and here are just living like them

3) for kids education, show her international schools and quality of education

4) talk to friends who are doctors in your immediate/ next to immediate friends to discuss about medical facilities in Metro cities and your proximity to avail those

 

shubham

bhuyath

[LungiLingaraju]

12 hours ago, Dallas_balu said:

this is why I train my wife to beat the sh!t if someone complains even after she does her part well.(that includes my mom and her mom)sometimes my wife uses her training to beat the sh!t outta me when I cross line .proud husband

Glad to hear that .. only thing was my wife didn’t need any training .. 

[samprok]

16 hours ago, LakshmiParvathii said:

friend parents are old and he is the only kid. Wife saying I can't come to India Cooking cleaning relatives vasthe vallaku vanta cheyadam naku India velladam istam ledu antundi anta

how can my friend move to India 

wife working? 

[Joker23]

16 hours ago, LakshmiParvathii said:

friend parents are old and he is the only kid. Wife saying I can't come to India Cooking cleaning relatives vasthe vallaku vanta cheyadam naku India velladam istam ledu antundi anta

how can my friend move to India 

Bro , ippudu antha india lo online orders swiggy zomato ney nadusthunnayi. 

okkappudu laga relatives vasthey extra orders, koncham expenses ayithey peruguthayi but its better than the arguments between you and wife. 

inka maids antava , no problemn with that. India chaala maripoindhi . 

[LakshmiParvathii]

16 hours ago, BattalaSathi said:

Let him move to India.  You send me the wife's phone number/address.  Simple no?

Ok anaa chepina ma friend nee wife and daughter kuda pampamanadu ani @BattalaSathi chepu annadu

[LakshmiParvathii]

11 hours ago, Konebhar6 said:

If he really wants to move, have a rational discussion with wife and explain all amenities available in india. If wife does not agree, below are the options.

1. If wife does not work, she has no choice but to follow him. He can tell her his decision and make a move. Konni rojulu ede moham pede moham untaru but 3-4 months they will be fine.

2. If wife is working and can live with out him, he has to take an cautious approach. Let him move to India and do basic setup - house, search for good schools for kids, servants, new job or business for source of income. Ask wife and kids to visit twice a year with an open mind. Show the life they are missing in India. At some point either they will move here or your friend may not like the life in hyderabad and move back to US taking parents with him .. 

ok

[LakshmiParvathii]

7 minutes ago, samprok said:

wife working? 

cheap QA job chestundhi anna

[samprok]

Just now, LakshmiParvathii said:

cheap QA job chestundhi anna

then, convince chesi teesukelladam kudaradu. He need to be strong and tell her that he wanted to move at any cost.
3-4 months tittukuni adjust avutundi.

manchi job vetukkokunte mee friend atu financial ga, peer pressure, relative's pressure, wife torture tho sachipotaadu
 

I just moved after 13 years! any more questions, shoot

[LakshmiParvathii]

6 minutes ago, samprok said:

then, convince chesi teesukelladam kudaradu. He need to be strong and tell her that he wanted to move at any cost.
3-4 months tittukuni adjust avutundi.

manchi job vetukkokunte mee friend atu financial ga, peer pressure, relative's pressure, wife torture tho sachipotaadu
 

I just moved after 13 years! any more questions, shoot

Did you move to india permanently after getting gc or usc

[Konebhar6]

1 hour ago, samprok said:

then, convince chesi teesukelladam kudaradu. He need to be strong and tell her that he wanted to move at any cost.
3-4 months tittukuni adjust avutundi.

manchi job vetukkokunte mee friend atu financial ga, peer pressure, relative's pressure, wife torture tho sachipotaadu
 

I just moved after 13 years! any more questions, shoot

Kids? how old are your kids? I think its easy until your kids come to middleschool. After that its very difficult.

[bithrisathiiiii]

Ento ee db la andaru ma frds ki idi ayindi, na frd ki adi ayindi ani postlu vestaru, enta machidi frds unnara ra meeru andrau 

[samprok]

2 hours ago, LakshmiParvathii said:

Did you move to india permanently after getting gc or usc

if you are moving to India, not visiting, why do want to have ties with vomerica? 
If you have that mindset that I want to make I need things in place if I choose to go back to US, you will go back in 6 months or in 2 years, that is the max you can stay in India

[samprok]

1 hour ago, Konebhar6 said:

Kids? how old are your kids? I think its easy until your kids come to middleschool. After that its very difficult.

4 & 1

[LakshmiParvathii]

47 minutes ago, samprok said:

if you are moving to India, not visiting, why do want to have ties with vomerica? 
If you have that mindset that I want to make I need things in place if I choose to go back to US, you will go back in 6 months or in 2 years, that is the max you can stay in India

[Konebhar6]

1 hour ago, samprok said:

4 & 1

Smart man .. Pat yourself .. You took the decision at the right time.